What is it like to like someone who is several times better than you?

Personally, I think it's normal to like someone who is better than yourself, and it's really because she's excellent that I like it. If it were me, I would try to make myself better and try to shorten the distance between me and her.

I feel a little inferior, I feel that I am not worthy of that person, and I can only make myself better.

Like a person who is several times better than himself, in fact, there will be some fear and some inferiority complex in his heart. Because the feeling of inferiority is that he feels inferior to him, and then how can he compare with him, and then he is afraid that he will dislike himself, or think that he has not talked about how to do well, and he will be afraid that he will like someone who is better than himself. <>

Like a person who is several times better than himself, in fact, he will be especially close to him, because he doesn't want to be too far away from him, and he wants to make himself worthy of him, at this time he will keep working hard, that is, he must be thinking in his heart, I can't be worse than him, I want to be like him, sometimes I must be like him. In this way, he will like me more In fact, I think that liking a person who is several times better than himself is actually a kind of yearning, or a way to make yourself better, because in this way, you will really work hard, because you want to be close to him, and you want to be with him more.

In fact, you will be very happy if you like a person who is several times better than yourself, and you will find that his excellence affects you in many things, and you will also find that you will be happier when you become better, because you will think that if you can be with this excellent person in the future, or be friends with this excellent person, you will also feel that your circle of friends will be different.

Over time, you'll find yourself different. So I think if it is. Like a person who is several times better than himself, although there will be some inferiority complex or some fear, but in fact, the good aspects are far greater than these, because you can make yourself better, closer to him, and become a person like him, and there will be a friend like him in life.

With such an excellent benchmark, there must be two thoughts in our hearts that intertwine and tear us.

One is, ah, I really want this person to suddenly notice me and like me, and maybe fantasize about some scenes and conversations after the two of you are together;

There is also a kind of insincerity, that is, there will be a little inferiority complex in the heart, and I feel that I will not be worthy of him or her, and people who are as good as him and her will definitely be surrounded by many better people around them, and he or she will shine so brightly, he will definitely not notice, let alone like me and a series of such negative thoughts. These two thoughts will always be in the mind, and we will pull back and forth when we see this person or miss him.

No matter what kind of feelings we have, we must know that there is nothing wrong with liking anyone, and it must be a very happy feeling to like someone who is several times better than ourselves.

However, if we feel that we are inferior to him and her in comparison, we can adjust our mentality from the following two aspects, and we can also take some actions to improve ourselves according to the actual situation.

First of allMentalWe have to feel that everyone is the same, there will be their own areas and aspects of expertise, maybe you think that he is excellent because of his achievements, or because of his outstanding ability at work, then you also have to know that in fact, there will be a lot of excellence in you. Don't feel as if you're inferior to someone because you see something good in someone else.

Yes, there isConfidence, just like in "Jane Eyre", when the female protagonist confesses to the male protagonist, she says that the souls of two people are equal.

After liking someone, you will definitely become better, because in the process of getting along with two people, if one person is always superior, then the other person will feel inferior, and want to work hard to change themselves and make themselves better, so that they can be worthy of each other and will not be pointed at by others. And only good people play with good people, and there are many real-life examples of this in reality.

After liking an excellent person, you must slowly make some changes in yourself invisibly, and make yourself better, so that you can stand in front of the other party and have the confidence to confess to the other party. There was once a classmate who was not particularly good, and the object he liked was among the best, and he was able to get a scholarship every year, so in order to be able to stand with the other party and improve the success rate of confession, he studied hard, he had some communication with the other party on the one hand, and worked hard to improve his knowledge level on the other hand, and then he not only passed level 6, but also confessed success with the other party. The life of the two people is also very happy.

Because they want to overcome their inner inferiority complex and want to become as strong and excellent as each other. Excellent talents will be discovered by others, so many people will unconsciously focus on each other when they like a person, and at the same time will compare their own conditions with each other's conditions. Make yourself stronger, so that you will be worthy of the other person.

When many people observe a couple, they will compare the appearance of the two people, if one party is too bad and the other party is too good, there must be people who feel that the motive is not pure, and say something not very good behind their backs, if the main owner knows, they must also feel very uncomfortable. And the weaker side will naturally be more concerned and will become more unconfident.

In the process of falling in love, we will have a state of admiration for people with higher ability and talent than ourselves. This state of admiration is the motivation for us to look for better people as our partners. There are many reasons for this state.

Specifically, we are more appreciative of excellent people because we strive for perfection, we can improve ourselves by being with excellent people, and we can get a more perfect life by falling in love with excellent people.1 Our heart is to pursue perfection, so we appreciate excellent people more. There is a concept in each of us that we want to make ourselves perfect. That's what we do.

From this heart, we will have a natural appreciation for excellent people, and we will want to be with them and hope to be able to associate with them. This is the fundamental reason for the emergence of our Muqiang mentality. 2. Get along with excellent people and you can be improved.

Our own development and progress come from continuous learning and improvement. And when we are with excellent people, we can learn more and improve ourselves even more. Therefore, from the bottom of my heart, I hope to be with excellent people and learn from them, so that I can achieve better development and greater success.

This state of mind is an important reason for us to be strong. 3. When you fall in love with someone who is excellent in your hand, you can make yourself get a more perfect life. From a practical point of view, the reason why there is a phenomenon of Mu Qiang in love is to make yourself get a better quality of life.

Excellent people can achieve more in the workplace, so they have better personal conditions, and with such people, their lives will be more comfortable and perfect. Such a state is obviously something that everyone wants.

Confess directly, or wait for others to confess to him.

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the problem is that if you are a little long-winded, you must have independent and wiser consciousness and action!

This is still very normal.

There are many couples with a lot of height differences.

It also feels cute.

I think you can be together if you have a common language, and the two of you don't get along closely because of your academic qualifications and majors. It depends more on your own quality and cultivation. I suggest that you resist, maintain your independent image, use your noble temperament, let him fall under your pomegranate skirt, and let him turn back and chase you.

Give him a hint. Let him speak first....

If he hits you with his education and family conditions, then don't want this kind of man. In the future, it will also be a firewood waste.

If you do everything you need to do and he still doesn't respond, it means that he doesn't love you. You don't need to say more, let's be friends first. Maybe I'll fall in love with you in the future.

By the way, it's actually quite good to be alone....Lonely wanderer.

You're beautiful enough, you happen to like you, you can help him be better, and you're trying to improve yourself as good as he is.

The pursuit of true love is not wrong, it doesn't matter if you are old, the key is to see if you love each other, but I still remind you, girls, it is always easy to be deceived, but there are also some opposite columns, you can try him, see if he really cares about you, love you, man, it's too easy to change your mind, not to mention that you are only 17, you are still very young, so be careful, and you also said, he only treats you as a child, if he really doesn't love you, then give up, even if you are excellent? It's easier to attract bees and butterflies, you should think about it, because wrong love will delay your life, girls, you should learn to protect yourself, don't suffer for love, come on! I wrote it down myself, and I told you that I was only 11 years old, hehe, I was surprised, I think I wrote it well, so let's do it, hehe.

You can get closer to the field of his development.

Then you will make yourself better than him, but、If he really likes you、Even if you are very bad、In his world,You are the best one、On the contrary、If he doesn't like you、No matter how good you become,It doesn't help,Because liking someone,It's not about whether she's good or not,It's about whether she's suitable,So,Don't worry about these external,Because these problems,Maybe in his opinion,It's not a problem,,

Hello, if you like each other, you can boldly express it, love does not distinguish who is how good, love is simply like, and it has little to do with whether you are excellent or not, as long as you like each other, the other party is excellent!

Under normal circumstances, a guy will not refuse a girl, he will try to date you for a while.

My views on the "Mu Qiang" phenomenon in love are as follows:

1.Mu Qiang means that there is an idealized fantasy about love or the other half of the individual. Will.

The image of the other party as a strong man or a hero is obviously not in line with real human nature, nor is it.

It is conducive to building real and lasting feelings.

2.Mu Qiang often stems from personal inferiority and dependence. The individual needs to be dependent on the other half.

to satisfy the need for a sense of security or self-worth. This will allow the relationship to build on.

On top of a certain imbalance, it is difficult to develop healthily.

3.Mu Qiang often ignores the real emotional basis between individuals, and places too much emphasis on material brightness.

pieces of satisfaction or consideration of social impressions. But truly lasting feelings should be built on:

Shared values, emotional fit and habits are embodied.

4.Mu Qiang may bring a domineering or even mind-controlling relationship model. When the other party does not.

When Fa attains the illusion of a "strong man", he will often take control or change the other person's.

way to satisfy one's own needs, which is the main reason for the destruction of love.

5.In a relationship, it is often difficult for individuals to achieve true self and freedom. Forever.

Living in the shadow of the strong, you need to constantly cater to and please each other. This makes:

Individuals are unable to truly express themselves in their feelings, nor can they get what they deserve psychologically.

Free space. So I think a healthy relationship model in love should be based on equal interaction.

foundation. Both parties should be their true selves in the relationship and appreciate each other.

The whole of the party is one - to see both the good and the flawed; Both to give support and to yourself.

of independent spaces. Only in love where there is no strong or superior person, there is an individual.

It is possible to achieve true happiness and freedom. "Mu Qiang" is worthy of vigilance in the relationship.

Unhealthy factors should be eliminated or avoided in time.

In short, sincere feelings should be based on real understanding and close emotional connections.

rather than idealized illusions or dependence. Have a tolerant understanding of others.

Sincere dedication is the secret of a lasting relationship, which is better than pursuing any strong image.

More important.