How to prevent the love brain in the early stages of love? What do you think?

In order for humans to reproduce, human genes are secreted by the brains when men and women fall in loveDopamineIn fact, as long as you are separated from your lover, the brain will automatically regulate your emotions and become rational. So, I think there are three ways to prevent the love brain:

First, don't stick to your lover all the time, you must have your own independent space.

Many people like to stick together all the time when they fall in love, even if it is a long-distance relationship.

I also like to keep ** talking, I generally don't recommend this practice, because if you are only with your lover, you will neglect your relatives and friends in your life. In a person's life, love is only one of the feelings we need, and we also need family affection and friendship. All three feelings are very important, don't neglect family and friendship because of love.

I suggest that when you are in love, you should also give yourself independent space to maintain family and friendship, so that you can develop physically and mentally healthily and not make a mess of your life because of love.

Second, you can cultivate some hobbies and don't focus on your lover.

When you are in a relationship, if you pay too much attention to your lover, it will also cause him a lot of pressure. Therefore, you can cultivate some of your own hobbies, such as reading and painting, etc., you can spend some time on these hobbies every day, you will find other beautiful things in life, and you will be more able to appreciate the beauty of love.

Third, you can choose to travel with your lover, and you can see the shortcomings of the other party through travel, and you will reconsider the relationship between the two.

If you stick to your lover every day, it's actually easy to get bored, two people can choose to travel together, and lovers can see each other's strengths and weaknesses when they travel together, so that we can look at this relationship more rationally. When traveling, it is also easy to see a person's values and money outlook, which can let you see how his character is. If the two can get along harmoniously and be very happy during travel, then the relationship is very healthy.

At the beginning of a relationship, you should have self-confidence from the inside out, don't just focus on love, and have your own things to do. You need to be strong in your heart, firm in what makes you unique, and have the courage to face what you are missing.

No matter what problems you encounter in life, you should express your own opinions and opinions, and you should not do something particularly impulsive, so as not to let yourself become a love brain. Also, if you encounter something you don't like, you should reject it immediately. So I think it's the right way to do it so that it doesn't fall in love.

To prevent the love brain, we must make good use of rational thinking, girls with love brains are particularly prone to a tendon, in fact, many times, your unhappiness is created by yourself. Be good at using rational thinking, objectively analyze and look at the reasons behind the incident, and then you look at it, in fact, it is not a big deal.

Many people want to be with this person in the early stage of love, which will affect their work, in fact, this is not necessary, don't affect your life and work because of falling in love, falling in love is just a part of life.

In the early stage of love, we must be more serious, because sometimes it is easy to be deceived, and secondly, we should also have a certain understanding of each other, and these love brains are easy to hurt ourselves and our families, so we must control ourselves.

When you are in love, you should keep your own opinions and don't listen to each other in everything. My opinion is that you must have your own heart, follow your own faith, don't listen to others, and protect yourself.

Everything should be done carefully, and secondly, you should think about yourself, and secondly, you should learn to love yourself before loving others, so that you can prevent it. You should not give money to the other party. I think so too.

Always keep a clear head, polish your eyes before falling in love, distinguish what kind of person the other person is, don't let yourself fall into the swamp of love after falling in love, and learn to stop losses in time.

The first thing is to have what you should do, and you must have your own social circle, you should not put all your focus on others at any time, you must be assertive, and you must be very independent.

1Don't study the other person's behavior and emotions, focus on whether your emotions and needs are being met

Don't take the time to test whether the other person is serious about you, whether they really love you or not.

The more you study the other person, the deeper you fall, and it's good that you only care about your own emotions, am I happy that he does this? How can I be happy if I'm not happy? Away from him or close to him? Then you just make the choices that make you happy.

Confirm your feelings at all times during the processIf you are close to him and you feel pain and suffering, do what makes you happy and stay away from him.

Make your life fuller

Imagine that you suddenly won the jackpot of 50 million, and what you want to do most at this time is to contact the boy you like or go to collect the prize and count the money?

The reason why you are immersed in a past relationship is only because there is nothing more pleasant in your life than falling in love with him, there is no better opposite sex around you than him, and you are limited to your own narrow horizons. So, when you're thinking about him, you might as well find something else to do, such as exercising, studying for certifications, and cultivating a hobby.

You don't need intimacy to live well

This ability has to be cultivated by yourself, when you can accept that there is no such thing as unrequited love and emotion in this world, because everyone's essence is selfish, you can accept that others don't love you enough, and it is the norm for love to have no results.

It's not anyone's fault, and even if no one in the world loves you, you have to live well or even better, and if you can't do it yet, try to do it.

Ask yourself more about what the other party likes about him

Remember, there is no unprovoked liking in this world, and there is no irreplaceable person, you must ask yourself more about what you like him**, if he is not like this, will you still like him? Whether you like him to be responsible, or handsome, or capable, so that you know better what kind of person you will be happy with, if you don't know that you like each other**, then you probably don't really like him, you just fall in love with him in fantasy.

It's actually your own problem to be too upset with someone and liking it too much

It's because you need a relationship so much, and he happens to appear at this time, not how good and valuable he is, it's because you give him some aura or a unique filter.

At this stage, you are too emotional, try to distract yourself from learning a new skill or getting a pet, or meeting a new friend, and after a while you will find that he is just a mediocre but cute person.

Don't dwell on the question of "why doesn't he like you anymore?"

We know that everyone is an individual, even when it comes to being in a relationship. Also in a passionate relationshipKeep yourself。This is because, at all times, you must have the ability to think independently, once you rely on others to think in any relationship, and take a relationship as your life goal, then it is easy to lose yourself.

This relationship will not be a healthy, benign relationship. But then, since there are some people. Yes, it will beFall in loveWhen I can't remember that I still have the ability to think, listen to each other for everything, if there is a contradiction in the relationship, I will feel that life is gloomy and I don't want to do anything, this is what we often call the love brain, in fact, this is not very confident in yourself, and there are certain defects in personality, so you must avoid the love brain when you are in love, how to avoid it?

There are also two good ways to do this.

Many people always use their love brain to think about problems when they are in love, because they don't have anything they like to do more than be in love. Maybe the hobby is watching TV series and the like, but it can't actually growHobbiesWhat about such a hobby? It doesn't help people much either.

Therefore, a person should also have a healthy interest in life, for example, have some artistic hobbies, or cultivate their own skills. Usually, I have to divide some of themEnergyGo give yourself these hobbies. In this way, you will not focus all your attention on the subject, and you will not be frightened by the slightest change in the subject's mood or any action.

The two of them still have their own ownlifeto stay together to maintain interest for longer.

The reason why a person is in love is mainly because when two people have a conflict when they are in love, one of them will be greatly affected, and it will be difficult to continue their daily life. It's all about loveJudgmentThe quality of one's own life, and even giving up other social relationships because of love, is a manifestation that once you fall in love, your thinking will no longer work. So, before falling in love, you must remind yourself that falling in love is just a part of life, not notAll, you still have to think about things on your own, and you also have to maintain your relationship with your relatives and friends.

In this case, the relationship of love is also comparedHealth

In love, you need to have your own principles, and you need to recognize the other party's character before you choose to pay.

When you are in love, don't put all your energy on falling in love, and don't help each other unconditionally, you must have a certain bottom line so that you can avoid becoming a love brain.

No matter how the other party talks about it, you have a rational view, and you must control yourself and don't get too up.

In my opinion,Although the love brain can sometimes help to maintain the relationship between the two parties, the love brain that cannot be changed will still cause a great obstacle to the relationship. The term "love brain" is still derogatory. Moreover, affection is a matter that requires both parties to pay.

What kind of person or behavior does the love brain refer to?

In my opinion,The love brain is essentially a love-first mindset, they usually think that love is above all else and are willing to put all their energy and heart into love and lovers.

The love brain generally appears in boys and girls in their teens and twentiesThis kind of people are young and lack love experience, but they are extremely longing and eager to fall in love, so they are easy to overpay for love.

In my own love life, I would see the transformation of the love brain as a stage of growth.

When I was in school, I also had this tendency to be in love, thinking that I could be with her anytime and anywhere. But with the improvement of one's own cognition and the gradual clarity of life planning, this feeling will slowly disappearI can become more rational, know what is more important, and know what kind of relationship is most comfortable for both parties.

Next, I will share the problems that I think the love brain will encounter based on my own experience:

1. The love brain is easy to fall into an incorrect mode of getting along with your partner

People who love brains regard love too seriously, so they tend to amplify the behavior of their objects。For example, if the other party is in a bad mood and ignores you temporarily, you will find it difficult to accept, thinking about whether you don't like you anymore, and become a source of gain and loss. Even by making trouble and testing to confirm the feelings of the other party, it is easy to fall into an incorrect mode of getting along.

Second, the love brain has a strong sense of dependence

People who are in love often give too much in their relationships, so they will be extra dependent on each other。In my opinion,It is still necessary to maintain an appropriate sense of distance and space between boyfriends and girlfriends, not that one side has to stick to the other. This often makes the other person feel that they are not very free in the relationship and generates pressure.

Third, the love brain pays too much, and the status of the two parties is unequal

People who are in love often take their own extra efforts as a manifestation of their love for each other, and they respond to requests。It would be good if the other party knew how to give in both directions, but some people were easy to be self-centered and felt that the initiative of the relationship was in their hands, so that the status of both of you in the relationship was not equal. You can only maintain your relationship by constantly pleasing you, and it is easy to go wrong.

In my opinion, people who love brains are still too invested in feelings, and feelings are often ruined by this "investment".

If you find out that you are in love, don't panic. My suggestion isFind the root of your love value, understand and accept your own unhappiness, and get rid of the habit of love brain, maybe in the future love life can be a little less hindered and more tolerant.

In essence, the love brain is still a derogatory meaning, and excessive love brain will hinder your love life.

1.Learn to look at each other from an objective perspective and not be subjective.

2. Pay attention to your emotions and feelings, and infiltrate the pure base to prevent mental internal friction.

Don't always think about whether the other person loves you, what the other person wants you to do, and whether the other person can see it in your heart. If you spend a lot of energy guessing the other person's emotions every day, you will worry about anxiety and worry about gains and losses.

Ask yourself what I want to achieve in this relationship.

3Follow your heart's thoughts and don't accommodate each other.

4. Learn to analyze problems rationally from the perspective of outsiders;

Sometimes our friends think that we are "love brains", but we don't realize it ourselves, which is the so-called pants bumper fan.

5. Recognize your own strengths and don't have similar ones: "I am not worthy of him", "His kindness to me contains Cong Careful pity", "No one will like me but him." The world shines, and the happiness you deserve now.

6.Don't hold each other too high, get along as equals.