Daughter in law, you are an outsider, I should give half of my money to my daughter, how did my moth

Marriage means family, and the beginning of a marriage means the formation of a family. This "new home" exists independently of the husband and wife's respective families of origin, and the three families can help each other, but there should be no calculations.

The same is true for the other situation, if the mother-in-law calculates her daughter and son-in-law, regardless of whether the daughter favors her mother or not, there will be conflicts.

The following contradiction between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law belongs to this situation, the reason why the mother-in-law did not succeed in calculating, and the reason why the daughter-in-law dared to argue with the mother-in-law has a lot to do with the attitude of the man who is stuck between the two, let's take a look at what's going on.

Teacher Donglin: A long time ago, when I heard and saw many people being tormented by the conflict between their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, I began to worry about my marriage. Although my marriage had not yet appeared at that time, I was afraid that I would encounter conflicts between my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law when I got married in the future, because this kind of thing is often uncontrollable.

The person I'm going to marry is him, not his parents, so I just need to pay attention to him, and what his parents are like doesn't have much to do with me.

We got married, without going through his parents, without letting them spend a penny, so they are not qualified to interfere in our marriage.

When I say they don't qualify, I'm talking about it. And from their own point of view, they feel that they, as parents, are qualified enough to interfere. It is precisely because of this that there is a conflict between me and my mother-in-law, but it is not torture for me, because my husband is on my side.

When my mother-in-law heard that my salary was very high, and after a monthly salary of 30,000 yuan, she started to calculate. She didn't go to my husband to ask for money, because she knew that my husband couldn't give her money, so she went directly to me to ask for money, and the reason for asking for money was that my brother-in-law got married and wanted to buy a house.

Because I already knew what kind of person she was, I directly and decisively rejected her request. As a result, she said, "Daughter-in-law, your monthly salary is 30,000 yuan, is it wrong for you to use the money to buy a wedding house for your brother-in-law?" ”

I told her, "Hehe, of course it's wrong!" Why should I take the money to buy a house for my brother-in-law? What do you parents eat? ”

She was angered by my words, "Daughter-in-law, if you marry into your in-law's family, your money should be spent on your in-laws!" ”

I corrected her, "I'm sorry, I'm an outsider, your family is your family, I'm not your family, you're not my family, I don't have the obligation to give my money to my in-laws' family, especially not to people who rely on the old man and ask me for money." Your son is your family, you have the ability to go to him to ask for money, what kind of ability is it to bully your daughter-in-law! ”

She asked me for money, but she didn't dare to ask my husband for money, so she had to leave in a huff.

I think it's very sad for my mother-in-law to be a person. The way she calculated me, before I married my husband, she had repeatedly calculated my husband and my sister-in-law. She has money in her own hands, but she doesn't want to spend any of it, she just wants others to spend money and make a good reputation for herself.

The mother-in-law has low emotional intelligence and can't be a person, embarrassing her daughter-in-law and putting her son in trouble, which leads to disharmony in the life of the husband and wife.

It is normal for a mother-in-law to give half of her daughter's money, which also shows that she is not a patriarchal person. But if she says that you are an outsider in front of you, then she has a bit of a wrong outlook, and such an old woman ignores her.

Tell her that she can give her money openly and honestly, if her daughter is not doing well.

My mother-in-law is also such a hail and a virtuous person, openly and secretly for her daughter, talking nonsense every day, I hope she will die as soon as possible, and Yuanyuan, my Bu Xian family, will be peaceful.

It's definitely not good to get along for a long time like this.

My in-laws have the ability to make money, but I don't know why they cry poor in front of their daughter-in-law?

Maybe they did it on purpose because they were afraid that their daughter-in-law would ask them for money!

Actually, this is a ridiculous act!

As a daughter-in-law, she will ask her husband for money at most.

Why are you embarrassed to open your mouth to ask them?

They don't have to do that!

Because the mother-in-law must be very sorry for her sonI feel like you're spending a little bit less money. So she doesn't want you to spend her son's money. Especially since my generation is an only child.

Therefore, parents are very doting on their children, and if they get married, they will feel that their sons still belong to them. Then he will be very repulsive to his daughter-in-law. They don't want their daughter-in-law to spend their son's money too.

I think this bubble really just doesn't figure out what the mother-in-law should do. It's a bit too borderless. Now that the son has started a family, then they are another family, and he should withdraw from his son's life.

It shouldn't interfere too much, after all, it's a small family.

His own family must be towards his own family, and his mother-in-law must be towards his son. He must have thought it would be better if his son could get a bigger bargain. They don't think that girls also have to pay at home.

All chores are almost all a girl's business. And the girls have to go out and work on their own. If you have children, you have to take care of your children at home, and almost all of your children are girls.

The man would play with the child for a while, and then walk away. Therefore, the girl's contribution to the family must be particularly large. If the man doesn't pay the money to the family at this time.

It's really just not necessary. Because the girl pays so much, she must control the financial power of the family.

If a girl spends a little lavishly, I think I can give advice. Let him spend less, but it must not be said that he should not spend his son's money. That's a little too ugly.

If you really don't let the flowers, then it's better to get a divorce. If we didn't want to be financially comfortable, we wouldn't want to get married. After all, if we can support ourselves, why should we get married!

I hope all mothers-in-law can have a sense of proportion. Understand that your son has already started a family, and then stay away from your son. Don't interfere in other people's affairs.

Because my mother-in-law thinks that it is not easy for my son to earn money, you will feel very sorry for her son when you spend her son's money, and I also want you to be independent, so I will persuade you like this, I think you can have a good talk with your husband, your mother-in-law's idea is not right, and it will also affect the relationship between the two of you.

I think this statement of the mother-in-law is very correct, don't cause a big financial burden on the son. Because it is not easy for our sons, we must understand our children.

It may be that the mother-in-law feels sorry for her son, or it may be that the mother-in-law is not used to seeing you spend her son's money, and you can ignore it, because the life and money of the two of you are decided by the two of you.

Her mother-in-law must have thought that his son was working hard to make money, and you were just an outsider, so felt that you shouldn't spend his money.

This may be because your mother-in-law is distressed about her son's money, and she thinks that it is not easy for her son to earn money, so she said such things.

Because your mother-in-law is very selfish and is afraid that her son will suffer too much loss, she wants you to make money for yourself and serve her son.

I want you to learn to save, save this money and keep it in a useful place, sometimes my mother-in-law advises her like this for your own good.

Maybe she still doesn't recognize your identity as a daughter-in-law in her heart, so she doesn't want you to spend his son's money.

It's because my mother-in-law hasn't accepted you from the bottom of her heart and thinks you're still an outsider, so I'm advising you like this.

That's right, I couldn't agree more!

Summary. Good evening, dear.

The mother-in-law is reluctant to spend money on her daughter-in-law, and the teacher asks you to send money home, this is selfish, not treating her daughter-in-law as her own, and always guarding against it.

It's understandable to be stingy with your son and daughter, but it's selfish to be stingy with your daughter-in-law.

If the mother-in-law is reluctant to spend money on her daughter-in-law, she always asks her son and daughter-in-law to send money home.

Good evening, dear. The mother-in-law is reluctant to spend money on her daughter-in-law, and the teacher asks you to send money home, this is selfish, and she does not treat her daughter-in-law as her own. It's understandable to be stingy with your son and daughter, but to be stingy with your daughter-in-law is to be selfish and sell stools.

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Dear, you can ask, does this mother-in-law help take care of the child? Is she taking the child with her, and if so, she should pay some money to go back to subsidize it.

Hello beauty, I understand everything when I see what you said, I can speculate that you are a good daughter-in-law, a good wife, a good mother, and a good daughter-in-law who knows how to honor her in-laws, and I praise you here.

Hello beauty, here I want to explain to you, your mother-in-law asked your husband for money, indicating that she needs to spend money, maybe not in a hurry to wait for flowers, as a daughter-in-law you are very sensible, just give it to your mother-in-law, to be honest, even if your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship is good, she is not good to ask for your money, after all, you are a daughter-in-law, you did not give her son convenience, to momentum, besides, maybe your mother-in-law is also very reasonable, knows what is wrong, how can she take your money?

Hello beauty, here I feel that your mother-in-law is doing very well, you are doing better, it can be seen that your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship is also very good, here I want to say, since the relationship is very good, you should care more about your mother-in-law in the future, from time to time ask her what she needs to buy, ask her if she is short of money, or give her money directly during the holidays, if your mother-in-law does not want it, you can let your husband give, if you say, the meat is still in the pot, which means that your family spends whom's money is spent anyway. I don't need to explain this truth to you, you are a person who understands the truth, and you are even many times better than me.

Hello beauty, no more to say, here I wish you a happy and happy day, I wish you sweet love, family harmony and happiness, and I wish your life is better day by day.

The mother-in-law feels that her son is not an outsider and can ask him for money, after all, the daughter-in-law is not born by herself, and she feels that she has no face to ask her daughter-in-law for money, so if you are a daughter-in-law, you should no longer give money to your mother-in-law in person, and you can transfer and express your heart through your husband, and after a long time, the mother-in-law will also know the good of the daughter-in-law.

Maybe the mother-in-law thinks that it is natural for her son to ask for money, or maybe she is embarrassed to ask for her daughter-in-law's money, then you can talk to your mother-in-law and tell him that I give you money is also my news, my son and I are husband and wife, and it is the same for you to ask for money.

The mother-in-law asks her son for money, she thinks it is right, and she doesn't want the daughter-in-law to give money, you can discuss it with your husband as a daughter-in-law, and you will take care of your family's money, and your mother-in-law asks her son for money, and if the son is not in charge of the family's money, he has to take it from his daughter-in-law.

It's easy to talk between mother and son, you can give money to your husband and let your husband give it! See what she's missing, buy it for her!

This may be the relationship between him and you, not very familiar enough, ask his son for money, he thinks it is justified, but you are her daughter-in-law, she treats you as an outsider, so she will be polite.

In the eyes of all mothers-in-law in the world, his son is his daughter-in-law and an outsider, so he will tell his son many things, but will not tell his son, which may also be because he trusts his son more. And he is always an outsider, and his son is the closest on his side.

This is not right to be a mother-in-law, the son and daughter-in-law have the same money, why should they be divided so clearly, because the sons are already married, don't worry so much, do this others still think that the daughter-in-law is not good to you, you have an opinion on the daughter-in-law, but you still expect them to raise in the future.

You just pretend you don't know, it's natural for a son to give money to his mother, but not necessarily a daughter-in-law. So live your own life and let your husband handle these things.

Since ancient times, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are a difficult problem to deal with, and doing a good job in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and gaining the trust of mother-in-law will help to achieve family harmony.

I think that's what an old man should do. And there is no need to ask for money for helping with children. In short, I feel that there is a lack of human affection.

It really refreshed my three views again, and it turns out that there is nothing that you can't do, only what you can't think of.

The article said that before the son and daughter-in-law got married, the son had been married and had a daughter, and after the daughter-in-law arrived home, she gave birth to two more sons, because she had to bear the cost of three children, so the son and daughter-in-law went out to work, and the grandparents took care of the three children at home. Considering that he wanted to give his children a better learning environment, his grandfather rented a house with his three children and lived in the town, and his grandmother worked as a farmer at home. The wife goes to work alone to earn money, and has to support the three children and two elderly people in the family, plus the living expenses of her husband and herself, a total of seven people, and she can marry a wife under such conditions.

After the wife finally couldn't stand it, she went back to her parents' house, and no longer transferred money to her in-laws, and her in-laws must know what kind of goods their son is, not to mention grasping discipline and coaxing her daughter-in-law, she actually sued the court with a complaint, asking her daughter-in-law to pay the so-called "grandchild fee", and it is a "grandchild fee" for three children.

Obviously, the earliest daughter is the son of his own child before marriage, and the old couple can still pretend not to know, and ask for money with confidence, the court finally sentenced the daughter-in-law to pay half of the "grandson fee" The poor daughter-in-law Cong let one person earn money and seven people to spend, only after leaving home in the last three years, he saved a little money, and now he was asked for 150,000, which feels a little unreasonable.