I have a lot of prejudices about my future father in law now, am I wrong?

In fact, it's normal, he wants to do his daughter's good, so in the end, it's a matter of face. No matter what he picks and chooses, if he doesn't play cards according to the routine, he still wants to embarrass for you. I think you, as a man, should have your own principles, and solve this problem without losing reason, otherwise even if you marry your lover, you will break up in the future because of their family problems.

Marriage is not a matter of the two of you, it is a matter of two families or even clans. So there are some issues that should not be difficult to solve.

You also think about it, it's not anyone's fault that can be solved. You have to show your father-in-law your sincerity and prove that you can give her baby girl a happy future. Think about it for both of you, but if you're really that entangled, I think maybe you don't really have this fate.

But I believe this is a test given to you by God. Once the emotional problem is involved in money, it will never end. At the end of the day, it's about money.

You should be considered late in the countryside at your age So think about countermeasures now, since the two don't want to separate. But let me say that no matter what, filial piety to your parents is always a matter of course, whether it is your parents or your fiancée. Filial piety will be rewarded in the future.

I'm sure you'll be fine. Hopefully you can resolve this matter smoothly.

You're right, as long as you face the reality, relax your mind, everything will be solved, maybe her father is not as bad as you think, you just need to treat his daughter well, and he will have a big change after marriage.

You're right, there is such a person in reality, it can only mean that he wants to break you up and disagrees with you. At this point, you ask your girlfriend what she thinks, and then it's up to you.

Her parents will only be sincere to their daughter, to you, and not to expect them to be honest with you, and to be nice to their parents.

He has three sons-in-law, and it is not necessarily you who will take care of them in the future.

Hello, before this question, let's talk about the performance of my first meeting with the woman's uncle.

First of all, the dress must be decent.,Can't wear too casually.,I'm usually dressed in casual clothes.,The first time I went to my girlfriend's house, I changed into a shirt.,Haha,Anyway, it looks a little more formal.。。 Then I also brought cigarettes, alcohol and some snacks or something, it is not appropriate to only bring cigarettes and alcohol, and I have to take care of my girlfriend's mother, and inquire in advance what snacks and snacks I like to eat, the situation is different in different places, anyway, don't go empty-handed. Don't talk too much when you get to your girlfriend's house.,When you eat, you must try to eat as much as possible.,If you don't like your appetite, you have to eat more.,Anyway, do your best.,Don't ask why.。。。

You must take the initiative to clean up and wash the dishes after dinner, but the other party's parents generally won't let you do this, in short, the meaning must be in place. After the meal, the other party's parents will ask you about your basic situation, just be truthful. In the end, my girlfriend and I discussed it in advance, and at about the same time, my girlfriend would tell her parents that we were going out to watch a movie or something, and that we would come back next time when we had time.

The gift can't be too cheap, nor too expensive, too cheap will feel that you are too stingy, don't pay attention to them at all, no sincerity, and too expensive and too high to set up a step for yourself, if the later gift is lower than this time, it will look very embarrassing.

So the 4 things I recommend you are:

Gifts for elders.

A gift for juniors.

Tobacco and alcohol are essential. A specialty of my hometown.

The first time I went to the woman's house, I brought these 4 items. Everyone should also bring their most sincere heart and attitude, the first meeting is very important, everything is difficult at the beginning, if you get along well with the first meeting, then we will communicate much more smoothly in the future.

The prospective father-in-law asked how to plan for the future and set the time as follows:

1. To respect (self-esteem and respect for others), to understand, to be equal, what needs to be kneeled and licked is not love, let alone long. When two people are together, the relationship must not be too tilted. One of the best things I've ever heard is:

When I'm fierce, you have to listen! When I'm gone, I'll show you."

So sometimes two people can be a little stronger, but after this time, I will make you stronger. You can't be strong all the time, otherwise the relationship won't last.

2. Have two children at most, know that your life also belongs to you, and don't put your whole life on children. Children will take away a lot of energy and time, and it will also bring you a lot of joy and touch. But because children ignore the relationship between husband and wife, there are also many people.

And everyone has their own time, and not knowing the macro can make you too busy.

3. Earn as much money as possible to improve the standard of living, such as being a slash youth, if not, live within your means. Learn to save money, manage money, and buy insurance. Anyway, it's just two words, and it's over if you have money.

If you have money, especially if you are financially free, then you really don't want to be happy. Play wherever you want, eat what you want, and live a happy life.

The most important thing is that they feel that you are someone who is worth entrusting for life, and that you are attentive and considerate to your girlfriend. Do what you like, not only to your father-in-law, but also to other people, other people's opinions still have a great impact on your father-in-law, especially your mother-in-law, but you can't be humble, don't go too far. Be diligent and help your father-in-law and mother-in-law, such as serving food, collecting the table, etc.

Reach out and don't hit the smiley person.

Be diligent (serve dishes, add rice, wash dishes, etc., observe more), be polite, and be cheerful. You can't be too casual. Drinking alcohol can ease the atmosphere, and the harmonious relationship can be drunk a little, but not high.

Just talk casually, don't deliberately tutor or pay attention to anything. Express your authentic self.

The first time you come to the door, of course, a gift is a must, as the saying goes, it is not strange to be polite. Bring two bottles of good wine and two good cigarettes, don't go empty-handed, but if the first visit is not informal, don't be too polite, just look good. Expressions of affection.

Your habits may be a little exposed, just make the old man happy, but don't go too far. (Remember to bring some supplements to the woman's mother) Just be decent and generous. There are a lot of details, one or two sentences can't be finished, you may refer to the plot of Shi Jing's boyfriend Chengzi going to Shi Jing's house to meet Shi Guangrong in the TV series "Exciting Burning Years", which may help you.

Hello bro!

I want to make a good impression when I meet for the first time, so many times I have to keep my bad habits for the first time. It is necessary to bring gifts, cigarettes and alcohol, whether it is your father-in-law or someone, the people who vote for their favorites will also give three points. Of course, you can't just bring things to your father-in-law, but also to your mother-in-law, and you have to be at the same price, ask your girlfriend what her mother likes and then consider buying, and the things should be of some grade.

It's normal to smoke in exchange, but you can't smoke too much, it's not a big problem to smoke with you, and you must not make the image of a big smoking gun. Eat and drink generously, drink as much as you can, and never get drunk enough to talk nonsense. When you first meet with a sweeter mouth, call your parents directly, call your uncle and aunt is that you have opened up the distance between you and them, smile more, and you must not keep a straight face, or twist and pinch at a loss.

Be diligent, don't wait until you eat and sit there still, treat yourself as a distinguished guest, even if they repeatedly tell you not to go, you must insist on going. In the end, all that remains is the content of the communication after you meet, either answer their questions in a hurry, don't talk too much, talk more about your current situation and your future plans for you and your girlfriend, etc., talk about some of the issues they care about, and answer them realistically and appropriately. We hope you all have a relaxing and enjoyable meeting!

Bless you all!

Personally, I think that if her father is all cigarettes and alcohol, then you should do what you want, after all, people who drink like to be accompanied by someone, so that it tastes, but in moderation.

Ask your girlfriend about her dad's hobbies. Just be natural, and grasp everything to a degree.

Where is your family, how many people do you have, do you have brothers and sisters, what kind of work do you have, how many years have you been working, how have you been with his daughter, how did you know each other, and if you are in a hurry, you will ask when you will get married, etc.

What do you want to do in the future? What's your plan? What a hobby?

In this era, when a man goes to his girlfriend's house for the first time, he will inevitably be a little nervous, afraid that the other party's parents will not like him, but this is also a normal thing, after all, seeing his parents is a checkpoint that everyone has to go through.

1. No matter how nervous you are at the dinner table, your father-in-law and mother-in-law will always ask you some questions, don't ask what to say because you are too nervous, you can go and talk about others, you can't look embarrassed after speaking, let alone bury your head in eating, as the saying goes, "food is not a word", our Chinese tradition is to talk and laugh when eating, so that it can also be well integrated, otherwise the atmosphere will be very embarrassing. Just like your father-in-law and mother-in-law will usually ask you if the food is appetizing, at this time, don't just say this: delicious, appetizing!

You still have to pay attention to certain skills when speaking! Maybe you haven't eaten much because you're nervous, but you also have to show that it's delicious, so to speak: Auntie, your craftsmanship is really good, it's exactly the same as what I make at home, it's delicious!

It's very much to my liking, I really want to be able to eat it every day, etc., don't be blunt, this dish is salty, that soup is hot, which will leave a bad impression on my father-in-law and mother-in-law. There is always something to drink at the dinner table, and we, as young people and juniors, should also pay attention to it when toasting, even if we don't drink, even if we drink drinks, we must have basic etiquette, maybe this will be very difficult, but this is about your life events, so the first glass of wine must be for you to toast them, don't wait for them to come to you so impolite, you must know how to respect.

2. Don't be too idle The current post-marriage routine is, "the male protagonist is outside the female protagonist", that is, the man works hard outside and is responsible for supporting the family, and the woman tidies up her daily life at home, so the woman generally undertakes most of the things at home, and the man can eat when he comes back from work, or lie directly on the sofa to rest, and is unwilling to deal with housework with the woman. But if the father-in-law and mother-in-law see that you are always sitting, then they may think that they are marrying their daughters after all, and they have not said it now, so how hard it will be for their "heart and liver baby" to marry in the past, and they will be very distressed, so the man must pay attention to this. As a man, be generous and take the initiative, for example, after eating, you can clean up the dishes and chopsticks next to you, although this is a small action, but it is of great significance, because it will give a good impression to the other party's parents, feel that you are a very sensible and polite child, and your daughter will be very relieved to marry in the past!