What is it like to quarrel with your mother in law and tear your face?

If I hadn't known that he told my husband that he wanted to divorce me and go to a better girl, I wouldn't have fought with her because I was very cowardly, but this is, I'm really angry, so I broke his face, and it felt very good.

Every time I went back to my mother's house after a fight with him, my mother said to me, you have to learn to be patient, you have to be good to his mother, but I really couldn't help it, so I beat him, although I tore my face, but I also recognized the ugly face of their family.

After all, the daughter-in-law is a foreigner, not to mention that the old woman is an elder, if she is not right, you should tolerate it, and when you have the opportunity, you can talk to his son, and then communicate privately, to be honest, once the face is torn, the relationship between herself and her husband will be very embarrassing, and there will be a crisis in the marriage.

After marrying into their family, I felt that I had never been free, and then I felt that my husband didn't love me anymore, and even felt that he loved my mother-in-law, and the two of them were a family, and my mother-in-law had to take care of everything, and the two of us even had to take care of it, and I wore clothes, so we had a big fight yesterday and tore my face, and I still feel very relieved.

In addition to the feeling of being cool or cool, because I have endured them for a long time, these finally beat him, and then although I tore my face, I have already decided to divorce him.

In fact, every time I put up with them, but this time he actually said that he wanted me to give them another child, and I had already given birth to four, and they still wanted to use it again, so they had to let me say that it was to save that boy, which made me very, sad, and fought with them, and beat each of them.

I regret it very much now, because, at that time, I was also impulsive, so I quarreled with him and tore my face, and now my husband ignores me, and I don't have the face to go back, but I really love them.

Yesterday my mother-in-law and I had a big quarrel because of my children's education, and now we are in the same room and feel very embarrassed.

After arguing with my mother-in-law and tearing my face, I got along as follows:

1. Avoid unnecessary contact.

In fact, after getting married, it is a family of two people, so there is no need to be too close between your family and your mother-in-law, and there have been conflicts before, and both parties are uncomfortable when you meet too much, so unnecessary contact can be avoided, after all, your mother-in-law is not her own mother, and she will not condone some of your behavior. If you encounter some festivals that must be met, such as the Mid-Autumn Festival, the Spring Festival, etc., then try to avoid being alone after meeting, so that your husband can adjust the atmosphere in the middle. But don't meet unless you need to.

2. Get as far away as possible.

If you have the conditions, you can actually live farther away from your in-laws' house, and it is the best situation if you are in other places, after all, your daughter-in-law and mother-in-law will have more or less conflicts when they get along. If you are in the local area, you should stay as far away as possible when buying a house or renting a house. Maybe when you get married, your mother-in-law will ask her son to live in a little bit, and she can help you take care of your children in the future, but just listen to it, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have been together for a long time, and it is impossible not to have conflicts.

3. Stay away.

Since the face has been torn with the mother-in-law, it means that the relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law is difficult to repair Sun Hu, and the relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law is generally not good, because the mother-in-law is very strong, and there is no room for this relationship to turn around, so the best way is to stay away. Of course, the respect here is only for the daughter-in-law, if the son really protects his wife, he will also see the situation clearly, and will not ask the daughter-in-law to have a relationship with the mother-in-law.

If the mother-in-law really misses her son, then she can contact her son, and there is no need to involve the daughter-in-law. In other words, the daughter-in-law can also be completely independent and not get along with her mother-in-law, and it may be enough to meet three or four times a year, and meeting less will increase each other's goodwill. Maybe after a long time, the contradiction will disappear.

To deal with this kind of stubborn old man, in fact, there is only one way, that is, to be indifferent to her, and after a long time, the old man's attitude will change.

1.After the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law quarrel, we must first analyze where the argument of the quarrel is? Face up to your own shortcomings, admit the advantages of your mother-in-law, and have a long talk, doesn't your mother-in-law want a harmonious relationship with the family? Home and everything is prosperous?

As juniors, we have to lower our posture and take the initiative to talk to our mother-in-law, although we can't return to the previous intimate relationship for a while, we can gradually break into the enemy's interior, and find the father-in-law to persuade the mother-in-law to dissipate her anger. The rest is left to time, calm and calm with each other, and will slowly figure it out, after all, we all have common relatives, the son born to the mother-in-law in October, that is, your husband.

2.In the same family, it is inevitable that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will quarrel. Just like husband and wife, they usually have a mouthful, but the bedside quarrels and the end of the bed. In the final analysis, family affairs are all trivial things, and that's all there is to it.

If we can't handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, how can we be comfortable in the future workplace, handle the relationship with colleagues, and deal with the relationship with leaders.

Finally, I want to say: as a woman, a woman with a goal of struggle, you must be clear-headed and have a super ability to deal with interpersonal relationships.

Everything in the world is connected, and the love in the world is also connected.

If you understand this truth, don't worry about this and that all day long, suffer from gains and losses, like a resentful woman, and in the long run, you will become an abandoned woman. Men don't love, children don't love, lose these, you will be independent.

No matter what kind of quarrel with the mother-in-law is over, after the quarrel, as a daughter-in-law, she should take the initiative to apologize to her mother-in-law, she is an elder after all, only in this way can the emotions of the two people be relieved and the feelings between each other can be promoted.

I think how to get along depends on your own personal wishes, but it is best for two people to reconcile, because the most difficult thing for the two of you to quarrel is your husband, if your husband has a status in your mind, or should be reconciled with your mother-in-law as before, in fact, it is normal for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to have conflicts, but for the sake of their husbands, they should still accommodate each other and admit each other's mistakes.

If you quarrel with your mother-in-law, you must apologize in the end, because your life will go on in the future, and it will take a long time.

Clause.

First, you can choose the Cold War for a period of time to heal the wounds. Clause.

Second, you can repair it through small favors and buy some cosmetics for her. Clause.

3. You can use your child to bring what you want to say to your child.

Let the husband mediate, let the husband have a good talk with the mother-in-law, and let each other let go of the mustard.

To each his own, the water of the well does not interfere with the water of the river.

Be cheeky, otherwise what else can you do, do you have to ask the man caught in the middle to make a choice of "with your mother without me, with me without your mother", for the sake of the person you love, bear with it.

It's very simple, after all, it's a family, in order not to embarrass my husband, it's still important to be peaceful, and everything is prosperous.

If you quarrel with your mother-in-law, you should admit your mistakes in time after the quarrel and relieve the emotions of both parties, so that you can get along better in the future

It's best to admit your mistake, after all, you have to meet often in the future, so you can ask your husband to make peace in the middle, and both parties will give a step.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is very delicate, and there are times when the two quarrel, and when the mother-in-law is angry, she lowers her head and apologizes to her mother and asks for her forgiveness.

Let's live separately in the future, it will be very awkward if we still live together, and there will be more and more conflicts in the future.

After calming down, you can apologize to your mother-in-law and explain things clearly, otherwise you may have knots in your heart in the future and it will be difficult to get along.

It will definitely be very difficult to get along in the future, you need to keep a low profile, don't yell at ordinary times, then it's best not to meet in the future, so that there will be no contradictions.

I think that since you have already torn your face with your mother-in-law, either one of you can lower your head first, or you can live separately, otherwise the future conflict between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will only make your life more trivial and seriously affect the quality of your life happiness. The conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been a very normal problem, and few people can really get along with their mother-in-law like their own mother, and most of them still have some opinions about each other. It's a very good performance to be able to be superficial and amiable, I'm afraid that some mothers-in-law or daughters-in-law will be eager to quarrel all day long, and that kind of life is really a day of eternal peace.

01, I take the initiative to reconcile, and I usually tear my face because I have already broken out all the contradictions accumulated before, at least when I tore my face, I didn't think about how to get along in the future. If you are quick for a while, it will only make your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law feel embarrassed to get along in the future, or you can take the initiative to lower your head first and apologize to your mother-in-law; Or just wait for your mother-in-law to come and apologize to you first. It's unlikely that your mother-in-law will apologize, after all, they will feel that they are elders, even if they are at fault, they have to be the juniors to bow their heads first, and then they will come down this staircase.

So they will think that it is not easy for me to be a daughter-in-law, and I have to let my daughter-in-law always feel like that. The most basic performance is to ask his daughter-in-law to be picky about laundry and cooking, and he likes to make a small report in front of his son. When you meet such a mother-in-law, your basic life will not be peaceful, because her thinking is fixed there, and you want to change her.

You can only follow her, or you can avoid her.

02. Live separately directlyI have always been in favor of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law living separately, living together will not bring much convenience to life, but will increase conflicts between each other, and will also disrupt each other's living habits. The work and rest time of young people and old people are different, and the living habits between daughters-in-law and parents-in-law are also completely different. What's more, there was a conflict with my mother-in-law in the first place, so it was better to take this opportunity to directly propose to live separately from my mother-in-law, so that the young couple could have their own small family and would not have so many conflicts with my mother-in-law.

As for those who say that living apart is a sign of unfilial piety, this is simply ridiculous. Does it mean that you are filial to live together? You go out at 8 o'clock in the morning and arrive home at 8 o'clock in the evening, and when it is time to have dinner with your parents, you go back to your room, how much time can you spend with your parents?

You live separately and you can spend holidays or weekends with your parentsAs long as you have a heart, whether you live separately or together, you are filial. There is really no need to entangle the sense of ritual on the surface, and do what is really good for your parents, that is filial piety.

The most important thing is to really have a good communication bridge during this period, that is, the son of the mother-in-law and her husband. He can play a key role in the middle, depending on whether he knows how to deal with the conflict between his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

After tearing your face with your mother-in-law, it is recommended not to have too much contact, because this will make you very angry, and your mother-in-law will not give you a good face.

No matter what the reason, after quarreling with your mother-in-law, the most difficult thing is your husband, you have two sides of anger, whether it is pressure from her mother, or pressure from you, the best way to solve it is also your husband, let your husband come forward to communicate with your mother-in-law, and then choose an appropriate opportunity to sit down and explain the conflict clearly, after all, the family will have to live together in the future.

It's also a family with your mother-in-law, and it's really difficult to have your husband in the middle. You can communicate well with your husband and your mother-in-law, can you continue to get along, if you really can't, live separately, then you have to keep your face passable, that's all.

Try to act like no one else the next day, continue to talk to your mother-in-law, so that the other party doesn't care, two people don't look up and don't look down, don't always tear their faces.

If you've torn your face, you don't have to get along, and you'll never see each other again, which is good.

If you live together and your face has been torn, it is best to live separately, let the time fade the conflict, if you don't live together, don't meet for a short time, everyone calm down, if possible, slowly resolve it.

Stay away, meet less, talk less, and don't speculate for more than half a sentence.

If I tear my face, I won't associate with her, and if the husband and wife can't get together, they will go their separate ways.

A woman has become a mother-in-law from a daughter-in-law, and she will also become a hated mother-in-law, and when she is old, she will become you, which is a dead cycle.

Go home as little as possible, and then after a while, just like nothing, do what you used to do.

It's best not to mess with your mother-in-law every day, you really can't get along, you can move out. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been a big problem, and many married women will have awkward encounters with their mother-in-law for one reason or another after marriage, and finally make it very embarrassing. But it is absolutely impossible to break off from now on, after all, the mother-in-law is the mother of her husband, and out of filial piety, few sons will really break off with their parents in order to please their wives.

The biggest possibility is that because of the war between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the husband stands in the middle, like an ant in the cracks, it is difficult to be a person, and if you are not careful, you will offend your wife or mother.

So in order to avoid this situation of the husband, for the mother-in-law, you should still be able to endure it. Mother-in-law is the mother of her husband, but also her other mother, no mother in the world will have a deep hatred with her children, since the mother-in-law will agree to you marry into their family, it proves that she recognizes you, and the later quarrel is just because of the friction caused by the small things in life, so it can be avoided or avoided as much as possible, why bother to be angry with your relatives for a trivial matter.

Forbearance is the first step, if you really can't bear it, then move out with your husband. However, in most families, such an offer is generally rejected by the mother-in-law, because not only do we love our husbands, but mothers-in-law also love their sons, so they will not be willing to part with their sons. If you choose to move out after a quarrel, it is likely to provoke deeper family conflicts, and it may be even more difficult for the husband to do so.

The best way to do this is to find a way to reconcile with your mother-in-law. There is no deep hatred between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and there is no need to be at a stalemate to embarrass each other. A family and beauty is the best state, don't try to let your husband choose between you and your mother-in-law, because there is never an answer to such a question, in the end it is just everyone tearing their faces, no one is happy, tossing to the end, maybe the marriage is gone.