The subject told himself why he cried when my family was patriarchal

When the subject tells you that her family has a patriarchal relationship, she cries. is because she feels very wronged, her sons and daughters are born to their parents, why do parents have the idea of patriarchy, I feel very sad, but I feel very helpless.

Because in their family, girls are definitely not liked by their parents, and they must treat her much better than her brother, so she has been the neglected one since she was a child, so when it comes to this topic, of course she will cry.

This is because your family has a patriarchal mentality, and she is afraid of what she will do if she gives birth to a girl in the future.

Because she was afraid that she would give birth to a daughter, she first burned her sad tears.

There may be a story, you can learn more about it, and then send the question out.

Parents prefer sons over daughters, so you have to find a way to get rid of them.

1. Always let her daughter make money endlessly to supplement her son. In the eyes of patriarchal parents, it is simply natural to squeeze their daughters dry, and isn't the meaning of their daughter's existence to subsidize their sons? Why else did I raise you?

It's better to throw it away when you are born. In a way, a daughter's entire life is an appendage of an older brother or younger brother. If you don't want to take the money back to supplement your brother and brother, you are unfilial, you are cold-blooded, and you are ungrateful.

Because you are both a daughter, there are already major flaws in gender, I put up with it, and raised you, you must be grateful to Dade. 2. I feel that only my son can pass on the lineage, and not having a son is a lifelong regret. Patriarchal parents will feel that this is normal, it is useless to have a daughter, only giving birth to a daughter is a stain for a lifetime, and without a son you can't hold your head up for the rest of your life.

3. When you ask your daughter to pay, say "we are a family", and when you distribute benefits, say "after all, you are an outsider". Some parents ask their daughters for money when they need money, but they don't look for their sons at this time. But once something good happened, he did not hesitate to give it to his son, and never considered his daughter.

4. No matter how much the son is a treasure, no matter how capable the daughter is, she is also grass. In this kind of family, the son often asks for it constantly, and the daughter often gives endlessly, but it can't get back the fair treatment of her parents. Daughters are often more sensible, more considerate of their parents, and more willing to spend money for their parents, but their parents feel more sorry for their unproductive son.

5. When her daughter got married, she asked for a gift money, wanted to sell it for a good price, and gave it to her son. These parents are completely lions with big mouths, selling their daughters as commodities, completely ignoring whether their daughters will be looked down upon by their in-laws, whether there will be conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and whether they will have unhappy marriages.

1.Recognize the reality, the interests of the son come first, and the parents will sacrifice the interests, happiness and even life of the daughter for the son. No matter how much you please, they won't change, so give up illusions and don't try to beg for that little bit of motherly love through your own efforts.

2.Strive for as many educational opportunities as possible for yourself, improve yourself, and gain self-reliance as soon as possible.

3.Work hard and work hard to make money. God will not fail you in your efforts, although sometimes the rewards will come a little later.

4.Be more attentive to your parents, have reservations, and never open your heart and be honest to the end. Especially everything that has to do with "money".

But parents are patriarchal thinking, then you must be reasonable to them, after all, this society is now equal to men and women, only if you reason to them, they will change this kind of ideology.

I feel that my parents are patriarchal, and there is nothing I can do about it, I can only call your aunt, uncle or something, and uncle and uncle, come and persuade your parents, daughters are also people, and when the time comes, do you just want a son? Isn't my daughter coming too?

I feel that my parents are patriarchal, so I should communicate with my parents at this time, tell your parents what you think, and under normal circumstances, your parents will understand you and consider your ideas.

I feel that my parents are patriarchal, what should I do? This can be accumulated with the usual habits, such as 2012 Finland um, um, I don't think you need to think so, they anyway? After all, it's your parents, and it's better to live yourself well.

What age is it now, and there is still the idea of patriarchy? You tell your parents directly that girls can still develop well.

You can't change your parents' traditional thinking, so you just do your part.

Yes. In patriarchal families, girls may be hurt over time, and under the differential treatment of their parents, many children will develop adverse mental illnesses that affect their entire lives.

It is difficult for children to have dignity, and they will appear lonely in interpersonal communication, children are easy to look down on themselves, and their personalities are too introverted, so they do not want to communicate too much with more people. Such a concept is also easy to make children feel fearful in their hearts, without dignity, and will make children have no confidence, but will be more likely to be bullied by others.

Let girls be too inferior As long as the patriarchal ideology in a family is serious, then girls will be hurt the most, they lack due love since childhood, and grow up in an environment of being disliked and beaten and scolded, they will be prone to negative emotions, full of disappointment in life, and will feel inferior and lonely in their hearts, affecting their normal life. If it is severe, it will be easy to get depression, thinking that life has no meaning with her, and the thought of suicide will arise in your mind.

I am more lonely in my heart, although I am a member of the family, but I am always the one who is always ignored, and my parents do not react much to my progress, and the boy's slight progress is very happy. This can make the girl feel even more lonely. Parents bring gifts outside and give boys a lot more than girls, which will make girls feel more unfair, and this unfairness will be untold, and it will slowly make girls feel more lonely, even when they grow up, this psychology is difficult to change.

I'm a post-80s generation In our time, I was also very patriarchal My mother gave birth to four children, three daughters, and a son Especially my father and my grandfather especially love my younger brother What is delicious and fun Keep it for my brother for the first time The three of us sisters don't feel pity Maybe it's a habit It's an unchangeable fact So our sisters don't care.

Don't feel sorry for yourself, be strong, and prove that girls are no worse than boys。The reason why a person has patriarchal thoughts, in fact, most of them have a lot to do with real life, but when he finds that he does not have enough ability to support a family, or even to support his children and parents, he will feel that he needs a man to support, and over time, it will cause patriarchal thinking to such a group of people, but if you are born in such a family, don't think like this, and establish the correct three views. There are many more women who are outstanding in design, you have to learn from them, and then the family proves that they are also very good.

Then adjust your own mentality, because it is impossible to change others, this concept of patriarchy is deep-rooted, live yourself well and don't care what others think.

Keep learning, keep improving, make yourself better, and use practical actions to tell parents that girls are no worse than boys.

Try not to mind what your parents do, communicate with your parents more, win your parents' love with practical actions, and it's best to complain less so as not to affect your life.

I think you have to be optimistic about the reality, keep reassuring yourself in your heart, and at the same time work very hard.

Then communicate with your parents so that they also care about you.

I think you should adjust your mentality, there is no need to worry about this matter, what you have to do is to constantly improve yourself, improve yourself, and let your parents see your excellence.

The first thing you have to learn at this moment is to encourage yourself and motivate yourself. For example, you can go out for a run at 6:30 every morning, and I already think you're great, at least that, most people, including me, can't do.

So, what about even a little obsessive-compulsive disorder? What's more, this "obsessive-compulsive disorder" is just a label you put on yourself, and I don't think a person who tidies up his residence and goes out at half past six in the morning is obsessive-compulsive.

Girl, learn to appreciate yourself and encourage yourself, you are great. When you don't know how to love someone, accept the status quo, and first accept the state that you don't know.

Because when you know that you don't know how to love someone, it's already a good state, because most people don't know what they don't know at the beginning. And now that you know you don't know, it's possible to take the next step to know.

From not knowing to knowing, it is a three-step relationship, and in the process, you need to develop. So, allow yourself not to know now, allow yourself to know how to love someone in your future experience, and allow yourself to learn to encourage yourself and learn to love yourself at this time.

Everyone has their own inferiority complex, and a sense of security is a proposition that everyone will look for in their lives. You used to think that your birth was a mistake, but now that you have put that framework down, it's a good turnaround.

Therefore, when you are insecure, you can look inward and outward. You will seek out a relationship because someone can feel safe because someone else loves you unconditionally, and you may not feel that unconditional love, and you will feel a sense of absence.

The other deficiency is that there are never rules established in the relationship, and when there are no rules, people will also be insecure, because you will not know what is right and what is wrong.

To sum up, you don't get these two kinds of love, unconditional and regular, your mother doesn't give you unconditional love, your father doesn't reward you when you do it right, you don't get both fatherly love and mother's love, so it's normal for you to be insecure.

So how do you build security in your relationship? A good relationship must have both maternal qualities, that is, I will not give up on you no matter how old you are, sick or dead; It also has the characteristics of fatherhood, that is, there are rewards and punishments for what you do right and wrong - I will be with you for what you do well, and I will leave you for what you do wrong, there must be such a principle.

In short, a good relationship with a sense of security must be androgynous, that is, with maternal and fatherly love.

First of all, let yourself have full wings and have a certain economic strength, without looking at your parents' faces and palms up. Second, try to use words to guide them and tell them about the patriarchal examples around them. Finally, don't say anything about some things, and don't be unbalanced if your parents are still like this.

Parents are patriarchal This is a matter of concept, you can communicate with your parents, let them change their patriarchal thinking appropriately, of course, parents are patriarchal, you should also be filial to them and be a good daughter. You said no?

You should do your job as a parent in a timely manner, and you must improve your strengths.

It happened when I was about the first year of junior high school, there was a time when my brother loved to eat dates, my mother bought a lot of them, used to cook date porridge, and my brother's bowl always had more dates than me, and I never asked my mother why it wasn't the same, and I always knew it. Then one day, after my mother had finished the meal, I brought the rice to the table, and I didn't wait for them to serve the dishes to eat, I sat at the table and ate the bowl of my brother's porridge with the most dates, my mother didn't say anything at the time, but I can't forget her expression. Later, when she chatted with the aunt downstairs, she mentioned this incident, saying that I robbed my brother of a bowl of porridge with many dates, and I was not sensible at all and didn't know how to let my brother, and the aunt said:

So why don't you all have the same amount? My mom stopped talking. I'm usually a pretty optimistic and cheerful woman, but when I think about it, I can't help but shed tears, I don't suffer from poverty and inequality, my mother is right, there are some things that I can't "grab". ‍‍

The work at home is always my and my sister's, my brother even takes a bath and my mother serves it, my brother does what my mother thinks is right, there is a saying that there is no harm if there is no comparison, this kind of patriarchal thing is too much, my sister and I do something wrong as if it is heinous, and it is light to be scolded. This experience brought a great impact to me at that time, my father and blind mother could not love me much, I had to love myself, I had to struggle, I studied hard, and finally from our small mountain village to the key high school, and then admitted to the university, basically I didn't go home if I didn't go home.