What are some of the things that are true but cannot be said publicly?

The communication between people is mainly communication, speaking is a science when communicating, people who can talk well make others like a spring breeze, and the one who tells the truth often makes people feel harsh, and by the way, even people hate it together. Let's talk about the truth, but don't say it publicly

1, I just have a crush on your money.

Men and women go on a blind date, and the woman takes a fancy to the man's family conditions and people, in fact, the man is rich and handsome. I think this in my heart, but I usually don't tell the man, I like your money, but that you are a good person.

2, I didn't like you because you were ugly and boring, and the key was that you were poor.

Two people get along together, and when they see each other being poor and white, they are still ugly and boring, and the excuse for breaking up is that I don't feel good for you, and we are not suitable.

3. Your parents don't love you.

I know a friend who is sick and hospitalized, her parents don't go to see her once, and they are afraid that she will borrow money, and every time she goes back to her parents' house, she is driven home by her mother that day, she asks her mother if she loves her? Answer, I love you, but I can't accept the fact that you are sick for a while. She smiled.

4. I hope you have a good life, but you can't be much better than me, and I won't be able to stand it if it's too much better.

This sentence is the point of view in the strange theory, but it is recognized by many people, and in fact it is true. Your circle is full of people who are running the same line, and if you outperform them, they will say words of blessing to you, but afterwards they are annoyed that they didn't seize the opportunity, when they were the same level of people in the first place.

5. How much money do I have.

Those who don't have money don't care to say how much money they have, anyway. Rich people don't have to tell you how much money they have. The more assets you have, the more low-key you are, the more you will not show off to outsiders, and since ancient times, you have been rich but not showing your wealth, one is afraid of being remembered, and the other is afraid of attracting people's jealousy and causing trouble.

The first: [You fart.] For some shortcomings in people's bodies, as a friend or something, they often take into account the face and dignity of their friends, so some words as long as they are not particularly brainless people will certainly not say it in person, what [are you farting] [your mouth stinks, are you eating garlic] [you have a smell of sweat] [you have vegetables on your teeth] [your pants are zippered] these words are not particularly embarrassed to say directly to people, of course, the relationship is good, it is harmless to say jokingly, but if it is true, It may be a little upset to say it.

The second: [This thing is useless, it doesn't make sense. Many times, we are in the society, in a collective, whether it is the company or the campus, we need to abide by the arrangements of the company and the school, often there will be some meaningless collective activities, take me as an example, as a college student, are already a sophomore, and let us go to the freshman orientation party, to put it bluntly, it is to fill the head of the seat, obviously there is no meaning, it is better to memorize a few words, but there is no way to publicly say that it is meaningless, I don't go, heheda.

The third: [A certain star is an unspoken rule of plastic surgery. Although I'm not a person in the entertainment industry, there is no way to know what the inside story is, but don't the stars in the entertainment industry still know?

Even if I didn't hear a celebrity admit that he had plastic surgery, the difference between each stage is so big, and his face is getting stiffer and stiffer, can't he see it. A child's name is the mother of the protagonist of a cartoon in an underwater world, and the person who played Hai Lanzhu in a TV series, in fact, I personally like her original appearance. Everyone in the circle knows about plastic surgery and fine-tuning, but who can say it publicly.

Fourth: [Mom and Dad, I've grown up, you don't have to worry about it. No matter how old they are, parents always feel that their children are still children, and they will worry about them, for fear that their children will not be able to take care of themselves.

Many times we want to tell our parents that we are grown up and don't need to worry about it, but we also worry that it will break our parents' hearts by saying it like this, so we still can't say it. Parents are willing to worry about their children, which parents cannot change, and we, as children, should be grateful to our parents for this kind of dedication.

The truth cannot be said publicly, then it proves that these words can only be known by yourself or your good friends, then these truths must be related to your own interests or safety, what are the common words, I have collected a lot from my life.

First, your sexuality is the truth, can you dare to say it openly? Of course, I'm not talking about the sexual orientation of men and women, if you say it, it may be a catastrophe, not only your relatives and friends don't understand you, maybe even your best friend won't be able to accept it, and leave you, so can you accept the consequences of telling the truth like this, obviously no.

Second, it is to say other people's secrets, especially the kind of ulterior secrets, such as your best friend has done something wrong, these words you may want to make public, not for yourself, just to let your friend pay for what he did, and not let your friend continue to be wrong, this is actually for the good of your friend, but things often do not go in the direction you expected, you may because of these truths, your best friend will dislike you and no longer share everything that your friend can share with you. Maybe he will still hate you, sneer at you, and don't know your good intentions, so do you say that you will still tell the truth at this time, and do you dare to make this truth public?

Third, that is, who is in love with whom, if you think about it, the two people who are in love have not announced it, which proves that they must have some concerns and will choose not to say it, so at this time you know, this is the truth that cannot be made public, because saying this sentence may hurt many, many people, and may cause unexpected harm.

1.It's useless to be kind, you have to be pretty.

Whether you admit it or not, this is a society that looks at faces, if you are beautiful, then you are surrounded by stars everywhere, and no one cares if you look mediocre. Many people say that I don't need a beautiful face, I rely on strength, so let me ask you, why do you have to dress up carefully when you go to take ID photos, and even carefully brush up which hair is there? It's not that I want to be able to attract people's attention at a glance.

The phrase "good-looking skins are the same, and interesting souls are one in a thousand" comforts the hearts of many mediocre people, and in fact, if others are not interested in your face, who will stop and hurry to get to know your soul deeply?

2.Hard work pays off.

The best of us", the promise of youth, the infatuated love, Lu Xinghe's 56 marriage proposals, are not as good as Yu Huai's sentence "Geng Geng, I'm late". It turns out that this phrase does not work in love. Hard work may not necessarily be exchanged for love, and I don't know that many people confuse the relationship between love and sympathy.

3.Money is indeed omnipotent in many areas.

A penny can stump a hero, and most of today's young people are facing mortgages and car loans. For girls, they are also facing a sad reality, at the age when they are the most beautiful and want to dress up, but they can't afford to buy those beautiful clothes, and when they slowly have savings, they find that they don't look good at what they wear. If there is money, who wants to use cheap cosmetics, who will wear high imitations, and which girl does not want to collect all shades of lipstick.

There are too many unspoken rules in this world, and we are always disgusted and powerless to change them, so we can only follow the waves of the army to embark on a future that we don't like.

1. Because telling the truth is often more hurtful and aggressive.

Many times we always have to add a prefix when we want to express our true thoughts.

I'll tell you the truth, don't be angry.

As I put it bluntly. Because we all know very well that telling the truth often makes people unhappy, uncomfortable, and even difficult to accept.

So there is, the ugly words are said in front of me.

2. Telling the truth is more likely to offend people, and sometimes it is even equivalent to low emotional intelligence, which makes your interpersonal relationships.

Nervous. My colleague wore a newly bought dress to the company and was in a good mood.

Everyone else said, "You're so nice in this dress."

Very beautiful and "very temperamental".

Even Xiao Liu, who has always been bad at words, praised "It's very expensive when you look at it".

My colleagues were also very happy to hear what everyone said.

As a result, you take one look at it and say bluntly, "Oops, what are you wearing?" It's like a rag! ”

Not only was that colleague angry with you, but even other colleagues felt that you had low emotional intelligence and were reluctant to get too close to you.

3. Telling the truth often brings you certain troubles or disasters, and not telling the truth is to protect yourself to a certain extent.

The thief on the bus was blatantly stealing the girl's purse, and most of the people on the bus saw it.

But when the girl found that the purse was missing and asked the people in the car, people shook their heads?

The reason is simple, fear of retaliation from thieves.

On the blackboard, a few swear words were written, and the teacher came in, and his face instantly darkened. The teacher asked the students one by one, who wrote the words on the blackboard? Although many people knew, they still shook their heads and said they didn't know.

It's not that I don't want to tell the truth, but I'm afraid of being isolated and being treated like someone in the class who makes a small report.

It's not that people don't like to tell the truth, it's that the cost of telling the truth is often unaffordable.

Reasons why people don't like to hear the truth:

1. The "truth" told by some people will give the speaker a sense of superiority over others.

A kind of self-absorption that everyone is drunk and I am sober, and there is a sense of righteousness and awe of "I say this for your good", such people are very disgusted!

2. Most of the time, "truth" does not solve any practical problems and does not give people any hope. Without the ability to offer some help, a little comfort, a solution, or at least a way to get these hopes, these so-called "truths" can cause people to feel negative when they hear them.

3. There is no intention of helping from the beginning, so how can you expect the other party to like to listen to these depressing words? Who is upset about themselves?

What people hate is not the truth, but the sense of despair that comes from your "telling the truth".

Since ancient times, it has not been a pleasant thing to report bad news.

Bitter medicine, loyal words against the ear.

Sometimes, we inadvertently say something from the bottom of our hearts, especially when we're with our closest people. These words may be said in a joking tone, but the real feelings behind them are very real.

I've told jokes about my closest people, but behind those jokes, I have some truth hidden. Once, I was shopping with my friends and I tried on a very beautiful dress. When I asked her opinion, she jokingly said:

You look like a bear child! We laughed together, but I was a little frustrated by her words. I've always felt a little clumsy and not graceful enough, so this joke touched a deep uneasiness in my heart.

A few days later, I sat down with her and chatted. She asked me how I was doing, and I told her that I was feeling a little unconfident and that I didn't look good enough. She listened to me and said she never thought I would have such an idea.

She told me that I was a very smart, kind, and brave person, and that my appearance didn't matter. She also told me that one of her favorite things to do with me is because I always make her happy.

I listened to her words and felt very warm. I knew she wasn't trying to hurt me, she was just joking. However, her words also made me understand one thing:

Our closest people are those who can see our true hearts, who know our weaknesses and who are able to give us the most sincere support and help.

I think it's very important to share the truth with those closest to us. With their support and understanding, we can be stronger and more confident in facing our own problems and shortcomings. Even if we have ever said some truthful things in a joking tone, don't be afraid to say them again, because the people closest to us are always able to understand us, give us help and support.

Shakespeare said, "A man would rather hear a hundred beautiful lies than a single straight truth." ”

Vanity. Because the truth is often equal to bad words, and bad words are often to expose a person's shortcomings and refute a person's position. When people are happy, most of them are satisfied with their vanity, and when they are angry, most of them are when their vanity is contained.

Tell the truth. Because telling the truth is a thankless task. When you meet someone who can carry it clearly, you may accept it calmly, but when you meet someone who loves to drill the horns, not only will you not feel your good intentions, but you may also hold a grudge against you because of it.

Therefore, when we tell the truth to a person, we must pay attention to certain ways and means. If you can be tactful, don't be too direct, and if you can be gentle, don't be too harsh. Good medicine is bitter, but if it is so bitter that it is difficult to swallow and you can't drink it, how can you cure the disease?

Words of advice can be reversed, but if the words are too strong and explicit, it will only greatly hurt the other person's self-esteem, annoy the other party, and even make the other person lose their minds and react more violently.

Only tell the truth to those who truly love you.

We may be able to calm down and think about the fact that there are so many people who talk to us every day and say all kinds of things, but there are very few or even none of them who can tell the truth. This is actually a very sad thing, because if someone can tell you the truth, at least it means that this person loves you and cares about you, and wants you to be a better person. This person is often your parents, your partner, your confidant and friend, in short, the closest person to you.

But the common problem of human beings is often to ignore the good of the people around them, misinterpret the good intentions of the people around them, and insist on going their own way without fear, which eventually chills the hearts of the people around them and harms themselves. Sincere criticism is sometimes more valuable than praise, because it is a mirror that can change ourselves. Only those who dare to listen to the truth, dare to accept criticism from others, and face up to their own shortcomings can transform into a better version of themselves.

Don't tell the truth to people you don't have a relationship with.