If parents are absent from their children s lives for a long time, what will become of their childre

It will make the child very timid from the beginning. We often see some left-behind children in our reports, they live a very hard life, although they have grandparents at home, but they are also afraid that some people in society will hurt them.

They can only see their parents during the Chinese New Year every year, and it will also make them secretly shed tears in their ordinary life because they miss their parents, and they will form their more cowardly character for a long time. It will also make the child's temper very short-tempered, because when I was young, my parents were busy with business and had little time to take care of me.

When I went to and from school, most of the people who worked in our house would pick me up. Every day after school, I went home to have a meal and went to the teacher's house to make up for the lessons, so I spent every night at the teacher's house from the third grade of elementary school to high school. I can only see my own parents every day when I have to sleep.

This made me very short-tempered since I was a child, no one dared to mess with me, and if they messed with me, I would beat them.

Children will have low self-esteem.

Human nature has the element of comparison, and even more so between children. If other children are accompanied by their parents but they don't, they will feel that they are easy to be looked down upon by other children. and is vulnerable to attacks from other children. Slowly, this thought will take root in my heart.

The relationship with his parents is cold, and he even resents his parents.

Due to the long-term lack of care for children, the family relationship between father and son will become weaker and weaker, and even there will be a situation of resentment against parents. In the process of growing up, children do need money, but what they need more is the care and companionship of their parents. I have seen a lot of left-behind children, they all have the same characteristic that they are timid, and the most they say in front of the camera is that they miss you.

Growth is skewed.

Children need the guidance of their parents on the road to growth, because the parents are not around for a long time, the education of the elderly to the children is often doting, so that the children's mistakes can not be corrected in time, and finally there is a tragedy.

The first is that the child lacks love for a long time in his life, and he will become indifferent at first and not love life so much. In fact, every child hopes that their parents can stay by their side, after all, that kind of love can be really felt. All my happiness and happiness are perceived by others, and I live with someone who loves him.

Just like the happiness he sees in other people's children, he will be jealous and begin to twist his heart, feeling that he is the unhappiest person in the world. If I can't figure it out, the kind of child may become lawless and feel that no matter what I do, no one else will care about me anyway.

The second is that they will become more independent. Parents have been absent from their lives for a long time, but life still has to go on, and when they encounter many problems, they still have to overcome them by themselves. No matter how hard it is, if you make a fuss and gamble on your own, many things still have to be done hard.

Years later, it seems that there is no need for my parents to come back. Because I really bear too much by myself, and I'm used to it, there's nothing that I can't get by.

Affect parent-child communication. Just like the example at the beginning, this is a typical "people in Cao Ying's heart is in Han", parents "follow" but "can't keep up" around their children, which is actually cold violence. If a child wants to talk to his or her parents, wants to play with them, but the parents keep staring at their phones or saying hello too much, the parents' resentment will increase, and the communication between the parents and the children will be significantly hindered.

<> affect the parent-child relationship. In the company of parents, children are by the child's side, according to the child's feelings in a timely manner, do not participate in the child's game activities, the most important thing for the child to the parents is work, mobile phones, games, and have nothing to do with themselves, too much, the child's trust and dependence on the parents will decline and even affect the relationship between father and son.

Influence the development of competencies. Through the dialogue with their parents, children can learn a lot of knowledge, can get a lot of useful life experience, and develop rapidly in intelligence, oral expression, motor ability, social ability, etc. If parents are absent from their children's games, their children will lose excellent learning and sports opportunities, and their development will be slower in all areas.

Parents are not "accompanied" to their children in the real sense, "just accompaniment" can only be said to be "formal accompaniment", which will affect the communication between parents and children, intimacy, and the development of children's own abilities. What can parents do to really achieve high-quality companionship?

Body and mind become one. For children, it is not just a formal "companionship", but a "companionship" that integrates the mind and body. If parents want to accompany their children, they should be physically and mentally integrated, and they should accompany their children both formally and substantively.

Parents will put aside all the trivial things, care for the child, participate in the child's games, and devote themselves to the child to have a good day.

Make a special time. Most parents are dual-income workers, usually not much time, but parents accompany their children and children to agree on a "special time" that belongs to you, for example, Friday evenings and weekends, fixed a little earlier, there is a good sense of ritual, so that children can do a good job and life in advance, the content of the activity can be read by parents and children can watch movies together, run with children, play golf, go on outings every month and a half, see famous places, expand knowledge, and also help deepen the parent-child relationship.

This can make the child rebellious, insecure, etc. Parents who do not discipline their children can make them lawless. Children may also feel that their parents do not love them, and they will feel insecure as a result.

I think it will bring the harm of rebellion to the child, the child may go down the wrong path, and the child will lack care and lead to insecurity, easy to be autistic, and prone to depression.

It will make children feel inferior, arrogant and self-reliant, and even make children feel psychological pressure, and will make children study poorly. It can make the child feel that he is not valued.

The damage that the absence of a father can do to the childIf the child is growing up without the love of his father, especially a boy. Then the boy will become very timid in character, and he will be more feminine and less masculine. This is because the presence of the father will establish a tall and majestic image for the child, and also let the child understand that he has a backer, and he does not have to be afraid of being bullied by others, and the child also knows that he has a father as his strong backing.

If the father is absent and only the mother is by his side to accompany the child, then the tenderness of the mother's personality will be transmitted to the child, making the child indecisive, which is obviously not good for the child, and it is not conducive to the boy's growth into a man.

The absence of a mother can cause harm to the childIf the child lives in a single-parent family and there is only one role in the family, then the child's personality will become unusually irritable. Because the role of the mother is missing in the family, there is a lack of a conciliator. You must know that a boy will always be afraid of his father in the process of getting along with his father, and feel that his father is very strict, and when a girl gets along with his father, he will not dare to contact his father because his father is too strict, and there is no mother as a mediator in this kind of family, a bad relationship between the father and the child, then the relationship between the child and the father will become more and more stiff, but the father's irritable personality will be transmitted to the child, making the child become irritable and extreme. This is also not conducive to the growth of children.

Children cannot do without the company of their parentsIf the child's parents he is living together, then must accompany the child more, the child not only has the father's only father's love but also has the mother's gentle love, only the parents are by the child's side, the child's character can be neutralized, the child's character will not only accommodate the father's perseverance and courage, but also cover the mother's gentle side, only in this way can the child's character develop into a sound and slow character.

It will make the child particularly insecure in life, and will not have a particularly good relationship with his parents. In the future, there will be a large gap between the father and the mother. There will be no good parent-child relationship, and it will also affect the child's learning and personality future.

It will make the child feel insecure, it will make the child become particularly unconfident, it is easy to make the child become inferior, the child will easily hurt others, and the bridge will also give the other party some pressure when he grows up in the relationship.

It will make the child lack of father's or mother's love, will make the child insecure, and will have an extreme personality, be timid and fearful, unsociable, and so on.

If the child grows up in a family where parents are absent, the child will be insecure, and when communicating with others, they will also be extremely unconfident, and they will feel very uncomfortable when they see their classmates accompanied by their parents, and they will always feel that they are the one who has been abandoned by their parents, and such children may have some psychological diseases in the process of growing up.

Some children have not been cared for by their parents for a long time, and their hearts will be very painful, especially when they see their classmates accompanied by their parents, they will also be very envious and jealous, if these children do not reasonably control their emotions, then it is a disaster for children. The child may become more and more resentful of these parents in his heart, because he himself has not received this kind of love, so he is very envious and jealous in his heart, and this emotion becomes more profound, and it will become a kind of hatred. This kind of hatred is not only for the people around you, but also for your parents, especially those left-behind children, they stay at home with their elders for a long time, and do not stay with their parents for a long time, then if the parents do not often have some ** or communication with their children, it will cause some psychological problems for the children, and these children will become more and more neglectful of learning, and they are more willing to do some bad things to win the attention of their families. In fact, these children are also very pitiful, so those parents who often work outside the home should communicate more with their children.

If parents do not accompany their children, children will have some lack of self-confidence, they may not devote themselves to learning, and even some children will do some bad things in order to win the attention of their parents, such as not listening carefully when studying, or making some trouble at school, if parents blame them for this, they will not be sad, but will be very happy.

It is not conducive to the healthy growth of children, it will make children particularly sensitive in their hearts, and it will also make children very selfish, and the child's personality is defective, and it is not conducive to the child's experience of family affection, and it will make the child's emotions lacking.

It will lead to the child's insecurity, and it will also lead to the child's inferiority complex, which will lead to the child's autism, and the reluctance to communicate with others in the future, which will make the child's behavior in the future particularly extreme.

It will also have a great impact on the child's growth, so that the child's growth will lack the care of one party, so the child will also become more inferior.

The child will have a very low self-esteem, the child's heart will be very depressed, very insecure, the child will be very sad, and the child will be very introverted.

If the father is absent from the child's growth, it will also cause the child to become very cowardly. We need to pay attention to the fact that fathers play a very important role in the growth of their children, and fathers can make their children more courageous and able to make them face some things calmly.

We will find that although most of the mothers are women in the new era, they are also very powerful. But in the face of these more difficult problems, but the mother may still not dare to deal with it. At this time, if the father does not accompany the child, and the mother is around, then the child will become very timid and cowardly.

In addition, many mothers may let their children understand after encountering some things, and will make their children not care about this matter, so the children will become very timid.

The father's work may indeed be busy, so at this time, we can also choose to spend more time with our children when we are not busy, and we can also teach our children some truths in the process of accompanying our children. In this way, it can also allow children to gain more truth in a relatively short period of time. We can tell our children that when their parents are not at home, you are the only man in the family, you are the manly man of the mother, and you have to protect the mother at this time.

If it's a girl, we can tell me that even if your father is not with you, your father still loves you very much.

Xiaoyan hopes that all fathers can spend more time with their children, no matter how busy we are with our work, we can't miss the growth of our children, we must know that children's childhood is fleeting. If we are absent from our children's development, it is also very likely that the children will become more and more timid.