The reason why people do things that harm them is why they don t know how to care for themselves

Is your problem like this, that is, in your daily life and work (including the emotional aspect, of course) you will wronged yourself, let yourself suffer in vain, and others will take it for granted or not take it for granted, and as a result, you will feel that you don't care enough for yourself, and you will make yourself unhappy.

If this is the case, then you may be an introvert, or you may have a little low self-esteem, so sometimes you will accommodate others and hurt yourself for the sake of face, friend feelings, etc. You should not be good at expressing your thoughts, don't like to say so much, feel that talking too much will hurt feelings, will make people feel how you are a person, if so, then it is actually your idea is wrong, you should not think like this, because real friends and those who are worthy of your courtesy, will take care of each other's emotions and thoughts in contact, if the opposite of those people, you don't need to be polite to him, you can even say that they don't respect you very much, this kind of person is at most a nod of friendship, right.

People like you should be cautious and rigorous, so in many cases your ideas and practices are right, and you will think about others first, so you don't have to be so strict with yourself, you have to learn to say no, learn to stick to your own ideas, most of the time your ideas and practices are right and good, and you won't deliberately hurt anyone, why don't you express it, why are you used to other people's faults, the result is not good, and the result makes yourself unhappy, think about what that kind of person can give you, that is, snobbery, Don't take you seriously, think about it.

How do you know that those things are detrimental to you? The generation of people's negative emotions stems from all kinds of unhappiness in people's lives. And if you want to get out of this unpleasant situation, there are two ways, one is to struggle, and the other is a more relaxed way, that is, to give up on yourself.

People will be easily defeated, once there is no faith, people are actually an empty shell, and there is no belief in wanting to struggle. Giving up oneself completely is a quicker way to liberate oneself in people's minds than the hard struggle. Compared with being a docile sheep all the time, being a fierce tiger, hurting others and hurting oneself, you don't even need to struggle.

Wouldn't it seem more relaxed? Although this is an extreme performance! People want their spirits to be liberated, and who doesn't care for themselves?

It's just that the means are different, and the views seen are different.

First of all, I don't think you love yourself so much, or you wouldn't have asked this question.

It may be because you are busy with responsibilities and pressure, and you may forget to be kind to yourself for a short time.

If there is such a problem, I need a scenario, which is how to abuse myself.

No, to what extent you don't care about yourself, you have to do a different analysis.

for man is ignorant of himself ... Who can say that knowledge is necessarily right, people think that it is to care for themselves, but in fact it can be just harmful to you personally. Because you don't know what you want and how to do it to be really good for you, many times you will go in the opposite direction, and in the end you can't find out the truth of the matter.

And people are also ignorant of others, misunderstand the kindness of others, understand the malice of others as kindness, and measure everything by their own standards, but it is precisely in this way that they are blinded to the facts. There are many such examples. Is this a contradiction?

I don't think it's a contradiction, it's just that I don't make an effort to understand myself, I think it's easier to do what others say, it's easier to live the life that everyone is living, how many people will really reflect on it, and will seriously think about whether what I'm doing makes sense, whether I'm living the life I should live, and the value of my life is in the **......A lot of people don't know. How many people have lived their lives in a daze like this. I don't even know the value of life, what I care for, what I damage, and do I still have the strength to distinguish the truth from the false

When he gets off work, you buy a hot cup of coffee and wait for him.

Buy him a tie for his birthday and say I'll put it on for you!

Landlord, you are really confused by this question.

In fact, everything is very simple, as long as you think about what you can do for the woman you love, you will naturally have the answer.

Be specific. I doubt your intentions.

You don't need to do anything, just stay with him. When he is happy or unhappy, he hopes that there are you around him. As the saying goes: behind every successful man there is a considerate woman

Don't do laundry, cook, and be able to give everything, I want real and concrete things!!

I think it's good to make him happy, but first he has to like you.

It depends on what it is, everyone has a certain limit of patience, it depends on how you look at it.

Why would it disappoint you? Or your requirements are too high, or your contribution is too little, since you love him, why don't you find the reason in yourself first.

Everyone is not unique, and there are other things in this world that you should love!

Friend, you better leave, otherwise you will be more miserable in the future.

Talk about ...... calmly face to faceMaybe you're missing communication

Whether the problem is over or not, it's easy to say if it's not over, and it's best to endure it if it's over.

Leaving is your final end.

If you love it, be bold enough to tell him or her and let him know your love, direct and simple language is the most beautiful. Even if you fail, you don't regret it because you have fought for it. If you don't love it, be bold and tell him (her) not to let love become a burden.

Let the good memories of the past become unbearable to look back on. True love is when you can love, know how to cherish True love is when you can't love, know how to let go Because, letting go is to have everything Please cherish when you love well, love well When you let go, bless well Sometimes if you love someone, you will love deeply. I don't know how to love.

What is love? Maybe it's because there is no answer that love is obsessive. If you love, love deeply.

To be loved. Or love. Please make your loved ones feel safe.

Sometimes love is tired. I'm afraid of losing. Fear of loss is when you are in love.

Cherish it True love is a kind of care and care that comes from the heart, there are no flowery words, no grandstanding actions, only in every word and deed you can feel it. So plain and so firm. On the contrary, swear and promise.

illustrates its uncertainty and never trust sweet words. Feel it with your heart. Where there is love, there is hurt.

Once things have passed, they can never be reversedFeel happy for having each other before. Cherish happiness for this time.

Remember what you should remember. Forget what you should forget. Change can change.

Accept what can't be changed.

Crying is not a bad thing, if you suppress yourself too much, it will bring the opposite effect, when many people cry, people love to say, men have tears and can't be played, hehe, people have forgotten the next sentence, just because they haven't reached the sad place! Everyone cries when they're sad. You say that you cry when you see a touching place on TV, which is very normal, because you pursue beauty in your heart, and you are sentimental, which is a good aspect!

When I was wronged, I naturally only had bitterness and tears, and at that time I cried loudly, no tears may not be really heroic, tears may not be a husband, I'm sorry, because I'm a boy, opinions are inevitably biased towards boys, I just want to tell you, there's nothing wrong with crying, hehe

Naturally, there is a way if you don't want to cry, that is, to become cold-blooded, to see some touching things, you say that he is contrived, to see some cruel things, you say you deserve it, that is, if you lose your feelings, you won't cry after you don't have feelings, do you think that's good?

Overall, crying is a way to vent. If you can cry, you can send your dissatisfaction to confide. So good. It is recommended not to cry from time to time, but to stop in moderation.

It's okay · I do this a lot...

Follow your heart, then be decisive, don't think too much, it will make you more entangled.

You have a "phobia of choice".

It's a bad thing for you to say that he is a waste, and it seriously hurts the young man's self-esteem.

It's not right for him to hit you.

To sum up, this man is a man of temperament, and his emotions and values and character are gradually forming and improving. At this time, when you meet a man at this stage, then the man's growth needs your cultivation, because you occupy a very important position in his life and become a very important factor affecting his growth. Personally, I think this man is a good embryo that can be held and nurtured to become an excellent man.

Sometimes a person's behavior depends on the influence of the surrounding environmental factors. No one is perfect, everyone is the same.

The problem is that you want to listen to other people's opinions, but you can't listen to them ... The final decision on this matter is in your hands, and no one else can decide what to do for you. If you don't talk about feelings, realistically speaking, you should leave, and you can't bear to bring feelings, the problem is that reality and feelings are two inseparable parts in life.

Since you said that you turned your face because of a misunderstanding, then make it clear to him that the misunderstanding is clear, it is normal for young people to have a big temper and be impulsive, the key is to learn how to deal with the problems that occur. Those who say "part" and "leave" at every turn, I doubt that they are the brain-dead of the post-90s, if they are all like you say, they will be divided as soon as there is something, then you will not talk about friends and get married. Since two people are together, they must learn to communicate, learn to put themselves in each other's shoes, and many times, many things can be solved very simply.

The key to the problem is actually how you solve the misunderstanding when it happens, if you don't explain it clearly, you can't completely blame your boyfriend, the misunderstanding plus you say that he is a waste man and a man will be very angry, if you go to that misunderstanding is not angry, but to wonder if he loves you .........It's still forgivable to get angry for a reason.,You must explain this misunderstanding clearly.,Let each other completely let go.。。。 If he is always so suspicious and so extreme, then divide it. It will be very tiring later.

In fact, it's not that others want you to break up, you have to think about it, will you be happy together, he is so capricious, he really can't stand it. The most important thing for the two of them is trust, at least not at all.

You've been together for a long time.,I mean you've lived for a long time.,There's nothing new anymore.,Naturally, there will be times of quarrels.,This is called the emotional run-in period.。。 Many people can't survive this stage and break up. I feel that it is better for you to be separated for a period of time and talk about feelings, but living together every day has a different effect.

Even if they are separated for a month, the attitude of both parties will change greatly. This must help you, trust me.

No one else can help you with this matter, you can only say that your boyfriend is not mature enough, and you know it in your own heart whether he is good or not, isn't it? After all, love is just a part of life, how much time you can give him in your heart, watch his performance in this time, it can be regarded as a test of him, don't tell anyone, just know it in your heart, if he steps on your bottom line, you give up, sometimes you say that you are afraid of missing it, sometimes it is not suitable at all, you still have to observe carefully.

Love can change anyone.

Try to change your partner.

As long as there is love, nothing can stump you.

Even if one day you fail.

You can also say with a clear conscience: I once loved.

No matter what happens.

Please remember. You love Him, and He loves you.

That's enough.

Personally, I think: a man who beats a woman is unacceptable! The first time you hit it, you will have a second time! If you live with him, you will suffer no less! One word: points!

Divide it. I support that a man who beats a woman is not a man at all.

Aiya Oh yes, why didn't that happen.