Family aspect! To marry or not to marry! 75

Her living conditions are good?

If your living conditions are very good, you can talk to her family, and you can fully afford the future life of her parents, which is equivalent to a son-in-law, although there is nothing, but there must be more or less gossip outside.

The breakup is decided when the relationship can no longer continue.

So you have to ask yourself, can you accept all this?

Of course, all the circumstances are accepted, the family's reality, determination, feelings, and getting along with her family.

Think about it well, be serious. Solve the problems you need to solve one by one.

It seems that you are not marrying one of her, but of three, her and her parents.

Of course, you have to take on the responsibilities and obligations of taking care of the elderly, and you have to take more intimate care of her parents than your own parents to achieve a balance.

But don't forget, you also need your own space, and supporting the elderly and making the elderly a "light bulb" between husband and wife are two different things.

So you have to think clearly. Are you willing to be a nominal "door-to-door son-in-law"? You have to talk to your girlfriend clearly, put the attitudes and views of both parties clear, and wish you all the best!

There's nothing wrong with being neighbors with your father-in-law.

But you must be more capable than your father-in-law in any way.

Otherwise, there will be endless suffering.

My boyfriend listens to his parents very much, should I marry him?

I don't like my boyfriend's family, but I love my boyfriend very much, do you want to marry him?

The boyfriend is very kind, but he has a stubborn temper, and he has to listen to him whenever there is a conflict, do you want to marry him? The bride price that the other party promised to give, but suddenly repented halfway, do you want to marry him?

My boyfriend quarreled twice and beat me, do you want to get married? Marrying someone is always an inconclusive proposition for women. Truly!

A girl's choice to marry and enter from one family to another is like her second life, so be cautious! However, it is important to remember that love is a matter of two people, but marriage is a matter of two families.

Therefore, I would like to say to all the girls who are talking about marriage: If you marry, you must not marry into these three or four families.

1. Families who can calculate should marry carefully!

A typical representative is, "Cook the raw rice first, and don't give the bride price or anything, what else can she do?" As Venus said in "Loud and Loud":

Love can be talked about aside from life, but marriage is not, marriage is life. "If you start with calculations, you can only say that the suffering is still to come, because you will fall deeper and deeper, and in the end you really don't know "what to do"! Of course, if you seek counseling help, it will naturally be a blessing.

2, the man of "Ma Bao Man" should marry carefully! Such a man, after getting married, earns some money for himself to spend, and cannot live independently at all, and then the woman earns money to support her family, which is to send herself to send "welfare". The key is that you have to ask your mother about everything!

Before you get married, you must see clearly:

Is the person you want to marry an adult with an independent mind, or a giant baby who has not yet grown out of your mother's arms?

3. Families with too big a gap between the three views should marry carefully!

A good marriage should also be a three-view fit. Because the three views are not compatible, it is not as simple as the difference in views on the surface, there is a deep imprint of the original family behind it, you think you can change him by relying on the magic of love, you may finally find that the love is gone, he is still him! Of course, it is impossible to be exactly the same person, try not to be very different.

And the most important part, is there a ability to deal with differences? This is also something that needs to be learned and grown.

4. A man who is violent must not marry!

There are too many family tragedies caused by domestic violence, I will not give examples, such a man is generally also greatly related to family growth, if he does not accept counseling help, there is almost no hope by the power of love! So, don't think that you can "save" him from me.

There is also a case of gambling, the type of alcoholism. I didn't list it separately because this part is relatively hidden and needs to be identified more carefully! I also wrote about how to get to know each other's original families, and friends can search for them if they are interested.

All of these categories need to be seen with your eyes peeled for yourself. In fact, it is not difficult to understand it clearly. The most important thing is whether you are willing to face the truth when you open your eyes!

As the saying goes: Love is blind, mistakes are inevitable, and if you need counseling to help you get out of trouble, I've always been here!