How to teach rebellious children well

Teenagers are all the same, think about how they got here. Properly guide, try not to interfere too much, and let it pass smoothly. It is best to communicate with him in a normal manner, understand his thoughts and thoughts, and then guide him inadvertently.

Doing homework is slow because he doesn't want to do it, there is a subconscious in his heart that he can not do it in the end, this consciousness even the child himself does not know, he will only think of the level of time-consuming, which requires adults to understand the child's heart, the best way is for the child to accompany the child to help do the homework when doing homework, while accompanying and communicating with the child, do not deliberately order him to do his homework in the conversation, and let him unconsciously form a sense of doing homework.

If the child's rebellious psychology is very strong, then parents must not resist directly at this time, or you must not directly have some positive conflicts with your children, otherwise this will not be beneficial to the child's growth. We must educate our children in the right way so that your children can get to know their parents.

We must also pay attention to related problems in our daily lives, and we must solve this problem. In this way, your child can become an excellent person, and the relationship between parents and children will become better, so these problems are necessary to attract our attention, but we must pay attention to the education method, if your child itself is particularly rebellious, then we must not directly confront the child at this time, otherwise it will lead to some behavioral problems and emotional problems in the child.

Fathers and mothers must care more about their children, and we must understand our children at this time, so that your children will not do some particularly strange things, so these problems are necessary for us to pay attention to, but we don't need to be too nervous at this time. If the child does not listen to the parents, then the parents must find out the reason at this time. So you don't need to feel very nervous, and we have to plan for it at this time.

We must use appropriate methods to guide our children, and we must adopt appropriate methods to educate our children at this time, so that your children can become very obedient and you yourself can take better care of your children. Because we also want our children to get better, we must pay more attention to some problems in our lives, but we don't need to feel particularly nervous at this time.

Parents should learn to understand their children's youthful rebellious psychology, give their children the space to calm down and control their emotions, and talk to their children on an equal footing.

Parents must not work against their children, they must encourage their children more, praise their children more, and then they must communicate more with their children to give them a sense of security and love.

Educating children with rebellious hearts focuses on methods, and wrong methods may have counterproductive results.

1. Communication between parents and children.

This is the most fundamental, maybe many parents and children will have a generation gap, always wonder what the child thinks, but as a parent, have you sincerely communicated with your child? Don't press the child with the fact that you are an old man or something, this is the most disgusting thing for the child, and you should communicate with the child like a friend. Respect for children Parents should not always focus on their children's weaknesses and do not compare their children's weaknesses with the strengths of other children.

When contacting children, parents should try to find out as much as possible about their children's strengths and encourage them to reduce their resistance to parents.

2. Learn to really care about your children.

If you really care about your child, you must be able to empathize with your child, always pay attention to your child's feelings, remember your child's birthday, remember the day when the school held a parent-teacher conference, give the corresponding rewards and drums to your child if you do well in the exam, and encourage you if you don't do well in the exam, and don't blame your child too much. If you do something wrong, you should give him a correction and guide the child correctly.

3. Don't always object to what your child wants to do.

Some parents always treat their children as children, this does not let him do, that does not let him do, such as after doing homework and want to watch TV, as parents should not object, this is also the space that children need to relax, if you tell him not to watch, tell him to read a book in the room or something, although he reluctantly returned to the room, but will he read seriously? It's useless at all, just let him relax, and after relaxing, he will naturally go back to study hard.

4. The influence of the family and the inspiration and induction of parents.

Parents should set an example, the role of parents directly affects the mental health of their children, parents must reflect on their own personal lifestyle and attitude, pay attention to correcting their own bad personality, and provide healthy things for their children at any time. Establish a harmonious and pleasant family atmosphere.

5. Give down your rights to your children, but definitely not let them go.

If you go to play, go to dinner, etc., you may wish to discuss it with your child, consider your child's feelings, and ask for your child's opinion. However, some excessive demands of the child cannot be followed, otherwise he will be arrogant in the future, which will be more difficult to educate.

6. Avoid the misunderstanding of "hitting" and "scolding".

Some parents beat and scold their children as long as they are disobedient and do something wrong, and always stop them with violence. If this goes on for a long time, the child's young mind has a shadow, and he will always be afraid of doing the wrong thing, but he will not do enough to do it, and he will develop a timid and fearful character.

7. Don't always put pressure on your child, give your child a certain amount of space.

You don't always have to tell him that he must be admitted to such and such a university, and how many points or more he must score in each subject in the exam, give his child more space and make more friends.

Discipline that is too extreme for children will make children rebellious.

Treat it reasonably.

In Western families, adults and children get along on an equal footing, and if you don't meet my requirements, I won't meet your requirements, and see who can survive whom.

When children are accepted in this way, it will be much easier to educate.

Have a long talk with the child, ask him if he has any difficulties, and the parents can help, so that the child understands the good of his parents, and there will be a sense of repayment.

Buy her some inspirational books, a series of youth growth stories, and make a bowl of chicken soup for the soul for the child.

At present, parents often have two psychological states when disciplining their children: one is to regard their children as private property and have absolute authority over them; Second, parents regard their children as the reproduction of their own ideals and hope that their children can realize the ideals they want to achieve. In such a situation, parents instill their own life experiences in their children in an attempt to make them live according to their parents' vision.

When it comes to educating children, it is often easy to deal with them simply and rudely, without realizing that children are gradually growing up and establishing their own values.

Generally speaking, when parents start to feel that their children are disobedient, it is the child's values that begin to conflict with the parents' values. At this time, self-aware children are more likely to find resonance among their peers, but many parents do not understand this psychological and physiological change in their children, and in the face of their children's self-assertion, they adopt simple and blunt discipline to force their children to have rebellious emotions and behaviors.