I don t know what I want and what I don t need, what should I do?

When a person doesn't know what he wants and doesn't need, the main reason at this time is because you lack a plan for your future life, although the plan can't keep up with the changes, but if you don't have a plan, then you will become very confused. So what we have to do is to set a goal for ourselves, step by step towards the goal, we naturally know what we need and what we don't need. If you just blindly move forward, you may not be able to walk as you walk.

If you are a girl, you can plan that you may also get married before the age of twenty-seven or eighteen. Once you have set this goal, you can think about getting married, and you have to find a boyfriend first. If you're still single, you might want to go out and socialize so that you can find a partner.

Instead of being at home all day doing nothing. Besides, if you have already found a partner and may be getting married in a few years, what are the things you want to do but not complete in the remaining years of your single life? You can do it alone or with your partner, for example, if you want to travel somewhere.

Because when you get married and have children, it may be a luxury to go out, so these can be done when you are single.

If you're a guy and you're sure you're there, and you're going to get married before the age of 30, then you have to have a certain financial foundation before you get married, right? That's when you work hard. In this way, haven't you found your spiritual support?

Because now you must start saving money, so that your wife and children can live a good life in the future. Instead of drinking Hu Tianhai all day now, I don't know how to plan for the future. You also have to think about it, when you have children, the cost of the family is very large.

So you must work hard now. When a person has a plan and vision for his future, then he can clearly know what he needs and what he doesn't need now, rather than blindly confused.

If you're just a kid right now, you're probably in high school or junior high school. At this time, the main task may be to study, and you have to set a goal for yourself, such as what kind of university I want to go to in the future. Then you have to move towards that goal.

See what deficiencies you still have and need to improve yourself, such as whether there are any needs to be corrected in your learning attitude? When you figure out these things, you will naturally know what you need to do at this stage.

This is the so-called confusion, not being able to clarify the direction of one's struggle. Since you don't know what you want and don't need, just try it, at least it's still on the way, and the last thing you should do is to think about what I like and don't need.

As a college student who has graduated, I feel that there are indeed many people around me who don't know what they like and don't like, such as whether they want to go to graduate school or work, whether they will work in their major or find another way in the future, what type of object they are looking for, and what interests and hobbies they have...

Because we have been taught to study hard since childhood, it is good to go up every day, you don't have to think too much about things related to the future, and of course you won't think about other things that have nothing to do with learning, more sensible parents will carefully observe their children's interests outside of learning, and spend a lot of money to cultivate their interests. For example, most of the people who go to ** colleges, sports colleges, drama colleges, and art academies have their own interests, and have already thought about which direction to go in the future before college, and some people like to dance since they were young, and they want to go in the direction of dancing in the future, and they are naturally more clear about their direction than people who don't have any hobbies.

However, many people only start to think about what they like when they go to college, and many people choose a major only because that major matches their scores, and they don't know what they will do in the future. In this case, it's more important to do it, rather than thinking about what I like, which I can't figure out. Start with your major, make an effort to listen to the lectures, learn about some issues related to employment, and preferably do some practice related to them.

If you think you can, go in this direction, if you can't, see what your other interests are, if you don't have any other obvious interests, or follow your major.

It seems that everyone has such a period of time, living a very confused life, not knowing what they want to do; I don't even know what I don't want, so I live like that. If that's the case, then go and study, study as much as you want, and don't think about anything else, just study. <>

I also had that time, a time when I was very confused, and I couldn't see the road ahead. At the end of my freshman year, I had an understanding of my major, but I was also bored and didn't want to continue studying this major. Because my major is very specialized, I have to be in tune with my major when I go out to work.

But when I was tired of my major, I wanted to go out and work. So the future is very slim, I don't know what to do, and I am very sad, and I have no enthusiasm for life. After that, I lay in the dormitory all day long, woke up and ate, ate when I was full, played with my mobile phone, and continued to sleep when I was sleepy; The whole person lives like a Buddha and loses his soul.

After a while, I suddenly realized that I couldn't go on like this. Even if I still don't know what I want to do, there's only one thing: I can't lie down anymore.

So, pack yourself, tidy yourself up, and start a new life. If you don't know where to go, go to the library, go to the book, memorize words to learn; Go to the library and go to the gym. After another period of time, I found that the profession I was tired of was not so annoying, and it was quite interesting; I have read a lot of books, and I am also full of curiosity about the outside world, and I want to go to the outside world to take a look; The body is better, and the mental state is better.

The previous frustration was swept away. The confused future suddenly had a glimmer of light, and I found that I wanted to continue studying, and I didn't want to work so fast; Then I decided to take IELTS and go abroad. All of a sudden, there was hope for life.

I think that a person who lacks love in childhood, when he grows up, especially after starting a family, does not know how to love others, and at the same time desperately tries to ask for love, the basic rule is this. I don't know if you've ever met someone like that.

A friend cried to me that her husband didn't love her, and that she rode her bicycle to work on weekdays, a distance of more than ten miles, leaving early and returning late. There is a car at home, which is usually driven by the husband.

Once, it was raining heavily, and after work, she was expecting her husband to pick her up, and she also thought that her husband was fine at home, and he would definitely pick up her ...... after such a heavy rainAfter waiting for a long time, she didn't wait, she hit **, and her husband didn't pick up, she rode home in the rain, and when she opened the door, her husband and son (who also went to college) were eating at home .........She said that she couldn't understand why her husband and children never loved her when she gave all her love to this family......Speaking of this, she cried into tears, and I handed her a tissue, and I could see that she had infinite grievances and resentment, as well as infinite incomprehension and doubts. Because she is friends and knows a little about their family, she and her husband have similar childhoods, and their mother died when they were teenagers, and they lack delicate maternal love at the same time.

After they are attracted to each other and get married, they are desperately trying to find the missing maternal love in childhood, and at the same time they don't know how to love each other, don't think that all the dedication to the family is love. And we need to understand the real needs of our hearts, understand the real needs of the other party, not unprincipled giving, and expect each other's giving. When you can't meet your own ideas and needs, it will turn into grievances and resentment.

In fact, in this case, two people love each other very much, nothing more than don't know how to love, in this case, we must communicate more, express our inner needs to each other, to be straightforward, to express their inner feelings, slowly, after a long time, understand their inner needs, but also understand what the other party needs, so that the two hearts that once lacked love will slowly warm each other and have more strength for each other.