What are the practical problems of a family with two sons, in addition to the high cost?

After the development of the two-child policy, families have joined the camp of the second child one after another, most of the families already have a son or daughter, and then want another one, but it is very well-behaved, often families with this kind of thinking end up with different ideas.

The family of two sons is recognized as the most difficult family, and the people around them are more angry than the families of the parties, among which the most heard are the two children, who can ask for a lot of money to get married in the future.

Indeed, in a family of two sons, most parents will worry about their children's marriage and schooling in the future, one son has a suite, and two sons are two suites.

Will the family of the two sons really be so miserable in the future In the eyes of outsiders, the cost of family living of the two sons will be greatly increased, but in fact, the cost of the two sons and the cost of the two daughters are about the same.

Both boys and girls are subject to nine years of compulsory education, and parents enroll their children in various cram schools to allow their children to learn.

On the contrary, parents of families with daughters will pay attention to their daughter's interest cultivation and talent training, and will sign up for dance classes, host classes, painting classes, etc., which is actually a lot of money.

In addition, now the adopted daughter is pursuing "wealth", the daughter will buy whatever the parents want, and will prepare a lot of "dowry" for the daughter, although you don't have to buy a house when you get married, but you also have to prepare a car.

On the other hand, raising 2 sons, they spent a lot less when they were young than raising daughters, the main expenses are actually on toys, because boys are born with a love for toys, and two boys, Dabao can also play with Erbao after playing, so, the family of 2 sons, high costs are not the biggest trouble, in contrast, these 2 practical problems are.

High fees are not the biggest annoyance, these two realities are1) Words of others

You know, when most parents know that they have two sons, their first reaction is not trouble, but happiness and happiness.

However, when the people around you slowly know that your second son is still a son, they will start to worry about you and say something about the life of the second son in the future.

Slowly PygmearyWeng effect: Say you can do it, you can do it, say you can't do it, you can't do it。It will be reflected.

Originally, there was not so much pressure and trouble, but through the words of others, the hearts of the parents were shaken, and the idea of the two boys was not good.

2) Growing pains

Boys are more naughty than girls, especially when the two sons in the family reach the age of 14, the child enters a rebellious period, the parents can't listen to what they say, and their own ideas are particularly heavy, so it is easy to go astray, and even be led by other bad children.

This is the time when parents are most troubled, and there may even be mood breakdowns, but as long as they can survive until the time when their children go to college, they will slowly become relaxed.

It is the problem of two children starting a family in the future, because it is difficult to find a partner for a family of two sons in today's society, and parents also need to have a certain amount of financial resources to help two sons start a family.

If you have one child, everything is his, but if you have two children, you have to think about whether you will be biased. And it is a big problem for the two sons to marry a daughter-in-law in the future, and the house has to be prepared for them, so it is really tiring to think about it.

Personally, I think the real problem is that it takes a lot of money for two sons to marry a daughter-in-law, because there are some parents who can't provide much help to their sons, so their children are not able to afford to marry a wife.

In addition to the high cost of the family of two sons, I think there is also the degree of psychological demand for love by the child, there will be a comparison psychology, such as the common boss and the second child compete for favor, after having a second child, the boss always feels that the parents do not love him, and then he will hate your younger brother or sister, resulting in a discordant relationship between the two. And one of the children has it, and the other child must want it too. Eating and buying things also have to fight back and forth, which is a headache for parents.

I think this is a very real problem that we need to face and solve head-on.

In the process of raising children, it will cost a lot. It is a great financial burden for families. Families with two sons will also be pointed at by outsiders.

I often have to deal with a lot of mental stress. The education of the two sons is also very important. Because the son is more naughty, it is more difficult to educate.

First, as long as the parents are slightly biased, the son who suffers a little will feel very uncomfortable. Second, there will be comparisons between sisters-in-law and sisters-in-law, invisibly comparing who is more powerful between the two sons, and the husband and wife are more likely to quarrel.

Families with two sons are prone to face whether the bride price for marrying a daughter-in-law will be enough, whether the mother-in-law will be biased when they get married, whether the daughter-in-law will be together, and whether the family will be harmonious.

First, the issue of the support of the elderly. If one person is unwilling to support or gives little money, the other is likely to follow with not supporting and giving little money, or complaining.

Second: the elderly's contribution or financial support to the two families. It is difficult to level a bowl of water, and it is easy to have contradictions.

Families with two sons are the most vulnerable to economic crisis, going to school together and marrying together. All need a lot of expenses, and when the parents are old, they are still facing the problem of competing for property and not supporting the elderly.

Families with two sons are most likely to face the problem of education, the education of boys is different from that of girls, especially when there are two boys in the family who are more competitive, and they need to teach the children the allusion of "Kong Rong makes pears".

Personally, I think it is easy to have the problem of unevenness, especially for some children who are more similar in personality and certain aspects, and they are more likely to be more affected by their parents, causing another child to feel excluded and unloved.