If you are not used to receiving help from others, is there a psychological problem?

First of all, you are a very independent and strong person, you don't want to go to others for help if you have a problem, even if someone else offers to help, you don't want to trouble others, your strong independence is worth learning from, but you haven't thought about it, those who want to lend a helping hand, sincerely want to help you, what will they think in their hearts? Think about it from another perspective, if you do something for your friend, but she says he doesn't need your help, will you suspect that she doesn't see you as a friend?

So even if you really don't need the help of others, sometimes you have to learn to accept the help that others offer you for the sake of others' feelings, so as to strengthen your emotional communication with your friends.

No, you're not arrogant, do you have a high rate of contacts? Your life is very bad, just like me, when I was a child, if I had something good, they would play with me, if I didn't, they wouldn't play with me, I didn't want to deal with him at all, if you meet your true friends, you will naturally accept help from others, you just don't want to owe others favors.

No. I just don't like to owe someone else's affection.

Me too. Of course, I thought, if I can do it myself, why should I ask someone else to help me? Try not to bother others.

I think it depends on the situation, and if you can't solve it if you have to help others, it's not great, but if you can solve it yourself, I don't think it's necessary to rely too much on others.

But it should be noted that it is necessary to pay off the debt of favor after receiving help, otherwise the reputation may not be good, because the society is more realistic now.

I'm just afraid of indebtedness, and I won't accept help from others unless I have to.

It's not that there is a psychological problem, it's just that you are a little arrogant.

According to the psychoanalytic doctrine of the great philosopher Nietzsche, reluctance to accept help from others, like not giving cheap sympathy to others, is a manifestation of the strong willpower that belongs to man.

It may be that the person who gave the help was in a bad way, or that person had a good face and was embarrassed to accept it

A lot of other people's help can actually be done by yourself, so why bother them.

Just do it yourself.

I'm like that, because your question is not very clear, so I have a different opinion.

It should be a rebellious mentality. It is also a manifestation of a lack of social responsibility. However, even if it is a matter of effort, it is different in everyone's heart, because the values are different, and the same thing has different weight in everyone's heart.

The state of college students' sense of social responsibility is mixed, and they have a relatively clear understanding of the current situation of mankind, but on the other hand, they show a tendency towards self-interest. They have a strong sense of responsibility for their family, society, and country, but they have a weaker sense of responsibility for others.

The lack of social responsibility of adolescents is not only due to social reasons, but also to the problems of adolescents themselves, and the social reasons are first of all the diversity of today's society, which makes organizations and individuals pay too much attention to their own interests, and it is difficult to identify with other social people living in it, and they are not willing to take social responsibility.

Under the influence of the market economy, the establishment of the market economy is in line with the choice of social development, but it is easy to separate the individual from social relations, which is very unfavorable to the cultivation of young people's sense of social responsibility.

We live in an Internet era, the impact of the Internet era has positive and negative, all kinds of ideas on the Internet are mixed, the sense of social responsibility comes from the formation of participation, and teenagers are addicted to the virtual environment of the Internet, which is very unfavorable to the formation of a sense of social responsibility.

The mistakes of education, the focus of our education emphasizes the training of students' brains, ignores the improvement of their souls, and consciously or unconsciously emphasizes the relationship between success and personal interests, which also weakens their sense of responsibility to society and the collective.

Lacking the necessary means, in our education, indoctrination sex education dominates, students passively accept more, active acceptance less, and cultivating a sense of responsibility among young people should be an important issue facing higher education.

Cultivating young people's sense of social responsibility is first of all to teach them to do their own things well and have a sense of responsibility for growth, then a sense of family responsibility, a sense of social responsibility, and a higher level of national responsibility and world responsibility.

First of all, let them realize that social responsibility is the only way, is the highest level of realizing the needs of life, the realization of personal value is actually inseparable from the overall development of society, everyone must take the initiative to assume social responsibility.

Adolescents are in a period of sound personality, and the social self directly affects their positioning in social roles, so it is necessary to strengthen the construction of overall self-awareness.

The first is to emphasize the sense of social responsibility of young people, the second is to encourage young people to participate in more volunteer activities, the third is to strengthen school education, and the learning content of civic responsibility should run through the curriculum of all grades, and the fourth is to integrate the sense of social responsibility into family education and cultivate children's interest in public affairs and social activities.

Personally, I think there are three kinds. This person has a withdrawn personality and belongs to the passive type, and when others help him, he will help others and repay others. I wanted to help others in my heart, but I was afraid that the other party would thank him, and he couldn't cope with it himself, so he simply didn't take action.

This person's purpose is extremely profitable, and the benefits and returns are disproportionate, or they are too conceited and waste time and costs.

The things that work hard are also different in everyone's hearts, the values are different, and the weight of the same thing in everyone's hearts is also different. For example, when someone asks me for the answer during the exam, I think I just need to say it. But I think it's a violation of discipline, and I never say it.

There are also some things that are really not about values, but because they are too simple, they also make people feel that there is no need to help.

In fact, I am also very confused, I feel very compassionate in nature, and I am quite willing to help others when they encounter difficulties, but some very trivial things, such as picking up a courier, helping to carry food, borrowing money (not urgent) ......I always feel that such a trivial thing can be solved by myself but I have to be lazy and trouble others, but I am a person who is not good at refusing, so I have become a good person in the dormitory, what everyone likes to call me, but also annoyed, don't help, hurt the harmony, help, very unhappy, there is no solution at present.

The natural environment and state of mind. A good environment makes people feel good, or if the individual is positive and optimistic, he will be more willing to help others. For example, good weather, fresh air, noise, and many more.

Whether or not someone else is present. The more people present, the less inclined the individual is to help others, because the responsibility is dispersed at this point. However, if someone takes the lead in doing good, it will have an exemplary effect and make people more willing to help others.

Time and other stresses, when the individual is under a lot of self-stress, such as time constraints, it is difficult to help others.

The main body suffers more than joy. The subjective experience lacks the experience of being helped and helping others, and lacks beneficial gains. Social phobia, the clinical symptoms are not like this, which is why the current text description is more of a maladaptive feeling in communication, and more connected to personal boundaries and a sense of control.

Fear of trouble is related to the benefit experience after not having trouble, celibacy and interaction with parents, whether it is the joy of feeling the interaction or the troublesome rejection and neglect.

You can only help once and for a while, but many people think that they can pester others and continue to help. In the past, I used to help others change things, and if I changed them, I would have to do other things, but he didn't use his brain, which annoyed me very much, so I didn't bother to pay attention to it later. Besides, do you dare to help the old lady cross the street now?

Why are there things that others are reluctant to help with?

Do something not because it's simple, but because it's worth it. Writer Yang Daxia Yang Ke believes that others help because they have value.

What kind of character is this person who often helps others but is unwilling to accept help from others? In fact, everyone has their own way of life and their own principles, and there is nothing to doubt or blame. Some people are reluctant to ask for help from others, and any hardship is borne by one person, some are too self-esteem, and some are unwilling to bear the debt of human affection.

And for others to take the initiative to help, they will be disgusted, which is a kind of self-esteem and inferiority complex. Will think that helping oneself is a kind of charity to oneself. Strong self-esteem and inferiority cause him to have a sense of exclusion and dismantlement, and to guard against everything.

This is actually a normal phenomenon, especially for an introverted person. They themselves are not sociable and mainly look at the personnel aspect. When encountering difficulties, they will not ask for help lightly, and they will be wary of helping others.

Society is composed of people with various personalities, and it cannot be required that everyone has the same personality, everyone has their own habits of life and doing things, understand and get used to it, everything is natural, and there is no difference.

Then I analyze the following three possibilities! This person's self-esteem has become so strong that it is in a deformed state! Anyone who helps him will make him feel that it is a kind of sympathy and pity, or all the help will make him feel that he is incompetent, so he will refuse everyone's help, because accepting help will greatly hurt his somewhat mutated self-esteem!

This man has a somewhat paranoid personality! He may stubbornly believe that through his own efforts, he will definitely succeed! He didn't realize that there are times, some things, and after all, his own strength is limited!

One person can only row a small boat, and rowing a big boat requires the strength of more people! But he has to go all the way to the dark, he doesn't think that his judgment is wrong, in other words, he may not have seen the reality clearly, and he can see how many pounds and taels he has!

In this case, it is also possible to refuse help from others! It's not too likely, but it's also possible! That is, the person who has encountered the wall 10,000 times has met a friend who wants to help him, but because of the stubbornness of the previous person and the number of times he has encountered the wall, the person who wants to help him has been reprimanded for him too much accusations and lessons, or there is a kind of high-mindedness, playing the appearance of a savior, this situation will also lead to the resistance of the person who has hit the wall!

That's all I can tell!

The arrogant character can't open his mouth to ask for help, the resolute character, and he wants to save face and suffer the sin.

It should be a people-pleasing personality, because they don't want to trouble others, but they are willing to help others.

This is a very loving and selfless character, such a person is very kind and very good to everyone.

Such a person has a very strong self-esteem, and there is some vanity in his bones, and a little inferiority.

That's not good.

People have to learn to draw on the strength of others.

One person can't do everything.

It takes everyone to work together.

He has a strong sense of self-esteem, closes himself, does not want others to see the other side of himself, and may be very sincere to people and things, whether a person with this character is good or not, the good thing is to make others feel that he is a person who is unwilling to admit defeat, and the bad self is very tired.

It's not good, you have to help others and accept help from others.

There is a little bit of autism, and it is not a lack of confidence.

Answer: People who don't want to be helped! It is a strong personality! Big skin! Explosive character! Straight and fast! Work efficiently and quickly! Able to endure hardship! Love cleanliness! Liso's people! Can the answer be accepted?

Have a strong character. If you are reluctant to communicate with people. Then it's autism.

Summary. The reason for refusing to accept help from others is actually because he may be a stronger person. So as long as it is a problem that he can solve, he never wants to bow to others, he doesn't want others to help him, he will feel that this is a charity, he will feel that he will be looked down upon by others, and he will feel that he has no dignity and no face, which is very normal, because everyone is almost like this.

The reason for refusing to accept help from others is actually because he may be a stronger person. So as long as it is a problem that he can solve, he never wants to bow to others, and he doesn't want others to help him, he will feel that this is a kind of charity, he feels that he will be looked down upon by others, and he feels that he has no dignity and no face.

The psychological problem is great, but I don't accept enlightenment, and that's why.

Hello! The situation you are talking about seems to be a problem with personality, that is, the early stage of personality formation does not form a good interpersonal atmosphere.

My ex-boyfriend doesn't like to accept help from others, he thinks that accepting help from others is to owe people favors, so I don't have so much concern, sometimes I feel that others help me, just just want to help me, and don't have so many ideas. Of course, they help me, and I will help them when they have something. However, people don't have to help you for favors.

People who do not accept help from others are generally people with high self-esteem, they think they can handle these things, they are not willing to cooperate with others or they are not willing to admit that they are not doing well. It's a sign of overconfidence. This kind of person tends to be very arrogant and has a difficult feeling to get along with.

And then there's my ex-boyfriend, who feels embarrassed to owe someone a favor. I feel that I don't owe others favors, there is no baggage, and life is easy, but this kind of people generally live very tired, because they have a sense of guilt for the help of others, so they are always reluctant to speak, and their self-esteem is very strong, this kind of person often cares about their own face, so when we help this type of person, we need to pay more attention to the other party's face.

But. I don't think that other people's help is for interest, this kind of people, often very rational, people feel unkind, although it is good, but if you are always restrained in front of your friends, it will be difficult to have a true good friend.

In fact, it's good that we have a calm mind and are willing to accept the help of our friends, because helping each other and relying on each other is the true meaning of a person. If you can't make a forest alone, you may not be able to achieve great things alone.