The older you get, the more distant your relatives become?

It's almost like this, because when you get older, you will have your own family, and the focus will be on your own family, and you will take less care of other relatives.

No, because most of them have started a family and started a family when they get older, so they have become a little more distant from the previous family circle, but it is not deliberately estranged, but everyone has their own circle, and there is no more time to gather together.

It's not that they're estranged, but they're getting older, they're having more things to do, they're having more people to take care of, and they're all having their own families, and they're not as close as they used to be.

The older the siblings are, the more estranged the relationship becomes, it seems to be indifferent, but in fact there is another mystery, brothers and sisters are still not estranged for no reason, although the reason behind it is very realistic, but it needs to be faced. 1. Since the day of siblings, the relationship between siblings is very different from that before they got married. Before siblings got married, they grew up in the same family, accompanied and played with each other, and there was almost no distinction between you and me.

As siblings start a family, they will be busy with their own family affairs and take care of their own families, not only with less movement, but also less contact, and siblings will readjust to their new roles. In the long run, siblings will gradually drift apart, and since siblings have limited time and energy, they will also take care of one or the other, even if they want to return to the way they interacted before they got married, they will be separated, and siblings will keep pace with the times while thinking about the long term. Second, after the parents leave, there will be a watershed in the relationship between siblings.

As long as even one of the parents is still alive, the brothers and sisters can find the feeling of family. In addition, with the organization of parents, it can also create the conditions for dinner parties, and even if siblings are far away, they will travel as much as possible and participate in the dinner party as much as possible. But with the departure of parents, the opportunity for siblings to have dinner is becoming more and more rare, in addition to red and white ceremonies, it can almost be said that if you can not have a meal, you will not have a meal, brothers and sisters have changed from family to relatives, and the estrangement seems to be unexpected, but in fact, it is reasonable, and the rest of your life is not in the way of family, but in the way of relatives.

3. The older the brothers and sisters, the more complicated the interests they represent. Brothers and sisters are from the initial individual, the personal interests are clear and clear, and when they develop into a family, often the older they are, the more family members will be behind them, and the more complex the interests will naturally become. If siblings are in frequent contact, even if the siblings are safe, the family members behind the siblings may have disputes.

If it is really too much trouble, it is still difficult for siblings to be alone, so it is expedient to avoid the intertwined relationship as they get older, and the more distant the relationship is, to avoid the intertwined relationship. The brothers and sisters are becoming more and more estranged, not because they give up their small family for everyone, but because they take care of the overall situation.

1. Parents are cohesive in their feelings, and when they are with their parents, their brothers and sisters have to come back to visit their parents, so they will always get together, and there will be exchanges when they meet.

If the parents leave, the connection can be alienated as a result. When the parents are there, the home is there, and when the parents are not there, the home will be scattered, which is very realistic.

2. It is not excluded that some families hide some Qingshen contradictions, and when the parents are alive, they can still help mediate, but one day when the parents pass away, conflicts will break out, such as when it comes to the distribution of family property, and the children are prone to disagreements.

And some parents were eccentric when they were young, although there was no surplus on the surface, but the unfavored children would always have pimples in their hearts, and when their parents died, the relationship between relatives was also cold, and some even died of old age.

3. The parents are no longer alive, the children are also married, and some have grandchildren, because they have to take care of their own small families, many of them will live with their children, so it is not easy for everyone to get together.

4. Due to geographical reasons, brothers and sisters are distributed in different places, although the traffic has become convenient now, but the age has also become older, many people have inconvenient legs and feet, it is not easy to go out of a long way, it is often a happy event in the family, everyone can get together to see it.

When the holidays came, we started to exchange greetings with family and friends again, but some of the words we talked about with our past friends felt very distant. With the passage of time, the past friendship fades, and even the former feelings turn into hatred. How did your psyche change unconsciously?

1) Time and experience lead to the fact that things are not people's keys.

The good memories of the past experience are created by both friends, you and I at that time, you and I at that time, and the mind is also the mind at that time, in the torrent of time, there will always be things that are not experienced by both parties.

These experiences bring different kinds of growth, just like a big tree gives birth to branches and shoots in different directions. After that, you are estranged because the accumulation of different experiences over time has led to different or even contradictory views on the same issue.

2) Reality – the economic base determines the superstructure.

The expenses at school may not be frequent except for books or entertainment, and the family will pay for it at that time, and I don't feel much difference. As I get older, my needs increase, and I have requirements for the quality of consumption, and in the process of trying to achieve economic independence, I have to accommodate the growing differences in consumption views between my friends and friends. Therefore, talking about money hurts feelings, and talking about feelings hurts money

3) The cost of talking through the ditch becomes high.

Friends who talked about everything in college, separated after graduation, two cities. A doesn't often post on Moments, and once B asked A, why don't you post on Moments. A said: Everyone around me knows my current situation, so there is no need to post on Moments.

Physical closeness can bring psychological closeness. When friends live in different circumstances, it takes a lot of time and energy to communicate with each other, and when one party is unwilling to do so, or feels that it is not worth it, it means estrangement.

4 Life is destined to be a constant of separation and encounter.

As we step into a sparsely populated forest, we are destined to be alienated from our former friends. But there will be a next friend of yours who will walk in the same pace as you on the other side of the world when you step into the forest. The new friend who is destined to meet you will come to you.

Conclusion: Psychologically, we are all lonely. Estrangement will inevitably bring harm, and we are all destined to meet one person after another, leaving them step by step.

What doesn't change, only our hearts. When a friend is far away, I hope you don't resent it, don't be disappointed, and thank him for accompanying you on a journey.