I m a teacher, my boyfriend doesn t have a regular job, and he s not very motivated, so I m distress

One. You are stable, he is unstable, and this model is the safest model that everyone used to think.

Two. It doesn't matter if you don't have a regular job, as long as he's working hard.

Three. Not being motivated is mainly reflected in not learning or not having high goals, or not as high as you require.

Personally, I think that it doesn't matter if you don't have a regular job, and you can't simply say that if you think you have to live in a villa and drive a BMW, your requirements will crush him, the most important thing is to look at two aspects, one is whether you love to learn, only men who continue to learn can be motivated. The second is to see if he is diligent enough, if he is not diligent, no matter how high the goal, no matter how motivated, no matter how ambitious the ambition is equal to o

Judging from the above two items, if he loves to learn and is diligent, he is a potential stock, you can continue to hold it, if not, it is a junk stock, how to deal with it yourself.

The boyfriend is not motivated, maybe he has his own ideas. Without a job, maybe he is more distressed than you. Don't worry about the silence, find a time to talk to your boyfriend and understand what you have planned.

If you want to start a business, let's think of a way to make him not depressed, encourage him a lot, and enable him to set sail for endeavor as soon as possible to create a better future. If he doesn't have a job and doesn't want to do anything, he's just messing around. So do you think you can have such a man?

If you find that he has the potential to cultivate, you should enlighten him, guide him, and let him return to the right path, if he is the kind of person who is lazy and lazy, and unmotivated, and has a willful mind, then quickly withdraw from it, such a man is not worthy of your love!

A man has to be motivated, and if he is not motivated, you and he will not be very happy.

A home is one in which both sides support each other.

Unmotivated men, don't do it!

Well, I think it's better to give up, you're not suitable. If you meet the right person, you won't be so tired, and in the same way, if he meets someone he cares about more, he won't be so unmotivated, so you are not suitable.

There is nothing to worry about, if it is not suitable, it will be separated as soon as possible, and it will be difficult for two people to live in the future after the gap between them in their careers is too big, not only economically, but also for men, there will be a strong sense of oppression in their hearts! This will lead to all kinds of wars, and there will be no happiness!

Let him go out and get out into contact with society! To be stupid is to be stupid and stupid! So go out and look for a job! Adults have to take on the responsibility of providing for their families!

It's better to find someone who is more self-motivated, or your life is too tiring.

Judging by your description, the two of you are not a good fit. Find a partner, fall in love, not to mention find someone with a wealthy family, but at least you need to find someone who can talk to, help each other in big things, and move forward together. A man like him, do you think that's the kind of person?

A 26-year-old man, not to say a mature man, but at least he has to act like a man. But I don't think he fits the bill. It's okay to play games, it's the same thing for men to play games and women to buy clothes, everyone is casual and relaxed, but in different ways.

There is no one right or wrong. But you can't spend a lot of time playing the game, you can't lose your mind. If it is really according to your description, this man, 26 years old, only graduated from high school, went abroad and was wasted, and actually said that you should study hard and support him later, and sometimes you have to ask for money for dinner, and you also need your parents to give money every month, do you calmly consider that he is the type of boyfriend you are looking for?

A 21-year-old woman, not to say very mature, but at least in this kind of thing to see very clearly. Besides, you will go abroad to take the postgraduate examination in the future, think about it carefully, and see it more clearly.

What else can such a man say. After that, you are trapped by love, think about it, think about it. I thought when the night was quiet. Happy to you.

Cut through the mess quickly Everything else is an excuse.

I read what you said, I think you are too worthless to waste your youth for such a man, I also have such a boyfriend, he at least has a job, but he makes excuses for his lack of motivation every day makes me very helpless, we broke up, my mother said that marriage and love are not the same thing, he is so aimless mixed when he is not married, and there will be more things to make the conflict between you deeper and deeper when you get married and have children in the future, so if he is hopeless, let it go, And what I hate the most is the ex-girlfriend's quarrel, if he really loves you, don't let his ex-girlfriend's matter hurt you.

This is just my personal opinion and hope it helps you.

If you don't give up, wait for him to grow up.

There are all kinds of signs that he is really a man who does not seek to be motivated, or his thinking is too naïve, he thinks that life is simply equal to playing. Now that he has the support of his parents, if he doesn't seize the time to learn something and do something, it is unimaginable what the future will be. You are a person with pursuits, ideas and requirements, you are really not suitable, the ideological realm is too far apart, and it will be difficult to talk about big family issues in the future.

Divide it. What if you give it to him for the first time, take it as a lesson from this relationship, haven't you also grown up in this matter? It's a little reluctant to separate just now, but it's good after a long time, and he doesn't have so much to be nostalgic for.

Men are not afraid of poverty, they are afraid of having no ambition and not being motivated.

A man without principles is not worthy of being called a man.

For your own good, let's break up. You can find a boyfriend again, but there is only one parent.

You can fall in love by your own liking, but you must be cautious when you get married, especially the opinions of your parents, they know more than we do, and they have to see it thoroughly. Also, your boyfriend is already so unbearable, don't think about making him change or get better, you must know that his mother has raised him for so many years and has not reversed it, you can imagine you.

The identity of the person who came to tell you that it is a road, break up, the reason is very simple, to find a 'man' to live, to find a normal man to live, you may not be able to experience it now, if you follow him, you will definitely regret it one day, what is happy? Long-term family life, really good is good, in the future you will know better,,, persuade you, listen to your mother's words, mothers are all from the past, and I read what you said, I think what your mother said is correct, women can't find a suitable man, they have to endure hardships for a lifetime... Take your time and experience it!

Pro: Further education. You have a better future, you two are not suitable.

Listen to your parents, although the concept of the older generation cannot keep up with the modern age, but the ability to see people is definitely stronger than that of the younger one, and you are happy. You will be a graduate student at that time, and he will only be at the level of a high school student, and you will be able to communicate now, but you will slowly find out the problem later. A man who is not motivated should give up, he will start to give up the pursuit now, and when he waits for the future, he will rely on you for everything, while you are young and beautiful now, you have a high education, and there are still many opportunities.

Pick other men slowly, you don't want him to be temporary, and it will always pass later. He's just going to be against you right now, what else do you expect from him!

There's nothing to say about breaking up! There is really no way to say it, then you propose to go to work in the field, shorten the distance, and slowly fade the love, or he is sober!

A man. At the very least, be self-motivated.

I think people move to life, and trees move to death.

There is also a long pain is better than a short pain, since I don't want to marry someone, and I am enjoying other people's kisses and hugs, it doesn't make sense with any reason.

Think of something sensibly and you'll figure it out.

Break up, life is a trivial matter, if it becomes a worry and burden when you are in love, it will become a hidden danger of relationship breakdown in the future! Willing to give and give to have to give! Let go of the reluctance in your arms, and only then can you have a spare arm to embrace the future!

Hope you will be happy! ~

You should break up with him, you will be a little reluctant at first, but after half a month and a month, and then look back at him, you will feel that he is really a frustration, you should not know him, and when you think of him, there will be a very dark feeling, I don't believe you try, I am from the past, I know this very well. A girl like you can find a good one, why should you go with a frustrated man? Believe it or not, when you find an excellent one, there will be a lot of good things, you will be full of longing for the future, no matter where you go, there will be a good atmosphere, you will feel that life is so beautiful, but the past is in the wrong direction.

Not much to say, I hope you think about it, you still have a long way to go, don't be confused at this time, and pass by the beauty and happiness of your life.

This kind of man, who has no good life with him, divide it!

Divide it. The reality is too far away. Men are afraid of entering the wrong industry, women are afraid of marrying the wrong man, he has no good industry, even if the family is rich, he has to listen to his parents for everything when he gets married.

Men don't have the right to make their own decisions, and they can't support a family. How to marry? Don't waste your youth!

Here today, gone tomorrow.

o( o Alas, life is like this; But I'm sure you'll succeed; Bless you.

I think you should break up with him decisively!

I'll see if you're not motivated, so I'll just give you points.

Now you see that he is so bad, he hasn't gone abroad yet, and if he doesn't have much contact after a year or two outside, he will fade, and if he is really not motivated, then he feels that he can really be separated, and he will reduce contact while he is abroad. The first time you gave it, you gave it, and you jumped into the pit and you plan to be in the pit for the rest of your life?

Everyone has different pursuits. For those of us who are onlookers, this is not unmotivated, but unambitious. Anyway, your boyfriend has a decent job, be content.

If his salary can support a family, then let him go. The pursuit of difference, there is no right or wrong.

You said that he is very used to you, but as a man, there is always one that he insists on.

Now what you have to do is either accept reality or leave "reality".

Forget it, I'm looking for a new one.

Which of these 3 do you think is better? Look at your own heart, like it, choose one!

I'll tell you from my point of view:

You should choose the second one, if you choose the first one, others will talk about you and your teacher having a bad scandal, and it will have an impact on your teacher's future.

If you pick the third one. So, have you ever wondered if the two of you are really together in the future, who will work to support the family? Don't look at him, his family conditions are very good now, what if he waits until later?

What if you get married, and he spends a lot of money? Don't look at the infinite scenery in front of you, look far ahead!

Let's say you pick the third one. You also have to put him to the test. For example, ask him what his plans are after graduation, and so .........on

This is my own perspective on your issue.

I said that you are very attentive, eating in your mouth and looking at the pot, there are many men in the country, do you want to pull all of them over to be your boyfriend? I have a boyfriend and have an affair with another man, I don't know if all girls are like this in today's society. In short, it's not right for you to do this, either break up with the current one and find another one, or treat the current one wholeheartedly, what a flowery woman.

A teacher, on the premise of getting married, it is recommended to find someone who can live.

Choose the last one you like in your heart, because if you like the one in front, you won't like the one in the back!!

The third person you should decisively give up, such a man is the least responsible.

Why do you say that every boy is a family condition?

Find someone you love and make sure you love him!

Look what you think inside! If you like his personality more than the pursuit of self-motivation, you don't have to worry too much! However, if he can't give you an upward and pursuing life, perhaps, finding someone else is a better choice!

If you love him, you try to change him, and behind every successful man there is a great woman.

No one is perfect, and most boys are like that.

It's all about being good to you.

When there is no continuation, it will be disturbed.

I know that I am not motivated, young people should not like Tu Yi so early, and they must be independent to be looked down upon.