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o( o Actually, it is difficult to change in our own thinking for a long time During this period, we are rebellious because we have a clear understanding of ourselves, but because we care too much about our own existence and our feelings, we often ignore the people around us, and it is especially easy to vent our emotions on the people we love, and the root cause of parents' unhappiness is actually that we are unhappy This is adolescence, I have my own ideas, but I am not very mature and not very good at expressing them, so I hide them in my heart and do not want to express them (o( o I used to think that no one understood me).
If you want your parents to be happy, you have to make yourself happy, try to take the initiative to do what you can, if you are still studying, then you are generally in class, there is basically nothing to do, is to have time to chat with them, talk and laugh more, the topic can be news, facts, etc., if you are at home during the holidays, you must develop a regular routine Take care of yourself, and then try to do what you can Don't keep them taking care of you Try to be like an adult Share some housework Take the initiative to wash the dishes, sweep the floor, and tidy up the room These are simple and doable, you know, parents are not superhuman, they need love and care, so I hope you can get something out of it, be positive, come on.
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Rebellion is not a trend Why rebel Won't you not rebel Is it fun to pretend to be rebellious Or how to catch your parents love you and spoil you You bully them Some children are not qualified to be rebellious Have you ever thought about it You have parents who love you at home and spoil you You have never seen anything outside Those hard-working children they don't have parents to care for them Don't have parents to love Everything has to be done by yourself ** Time to rebel In such a hard life Still cherish yourself, love yourself, study hard and don't give up on yourself Even if your parents let them go to school Or it's a patriarchal family, where people always have to grow up, mature, and these may not have anything to do with you, but you should pay more attention to them, don't be so selfish, know how to think about others, and every time you rebel, you think about whether you did it right or wrong. You just need to be filial to them, listen to them, but be assertive, think about them, and always keep them in your heart.
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When you are rebellious, find a proper meaning for your rebellion, explain it to your parents calmly, and make your parents feel that it is not rebellious. This one is really useful.
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Parents perceive their children as rebellious and deliberately challenge their authority, and parents are prone to anger and disappointment when dealing with their children, making their feelings uncontrollable.
It is not that he is resisted and attacked by the child, but that the adolescent child is unable to manage himself. The peculiarities of his stage dictate that he do so. This is not directed at themselves, but parents instead look at their children's behavior more rationally!
But once parents change their minds, when they realize that this is the process of individualization that adolescent children need to go through, parents relax and feel peaceful. Parents will feel that they are not being resisted and attacked by their children, but that the adolescent is unable to manage themselves. The peculiarities of his stage dictate that he do so.
This is not directed at themselves, but parents instead look at their children's behavior more rationally!
Don't think that the adolescent's behavior towards independence is directed at you, that you are not being resisted and attacked by the child, but that the adolescent is unable to manage herself. The peculiarities of his stage dictate that he do so. This is not directed at themselves, but parents instead look at their children's behavior more rationally!
We have learned about the behavioral characteristics of adolescent children, many of their behaviors are due to the inevitable process of individualization, parents need them to grow up to be independent, and we need to transform ourselves from the role of traffic police to coaching.
For children, we should give them some freedom to play and at the same time guide them to do things that are more suitable for this age. John kennedy.
Once a child has a conflict with a parent, the first thing parents should do is to review the behavioral characteristics of the adolescent child and remind the child that it is not directed at their own behavior. He just grows up, which helps parents respond to their children peacefully.
It is not that he is resisted and attacked by the child, but that the adolescent child is unable to manage himself. The peculiarities of his stage dictate that he do so. This is not directed at themselves, but parents instead look at their children's behavior more rationally!
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The first thing parents should do is to be patient with their children, not to blame them too much when they are disobedient, to be patient with their children, and to guide them patiently.
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In the face of rebellious children, parents should be patient and calm to guide their children back to the right path.
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During the child's rebellious period, parents can use the following ways to deal with it: parents should understand and care for the child, communicate with the child more, and ensure that the child is in a good mood.
1.Parents should understand and care for their children: parents should accompany their children more, let their children get a sense of security and warmth, avoid letting them go, do not blame their children too much, and should give encouragement and care, which can gradually improve their children's rebellious thoughts.
2.Communicate more with children: Parents should communicate more with their children at ordinary times, keep calm when communicating with their children, avoid being too tough, avoid using hard to solve problems, encourage and reward children, and gradually improve children's rebellious psychology.
3.Ensure that the child is in a good mood: try to consider the problem from the child's standpoint, try to find out the reason for the child's resistance, if it is caused by family factors, you should help the child open up the psychological concerns, so that the child's mentality and mood can be relaxed, so that the child gradually accepts and adapts to the reality, which is conducive to the gradual transformation of the child's rebellion.
During the child's rebellious period, parents should think about the problem from a rational perspective, avoid beating and scolding the child, and help the child go through the rebellious period smoothly.
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Communication with children during the rebellious period mainly includes learning to listen, staying calm when communicating, exchanging roles, respecting children, not making moral evaluations, and finding people that children believe in to enlighten.
1. Learn to listen: In the process of communicating with children, parents should learn to listen, so that children can express bad thoughts, bad emotions and grievances. Give children a certain understanding when they express themselves, and then give them some guidance and help.
Don't rush to give instructions or help that you think will be beneficial to your child, listen patiently, let your child express his emotions freely, and let him feel that you understand and agree with him very much;
2. Keep calm when communicating: In the process of communicating with your child, you must stay calm, avoid communicating with your child in a rigid way, and don't beat and scold your child when you are in a hurry. In addition, parents should communicate with their children when they are calm, and the effect will be better;
3. Swap roles: Parents should understand their children's rebellious psychology in the process of communicating with their children, avoid occupying the main role of the bank, and should switch roles with their children, and listen to their children's inner thoughts, including their views on adult education. Understand your possible shortcomings through communication and find effective solutions;
4. Respect children and do not make moral evaluations: When children are rebellious, parents should not be too strict. Once the child is rebellious, do not label the child as disobedient, and avoid using such disobedient words to teach the child in the process of communicating with the child.
It is conducive to reducing children's rebellious psychology and achieving effective communication;
5. Find someone who is convincing to enlighten the child: whether it is a girl or a boy, there will be someone who he is happy to talk to. When the child is in a rebellious period and cannot communicate well with the parents, the parents can find someone the child trusts to communicate with him and avoid forcing the child to communicate with the parents.
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When you are more cautious, you should talk to your child, and you can also find some relatives and friends to talk to him to know what the child thinks in his heart, so that he can control the rebellious child well.
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I'm going to beat him up, really, and I'm going to call on my father to show your authority and beat up these stinking brats from time to time.
Boys and girls are different, girls are generally well-behaved, they don't have to fight when they are young, they are all obedient. The vast majority of them are also worry-free, and you can't fight the individual rebellious. I ran away as soon as I hit it, someone took it in, and I didn't go home for a year or two.
Therefore, when a girl is rebellious, she generally has to coax her, drag her, and when she is older, she will be sensible.
Boys are different. The boy being beaten is not only a punishment, but more of a grind. Fathers of the post-70s and post-80s, when you recall your childhood, how many of them have never been beaten by their parents?
How many haven't been in a fight outside? has been beaten and beaten people, this is the boy's childhood.
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1. At first, I thought of finding some good articles on the Internet and sending them to my child, hoping to make him change. But more often than not, the reply I get is cold, and he doesn't want to interact with me.
2. In the middle, I asked my family, relatives and friends to persuade the children not to delay their future future. As a result, the child angrily told me that the ugliness of the family should not be publicized, and I went to let so many people blame him, and he felt so stressed. Because of this, he ignored us adults for a long time, and was very disgusted with us.
3. Later, I took my son to see a psychiatrist, and I originally wanted to use a psychiatrist to help him check the code and peace, but who knew that it would backfire. When he came back, he told me that I didn't lose my illness, why should I go to the doctor, because you are sick.
In this way, the result of self-exploration and self-salvation again and again is: the child seems to be more rebellious. One day, the child yelled at us and said:
Do you really understand me? Are you my biological parents? In this way, my father and I were very miserable and shocked!
Later, when I chatted with my best friend, I heard that his child was also rebellious before, but now there has been a great change, and my best friend recommended Wang Lao to me.
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When educating children at this stage, parents must pay attention to the following:
01丨Don't use violence.
Many parents always accuse their children of being grumpy, but in fact, many parents will also show their irritable side when they are in an emotionally uncontrolled environment, and their children's irritability is likely to come from their usual exposure to it.
Everyone should be clear that "filial piety comes out from under the stick" is a very undesirable sentence.
Parents do have to set up some punishment mechanisms in front of their children, but this does not mean that they should be whipped violently.
In our lives, there is a large part of parents who choose to follow their children and pamper their children when faced with their children's irritability, thinking that this will calm their children's noise.
It is true that when you agree to your child's request, you can temporarily stop crying, but this method treats the symptoms rather than the root cause.
What if the child still loses his temper next time, is the same as the parent?
If the things that the children want are getting more and more expensive, and the children's demands are becoming more and more excessive, then should the parents agree to them one by one?
Parents should not use violence, and at the same time they should not be too weak.
Parents should express their tough stance in a gentle tone: Mom and Dad respect your choice and will not dictate your life, but you must also have a basic bottom line, and you must do what you must do well.
03丨Don't have a cold war with your child.
In many cases, the indifference of parents does not have the effect of calming the child, but makes the child feel their "cold violence".
Many parents will feel that their children will not listen to what others say when they are rebellious, so it is best not to say too much to avoid making the child more angry.
There are also young parents who will have this thought in their hearts: You are my child, what right do you have to be angry? Then I won't talk to you either, and see which of us needs whom.
Rebellious children, like a hedgehog, will use their sharp thorns to protect themselves. But at this time, if parents are afraid of trouble and choose to have a cold war with their children, it is definitely not the best way to solve the problem.
Josie Shipp once said: Your children need you more than they seem.
Children who are about to enter adolescence will have a lot of confusion and confusion, at this time they are actually very much in need of the help of their parents, and the experience of parents can help children walk more smoothly and smoothly on this road.
Article**7 Different children have different personalities, and parents must choose the right way for their children when educating their children.
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