Premarital Syndrome How to calm your mind

If you want to calm your mind and make yourself happy to get married, then you can do the following: First, when you think about his shortcomings and bad possibilities, try to think about the good and the good. I believe that he will become better after marriage, and "no one is perfect", everyone has both shortcomings and advantages, and there is no perfect person.

Therefore, it is inevitable that your one will have some shortcomings, and you should accept him calmly. Second, try not to think about his shortcomings or think less, but more about his strengths, think about the good times you had with him, think about how he made you like him, and the happiness he brings you, etc., so that your mood will be much calmer. Third, you should think more about the good life after marriage, which will arouse your desire for marriage, thus reducing your fear of marriage.

I think that if you follow the above method, you will definitely be able to calm down and make yourself happy and happy to get married! After reading your additions to the question, I think your worries are even more unnecessary. Since the two of you are in love, but after three years of ups and downs, you have come over and are ready to enter the palace of marriage, which shows that your love can stand the test and is true love, so you don't have to have the above unnecessary worries and thoughts.

You also said that "you didn't believe that he would change his mind when you beat you to death before", so now that he is about to get married, why do you have the idea of worrying that he will change his mind? It seems that you really have a bit of "premarital syndrome", but it is the opposite of what others think! People are worried about whether the other party will change their minds when they fall in love, but after marriage, there are generally few such worries, at least much less than before marriage (although there are many people who divorce after marriage in society now, but there are always fewer divorces after marriage than when they fall in love before marriage!).

Why? Because marriage is the sublimation of love and the final destination of love, the two of you are about to get married, which means that the love between the two of you will be sublimated, your love will be fixed in the form of law, and the love between you will be protected by the law.

Why do you have unnecessary worries? This worry and fear of yours is really superfluous and unnecessary. I advise you to abandon this unnecessary worry and fear, happily welcome the arrival of the big day, and happily marry and live!

It's not as scared as you think.

Then you love one another.

You just don't believe in the power of your love.

Adjust your mindset and mood.

Go and meet your bright future.

If it really doesn't work.

Let's just put it on hold.

Wait a minute.

Hold the hand of the son, and grow old with the son. "Marriage is a sweet and warm commitment. And in the pre-marriage waiting, some people in Shanghai have not been sweet because of this beautiful promise—or anxious and short-tempered; or depressed, insomnia and depression.

Condition: Suspicion.

Cause of illness: Notarization of pre-marital property.

Mr. Liu and his girlfriend Miss Cheng were originally scheduled to register their marriage at the end of May, but last month, Miss Cheng suddenly notarized his property to Mr. Liu before marriage. The reason is that a colleague of Miss Cheng's newly divorced did not notarize her property before marriage, and the two parties had a very unpleasant quarrel over the division of property during the divorce. Ms. Cheng hoped to protect the rights and interests of both parties through prenuptial property notarization, but this move aroused Mr. Liu's disgust.

Symptoms: Thinking, suspicion.

Mr. Liu believes that his girlfriend's proposal for premarital property notarization is a manifestation of her money above everything else. Miss Cheng is the only daughter in the family, her father runs a small factory, and the family has a house and a car; Mr. Liu's family background is average, and some friends and colleagues laugh at him for "climbing high". The friend's joke can be laughed off, but the girlfriend's sentence of "property notarization" hurt Mr. Liu's self-esteem.

He began to wonder if Miss Cheng's mother's family looked down on her, whether Miss Cheng was leaving a way out for a future divorce, and even began to doubt the purity of their love.

Premarital property notarization is very popular abroad. Because it does not conform to traditional concepts, it has not been understood by the Chinese people for a long time.

Husbands and wives do not dare to talk about the notarization of property agreements lightly, for fear of hurting their feelings, and many people also associate property agreements with divorce. In fact, from a legal point of view, premarital property notarization is a rational approach. On the other hand, pre-marital property is obtained through personal efforts and is a kind of self-identification.

Notarization of property does not mean that husband and wife cannot share weal and woe, and as long as both parties start to run a family after marriage, there is no conflict at all. Nowadays, people have gradually realized the important role of prenuptial property notarization. According to some data, the respondents believe that it is necessary to notarize premarital property.

Amusing. None of these things happened. Why do you think so much?

If you don't trust him so much, why do you want to marry him?

Now that you're going to marry him, concentrate on being your bride.

You don't trust him so much, what will you do when you get married in the future?

It depends on the situation Whether there is any way to say it It seems that you are quite willing The man is not very reassuring to you Ask yourself the reason for the question** Can you accept it.

Don't be unconfident in your choices, be brave and you can be happy.

It's good to calm down and be calm!

The unhappiness of many marriages mostly comes from the mistrust between the parties. If you love him, trust him. If you want to get rid of the troubles and worries of economic problems such as housing, you must have the ability, and you can live a very nourishing life if you leave him one day, what are you afraid of?

After marriage, you can try to control the financial power as much as possible, and you can also make yourself feel at ease.

How do you always think about things that he treats you badly and changes his mind! In fact, you can come this far, there should be a lot of things that can be solved and faced, right? Do you think so, are you not confident in yourself or are you not confident in your future husband?

If that's the case, why didn't you want to be together in the first place? You can go so far, can't you have some confidence in the rest of his time together? Still thinking about the house after the divorce?

You love him, and he loves you, that's enough, right? Love him, believe that He can give you happiness! Believe that you will get a lot of joy from following him in the future!

Marriage is not a death sentence for you! Think about the joy of getting married, imagine you building your own home with someone you love! And then there are your children! You're a great family!

Think about it again, you are guessing so much here before the future happens, is it necessary? Want to get a divorce before you get married? You're too bad, aren't you? It's not fair to your husband!

I don't know what to do with you, maybe we're in the same situation now. I don't know what to do, people are really tired sometimes, really, for the sake of not obeying, for the sake of themselves. It's more tired for love, but this is life, since I have chosen to go on, I think about it, I can't regret it anymore, because I'm not myself, if I really run away from marriage, what will happen to my family, what do my friends think of me.

Sometimes it's not just about living for yourself. My him, we only met for five months, and we were going to get married. Now I know that we are all married because we are married.

But what can it be, it's about to end. 12 days, now the intestines are repentant, and there is no turning back.

Every woman will go through such a contradictory thought process before marriage, think more about the good, put her energy into preparing for the wedding, and wait for this stage, she will not be so troubled.

Think more about the benefits, or you won't get married, since you have so many concerns.

It is recommended to buy a book on this subject, please pay attention to your love for your lover, you are going to live together, everything is just a formality, if you insist on loving your lover forever, without suspicion, without doubt, then your love will be forever. The most feared thing between love is suspicion, once there is suspicion, then love is not called love.

I haven't been through this yet, so I can't comfort you directly, just give me my opinion. You can pay more attention to your lover, reminisce about your days together, and think about him as your partner for life.

I advise you not to let yourself be so depressed, it is unrealistic to dream there, to find someone to talk to, say all these thoughts, make appropriate adjustments psychologically, be optimistic about marriage, don't think about marriage to the extreme, you should think about how to change happiness by forming a small family, and you are the obligation of a family member to repay the mortgage. A man's heart. "can't keep his heart, don't say that he is distracted", after marriage, look at the communication between you and your husband.

You have to think too much, happily put yourself on the wedding stage, and wish you happiness.

Normal, most women are like this, they are not too satisfied with their current environment, but they don't want to give up, they are entangled in themselves, just don't anger her.

So your problem is your girlfriend, he has premarital syndrome, so he doesn't want to, that is, when it comes to getting married, he always says that he is very anxious, and they don't know what to do? Right?

So the personal meaning is to say, since ah, the two of you are saying, ah, you are going to get married, so what about him? There is a problem in this regard, I personally think that it is necessary to actively carry out **ah, cooperate with the doctor**, so that it can be done, right? So any problem can be solved by **, so if it is solved, then the two of you can enter the palace of marriage, and it will be very smooth, right?

The above is a personal answer to your question, I hope it can help you, you must see a doctor!

Finally, that person wishes you health and happiness, and I wish the two of you to enter the palace of marriage as soon as possible.

Hey, the poor world wants lovers, it's good, then it's a good thing, what should I do? Respect each other. However, not seeing each other for half a year is a bit wrong for two young people who are in love, and it is not parting to go out to study and further study.

You still often go to the woman's house, see the elderly, girlfriend, communicate with them more, communicate, be generous, active, brave, diligent, polite, enthusiastic, there is nothing that you can't get by, don't think too much, I wish you both happiness!

I've had this kind of thing too, but when I proposed not to see my boyfriend for a few months, what I thought was, first, I hope my boyfriend can show up with me, and show up with my parents, so that I feel safe, and second, I'm a little disappointed in you, so I want to find a time to delay, I hope that if you can really hold on for half a year, will you look for her after half a year, and I feel that you are really sincere. You express your determination, as a man, go and talk to her parents, and tell them that you will be very happy together, and there are some things that still need a man to come forward.

It's that you can't run away, it's not that you can't ask for it. Feelings are two-sided, you can't force it, you just wait, maybe what you're waiting for is the end of the breakup, you have to be mentally prepared.

Don't see each other for half a year! She wants to dump you gradually.

Calm your mind.

Youth, when you are sad, calm your heart and think back to the happy times you have walked together; When you are indignant, calm your heart and remember the warm life you had together; When you are in pain, calm your heart because I am by your side to soothe your wounded heart.

We are young and impulsive and irritable, and this anger is like a time bomb, which may be ** at any time, and the people around us will be harmed. So for the sake of family and friendship, please calm your heart and listen to the wonderful echo in the depths of your heart, and he will tell you where to go.

When I entered junior high school, I thought that I would go through the past three years peacefully, but as I grew up, the impulsive anger in my heart came out everywhere, making many people stay away from me. Gradually, I found that I was so afraid of losing my friendship and forgetting my family. So I tried to hold back that terrible anger and let it disappear from my heart.

I thought I could calm down in this way, but he still broke out, and I was helpless, depressed, and began my personal journey. The heart finally calmed down with the years, like an angular stone, after the wind and rain, has become round and smooth, after the vicissitudes of life, you and I are eternal.

Every impulsive dream is transformed into a sea of flowers, swaying with the wind, waiting for winter to come. Flowers fall to the ground, dreams are shattered, and the heart is quiet for a lifetime.

Friend, I don't know if you have ever had such an experience, when you are very confused about a problem, the first person you want to talk to must be an old man, because in your opinion, the old man has experienced wind and frost and has looked down on everything in the world, so he will tell you what you are waiting for next. After the old man experienced the wind and rain, their hearts were as calm and clear as a bowl of water, and it seemed that in front of them, you could find the most true self.

Yes, the world is so beautiful, as long as the heart that has not healed for a long time is calm, you can feel the beauty of this natural world!

The heart of a teenager is inevitably impulsive. The flower is not drunk, intoxicated in the heart. The heart is like water, and the waves are not alarmed. In this way, I will feel extremely happy and feel the presence of warmth.