Am I being selfish in doing so? Is it selfish to be yourself?

Love itself is selfish, and it should be selfish.

It's excusable, maybe selfish, but it's a well-intentioned selfishness, because if you don't say it, maybe you won't have a chance in the future. But if she doesn't accept your love, you can't be selfish and have to be with her, because true love should also be great, and you should learn to bless.

It's understandable that you chose to say it right so that you don't regret it later on.

It's just that you don't know how to appreciate him, he's already doing a good job. Of course, not many people will cherish what they think they have in their hands. I bet you'll miss his good when you lose him.

People are always like that. If he keeps a distance from you now, you will have a good impression of him. The so-called distance produces beauty!

People are inherently selfish. You can't do that if you bother him. Prove that you're not annoying him. Maybe you like him, but you don't know. Ask yourself if you like him or not.

No, at least I don't.

Love is about two lovers.

If he really likes you for 4 years.

And you still don't like him then.

And I didn't meet the person you really liked.

Then I think you can accept him.

I believe it though.

If a guy is willing to stay with you for 4 years.

Then it is estimated that by then you will have made him a habit in your life.

If you don't like him, tell him directly, or accept him and slowly cultivate feelings.

It's a pity, you still tell him to go, you need someone who can touch your heart, don't force it.

One of the things that I have been thinking about a lot lately is that people are very susceptible to the environment, and this environment is multifaceted, people, environment, and even the weather. That's right, if the weather is gloomy, the mood doesn't seem so beautiful.

What is the cause of this state of mind, and how can it not be affected by it?

Mr. Nan Huaijin said a health care tip, that is, when the eyes see the beautiful scenery, they should use their consciousness to receive the beautiful scenery into the eyes, rather than being drawn by the beautiful scenery, which is probably what it means. I can't help but think of one point, that is, as the main body of consciousness, we should put ourselves in the first place, and everything should live from it, and we must not reverse the priority, such as this example, if the priority is not distinguished, the mind will be confused, and if the mind is scattered, the spirit will not gather, and I am afraid of getting sick.

Put it in daily interpersonal communication, the same is true in the human factor, everyone's preferences are different, and everyone is looking for different, this is not contradictory, what they like is because they have what they want, and in daily interactions, release their original self, this self has likes and dislikes, emotions, interesting, as long as it is in the category of physical and mental health, does not affect others, when people recognize a real and interesting person who is different from themselves, they will be attracted. It's as if I've given you my whole soul, with its quirks, its petty tempers, its flickering light and dark, its eighteen hundred bad things. It's so annoying, it's just a little good, you can like it.

In the future, there will be no comparison between mere talent and three-dimensional personality.

So, be kind to yourself, be true to yourself, be yourself with a fire in your heart, don't be a person who wants everyone to be good to me, but be a person who wants to be good to anyone! Only when you know your preferences and know what you want, can you aggregate into an energy field, and this energy field has a huge boost to the body and mind. This has nothing to do with selfishness, life is a process of increasing entropy, which will eventually dissipate, but the meaning of life is to fight against this entropy.

The concept is more abstract, being yourself, this is a process that requires constant effort, and it is difficult because it is difficult to completely resist being influenced. Inertial thinking will be involuntarily deviated, but at least I have a deeper understanding of the root cause, although I know that it is still far away, so I will add it up later.

Friends with similar experiences, welcome to communicate! Good night!