Whose fault is it that the phenomenon of early love in modern children is serious?

The fault of society, the Internet allows children to be exposed too early, and there are many unhealthy web pages on the Internet...

I am a 14-year-old boy, my ideal is to go to Harvard, to be a top entrepreneur, I think, early love this kind of thing, should let children know what is right and wrong as early as possible, since I was a child, my parents taught me "body hair, parents, dare not have the slightest damage" even if there is an injury, that is also unfilial piety to parents, plus our family is advocating traditional education, pay attention to elegance, wisdom, without losing style plus my dream and love for Harvard, let me read a lot of ancient and modern Chinese and foreign successful people's experience and inspirational doctrine, I think that early love is due to not establishing a correct outlook on life, plus not having ideals. Parents should let their children set their own ideals, and from the perspective of the world, they must not be selfish, for example, I want to be an entrepreneur because of the children in the mountains and the famine in Africa, I think early love is a ridiculous behavior.

It's not anyone's fault, no one can control if you like someone. Besides, it is also appropriate to have a good impression of the opposite sex as you get older, as long as it is not too out of line.

The information is highly transparent, and the child is exposed to it; If the material conditions are good, the child is smart, and the things he understands will be early; Good material conditions and early sexual maturity lead to early flowering and early fruiting in children;

In fact, it is not anyone's fault, it is human nature.

If the son does not teach, the father is wrong, and if he does not teach strictly, the teacher is lazy.

The network is too complicated, especially the ** logs of the Internet QQ, most of them are about love, children, there will always be longing for these, and there are some romances**, giving children a fantasy of love, no one is right or wrong.

No one has ever been, society is like this, survival of the fittest.

If one person makes a mistake, all living beings have made it, you say!

It's just that the society is too open now, and you can meet kissing people on the street, do you think children can not fall in love?

Everyone makes mistakes! Right?

That's what you know, I know, you know, I don't.

Is it wrong for children to grow up and have people they like?

Parents can often be very distressed when they find out that their children are in a state of early love. Many parents, after learning that their children are in early love, are either blindly angry or do nothing; Either reason with the children, criticize them harshly, or forcibly cut off the two children. contact, and even fights with children.

Not only does this not solve the problem, but it can lead to a strong resistance from the child, which eventually adds fuel to the fire and makes things spiral out of control.

What are the manifestations of early love in children:

Sudden drop in performance.

While some children will grow up in early love and their grades will improve, this is only a minority. After most children fall in love, there will be a transition period during which there will be a significant drop in grades. Some are only temporary, while others plummet, never to come back for a while.

Babies who are in a state of early love, especially when they are first together, like to be distracted while studying and listening to lectures. Girls, in particular, are disproportionately affected. In class, he no longer follows the teacher, but likes to stare at the boy he likes, and he is restless.

Doing homework is also absent-minded, often in a daze or like to look at the phone, always unable to calm down.

Your child's mood swings.

Adolescent children are immature, have weak self-control, and are not strong in controlling their emotions. If you look closely, children who are in a state of early love tend to have a lot of mood swings. When the two of them are good, he will be very happy every day, and the communication with his parents will become very smooth; When two people have a conflict, the child will be depressed, unable to study, unable to read, and inexplicably anxious; If the child's mood fluctuates greatly and changes greatly during this period, parents should pay attention to it, and it can basically be judged that it is affected by love.

Pay special attention to the appearance.

Adolescent children, once they enter the state of early love, are especially proud! Originally, adolescent children are very sensitive to appearance, especially after they start to like someone, you will find that he starts to like to dress up! I looked in the mirror 800 times a day, washed my hair and bathed frequently, paid close attention to my ** condition, and began to pay attention to my clothes.

Children in this period are sensitive and rebellious. If parents strongly disagree, it can easily backfire. Once the child goes underground, parents can really only be helpless and anxious.

Therefore, parents, in the face of their children's early love, they must outwit and do not forcibly demolish them!

Another characteristic of adolescent children is that they want to please each other and secretly buy couple clothes. If you find that the child is wearing a couple's clothes, most likely it is in love. And sometimes I will secretly go out on a date or secretly call **, and I won't agree for a long time.

Children are immersed in the sweetness of love, and their minds and energy are distracted.

You may go home late every day, and you will secretly fight with others or your academic performance will decline.

Children will be in early love with their parents, will pay great attention to their own image, will ask their parents for some pocket money, and often go out without home.

"Early love" is not the child's fault, the child has an incorrect view of love is the problem of parents. Today's students don't say that junior high school students will have this situation, it is reported that many primary school students call each other boyfriend and girlfriend, such a thing children will not tell their parents, why? Because parents are "prejudiced" against them.

In fact, junior high school students' emotional cognition is much more mature than adults think. Therefore, you must tell your son at this stage how to be responsible for a girl and how to protect a girl. Tell her daughter that she must learn to protect herself and understand the taboo of early love.

Don't make a fuss. It's not so much that I'm worried about my child's early love, it's better to suspect that I don't guide my child enough!

Searching for puppy love on the Internet, the overwhelming information is like this. The internet always puts the worst in front of us, but it cannot be denied that puppy love is not terrible as long as it is guided correctly. Almost everyone has a mobile phone, chatting and watching on the Internet at any time, and after a long time, they may yearn for the so-called love.

In life, most parents take coercive measures to stop their children's early love as soon as they encounter the problem. In this process, parents invisibly stand on the opposite side of their children. In China's family education, many times parents stand on the opposite side of their children, giving high-profile orders and making demands, and exerting external pressure to let their children grow up; They ignore the child's own feelings, and ignore the inner motivation of love and understanding for the child.

Junior high school is one"Girlish feelings are always poetic"stage, it is a very normal thing to have a tendency to fall in love, parents should not be overly flustered, like looking at the prisoner and the child is opposed, the more antagonistic, the more rebellious, correctly guide as a parent to encounter the problems of their children, is it time to consider how you want to be treated if you are a child......It is hoped that every parent can pay attention to the physical and psychological changes of their children at this stage, and detect them early, enlighten them early, and solve them as soon as possible. Be a real guide for children!

It may be because the child lacks love, the child longs to be loved, or it may be because he is still particularly curious about the relationship between the sexes, and it may also be because the child is particularly easy to like people. It may also be because the relationship between parents and children is not good, the child has a rebellious mentality, and the child has reached puberty, so he is particularly curious about love.

The child has reached puberty, has ignorant adolescent thoughts, and has a boy he likes, these reasons will lead to early love in the child.

It is very likely that the child does not understand this knowledge, or it may be because the child is in adolescence, so his mind is relatively ignorant, or it may be because the teacher and parents have not strengthened the guidance, or it may be because the parents have not strengthened communication.

Because the child has reached adolescence, he has some cognition of feelings. Nowadays, the Internet technology is very developed, and many children will imitate some behaviors on the Internet when the three views are not yet perfect. Coupled with the fact that the child does not show a lot of interest in learning, he begins to focus on early love.

Because the child lacks father's love, because the child is very rebellious, because the child wants to be the same as others, because the child wants to experience the feeling of being in love, because the child is precocious.

The reason for the child's early love may be that he is particularly lonely, and his parents can't often accompany him, and then he chooses early love, or it may be just for the sake of face, other classmates are in love, and he doesn't talk about face, so this behavior of early love occurs.

As soon as the child enters puberty, he will have a good impression of the opposite sex, and the unhappy family of origin will cause the child to be insecure and want to find someone to warm himself, so he will fall in love.