My mother in law wants to come to my house to see the children, and my mother in law always comes to

You can try to get your husband to tell your mother-in-law that your mother-in-law is now older, and you have already taken a long vacation, and you have already made a plan to quit your job and take care of your children, and now that you don't plan to change your plans, you don't have to trouble your mother-in-law to suffer from all the time. If your mother-in-law wants to see your grandson, she is welcome to come and take care of your confinement, and when the confinement is over, your mother-in-law can go back to her hometown to rest.

In addition, you still have to talk to your husband clearly, most of the parenting concepts of the elderly do not conform to modern parenting concepts, and it is difficult for the two generations to communicate, and you and your mother-in-law both belong to more stubborn personalities and are prone to conflicts. Your husband may not understand very well, so you have to make it clear to him that most of the conflicts between women start from trivial matters, even if you are careful in everything and there is a time when you are not careful, it is not your biological mother and daughter, and it is even more troublesome to have conflicts and misunderstandings, unlike the mother and daughter who are fine after the fight. If you ask either of you to blindly forbear, it is not the solution, because there is always a time when forbearance is unbearable, every day two women are in the same room, 24 hours a day, neither of them goes to work, the probability of conflict is higher.

Therefore, even if it is for the sake of your husband and not to embarrass him, you should not let your mother-in-law live in your house for too long. Because after a long time, the contradiction between the two generations will inevitably appear, and there is no solution except to live separately.

Your husband expects you to be under the same roof and be safe with each other, which is a beautiful dream, and many families are torn apart by this beautiful dream. (It's a bit of an emphatic statement, but it's true.) How many conflicts between husband and wife are caused by conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, I believe I don't need to give another example, right?

You can mention your husband, and as long as he agrees with your ideas, you can work together to find a way to persuade his mother. ）

It's hard. If you don't let the old woman bring her own grandson, the old woman is sadder than death. Only when she comes, take a step and see a step. It's about communicating slowly.

There are also such people.

Don't talk about your mother-in-law in terms of stock indexes yourself.

If you are sure that you can't change it, I hope you think about the bright side.

If you treat your mother-in-law as your own mother, it is estimated that there will be no contradiction.

It's the kind of one that doesn't let him worry about it.

<> most mothers-in-law are actually reluctant to take care of their children, and they still help to take care of their children in the final analysis, which is all kind. In fact, every elder loves children, as long as the mother does these things well in life, I believe that your mother-in-law will also do her best to help you take care of the baby. In fact, most of the elderly hope that their grandchildren will be good, as long as your communication methods are good, the elderly can listen to them.

For the elderly with children, there should be enough tolerance, some not in principle, the small things in life should be given to the elderly to a certain extent, irrelevant things, there is no need to argue with the elderly.

If your mother-in-law has many bad habits that require your patience and tolerance, after all, there is an inertia in what you are used to, and it cannot be changed overnight, but there must be a gradual process. For this reason, please give your mother-in-law a little time, a little encouragement, a little confidence, she will eventually give you a satisfactory result! In fact, the responsibilities and obligations of the elderly do not include bringing babies to juniors, so accusing them of bringing babies is untenable in itself.

But any problem, detached from reality, is idealism, in the young people need help, and the old people can do their best, appropriately help to bring up the baby, this is a fact that most people recognize.

A mother in the group said: The children are all brought by themselves, and the mother-in-law helps herself watch for 2 to 3 hours every day, and keeps saying that the baby is so well-behaved and she is very uncomfortable.

At first, I didn't understand what this mother meant, and it was not good to say that her child was well-behaved? Is it good to say that your baby is too troublesome?

Later, after thinking about it for a while, maybe this mother has this kind of thinking:

First: I feel that my mother-in-law's time to see the baby is too short.

Judging from the tone of this mother's mother: Mother-in-law will show the baby for 2-3 hours every day.

This word expresses that she is unhappy about this matter, why does her mother-in-law watch the child all day, but my mother-in-law only watches it for 2-3 hours?

Second: I feel that the child is well-behaved and does not realize my own hardship.

During the period when the mother-in-law was watching the baby, the mother-in-law thought that the child was very well-behaved, and she usually looked at the child very hard, and the mother-in-law didn't notice it at all.

Third: Saying that the child is well-behaved, it seems that the mother-in-law sees the child better, and the way she jumps seems to be that she looks at the child very badly.

Therefore, this mother has an uncomfortable feeling in her heart.

In fact, there is no need to feel uncomfortable in this situation, you can change your mindset to look at this matter:

The mother-in-law said that the child is well-behaved, so she changed her thinking to see:

First: Mother-in-law likes children, even if the child is naughty, in the eyes of the grandmother, it is cute, which shows that the mother-in-law loves children very much, isn't it great?

Second: Mother-in-law is also a person who has taken children, so she naturally knows the hard work of raising children, but she can say that the child is well-behaved, instead of saying, why is it so difficult for you to bring a child? It shows that the old man is actually still kind, and he is tired of taking care of children, and an old man may be more tired, but the old man has a more positive attitude, isn't it good?

Third, if the child is very well-behaved in front of her mother-in-law, the mother should also reflect on herself, why the child is very well-behaved in front of her grandmother, and she is so disobedient and naughty in front of herself.

It's normal for a mother-in-law to always come to see the child, and she thinks that her grandson will come, so it's better than not coming to see her grandson.

The mother-in-law came to see the child about your bird, this is her grandson, and she wants to see who is her right.

It's not good, you can rest and catch your breath.

The mother-in-law did not show the child, how to treat her.

Hello, in this case, you should ask your husband to come forward to solve the problem Since your mother-in-law chooses not to help take care of the children, then watch it yourself, don't go to work and don't make money, and let your husband support herself and support the children. If the husband is stressed, then let him go to his mother-in-law to take care of the children, if the husband is not too stressed, then watch the children by himself, exercise while watching the children, and cultivate the things he likes. The mother-in-law asks for money every month, and the daughter-in-law doesn't care, you just need to take care of your husband's wallet, so that he can't have extra money for the mother-in-law, and let him refuse the mother-in-law's request.

Save your husband's money and play happily with your children.

Don't expect anyone to take care of your children, if you have enough ability, find a nanny to take you to work, if your own mother feels sorry for her daughter, they can also take care of the child, we can't point to the mother-in-law's house for everything, if there is no mother-in-law, the child can't grow up? When my children were young, no one took the children to do manual work in the full moon, and I believe that a rural daughter-in-law with two children can make money by doing self-****, I think you will be able to do it. This should be addressed before you become pregnant.

You should bring your own child, and if you can't bring it for financial reasons, you can postpone your pregnancy. It is irresponsible for your children to do this, the growth of children is inseparable from their parents, your parents have raised you and have fulfilled their responsibilities, they are old and have no responsibility to take your children. Don't put your own responsibilities on others.

Mother-in-law has no obligation to show you the child, to show you is love, not to show you is normal, mother-in-law raised your husband, there is no obligation to see the next generation, those mother-in-law help to bring should also be grateful, don't take it as should! Before you have a child, everything should be planned, not planned is your own problem, there are many mothers who work while taking children, I know a mother who runs a nail salon, while working with children, the child is now one and a half years old, sent to kindergarten, the child is very good, very cheerful, but also leather, not squeamish, she is because there is no mother-in-law, father-in-law and mother-in-law have died early, there is no idea of relying on mother-in-law. The child will also grow up, and the work will not be delayed, people can do as much as they have any conditions, don't do what you can't reach, so you will be tired!

Hello! 1.There is a good saying: It is difficult for a clean official to cut off family affairs. There is no right or wrong way to take the mother-in-law's teasing practice.

2.Dear, if you are a mother-in-law, you also have 2 sons, you take care of the store for the eldest son's house, your younger daughter-in-law gives birth to a child, and you don't show the child to the younger daughter-in-law, she must be unhappy. It's also difficult for you to be a mother-in-law, you don't have a doppelganger technique, you can't watch the store and take care of the children at the same time, right?

So there is always a daughter-in-law who will be unhappy, so there is no right or wrong thing you do.

3.The child was born to your young couple, and the law stipulates that the responsibility and obligation to raise the child is you and your husband, so the mother-in-law does not show you the child, and she is not wrong. If the mother-in-law shows you the child, it is the mother-in-law who is polite, and you husband and wife should be thankful.

4.Dear, when you encounter such a thing, you can only let your husband discuss with your mother-in-law and eldest son, saying that your mother-in-law's wrong approach will not solve the problem of watching children. Therefore, the harmony of every family requires communication and understanding.

It must be very wrong in your eyes, but in the eyes of your sister-in-law, it is not a good thing to be checked. Isn't it common for mother-in-law to be partial, this kind of thing you are noisy and noisy, let your husband solve this problem. If your mother-in-law is determined not to give you a child, you also have to reflect on whether you also have your own Wonju Sonin?

It is definitely wrong for your mother-in-law to do this, but you also have to see if it is your own reason, otherwise your mother-in-law will not be able to treat you like this.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not very easy to get along with, her eldest son is her own after all, and the child is indeed not easy to bring, so you can ask your husband to discuss it with her mother-in-law.

I don't usually open **, I don't feel the need to see them affect our own lives, and only those who have this time to spend time with their families and be a warm-hearted person are the happiest people

Life is not easy, and we are eager to meet warm-hearted people.

We are at home, hoping to have a warm-hearted lover who thinks of you in everything, speaks in a measured manner, and never makes you angry, how good.

In the unit, there is a warm-hearted group, who don't care about everything, don't laugh or talk, and never talk to you, how good;

Outside, there is a group of warm-hearted people, there are people to help them in everything, everyone is kind, and they never blush with you, how good.

If there is such an opportunity, I am afraid that he will be the happiest person in the world. I would like to be such a person, and I don't think anyone would want to. However, looking back, is he a person who thinks about his lover in everything at home?

I always want my lover to treat myself well, but do I treat my lover well!

The ancients said that respecting each other is like a guest, do you treat your lover as a guest? Perhaps, it was okay when I got married for a while, but after a long time, my lover's face became wrinkled, not beautiful, and her speech was vulgar, so I got tired of it.

Quarrels are frequent, and it is not pleasing to anyone's eyes.

So when you ask people to be nice to you, first you have to be nice to people. Those who love love to return, and the love is deep. On the contrary, complainers complain and ...... when they are distracted

In the unit, you are eager to meet a group of warm-hearted groups, everyone is a group of harmonious, empathetic, do not care about things, the overall amount of others, every day smile at you, never quarrel with you.

But have you done that? Do you give your brightest smile to your colleagues every day?

Do you think about your colleagues and leaders every day? Don't you ever take your anger out on others?

If so, congratulations, you must be the most popular person and the happiest person.

But the fact is that you always put the scum on your face, a moment of sunshine and a while, a moment of this is not good, a moment of that is not good, in front of colleagues to say yes and wrong, although it is not a big deal, but it makes people feel that you are always a little wrong, colleagues are alienated from you, leaders do not trust you, such days can be called good days.

Summary. Dear, hello, taking children is the responsibility of every parent in the world, the law does not stipulate that the elderly must help their children to lead their grandchildren, your mother-in-law to show the child is she willing, you have no way, this is her freedom, but you can't because she doesn't help you take care of the child and you don't support her in the future, this is also the law.

Dear, hello, taking children is the responsibility of every parent in the world, the law does not stipulate that the elderly must help the children to lead their grandchildren, your mother-in-law to the concubine to see the child that she is willing, you have no way at all, this is her freedom, but you can't because she doesn't help you take care of the child and you will be stuffy to not support her, this is also the law.

Dear, did you and your mother-in-law have a holiday?

There is no holiday, my mother-in-law shows the three children to the old family, my children and the old family do not go to school in the same township and can't take care of the children, but now the posture is defeated in I have to go to work, the child must be picked up and picked up, the mother-in-law is in a dilemma and says that she shouted to show me the old family, and the three children are not taken care of.

Relatives and friends, and slippery your mother-in-law has been taking care of the old family's children, after all, there are feelings. But she definitely wants to take care of your children together, but there is no way to neutralize it.

It's not fair to me that she either doesn't look at both.

Dear, I suggest you talk to your mother-in-law, and if you don't want to come forward, you can ask your husband to tell her.

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