Am I selfish if I don t want to get married, and am I being selfish if I don t want to get married?

If you don't want to get married, of course, you are selfish, because this is your irresponsibility for marriage, if you don't want to get married, don't deal with the object, and if you don't get married, you are irresponsible to others, and you are selfish.

Do singles have such troubles every day? I feel that people in the real world are not friendly to me, whether I really haven't found my true destiny yet, or I really advocate a single life, the attitude of the people around you is very "harsh", are you single? Why aren't you looking for a partner yet?

Your requirements are too high, you almost have it, everyone is married, who has a baby, is it impossible to escape the questions of the seven aunts and eight aunts all the time, and even the aunt next door will not let you go during the New Year's holidays, why are these people unwilling to get married?

Why women are reluctant to get married.

Chinese-style marriage, it is difficult for women to experience "happiness" in marriage, even if they are not married, the life after marriage is also seen at a glance, that is, firewood, rice, oil and salt, endless housework, with a baby, work, and unfinished human feelings, but also to deal with various relationships, it is very sad, people have no motivation to get married, can not find the meaning of marriage, as if marriage means that they will bear a lot of troubles, will lose their freedom, and they have the ability to make themselves high.

Quality single life, don't worry about the betrayal of the other half, you can give yourself a sense of security.

This may not be something that others can give.

Why men are reluctant to get married.

Most men are reluctant to get married because of pressure, first of all, by the house price, bride price.

These "high thresholds" are blocked outside, and the cultivation of feelings is inseparable from the material foundation, and when the material foundation is not solid, the work has exhausted itself, and they dare not hope to talk about a love without breaking up.

Even if this "high threshold" is crossed, after marriage, you have to coax your wife and support your children to go to school, and the woman will pretend to be weak while asking for equality, so everyone thinks it's good to be single, free and easy, and you can have a trip anytime and anywhere.

Of course, it's not selfish, now people don't want to get married, and getting married without true love is equivalent to going to the grave.

It's not selfishness, it's life's own free choice.

Marriage is a personal matter, a private thing, of course, from a certain point of view, not wanting to get married is also a kind of selfishness.

People who don't want to get married must have not found their favorite partner yet, it's not that they don't want to get married, and it's not a sign of selfishness.

This is the reason for the mentality, which shows that it is still good to be single, and there is no need to get married again.

Do you know how much Liaoning's knot ratio is? More than forty percent.

If everything happens for a reason, and parents have reasons for divorce, why can't children have reasons not to get married?

This question depends on the individual, I think that not getting married is not necessarily selfish, and in turn, people who marry are not necessarily selfish, which varies from person to person, depending on the situation, there is a reason not to take it, after all, their ideas are different, and now the individual has the final say, and no one can influence it? However, in the rectum of people, since people live in the world, they still have to get married and go to the family.

People who don't want to get married, not selfishly, but have not yet found their favorite object, and when they reach the age of marriage, they will want to find a person they can rely on for a lifetime and have a warm home of their own.

I feel that the age of marriage is 24 or 26 years old, which is a more appropriate age for marriage. Because marriage at this age is generally mature both physically and psychologically, and it also has personal experience, it is tired of personal single life, and it is eager to have a happy family life. More importantly, it is important that women in this age group have a relatively stable and unstable job and can share the burden of the family, because family life needs the support of both men and women.

In fact, sometimes there is no need to consider age when getting married, as long as you reach the legal age of marriage stipulated by the state. Two people truly love each other, and both parties feel that they are suitable together. If you are happy and have the ability to support the life of the whole family, you can register for marriage.

The reasons for not wanting to get married are:

1.Alone, you can also have a good life.

A person can support the years and live freely, although this kind of life occasionally feels like something is missing, more often it will only feel that it is good to live like this. Since a person can live well, the desire for love and marriage will naturally not be so strong.

2.I didn't meet the right person, and I didn't want to compromise.

It is often said that life is improvised, and there is no perfect. However, even though two people will have all kinds of problems together, many people still have their own expectations for the future other half, before everything comes to firewood, rice, oil and salt.

Compared with finding someone to marry because of pressure and age, more people hope that their other half is what they really like, and the other party is also sincere enough to them. A low-quality marriage is far inferior to a high-quality single. If there will be regrets no matter how you choose this path in life, then the most important thing is to make yourself comfortable with the bends.

3.I feel that marriage is too expensive and tiring, and it is good to be single.

In contrast, if you are alone, you only need to support yourself, and you only need to take care of your own mood, which seems to be much easier, and life is much better than getting married.

Moreover, the pressure of life, the high cost of living, the boring housing, the children go to school, the pension by themselves, etc., most people's income cannot solve the above problems, and it is difficult to get married, so they are afraid of marriage.

To be honest, marriage may not be as good as imagined, but there is no need to be unwilling to love, or choose not to get married. For marriage, you don't have to settle, but you don't have to reject it, you still have to look for it and try to experience it as much as possible.

In real life, often because of poor information communication, misunderstandings with those we love deeply are getting deeper and deeper, and there is an invisible wall between each other, and we accidentally go to the opposite side of love.

Of course, we do not rule out some family members who are too paranoid or even unable to communicate at all, at this time your communication will not only seem pale and weak, but may even attract more malicious slander. When a relationship is constantly cut and the reason is still chaotic, the distance in space may be more able to save yourself from the rough, can't I hide if I can't provoke it?

So back to the subject's question, is it a sign of selfishness not to get married and not have children? This problem is not simply black and white yes or no, we need to first find the root cause of this problem and see the crux of the problem.

Why don't you want to get married and have children? Whether it is a rebellious psychology caused by external pressure, or because of inner fear and uncertainty, or just wanting to live a good life ?.. easily and freely

All of this is more worthy of our time to explore, and when the root of the problem comes to the surface, we may be able to see our hearts more clearly, and perhaps at this time, the problem does not exist at all.

Because in the end, there is only one root of the problem, voluntary rather than passive choices, and those who label you as selfish because of your choices are not out of love, but moral kidnapping.

Getting married and having children, such a private matter, should have been decided by yourself.

Married or not, is a state of life, not to say that married people will be particularly selfless, nor to say that unmarried people are so selfish, selfish or not, has been formed before marriage, selfless and unmarried are selfless, in the same way, selfish, selfish people who do not marry will also have this part of the character, that is, the so-called leopard can't change to eat. If you look at a person who doesn't get married, from a private point of view, it's probably not that he is selfish because he doesn't get married, but because he can't get married because he's selfish! This is called selflessness.

<> people will have selfishness, just like people will have inertia, if we don't have selfishness, then how can we be selfish to others? In the process of growing up, we will understand a lot, gain a lot, and of course lose a lot, which is destined to be a fact, some people will react faster, and some people will react slower. If selfishness is not based on the suffering and loss of others, it is human nature.

The selfish heart is always ready to act, but it takes courage to do selfish things. If it is selfishness without regard for others, it is not just selfishness, but greed, recklessness! It's impossible.

When we return to ourselves, we should not kidnap others and tie ourselves down with whether to marry or not. Selfishness has nothing to do with getting married or not, but it can make us selfish because of whether we're married or not. What would you do?

The ordinary mind sees the loss, and the constant sees the impermanence, that's what it is. Respect everyone's freedom. On the premise of not causing harm to others.

Everyone has the right to make decisions for themselves. I think that unmarried people are not selfish, but a symbol of spiritual hail independence after economic independence.

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Everyone has the right to choose their own life, whether to fall in love or not to get married is a personal choice, there is no need to get the understanding and consent of others, and there is no need to be responsible for anyone, it is enough to be responsible for yourself. Only if you fall in love and are not responsible for your lover, and if you are married, you are not responsible for your family, then you are selfish.

I don't think that's the case with the potato key. I think they're very carefree and know exactly what they want. And then there is the current social collapse is very realistic, money is supreme.

In fact, it is not selfish, because everyone has their own life wants, and we should respect other people's ideas and live the way we want.

I think yes, I get married to a large extent because I want to have a child of my own, if I don't want to have children, then I don't need to use a marriage letter to bind everyone, you can live together or just fall in love.

In fact, there is no regret after irrelevance, as long as you know the pros and cons of things, in fact, it is nothing more than those few things, that is, you must accept yourself alone when you are old, there are no children around you to ask for warmth, you must have to go to the elderly yourself, because no one helps you to support the elderly, with the concept that Gao Huai's previous children are to raise children and prevent old age, now if you have money, you can go to a nursing home, you can ask someone to take care of you, it is a big premise that you have to have money, rich enough to cope with your pension capital. You also have to know that when you see people enjoying family fun, you can't enjoy it if you have a daughter and a child under your knees. This is what you have to face.

Of course, the advantage of not having children is that you don't have to take children, take the time to grow up with children, which can be described as quite good, once a real woman has a child, it is a bird with broken wings, and it is difficult to fly if you want to fly, of course, especially rich people are not counted, maybe people don't need to bring their own children as soon as they are born.

This is just because of people, if you don't have children, you don't need to get married, you get married into another family, what you want to take care of is your own parents before, and marriage is to take care of your in-laws who are not related by blood.

Unmarriage doctrine is that there is no intention to get married at all, and burying the bridge in the state is a statement that is suitable for which object is suitable or inappropriate.

No, it is a person's choice of his own way of life, which does not harm others and is selfish, let alone selfish.

It's not, it's just from the perspective of the old parents, it's definitely selfish, but it's a personal choice, just don't regret it.

In fact, for some people, not getting married is not selfish, and insisting on getting married regardless of the actual situation is really selfish.

With housing prices so high now, how many young people can buy a house on their own before the age of 30? And the car, what about the bride price? In his 20s, it's not that he doesn't want to get married, but he can't afford to get married.

If you get married, an ordinary family is bound to squeeze out your parents' life savings in order to be able to afford a house, so what about the quality of life and pension of your parents in the future? Is it unfair to our parents who have worked hard all their lives, raised us, and brought up their grandchildren, and have no free time of their own? Everyone has only one life, and the value of our life should not come at the expense of the value of the lives of our parents.

Also, if you can't afford family life, but you are in a hurry to get married and have children, is it really fair to your children? If the quality of life has been very low, it doesn't matter if you are miserable, but what if you suffer your children? What if the child grows up and repeats his own life of toil, instability and no future in sight?

If you can't afford to have children, is it selfish not to have children? If you can't afford to have children, you have to be hard-working, so it's really selfish to support yourself in old age, right?

So it's not that not getting married is selfish, it's not easy for everyone in the world, and some people just choose the path they can afford. It does not drag others down, nor does it harm anyone.