What should you do if others keep comparing you to others?

Updated on society 2024-04-23
27 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Work hard, let others compare you to others, and live after success to overturn this kind of thinking. Either you fail completely, tell others that I am different, don't compare me to others, I don't like to be a shadow of others...

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    Ignore it, I'll send you a word.

    The path you choose, you don't have to care about the eyes of others, even if you kneel, you have to finish it.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    It's hard to ignore other people's gossip, but you have to think about how other people's ideas hurt you, and we can't make everyone like to appreciate you.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    What kind of person do you see Ordinary people just ignore and think about his intentions If you are a person who cares, you have to think about why he is so dissatisfied with you** The most important thing is to improve yourself and live a good life.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Most of this kind of things happen to children, comparing you with others proves that parents care and value you, and hope that you can be better (hopefully).

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    If you think this friend can get along, explain it to him, or if you don't ignore it, you will have a showdown with him directly.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    To be honest, oh, to tell the truth, the fierce ta is the most effective, directly say that you are the oldest, I want you to care about me, and I don't look at yourself so frustrated.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Go other people's way and leave others with no way out!!

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    Take other people's strengths, change your own weaknesses, and be yourself if you are too reluctant.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    OK. But think openly. It has to do with the amount of air.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    Don't take it too seriously, just be yourself!

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    Ignore it, and don't live in the eyes of others

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    Let him be in the wind, and I will not move.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    Ignore his words and be yourself.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    Do better and outperform others!

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    1.Other people's experiences are different from yours, and their thinking may be different from yours, and I didn't understand it before, but now I understand it after experiencing some things.

    2.If I were a parent, I would definitely go outside and stay with other parents, and when I was together, I would discuss the children, the family, and the parents would begin to compare, and my children's grades would be compared or something, chatting and chatting, and they would begin to feel that their children were so far behind others, and they would be resentful. This is a parent's perspective.

    3.If you look at it from the perspective of both of you, if I am a child, I must be with children of the same age, chatting and talking about what my parents bought for us, and as a result, other people's parents bought better things than me, and I began to complain about myself and my parents, and when I came home, I saw that my parents were full of resentment, and as soon as my parents told you to do things, you began to get angry, why do you tell me to do things, you are not as good as other people's parents...

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    People always bring you.

    Compare yourself to others.

    This doesn't need to be done.

    You just don't bother with it.

    Because this is someone else's behavior.

    There's no way around it.

    Just don't let it distract you.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    It's not clear who the "others" you call are.

    No matter who you are, you don't like to compare yourself with others.

    Especially the side with a relatively weak advantage.

    If you can't influence others, I suggest you make a change yourself.

    I hope you can change the status quo and live your life well.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    If he always compares you to others, then you don't want him to compare you to others.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    Stay away from him. As the saying goes, there are mountains outside the mountains, and there are people outside the people. If a person compares you to others at every turn, then it means that he is too vain, and he does not really love you.

    To judge whether a person really loves you, it depends on whether he can truly accept everything about you. If a person is only willing to accept your strengths, but has no way to tolerate your shortcomings, then you may not be suitable for being together.

    The rest of your life is short, and you don't need to waste your precious time and energy on someone who doesn't love you at all. When you find that someone often compares you to others, you should know that they may not care about you that much. Since a person does not love you, he always likes to compare you with others, then you don't have to continue to love him stupidly.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    If others always compare you with others, in fact, sometimes it is not necessarily a bad thing, it is a good thing for you, after listening, you will be more motivated and you should be proud of it, after all, excellent people will inevitably be envied and jealous by others, which is very normal.

    If other people's comparisons are full of malice, I don't think there is any need to be too sad about this comparison, and you should not have heard what others think, and sometimes others deliberately disturb your mind and make you overly sad.

    So, no matter what kind of comparison, don't pay too much attention to it, after all, this is someone else's opinion of you, he doesn't know you too well, it's just hearsay!

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    First of all, we must recognize that our friends' comparisons and belittlements are due to psychological immaturity and low self-esteem. If we feel sad or angry about these blows and belittlements, we give him a psychological advantage. Instead, we should remain calm and think about it from their emotional perspective.

    I need to put myself in the other person's shoes and imagine why they would do it. This helps us understand the root cause of the problem and prepare for how to deal with it.

    Secondly, we need to maintain a sense of self-worth and build a sense of self-identity. In the blows and belittlements of friends from time to time, we need to recognize our own value and strengths, and then correctly recognize and evaluate ourselves. We need to ask ourselves, are these comparisons and belittlements true?

    If not, then it's just a sign of immaturity on our friend's own, not our own. If yes, then it is possible to improve yourself in a positive influence.

    Third, we can speak out about our feelings and tell them our opinions and emotions. In some cases, friends themselves may not know how much their words and actions have hurt us. Therefore, we should communicate directly with them as soon as possible and tell them how we feel.

    We can express our emotions with things like "I feel" and avoid blaming and reducing their words and actions to intentional actions.

    Finally, if a friend's comparison and disparagement has a long-term negative impact, we can consider keeping our distance from them. If this behavior happens frequently, we may not be able to change their attitudes and behaviors, and it may be a better choice to keep a distance from them. Find a more suitable person among your friends and build new relationships to reduce negative influences and gradually return to a healthy, positive attitude towards life.

    In short, when I am faced with the situation where my friends are constantly beating and belittling us, we need to take a proactive response. We should start by staying calm, understanding our friend's mindset and motivations, and telling them how we feel. At the same time, we can strengthen our self-identity and maintain a sense of self-worth to cope with the negative effects of this behavior and ultimately return to a positive attitude towards life.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    If your friends are always comparing with you, beating you up, and belittling you from time to time, such friends are not worth your continued relationship. Despite having mutual friends, you should not wronged yourself and endure her attacks. Here are a few suggestions: Lu staring.

    1.Talk to her directly: You can find a private occasion and talk to her directly once to tell her that you are uncomfortable with her behavior and that you don't want her to treat you like this again.

    Express your feelings, but also be mindful of your tone and manner, and don't let the conversation turn into an argument or an attack.

    2.Keep your distance: If she is reluctant to change her behavior, you may consider reducing contact with her and keeping a certain distance. If you have friends in common, you can choose to do activities with other friends and avoid spending time with her alone.

    3.Find new chaperones and friends: If you don't feel comfortable with her, try finding new friends and expanding your social circle.

    Among new friends, you may find people who have more in common and interests, and it may be more pleasant and meaningful to spend time with them.

    In short, don't wronged yourself and endure the attacks and belittlements of others. Keep your distance from bad friends and look for healthier and more positive social relationships so that you can make yourself happier and happier.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    In the face of comparison and belittlement from friends, you can take the following methods:

    First, direct communication. With a friendly attitude and way, express your feelings and thoughts to your friends, and let the other party know that she has been hurt by Hezi. In a calm and emotional tone, tell the other person that you are uncomfortable and uncomfortable with her comparison behavior and belittling words.

    Second, improve your psychological quality and maintain self-confidence. We must believe in our own value, do not listen to the comparisons and belittlements of others, and maintain our own individuality and independent thinking.

    Third, keep a certain distance from your friends. If you find that the way you get along with your friends is not suitable, then you can keep a certain distance from Lu Jueqi, reduce contact with them, and let yourself no longer be compared and belittled by them.

    Finally, it is worth noting that sometimes our emotions may be affected by friends, and we need to learn to exercise our emotional regulation ability to make our emotions more stable and not disturbed by external factors. If you are emotionally disturbed for a long time, you can consider consulting some professional psychological institutions for help.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    Making friends is meant to be to make progress together and excel together, if....Because a friend made himself feel uncomfortable....

    So the clan has to think about whether to continue this friendship?

    Can I ask....What kind of comparison is the mega match?

    If it's a benign comparison....

    You can think about it.

    If it's malignant....

    Then stay away.

    Good luck in the new year!

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    In the face of friends around us who always compare with you and belittle you, we need to make some practical countermeasures.

    Comparing and belittling is not a positive act. Comparisons can lead to unnecessary anxiety and psychological stress, while belittling others can cause unnecessary conflict and harm. Therefore, in the face of this situation, we should remain calm and take the following measures:

    First of all, we need to establish a healthy mindset that should not be too concerned about the comparison and belittling behavior of others, and should not be easily influenced by others. We need to learn to appreciate the wealth and strengths we have, and to face the difficulties and challenges in life with confidence.

    Second, we can make our own arguments about our friends' comparisons and demeanings, show them that we don't like them, and tell them about the negative effects of this behavior. Maybe we can change their behavior by actively guiding and communicating.

    Third, if a friend's comparison and belittlement has seriously affected our own life and mentality, we can take measures to protect ourselves. For example, appropriately keeping a distance from these people, reducing contact, or choosing to end such unhealthy friendships if necessary.

    Finally, we need to maintain good interpersonal relationships at all times, and learn to appreciate and respect others. Only by building a friendship relationship of mutual respect and understanding can we grow together and enjoy a better life.

    To sum up, in the face of friends around us comparing and belittling ourselves, we need to stay calm, establish a healthy mindset, and take positive and practical measures to deal with it. At the same time, we must always maintain good interpersonal relationships, appreciate and respect others, and grow together.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    Comparing yourself with others is a common psychology, comparing yourself with your friends in your daily life and comparing yourself with people in the same industry at work. Rational contrast will make the individual more aware of himself and have a reasonable position for himself. But if it is an irrational comparison, it will distort the individual's psyche.

    When an individual's psychology is distorted, they will hate themselves very much, thinking that no matter how hard they try, they are not as good as others. This contrast creates a sense of disparity and makes people lose their fighting spirit.

    If a person has done everything well in the past, it is always easy to succeed. But all of a sudden, I lose this ability, and no matter what I do, I always hit a wall everywhere, and there is a sense of gap. This sense of disparity can cause individuals to start hating themselves and think that they are getting worse and worse.

    When people with stereotypical personalities make comparisons, they will not be able to accept their current selves, and their psychology will also be distorted. This kind of person will naturally fall into trouble because he does not take into account that the external environment has changed and is still dealing with problems with old ideas.

    When an individual begins to hate who he is, all his focus is on his own experience of failure. He would sum up the failures he had experienced in the last few days and declare himself a loser, and his will would become more and more depressed. A few people will think that focusing on their own experience of failure will stimulate their inner fighting spirit.

    From the point of view of psychological observation, this effect is extremely limited. A person who is always focused on his own failures has a hard time thinking that he will succeed one day. So they will only become more and more depressed, not more and more combative.

    When you start to hate yourself, you will find that you have a lot of faults in yourself that you can't get rid of. And the reason why you hate yourself is because you subconsciously have no intention of changing your faults. When you hate your current self, you are invisibly accepting your current state.

    It means that you don't have higher expectations for changing yourself. You don't think you can succeed, so you no longer have hope of success, and you will gradually become depressed.

    A person who is able to take responsibility for himself, no matter what he does, produces any result is acceptable. They have enough control over their lives, and even if they are in adversity, they can still find a way to get out of it instead of being depressed. They are in control and know what they are supposed to do.

    Even if they are temporarily confused, they know what to do. When you start to feel in control, that's a sign of your growth. You will be more sure of your abilities and more confident in your influence on the future.

    When people hate themselves, it is tantamount to a state of self-contempt and self-abandonment. Self-contempt and self-abandonment are both unhealthy psychology, and a person who is growing will only be more self-loving and self-confident, rather than self-contempt and self-abandonment. Of course, if a person is excessively self-loving and self-confident, it will become narcissistic, conceited, and an unhealthy state.

    Self-loving people do not allow themselves to hurt themselves, and self-confident people do not allow themselves to doubt themselves. They always approach life with a positive, optimistic attitude.

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