Why are the people around me so popular and I not?

Friend first put your mindset right This is the most basic requirement: I have the following suggestions that I hope will be useful to you: 1

There is no need to talk about the rights and wrongs of others, because those who say right and wrong must be the ones who are right and wrong. 2.It's okay to say good things about others appropriately without worrying about no one listening.

3.Don't brag, what do you do when a friend comes to you for something. 4.

If it's not very beautiful and doesn't have much temperament, then a smile is your best friend. 5.Respect everyone around you, including doormen and sweeping aunts.

6.Sometimes you don't have to talk too much, listen more and talk less. 7.

Be polite and courteous, which is one of the basic conditions for showing your good cultivation. 8.Empathize and think about every issue from someone else's point of view.

9.Do everything well, and have a learning mentality, which will make you do more with less. 10.

Don't use when"Me"to be the subject. 11.Don't complain, ask for advice, don't show off your personality too much, and don't be arrogant.

12.You can believe it, but you can't rely on 13Treat with heart and cherish everyone around you with your heart.

14.Don't worry too much, sometimes a loss is taking advantage. 15.

It is right to have principles in life, but principles are for you to use flexibly. Finally, I wish you a happy friend and your popularity is getting better and better!Satisfied.

Because they haven't discovered your cuteness yet? Be sure to have confidence in yourself that you are the best

3. Specific analysis of all specific problems:

They are generally not welcomed for the following reasons.

Appearance, whether it is too sloppy, personal cleanliness problems, go to meet guests or friends' houses need to clean up first, not necessarily beautiful, at least tidy.

Polite questions, greet people when you see them, and look at others when you speak; Be polite to the elders and care for the juniors. Keep smiling, as the old saying goes, reach out and don't hit the smiling person.

Eloquence, if you don't know how to speak yourself, then express less opinions, listen more and watch more, learn how others express themselves, expression problems are not good, you can read more books, increase the connotation.

If you have a preconception, misunderstanding or holiday with others, you should apologize if you do something wrong, and if the other party is not good, stay away.

And how about your own personality and reputation. Whether you are greedy for small gains, make small reports, or talk behind people's backs, etc., this type will affect the evaluation of you by others, and then expand to your entire social circle. In the above cases, if there is, it will be changed, and if there is none, it will be encouraged.

Finally, if you feel that you are doing the right thing and others do not want to see you, you should be alone, improve yourself, stay away from this group, and strive to achieve your own higher value.

Because you're not rich enough or smart enough.

Whether it's at the beginning or after a while.

Maybe you go to fewer places.

It's not why, it's just that your qualities are attractive. You can think about it, who welcomes you, what are the feelings you give to the people around you, is it happiness, is it wisdom, is it unique? In this way, you can better understand yourself and develop your own strengths through the evaluation of you by the people around you.

Cheerful and generous, sincere to others, able to get along with everyone.

You have popularity, a good thing.

"Murphy's Law"is a psychological effect that was proposed by Edward Murphy. The simplest form of expression is that the more afraid of accidents, the more likely they will be.

Are you really popular when you say you're popular here? Tell me how you can tell you're popular?

It's a good thing to be popular, what's so strange about that.

For example, if you don't like garlic, it doesn't mean that garlic doesn't taste good, or that garlic isn't good! The same goes for others, just because you don't like someone doesn't mean he's not a good person, or that he has a problem with his character! If you don't like it, it's because you don't fit in with your personality, but it doesn't mean that someone else's personality doesn't fit in with him!

Some people are like this, they are not popular, and when they see that the people they don't like are not popular, they feel unbalanced, thinking that this person is so fake, hypocritical or something, why is he so popular, and those people are blind or something.

Yes, some people just think like this, and they still feel justified, and they don't think about whether it's their own problem or someone else's problem. I thought that it must be someone else's problem, others are so bad, and the popularity is so good, the world is really unfair or something......

Dear, regardless of the others, first of all, you are mentally ill! If you can't see the good disease of others, you have to be cured!

Everyone's growth environment is different, so the personality must be naturally different, if you think that person doesn't like it, then you just don't associate with him! After all, the personalities don't get along, and you insist on getting together, disgusting others, and you yourself feel embarrassed. Isn't it?

Alas, I don't know what to say, think about it yourself! Don't just look at others as good, and then be jealous in your heart, jealous and don't admit it. You should reflect on how much more people have to pay to be welcomed by others! In this world, there is nothing that does not pay, there is a harvest!

The person you don't like is not necessarily not someone that others like, nor is it necessarily a heinous person with no merits, and it is not necessarily that others can't see his shining point. Don't you know that a person has many facets? What is presented to you on one side may not be very good, which is why you don't like it.

But not necessarily everyone is doing this to you in front of everyone.

He may not be the same to others, and he may also hate you. If you don't look at each other well, the scene will definitely not be too good, right? Maybe you don't like a person because you know too well.

For example, I have been in love with him and know the other side of him that is unknown. knows his scheming, knows his scheming, knows his bad stomach.

But others may not know it, and they all hate him like this. Maybe you hate him for being stingy, and some people think he's going to get by. Maybe you hate him talking too much, and some people think that what he says is the truth, all the truth, and it is worth learning to listen to.

Maybe you hate him staring at you every day, sticking to you, delaying time, and some people like him to be slimy, don't you?

Because your own preferences are not representative of popular preferences.

This friend is a friend of the opposite sex, but it's really that kind of pure friendship because I've known each other since I was a child, and I've been classmates for many years. He has been chasing a girl, but this girl will never refuse him, every time he hangs my friend, asking my friend to help her do this and help her do that, all kinds of ambiguous. At the time, I thought that maybe I hated this girl because I was too distressed that my friend was being played like this by others, but after I asked others, I realized that I was not the only one who hated her.

It turns out that her popularity in the girls' pile is very stinky, because she hangs a lot of boys at the same time, including boys who have objects, and she is also ambiguous with others, and she flirts with him from time to time. But such girls are very popular among boys. In fact, she looks average and has an average figure.

But the boys found her very interesting and attractive. That's why boys like her very much.

It's like turnips and cabbages, each with its own love. There are always people who you like who you hate, and people you hate who others like.

Some people can be affected by others.

After all, everyone is an ordinary person, not perfect, and there will definitely be some advantages and disadvantages. And the receptivity is different from person to person. For example, some people may value punctuality, and once they find that others are always late, they will feel that they have no sense of time, and they will not like him if they are always like this.

Of course, if this person is very good at talking, very cheerful and other aspects of personality are very attractive, maybe for other people, they don't value the concept of time in the first place, and they will not hate him, because they value his personality more. It is precisely because people are different from each other that some people you don't like are very popular with others.

To go a little further, it seems that every star has fans, but of course there will be passers-by who don't like them, or even hate them. It's also because everyone thinks differently, or maybe it's because you haven't gotten some positive energy from celebrities or you don't think those things attract you. But it does not prevent some other little fan brothers, little fan sisters love them.

In fact, as you grow up, you will find that many people are different, you will meet some strange people, and you will also meet some interesting people. But some people are destined to be only passers-by on your life's journey, so don't take it too seriously. Some people you don't like will also have people who don't like you as much.

After all, they are not RMB, and there will be no situation where everyone loves them.

You can find that you have a very interesting reality, that is, a girl may not be very popular in the girls' pile, but the popularity in the boys' pile is very good. I think this is a person in every place and every occasion to show a different attitude, only girls know that girls are really good, but their attitude towards boys and girls is not the same at all, but they will not do anything bad, in fact, it is nothing, she wants to play with whom, as long as there is nothing related to you, you don't care, you look at this you yourself also have a fire in your heart.

The same is true for boys, their attitude towards people and their style of doing things determine that they will be accepted by a certain group, in fact, there must be people who are not used to us but we don't know, we live in the group we like, and people who are not in our group will definitely think why I don't like him at all but he is liked by others, it's just like that. The social circle is a very complex circle, and human beings are not simple creatures, so it determines that our thoughts and wants to contact are different.

Since we can't control these meaningless things, let's choose to stay away from him, these things that we mortals really can't do.

The biggest difference between people is their personality. Not everyone in the world exists to cater to your tastes.

People you don't like, but are very popular. It turns out that you are envious and jealous of her. Even if you don't, it means that the other party must have a welcome sparkle, which is exactly what you don't have.

If a person hates someone, then there must be some personality traits in the other person that you can't stand. Maybe the person you don't like, she happens to be from a prestigious family, and she has a beautiful appearance, you will feel that all this is given to her by God, and because of these, everyone spoils her and respects her. Then, if you are unwilling to be mediocre in your heart, you will naturally not like it.

When you meet someone you don't like and who is very popular, don't resent others even more and be jealous of others. You should find problems from yourself and make yourself more and more perfect.

The first point: because this person is relatively tactful and good at communication, and you and his many thoughts and opinions are not consistent. For example, there is a colleague in our company that I particularly don't like about him, but his popularity seems to be quite popular on the surface.

Because he is very sleek, very experienced, more eyes, and delicate thoughts. I always communicate with different colleagues, so I look good with everyone on the surface.

But I don't like him, because I don't agree with him on many things, and I try to minimize communication with him, so as not to have a bad impact.

The second point: this person is more good at pretending and is good at disguise. I can feel it obviously, because sometimes I can hear him say bad things behind his back, but on the surface, he still communicates with people in a very friendly chat.

is better at camouflage, especially in the crowd, and always shows his very good side.

The third point: the reason is that many people nowadays just like to get together and discuss some things that they don't have. In this way, a topic raised by a person I don't like intersects with many people and resonates with many people.

I don't have a good personality with someone I don't like, and it's very obvious that two people with different personalities can't get together, whether it's at work or in life. I don't like him because of the fact that our personalities are very different.

I don't like anything to be very flamboyant and high-profile, I just want to live my life in a low-key way. But no matter what he does, he likes to be loud, noisy, to get other people's attention.

People are inherently different from each other, everyone has their own worldview and values, preferences and tastes, of course, there will be some people you don't like but others can talk to him, this is the first point.

There are no two identical leaves in the world, and of course there are no exactly the same people, and the criteria for choosing friends are different, and of course, the types of friends they like are different, so it's not a big deal. Sometimes I have this kind of trouble, for example, obviously I'm not used to the kind of people who talk and seem to be arrogant, but my friends or other people around me think this kind of person is funny, and he has a very strong sense of humor, and he can easily stir up other people's emotions every time, so I like to call him almost every time I get to dinner or something. At first, I was quite repulsed, thinking that how could this be, could it be that my own values were wrong, how could I question it?

But later, when I tried to get in touch with this kind of person, I found that I still couldn't play well with him, because my own criteria for choosing friends were determined, and it wasn't my problem to change it. Later, one time I invited everyone to dinner, because I didn't like that person, I was willful and didn't invite him once, I thought that I would have a good time at the party without him, but in fact it didn't, because without his conversation, no one would adjust the atmosphere of the party, and there was no laughter at all in the whole process, which was very boring. At this time, I suddenly understood why when I was not used to him, my friends thought that he was good and wanted to be invited to play together, because the angle of standing was different, I only thought of myself at that time, and I didn't think that I needed to adjust the atmosphere during this kind of party and dinner, and I had to have such a funny person.

When I was the one myself, I would invite him over even if I didn't like it much. Because such a person is needed, every organization needs some people with different personalities to communicate with each other in order to survive. I hope you will understand this.

And how to say it, sometimes people themselves will reject some people who feel that they have a similar personality to themselves, but others live better than themselves, more or less will have this feeling, and there is no need to be too evasive. Because it is best known on the subway, when there are empty seats, no matter what, people will not sit next to each other, unless there is no place to squeeze together, this is the natural exclusivity of people. Sometimes some people's personalities, family jobs, or something are similar to mine, and to outsiders it seems that we can become very good friends because of similar experiences, but in fact, they don't, because we both have the feeling of rejecting each other.

It's normal, it's not a big deal, you just relax.