Why do some people like to blame others and be unforgiving?

It can be said that a person likes to blame others because he is too attached to his own feelings and does not understand the feelings of others, and cannot change his thoughts and care for others for the sake of others, yesAccusatory personality

What is an accusatory personality?

Accusatory people don't care about relationships.

and the emotions of others, they wantAbsolute initiative and prestige, so they tend to want to win, but are too aggressive. On deeper analysis, we often find that blaming people have the psychological characteristics of evading responsibility for theirProblems and ErrorsIt's all about others, staring at others and giving up on their own problems and responsibilities.

How does the accusatory personality behave?

For example, they will say that it's all because you're this way and that, as if everything has nothing to do with your own problemsAvoid liabilitybecause of their ownThe heart is too fragile。When they become aware of their responsibility, they may break down and fall into deeper depression and self-blame. Therefore, prevention of potential guilt, self-blame, and depression isProtect yourselfimportant ways.

In fact,Accusatory peoplePutting too much energy into others is like they're attacking each other and pointing out each other's before solving the problemQuestion

"Whether things get better or not, whether problems can be solved, is not determined by what you decide, but by the other side of the change. ”

How to change your character

Its posture, in fact, is a small heart, is fragile, and on the surface it is strong, butInsideis fragile. This is in line with an unwillingnessTake responsibilityIn order to make communication smoother and solve problems effectively, it is also necessary to take into account harmonious interpersonal relationships, reduce dependence on others and unrealistic expectations, and learn to recognize that responsibility is not terrible, and at the same time take responsibilityRespect feelings

Summary

Blaming often implies psychological dependence on each other. Things can only be resolved when they change themselves, and all this is done by themselves. The only thing that can be done isChange each other and solve each other

Such people are too selfish, and too arrogant, anyway, they think they are the best.

Because these people feel that they are always right and others are always wrong, that's why it's like this.

Because I feel that whatever I do is right, and people who think the opposite of me are wrong.

Get rid of your responsibilities as much as possible and reduce the guilt in your heart.

That's because this person has inherited his parents' genes, that's why it's like this.

Because they are more demanding and strong, they are more selfish in finding fault with others.

This kind of person is often incapable, and will not achieve much, so he likes to worry about things.

I can only say that such people are unreasonable, and there is no reason to talk to such people.

Because that's the character of this kind of person, especially a woman.

They blame all their problems and mistakes on others, and their eyes are fixed on others, while they leave themselves clean, and the problems and responsibilities belong to others. ‍‍

People who blame people often have a hidden psychology of relying on the other party, only when the other party changes, things can be solved, all this is up to themselves, the only thing they can do is to change the other party, get the other party. ‍

It seems to be arrogant, but in fact, it is a bit strong on the outside and dry in the middle, and the heart is very fragile and dependent. This is consistent with the reluctance of the accuser to take responsibility. ‍

Accusatory people place too much emphasis on their own correctness and authority, and do not care about interpersonal harmony and the feelings of others, so they often hope that they will achieve "complete victory" and will not be forgiving. ‍

Let's put it this way, people who like to blame others will ignore the other person's feelings, blindly pay attention to their own feelings, and show that they are arrogant and authoritative. ‍

It can be said that a person likes to blame others because he attaches too much importance to his own feelings and ignores the feelings of others, and cannot empathize and compare his heart with his heart. ‍‍

Many accusatory people shy away from taking responsibility because they are too fragile and if they are made aware of their responsibility, they may break down and fall into deeper depression and self-blame. Therefore, blaming others is an important defense for them against potential guilt, self-blame, and depression. ‍

In fact, the person who blames others puts too much psychological energy on others, as if they violently attack the other person and point out the other person's problems in order to solve the problem. In this way, whether things get better and whether the problem can be solved is not something that you can decide, but you have to pin on the other party to change. ‍‍

Like to blame, this is a very common phenomenon, mainly because they have a poor ability to bear problems, so they will grasp a small problem and make a big fuss, which is very annoying. ‍‍

He criticizes himself, and there is a shadow of himself in the person who makes mistakes, and he is ruthless and wants to kill that self. ‍‍