Why don t parents know to reflect on themselves and blame their children for everything?

Parents are actually reflecting on themselves, but they want to save face, children, for the sake of their hard work for you and no regrets, fulfill them, okay?

Children do not know how to reflect on poor grades, at this time it depends on the parents, parents should guide in a timely manner, do not be short-tempered, and do not scold the child.

Parents should first reflect on whether their children are learning materials and whether they are interested in learning. If the child likes to learn, but does not learn well, it is not mastering the method, and parents can guide it. If your child doesn't like to learn, find something they like to do and let them play.

Parents should encourage their children to communicate more with their children and teach them to do more homework, so that their children's grades will not be very poor.

You can directly point out some problems with the child, and then carry out some ideological education with her, if he has not realized his mistakes in time, you can also find some other ways out at this time.

In the process of learning, most children will have a stage where they do not like to learn, then their grades will deteriorate, and their parents will not correct them after they preach. At this time, parents should face up to this problem, adjust their child's psychological state in time, understand the specific reasons for their child's poor grades, and prescribe the right medicine, so as to solve this problem most effectively.

When a child does not know how to reflect on poor grades, it means that the child does not realize the seriousness of the problem and the significance of the grades. As a parent, you must not get angry, do not fatally criticize your child, communicate with your child calmly and rationally, understand his true thoughts, and guide your child with the right method, so that he likes learning and knows the meaning of learning.

Parents must communicate with their children at a deep level at this time, and must help their children find a more suitable and efficient learning method.

In such a situation, parents must guide their children in a timely manner, and let their children know some of their shortcomings and deficiencies, and also let their children actively correct them.

Parents should tell their children, and they should carefully guide their children and tell them some truths, so that children will understand their mistakes.

Parents should be well educated. Let him know how to reflect. There are also things that can be done to make his grades better.

Let your child recognize the disadvantages of poor grades. Let the child rebuild his confidence in learning, make him willing to learn, and believe that he can succeed.

The role of example is far more useful than preaching. Parents are their children's first teachers, and they are their lifelong teachers. Nowadays, most parents only pay lip service to do your homework, but do not actually do it.

For example, where your child is immersed in his homework, and you sit next to him and just change places to look at your phone. And then just say, why haven't you finished writing it yet? Children's growth is inseparable from the education of teachers, and it is also inseparable from the care of parents, so parents are also invited to devote themselves to their children's learning.

I don't know if parents have found that their children are being crushed by overweight schoolbags every day, and the schoolbag straps are getting longer and longer. For example, if your child scores more than 90 points, you are very happy, but you feel that many of them have scored 100 points, what is there to be happy about? Ignoring the fact that the child only scored about 80 points in the test last time.

This is a very happy progress for your child, but you don't encourage it. Let the child also lose motivation.

When encountering unsatisfactory grades in children, how should parents adjust their mentality? How do I communicate with my child?

Lack of timely communication and understanding is the essential reason for children's problems, and every parent should reflect on the problems encountered in communicating with children.

Why is your child reluctant to communicate with you?

1: I don't care about my child's inner thoughts, and I don't want to know what my child thinks

With the continuous growth of children, in the face of life, learning, and dealing with people, children have slowly formed their own understanding, and have their own ideas about things"For the sake of the child's good", the idea is wide, to arrange everything for the child, but the child already has a soul and a brain and will think for himself.

2: No sense of identity: Children's things are trivial

Son: "Dad, tomorrow's parent-teacher conference, you can go and attend!" “

Dad: "I'm very busy and have nothing to do tomorrow, let your mother go for this little thing!" “

Dad: "I asked Uncle Zhang today to teach you homework, you can go to Uncle Zhang's house with me today!" ”

Son: "My classmate has a birthday today, and I said I want to celebrate with him. “

Dad: "No, you want me and my Uncle Zhang's house today." “

In daily life, parents always take themselves as the center, the adult's affairs are the big deal, the children's things are not worth mentioning, our big things don't need to be said to the children at all, it's useless to say, don't you know that in the children's hearts, their things are also big things, we can't treat them equally, so that the children are more and more silent.

3: Communicate with your child with blunt topics

Every time we muster up the courage to communicate with our children, we will inadvertently say the truth, so as to put on a frame that I am a person who has come over and I am an adult for your good, and pass on their thoughts to the children, regardless of whether the children agree or not, they still do their own thing, until they accept Xiaochenyou, so blunt words often make the children disgusted.

It's that you don't argue that Liang has set an example, parents are the mirror of the child, you only ask the child to do what to do, but you ignore that you haven't done it, you can't do it, and the child will definitely not want to listen to you.

Because there are many parents who don't go to the nucleus to explore what their children think. Always follow the usual style and habits of Qiaotan to ask the child, rather than discussing with the child, and will not care about the child's thoughts. These problems are all obstacles for parents to not educate their children well.

Parents themselves have limited patience and learning ability, and there is no such teaching thinking, so many parents can not fully teach their children, teaching people need to understand the psychology of children's preparation of Hutan, but also know how to tap children's abilities, and then develop teaching plans.

What are the adults doing, what are he doing, his hometown nails the screen door, he wants to go up to get the nails, dance the hammer, the adults comforted him and asked him to help pull the yarn, he shook it directly, and then simply "snapped" and climbed onto the screen door! It's normal to be playful and say something inconsequential, and even if you sometimes make some small mistakes, parents don't have to make too much of a fuss. The generation is progressing, and many parents' concepts are still in the same state as before.

I didn't keep up with the times to get in touch with my children, and I didn't use my heart to understand my children.

<> ask you a question, when you were a child, did you think adults understood you? Why don't I understand you? I'm sure you already have the answer!

policy, silently holding the book and reading it on the side, and even "pretending" to look at the writing, every day. At first, he may not follow it, but slowly it is a habit!

Master tape, over time, and the distance between the child is also far away, often do not know the condition of their children, the distance is will make people estranged, you can take the initiative to communicate with adults more, explain their ideas. Especially, when children grow up to a certain age, their knowledge and culture may surpass that of adults. Consider the problem from an angle and standpoint.

Due to the limited experience and knowledge of children, they can only think from their own standpoint. So it makes a certain difference. Adults always complain that children don't understand, but children really can't understand adults' thoughts.

For everyone's perspective, role, different, look at the same thing and feel different, you complain that adults don't understand children, why don't you ask yourself, do you understand adults, living in the family is a harbor of love for children, when the family can not make children feel warm, children will alienate their parents.

One day they will grow up and have their own ideas and ways of doing things, and adults will have to re-understand the children they once thought they would not grow up. What style of clothes, what zodiac signs, you may not know yet, parents are for life, why is it when they are free, when they are classmates in your class, talk to them.

Parents feel that they are doing everything right, because they are adults, and they look at things more in the long term.

Yes, if there is a problem, no matter what the reason, it is not right to blindly blame the child, first think about what the reason, why the child has become like this, and then make a decision.

Because this is a kind of human instinct, when encountering something, the first reaction will be to shirk its responsibility and never contact itself.

Because parents don't think they have a problem, they don't want to embarrass themselves, and they think that their child's mistakes are caused by their children.