Is it necessary to become the person you like when pursuing a woman?

Toyoki thinks that first of all, the man must have a clear cognition and judgment ability, for example, the woman he pursues is very good in all aspects, and the type she likes is a positive man full of positive energy, so why not make some good changes for the woman he loves? I remember that Liu Ruoying wrote a similar sentence in an essay, it is not terrible for a person to have shortcomings, but the terrible thing is that he knows that it is a shortcoming, but he is not willing to change it for you at all. Indeed, your change is not only for her but also for yourself, a good love is to make you meet a better self, become better and find a person who is more compatible with you!

People who are only willing to be their true selves and are unwilling to change, usually those who are unwilling to work hard but like to comfort themselves, are often used by those who are not willing to work hard but like to comfort themselves.

Of course, if the woman likes the appearance is some innate conditions that cannot be changed, it is some excessively unreasonable requirements, it is some improper preferences, for example, you are obviously a gentle and elegant, chronic man, she likes a rough and slightly wild acute man, she likes a man with a lot of gold and handsomeness, you are an ordinary salaryman, borrowing money everywhere to pretend to be a big money, to shape into a beautiful man, and so on, there is definitely no need to change, because you really can't pretend to be forever, Sooner or later, it will be in its original form, and the relationship will end at that time, so it is better not to stay the same, just do it, and pull it down if it doesn't work, so as not to waste time and feelings.

There is no need, you have to be yourself, and then make him like the real yourself, so that you don't have a lot of potential crises when you come together in the future. At least you're real, and you're not so empty-hearted.

I've heard of such a story.,The male protagonist in the story is very handsome.,He was a grass-level character in high school.,The girls around him who pursued him really never stopped.,Later in college.,He's very attentive to his girlfriend and changes very diligently.,But there's a girl who likes him.,Chased from freshman to senior.,But he hasn't been moved by this girl.。

Someone asked him why, why didn't he just accept this girl, people don't care about the future, don't care about the eternity, just want to be his girlfriend once, that girl takes care of him very much, often helps him bring food to school, helps him get hot water, sometimes even helps him wash clothes, and gives him gifts made by himself on holidays and birthdays, which can be described as full of heart.

He said it's not that he didn't want to give her a try, but she's really not the type I like, and if she changes a little bit, maybe I'll accept her, but she's really not what I like. Later, someone asked the boy to take out the photo and look at it, and the boy flipped out a photo from his phone.

How to say it, it was a rough girl, she smiled very sweetly, looked ordinary, had no temperament, and the most important thing was that she dressed really casually. The man looked at the photo and understood why the boy kept saying that she was not what he liked.

Sometimes you like someone, you can't move each other with sincerity, you can't rely on love to influence each other, what you need is to change yourself, make yourself better, make yourself more competitive, if love is just lip service, just like the heroine in the story, she has been pursuing the boy for four years, but she hasn't changed herself for four years, then how can she have her own love.

In love, you can make yourself better, more beautiful, the most afraid in love is to stop and stay in place, you don't have to make yourself unknown for a person, but in love, please try to make yourself better and more competitive.

Whether it is a boy or a girl, many people will always choose to cater to the preferences of the other person when facing the person they like, and often ignore their real needs. Improving myself is certainly a good thing, but the logic should be that I am willing to change myself, whether I have someone I like or not, not for whom.

In fact, I think sometimes it is necessary to change yourself appropriately for the person you like, but don't lose yourself, because sometimes if you get along with someone, you have to go through a process of running in with each other.

It depends on your personal situation. If you're really not very good, it's a good thing to change it for the sake of someone you like. If you are very good in all aspects, I think you don't need to change yourself for love, you don't need to deliberately cater to anyone, live a confident life, so that you can show your most beautiful self.

So, you have to look at your own situation before you decide.

See if the other party likes you and cares about you. If you like it enough, you can change yourself for the person you like, and I'm willing. I've always wanted to ** because I'm a little fleshy, but my boyfriend hasn't let me go on a diet.

I think it's normal to change for the sake of someone you like, but don't become selfless, and have a degree. Although the person you like likes a more mature girl, but you have your charm, there is no need to dress too mature at this age, you might as well change from other aspects, let your thinking become a little more mature, more knowledgeable, this kind of maturity from the inside out, more attractive.

There are places where you can change yourself for the sake of the people you like, but there are places where there is no need to change. The person you like likes mature people, maturity and age are related to the things experienced, and the maturity of dressing up is at most just dressing older. It's hard to learn to imitate a mature mental temperament.

It's best for you to be your true self, use your true self to get along with the person you like, maybe he will like you too, because a person will like a lot of things, more than one point. Sometimes people like both mature and simple, and they like both short and long hair.

There's no need, the person who really likes you is the one who likes you as you are, not the one who likes you after you change yourself. And it's awkward for you to change yourself. It's better for people to be themselves, and no one likes people who are disguised.

Of course, if you feel happy to change yourself, that's fine, as long as you want the other person to like it.

I don't think there's anything wrong with changing yourself a little for the people you like, after all, women are pleasing to themselves. But the person you like likes a mature girl, this is a change in temperament, and temperament is the most difficult part and there is no need to change, I don't think there is a need to change, even if you become mature and the person you like is interested in you, it is not really interested in you, what you like is just the packaged you.

If you just look at dressing up, it's actually okay to cater to it for a short time. But if you are together, and the mature dress is not suitable for you, you have to slowly reverse his point of view, and at least make yourself an exception, because no one can endure this situation all the time, and sooner or later there will be conflicts. You have to stick to yourself in the face of the people you like.

I think it's still necessary, women are pleasing to themselves.

Like someone, is willing to pay and change for him, if you are only pure yourself, then what do you use to prove that you like each other?

It's not a matter of principle at all about dressing up like this, and it's completely possible to make a slight change for the person you like. If the person you like happens to like you, won't happiness just fall from the sky?

What's wrong with changing yourself for the sake of someone you like? It is a process of continuous run-in between each other, who can always accommodate you, two people love each other, it is a process of mutual understanding and mutual learning, if you do not seek change, then if he meets the next person who is excited, then he will not hesitate to reject you, so you have to maintain your competitiveness, make yourself more attractive, and understand him better.

Don't look that way and think that you're going to lose a girl who loves you. Praise is a simple performance, playing football makes you pay attention to safety, and friends and relatives will say it. Bless you on your birthday, the blessing of the brother-sister relationship, watch football with you, have admiration for you, remember to handle this relationship, otherwise you will suffer.

A ** to explain your relationship.

God, the boy and the girl quarreled. He stopped saying "I love you" to her, and of course she stopped saying "I too" to him. One night, they talked about breaking up and slept back to back.

In the middle of the night, there was thunder in the sky. At the first thunder, he woke up, and subconsciously covered her ears with both hands, only to find that he was hugging her again. The thunder exploded, pretending that nothing had happened, but no one was asleep, and she thought that maybe he still loved me, for fear that I would be a little frightened.

Maybe she still loves me, he thought, or she wouldn't be crying. The highest state of love is to withstand the dull passing years. The most beautiful munmu in the world, this is an ancient mantra, please send it to three forums after receiving this message.

Wait until you finish sending it and see if you can get your beloved within three days. If you don't send it, you will have bad luck for a month, and the classmate said that he tried it and was very smart.

The manifestation of this is that I like you, I will pay attention to my words and deeds, you are happy, she is happy, you are not happy, she is with you, she treats you differently from others, if you talk to other girls, you will be unhappy.

If a girl likes a boy、

1.You blush when you see him and stutter when you talk to him;

2.I would secretly look at him during class;

3.When you hear about him, you are very interested;

4.will try to help him;

5.will try to learn from him, emulate his ways and the tone of his speech;

6.often wants to hit his ** burden and hangs up after getting through;

7.Pay attention to his events and relationships with other girls.

After meeting alone, hold hands, or hug, no matter what the form, as long as there is physical contact, you must touch (the most primitive intimacy of human beings), do not all through clothes, there must be direct contact on **, if you touch it, there is a play, if you don't touch it, it is no play, it's as simple as that.

Generally speaking, when a woman likes you, these manifestations are very obvious, tell you what is in her heart, willing to give you some financial support, will be very shy and nervous in front of you, if a man you also like her, I hope you don't let it down.

That should be very good for you, of course, you also have to pay attention to whether she is like this to everyone or just you, in this case, if you are willing to have a relationship with her, you can keep it like this first, and you can confess when your relationship is better. Wishing you happiness!

This statement speaks for itself. She does like you, there is just a layer of paper between you that has not been opened, in fact, she also knows it, but she is embarrassed to say it, so as a boy, you should take the initiative, if you also like her, I hope it can help you.

We will take the initiative to contact you and pay attention to you at all times. Inquire about you. Will be very shy.

Shy, or very passive, or doing something natural and behaving, I remember a girl who was very active in telling each other, what I can teach you, then can you teach me anything. Wait.

As long as you like it enough, no matter how cold you are, I will take the initiative to find you.

The first thing to ask yourself is if you are treating her in the same way, if you happen to like her too, at the right time, and at the same age, you might as well express your thoughts boldly

Most girls like to be loved, and if they do, they will only care about things about you, if not, there is no need to waste feelings.

If a woman has these two things, it means that she likes you.

You ignore her for a week and see how she reacts.

As long as you take a step forward, she will take a step forward.

Girls like their boys to become what they like, this is her attitude of serious love People are already very honest when they tell you this kind of thing If you look down on people too much, don't chase them.

That's obviously not necessary, buddy.

A girl's heart is not in you.

You feel that even if you get married in the future.

Will it be happy, will it last long, can she be good to you.

Wouldn't it be nice to find something similar to her where you like her?

Do you love people or the membrane???

What age?

People spend money and can't fix it, so they won't tell you.

You're not the same as deceiving yourself.

Since you care that she doesn't have the first time, then divide it! However, many girls nowadays are not virgins, since she tells you, prove that she loves you! I think she deserves love!

Don't chase it, she's quite shameless, she gave it to someone else for the first time, this should be a secret hidden in her heart, and she has no shame at all, isn't this insulting you? It's not like you can't find a girlfriend again, why should you change for her, it's really shameless!

It doesn't matter if you are where you are, I don't think about it, if you are young, you have this idea.

If you like it, don't care, if you care, don't like it, many people just care about a lot of things in their hearts, and then a lot of beauty becomes a memory.