In other words, pick up is not a special test of psychological quality

I don't know if you've ever had this experience, walking alone on a vast street, in an empty campus, and then trying to strike up a conversation. In fact, this feeling is very special, a little tired, so boring, so a little nervous, but also a little anticipation, so a little throbbing, so a little surprise.

I rarely have time to take out an afternoon or an evening to pick up a special conversation, basically my pick-up is to use fragmented time, squeeze out, and then go to walk on the road, to feel more about the city in which you live, the biggest advantage of a person to talk is that it will make you enter a state of boredom, because of boredom, so you can't help but observe every scenery around you, every person who passes, you walk with a very slow pace, look at the surrounding flowers and plants, the surrounding riverbank, the surrounding crowd, Feel that feeling of the wind blowing on your face.

I still enjoy that feeling, sometimes I can't meet a target I want to take after walking for a long time, and when I'm tired, I will choose a store to sit in and have a drink, I like to sit by the window, there are some coffee shops, convenience stores have a separate place by the window, you are facing the floor-to-ceiling window, you can drink a drink while looking outside.

I took a girl at noon today, when I was alone at McDonald's, ready to go to the book store after eating, but I just sat down after ordering, and found a girl opposite who was playing with her mobile phone with her head down, she gave me a very comfortable feeling, how to say, I felt that looking at her heart would calm down. As soon as I was about to eat, she suddenly left, and I reacted instinctively, took a bite of the burger, picked up the drink and followed. But I didn't go up and talk directly, I never used the 3-second rule to talk, I think that would just mess up the conversation, I like to follow a little bit, but it won't be too long.

I found a time when there were fewer people to cut into, "Hello, are you going to the book city?" ”

How do you know? She looked at me and smiled.

I just saw you at McDonald's and thought you should be a student in school, so I guessed it. I said it in a very cordial tone.

Then we talked all the way and went all the way, and we collected the number halfway.

It's just such a process, and there's not much to say. In fact, the most rare part of picking up is when you haven't started talking yet, and when you start picking up, it's not difficult to pick up.

However, I found a strange phenomenon, sometimes a person picks up, but can not meet the person you want to ride, often a person walks for a long time, and goes around the same place several times without finding a person you want to ride, and then the whole person will be very tired, very boring, and even a sense of loneliness. I don't know if you've had a similar experience.

But I have to say that talking to a person is indeed a good opportunity to feel the city and the world. I want you to give it a try, take a free afternoon or evening, and after dinner, take a walk, go out for a walk alone, see the city you are in, and maybe you will come across a wonderful story.

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Generally good at and more like to pick up people, in interpersonal communication are more comfortable, and belong to the category of self-love, for a person's like or interest more from the senses than from the heart, in the process of pick-up, one is to show their charm, the other is to hold an indifferent attitude. In this kind of interpersonal communication for a long time, what they have accumulated is not courage, but they feel that they have the ability to succeed. Although it is interesting to associate with such people and get into the state quickly, it is not easy to get attention from them for a long time.

Therefore, people who are not good at accosting and feel that accosting are difficult for themselves, it means that you pay more attention to emotions and emotions when dealing with feelings, and you do not belong to people who can relax and pick up people. So it's not like forcing yourself. If it's really someone who makes you feel excited, it's okay to muster up the courage to give it a try.

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Generally, the pick-up person is a person whose desire drive is higher than the overflow of emotional emotion, and the secretion of adrenal hormones is much higher than that of tears. In order to get close to people or break the embarrassing situation and find something to say, I personally think that there are generally three types of pick-ups, one is the habitual polyglot person, this kind of person is generally not very likable. The other is a responsible person, in order to resolve the embarrassing situation for everyone, although the starting point is good, but if no one cooperates, it is embarrassing enough