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Hello, I feel very distressed to see your words, obviously a child with excellent academic performance, when he made a mistake in the exam, he was very sad, and he needed to be comforted by his mother and relatives, but what he got was blame, and he worked hard to meet his mother's standards, but he was misunderstood by the teacher that he valued the order, and he was very aggrieved, and there was no object to confide in, and he felt that the whole person was living in depression and pain. I feel very distressed to see you like this, as a child, the first year of junior high school and the second year of junior high school, I can say very responsibly that your confusion, confusion, and painful feelings are closely related to your growth environment, your family, and your mother. I have a guess that I don't know if it's right, that your mother has imposed her wishes or wills on you, which has caused you stress, and that your mother is also an unhappy person in everyday life.

In this case, I suggest that you persuade or ask your relatives to help persuade your mother to go for psychological counseling for her unhappy or some other specific situation (such as child-education, marital feelings, work), and help her find other problems in her life by solving one of her problems, change her lifestyle, and change the way your family gets along, so that the whole family becomes happy.

I wish you to grow up happily and happily, you are as old as my students, and I feel like you are my students too.

Everyone has had these problems, you don't have to worry about them, face them calmly. Perhaps, things are not as bad as you think. If you don't do well in the exam, just work hard next time.

My grades also fluctuated, and at the beginning, I didn't do very well in the exams, but then I often got full marks, and even if I didn't have a full score, I was deducted at most one or two points. You should wait for your mother to be angry, talk to her about your inner thoughts, and say sorry to the teacher after the holidays. Don't be afraid to say what's in your heart, and don't feel embarrassed to say sorry to the teacher, otherwise things will be worse.

You'd better find your best friend and talk about it, so that your heart can be more comfortable and your mood calmer.

Don't think too much. I don't know what to say about your mother's temperament, but you have to put your own mentality in mind.

Don't worry too much about school affairs, because the teacher won't worry about you because of this, just talk to him when school starts;

I've been getting along with your classmates for a year, and everyone still has a little understanding, not to the point where you imagined, and this is because you didn't do well in the exam, and you didn't help them take the exam. Even if they misunderstand something, it doesn't matter, you still have two years to get along together, and they will always know your character.

Have a good summer vacation, it's useless to think about these things now, and you can't solve it right away. After two months, the start of school will be light, and then we will deal with the situation.

Oh, by the way, about your mother's situation, there is a suggestion you can try, you first communicate with your homeroom teacher, let him understand the general situation, ask him to communicate with your mother, of course, you have to tell him your mother's personality clearly, pay attention to the way of communication. (To be honest, I don't know your mother's thoughts, it's best for you to find a way with your homeroom teacher, because he knows your grades in school best, and he is a teacher, so it is more convincing to communicate with your mother).

There is a sentence that sums up "problem students" and "problem families" very well: behind every "problem student" there is a "problem family"!

Case 1: Walk into the office and a math teacher is crying in her seat, surrounded by a few students explaining something. Seeing this, I called a student and asked the reason for the incident, and it turned out that in the math class, there was a student Xiao Zhang who did not abide by the classroom discipline and contradicted the teacher!

After asking why, I asked the students to call Xiao Zhang over and talk to him! At first, I said, "Hello Zhang, how much did you score in the last math test?" He said, "93," and I said, "Yes, the last exam paper was so difficult, and I took the 93 exam, so I will be able to excel in the exam next time."

He pursed his lips and said, "I have been excellent in the past exams, but this time I was the worst!" "It seems that he is still a good math player, so it stands to reason that there should not be such a problem! I then asked him where his house was, how many brothers and sisters did he have, what did his parents do, and would they contradict his parents at home?

When asked the penultimate question, he lowered his head; When asked the second question, he cried and I said what's wrong? He said his parents had recently divorced ......

Therefore, there is a "problem family" behind the problem students, don't blame the children for all the children's bad performance, and think about whether the problem is also in yourself.

Introduction: Now the situation of primary school students in school and at home is completely different, parents do not understand why they encounter such a problem, today let's follow together to understand, how to solve it, first of all, parents must communicate with the teacher in a timely manner, understand what kind of state is in the school, and what rules in the school are not too casual at home, so that the child will develop bad habits, and will make the family feel uncomfortable, and at the same time to the child reasonable requirements, praise and encouragement in English, unreasonable demands, learn to criticize, turn lessons into teaching, and trust them, and express them in humorous language, so that the effect may be more obvious.

For children, the school environment is actually more interesting, and there are rules in the school, these rules are all in compliance with themselves, if they don't abide by it, it will look out of place, and it will attract the attention of others, so he especially abides by the rules in the school, but at home is different, the environment in the home is particularly relaxed, and then when he returns home, he will feel that he is next to his relatives, there is no need to behave too much, and there are not so many rules in the home, Even if you don't follow the rules, parents won't say much, so you must ensure that the rules of the family and school are consistent, so that children can strictly follow them.

In addition, in life, we should also learn to respect the child, understand the child's requirements and wishes, agree with the child's reasonable requirements, and can be based on praise and encouragement, and criticize those who are not very reasonable requirements, of course, criticism should also be in the right way, don't always teach him, to teach him, to trust him, change his tone, so that the effect may be more obvious, and let the child feel your trust in him.

To help these students overcome their difficulties, we must first get to know them. Nowadays many children are spoiled at home, and they do not have to worry about making mistakes because they will be forgiven. They also never learned how to socialize with people, because if the parents thought that Wild Spending time with other children would threaten him, they would cut him off.

Schools and parents should communicate well, schools should understand the situation of children at home, and parents should also understand their children's shortcomings and performance in school. Fu Xi cooperated with the family and the school to discuss the problems faced by the children, and finally discussed the demolition and discussed practical solutions.

You can conduct home visits to understand the family situation of each student, communicate with parents, or contact the parents of students, so that you can have a comprehensive understanding of the development of students.

The best way to solve the problem is to solve it naturally, and then find a way to solve the problem after it has occurred.

1. Let children like to be educated. As a parent, what do you think is the most important thing in educating your child? "The most important thing in educating children is to make them like education itself, so that they think that education is a very happy thing, not a painful thing, and only in this way can they receive education happily.

So, I want my children to go to school every morning with a smile on their faces and come back in the afternoon with a smile on their faces. "It's not easy to make children enjoy being educated. How much time do parents spend with their children each day?

Every day at breakfast time, I must be with the children, and in the afternoon, after school, I have afternoon tea with the children and listen to them talk about some interesting things in school. It can be said that as long as children want to be with their parents, parents will be with them. So parents basically schedule work from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m., because that's when the children go to school.

2. Sex education and Internet access. For most parents in China, there may be two confusing problems when it comes to their children's education: one is how to educate their children about sex, and the other is how to control their children's access to the Internet.

Sex education is very easy, that is, the whole family, including the children, will introduce the video of human body knowledge together, and learn human body knowledge with children, just like that, very simple. The problem of surfing the Internet is also very easy to deal with, and the children's computers are connected to the parents' computers, so the children's computers are supervised by the parents' computers, and the content of their Internet access is clear to the parents. ”

3. There is no generation gap with children, except for the difference in the choice of playing computer games, there is no generation gap.

4. Scores, hobbies, and expectations. Parents still pay more attention to children's test scores, because "it also reflects the child's mastery of knowledge." If your child's test score is not satisfactory, parents should work with their child to find out the reason, and if necessary, contact the school to find out the reason for the unsatisfactory score.

For the cultivation of children's hobbies, it is necessary to basically not interfere with them. Since it's a hobby, as long as it doesn't hurt, as long as they like it. What the children themselves expect from the future, but no matter what they do in the future, it is important for the present to educate the children to behave and be polite. ”