How does he see studying as more important than me?

Boys are different from girls, boys are more rational, while we girls are more emotional and love to think more. Maybe he's really tired? I think two people together to know how to tolerate, in fact, we should also think about each other's feelings when we ask each other, girls should be empathetic, whether he loves you or not is not only through this one thing can be reflected, if he often finds various reasons to prevaricate, then his courage is really developed during this time, give him a tight spell...

Let him face the reality of today's serious imbalance between men and women...

If you're still students, he's right to do it! Boys are very sensible, but sensible people don't put feelings first! Because the controllability of feelings is too low!

Trouble, thanks!

You have to support him, because now you can only rely on yourself! I think he also wants to give you back, but he has a long-term plan, a man must have a career before he can give you a good life, he is all for you! You have to support him and understand him.

I'm sure it'll be okay that way. He'll be pleased.

Dear sister:

Suddenly I remembered, I don't seem to talk to you about creation.

Before, I thought it was too early to tell you this, after all, you had just started college. But from Bi Shumin's words, I think it's time to discuss this with you.

Learning is the foundation, and what you need to do further is to think, and when you accumulate to a certain extent, it is time to create. In my opinion, when I think, there is an occasional idea that comes to mind, and that is the spark of creation.

However, when we read more and more books, sometimes there will be a kind of resonance, and what we think of seems to have been thought of by our predecessors, and our inexplicable feelings may have been placed there by our predecessors. The creation of material wealth and the creation of spiritual wealth are all the same.

There's very little I can say about that. Perhaps because of my lack of experience, I, who is three years older than you, is really unable to solve the puzzle of how to create.

One day, when I was reading the newspaper, I saw an article by Zhang Xiaofeng, the title of which was "How can ghosts and gods cry because of you all the time". The article is about a lecture given by the author in a group of Chinese Canadian writers. It's about the material for writing.

She believes that literary works can be divided into two categories, one is destined to be earth-shattering, after thousands of years of human history, there are only a few thousand really considered literary masterpieces, or less, in the vast number of literary works, there are really very few. If every author is obsessed with writing such works, then the "vastness" will not exist. As a result, another type of work has been produced, which writes about some small things around us, and writes about the thoughts and thoughts of ordinary people.

Sometimes, we stubbornly believe that "earth-shattering ghosts and gods" are creations. In fact, we can also create in the ordinary. Life is never just one answer.

This is one of the reasons and motivations for me to insist on writing some spikelet cracks over the years.

yanjun

Manila, 2010.

PS: Sadly, three or four years later, I found that I still didn't have any understanding, so I posted the original letter. This collection of hill limb anthologies is a letter I wrote to my younger sister, Lijun, who had just started college, during my first year of working in the Philippines after graduation.