Should a child s emotions be stopped?

The most rare is to go with the flow of childhood, teenagers, without too much interference, so that they can experience life in a natural environment and feel a pleasant life, the emotions at this time are simple and sincere. The simple guidance of the elders is like a positive direction, as long as it does not go crooked, everything else is fine.

Let me tell you an example of emotional neglect, a little girl and her father were playing on the beach, and when they were having fun, his mother suddenly came out of town and said, "At some point, your father can't play with you for a day, come and read to you." Then the dad didn't react at all, just started to pack up.

The little girl walked from the sand pit to her mother in great disappointment and listened to her reading...

This kind of thing may seem normal to us, but what do you find missing here? No one responds to the little girl's emotions, mom and dad just play with the child, but no one cares about his emotions, the child is so disappointed, so suddenly this happy play ends, no one cares about the child's emotional changes, no one reacts to his emotional changes, this is a manifestation of emotional Hu Zen.

Hearing the above stories, do you remember the scene every time you let your child put down your mobile phone, and every time you urge your child to write homework quickly? If you accidentally ignore your child's emotions, what can you do next?

1) Valuing emotions does not mean that you can't refuse your child, it doesn't mean that you can't make demands on your child, but when you refuse his request to him, you have to show that you understand and value his feelings. According to the above cases, for example, mom can say: mom knows that you want to play very much, mom knows that you have a lot of fun, mom also feels very happy, but dad is about to start his work, and then let mom come and read with you, okay?

When parents can empathize with their children, they will be able to gain the ability to empathize with others. The child's mirror neuron can become very developed (mirror neuron is when you see others sad and you feel sad) so if the child is often ignored from childhood to adulthood, no one cares about feelings, people only care about grades, the child will not establish emotional connections with others, and cannot understand the feelings of parents.

2) Treat the child as an individual. Don't think of your children as an extension of yourself, as a tool for yourself, and as a person who realizes your dreams.

May you no longer ignore your child's emotions, be more empathetic and less decisive in the rules!