In love, will you choose to love yourself or yourself?

I think it depends on what kind of stage the individual is in, when you are in such a beautiful flowering season as puberty, most people will still choose the person you love; When you are already in your thirties and have become an older leftover woman or an unmarried man, most people will choose to love themselves.

Adolescence is a period of strong hormonal secretion, we are full of desire and love for the opposite sex, we will definitely take the initiative to attack to pursue the person we like, at this time we are brave, we are not afraid, we are just thinking about what we like, although we will fail, but we will not be afraid and will not retreat, at this time we are innocent and pure. But after this age, the average person has passed the age of saying love to love, many people have experienced young love, and now they can't afford to waste time, money and energy in the pursuit of love, often at this time what is needed is a plain marriage, a plain life, so at this time will choose to love themselves.

But if it were me, I would probably choose the person who loves me from the beginning to the end, because of my personality. Even though I like someone, I just silently like the kind of crush, and I won't take the initiative to chase, when I see that the crush has my other half, I will give up completely, and use time to dilute the feelings I once had, and I think that sometimes the person who loves himself will eventually become the person we like, because I believe that over time, you will be attracted to each other's certain points after a long time, and slowly produce a feeling.

But I think at the age of love, when you are young, you should let go of love, let go of chasing, don't let yourself leave regrets, at least we have been crazy for love, brave for love, at least we are young, and we have the capital to let go. <>

First of all, I think this question is very contradictory, out of consideration for ourselves and others, we all want to find someone who loves us and loves ourselves, this is the best combination, but if I have to choose, then I will choose to love myself.

We all know that there is no absolute fairness in a relationship, and the beginning of a relationship is always because one party likes it and the other party begins to appreciate each other and get to know each other. In fact, our most beautiful expectation is to meet the person who appreciates each other, but the reality is always so cruel, and the results are often relatively different.

As a female starting point, the discussion is a little selfish, most of us will choose to love ourselves, but I will still choose what I love, of course, this score situation to **.

The first point is the early stage of love, most of us men and women don't know what is love, we only know that the feeling is coming, regardless of men and women, in the ignorance period we will begin to sprout the feeling of liking a person, we can't tell the definition of like, only know that we have a good impression of someone, maybe appreciate others to learn or like other people's looks, no one at this stage will consider whether they like or like their own, fade out like that beautiful.

The second point is that people who are 24-28 years old, we have passed the beautiful vision of love during this time period, have experienced love, understand what they want, and maybe some people are imagining a fairytale of beautiful love, then I'm sorry here we have discussed the score again;

1 If you are a rich second generation, your family has enough background, and your next generation or even the next generation is squandering, you can find a simple and beautiful love, because you never have to worry about life, and you have enough capital to choose.

2 If you are a hard-working worker, then work honestly, choose someone who loves you, if you have excellent grades and work in a good unit, maybe you can find a good partner, at least you will not go against your heart in order to survive.

Of course, it is obvious that my focus is on the people who are about to get married, because this age is more embarrassing, just graduated and worked, parents in first-tier cities will not urge their children to find a partner to marry, especially I am in the current situation, my family has been urging, our family is a small county, parents are not open to parents in big cities, but often at this time, many peers can't stand the urging of their parents, Maybe it's tired or other reasons to marry a person with similar conditions according to the will of my parents, and there is no love at this time, but we must say that it will be bad in the future, I think there is no absolute in everything.

So girls, in the face of this situation, we should keep a clear head, don't let yourself fall into an unbalanced state because of family urging friends to get married, you must know that this is no different from the matchmaker in ancient times, I don't resist blind dates, but remember a little principle, if you live with people in the future you don't have a sense of liking, there is no point of mutual balance, the future life is so long, what should we use to maintain a long time.

Psychological analysis: In the choice of feelings, should you choose what you like, or choose the person who likes you?

1. In the choice of feelings, you should choose what you like carefully, and don't let yourself have regrets. And at the same time, it is also necessary to know whether the other party is suitable for you, the most important thing is to be suitable in the relationship, and the right relationship can avoid a lot of harm and be happy for a long time.

2. If you choose someone you don't like, you are destined to be unwilling, how can you work hard in the direction of being blessed with the surviving?

Third, the relationship is equal, and it requires two people on both sides to pay together, no matter which side the balance of feelings is overtilted, it is unfair to the other party.

Fourth, the viewpoint of the wheat ear theory is magnificent"Not the best, but the right. "What you like is not necessarily suitable, and you may find that the other party is not suitable for you after a period of running-in. Therefore, before choosing, you should think clearly about what you really want, what kind of person is suitable for you, and what is suitable is the best.

Choose the one you like.

1. External conditions. Appearance, height, overall dress, I believe this is the first thing we see when we choose a person, everyone has their own favorite type, some people have eyes or very comfortable at a glance, the first impression is good, there is naturally the possibility of continuing to understand. There is also another situation, which is to fall in love over time, and some people, although they are not good enough in appearance, are humorous, have a good personality or have strong work ability, and they are just as shining in life.

2. Family, economy. Family relationship and economic ability of each other, for friends who plan to get married, this question has to be mentioned, after all, love and married life are different, whether the happiness index is high, this problem accounts for at least half of the problem, of course, more importantly, if two people are firm enough, the relationship is stable, and they are willing to give everything for each other, since both people are willing to bear and work together, then these are not problems in the face of true love.

3. Whether the three views of two people are compatible.

After all, sometimes a lot of beauty is imagined by yourself, a person's appearance is suitable for you, it does not mean that your three views are also compatible, the three views (world view, outlook on life, values) are not exactly the same, but of course, they must be compatible, two people can continue, otherwise there will be various contradictions in the future.