My mother in law told me to give 30,000 10, and my mother in law told me to give 30,000

Updated on society 2024-04-10
26 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    But since you married her daughter, you should also come out, after all, the daughter who has been raised by others for more than 20 years has been given to you, you can delay the matter of the hukou or just say that the hukou is not easy to move or something, fool it up, you have to give the money, since she has already said it, you can't give it, you can tell her that she has just gotten married, and she doesn't have so much money on hand, just give her 10,000, or you can discuss it with your wife, you can tell your wife that you are already a family, and the money is the two of you, If it's all given to the mother-in-law, the hard life in the future will still be for the two of you, I think she will understand what you mean.

    Addendum: It's best not to move the hukou, as soon as you move over, you will be finished, and you will live a life under the fence if you live in your mother-in-law's house.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    If you love your wife, give 30,000 yuan, and move your hukou to the past, if you don't have confidence in your marriage, then don't move your hukou for the time being, you can give money to build a house, even if the two break up in the future, it is also the joint property of the husband and wife.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    There must be a reason for the brother's relocation! I guess your mother-in-law thinks far! First, if your child is born and wants to go to school in the future, the school district must now have parents on the same household registration, otherwise you will have to pay a lot of sponsorship fees for your child to go to school!

    The second is that your mother-in-law can pick up your children when they go to school, which saves you and your husband and wife troubles! So let's discuss! Don't always think badly!

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Dude, you have to think about it. I'm a victim. I think I believed in her so much back then, and I took out all my family's savings.

    But in the end, it was a failure. It's still hard to think about it. Maybe it was because I trusted her too much at the time.

    Dude, you have to think about it. Regret is not in a hurry. But then again, if you and your wife have a certain emotional foundation, that's a different story.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    The premise of doing these things is.

    How is your relationship with your wife.

    If there are no emotional problems.

    If they need money urgently.

    It's not like it's unsavable.

    But I'm all wondering.

    Why do you have to move your hukou?

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Feel free to do so, believe in your decision, and don't regret it!

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Yes, it's okay to ask for money, don't think of yourself as a man.

  8. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    Money can be given, and the account will never change

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Go, as it should be. Giving money is also deserved. Mother-in-law's brother, your wife is called uncle, you are also called uncle, your uncle will naturally give more, less near the door, and if the clan relationship is farther away, it may be less.

    The specific amount has to do with local customs and previous clan interactions. If it is an uncle, refer to how much other people's sons-in-law give when someone else's family dies among the clansmen, this is one of your references. My uncle died, how much you paid is very important to the face of your mother-in-law's mother-in-law.

    If you are not financially relaxed, you can refer to how much your son-in-law gives when someone else's uncle dies. Exclude local tyrants, just compare with the ordinary. If it's not your own uncle, it's better to say, refer to the one in the same position as your daughter-in-law, discuss it or see how much people have.

    In this way, the comparison is measured. If you ask your daughter-in-law, you will naturally know how to solve it.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    As for your mother-in-law not letting your daughter-in-law return to you, this is your daughter-in-law, if she wants to go back, no one can stop her.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    You shouldn't take a penny when her brother dies, don't get used to them, the groom takes office three fires.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    Why give 2,000 is it with the money or his family has no money for the funeral.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    Why are you married and still have such a temper? The relationship itself is a problem.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    You have to ask your wife if she wants to come back. It's not that you and your mother-in-law are married.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    If you love her, go for it!

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    It mainly depends on what your wife thinks

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    At this time, we have to politely refuse, saying that we are currently in a bottleneck period, and we can't take out so much money at once, and we want to show that her son and herself do not have this kind of Guan Hui who is a friend and gives money for free.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    If the family conditions are better, you can let your children go out to travel and see the beauty of the world.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    I think you should refuse, you can tell your mother-in-law that her son wants to travel and should rely on his own skills to make money.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    As the saying goes: it is difficult for a clean official to cut off family affairs. Looking at the situation you mentioned, the status of you and your wife in the family is unbalanced.

    On the issue of giving money to the elderly on both sides, you lack prior communication. The causes of lack of communication, or disconnection, are complex and do not happen overnight. I'm afraid that this kind of unfair giving of money is not the only time there has been such an injustice, right?

    Your daughter-in-law treats the elderly differently on both sides, which is indeed a bit unreasonable. On the one hand, you can communicate with her privately to see if there is any special situation in your mother-in-law's family. At the same time, you can give more to your parents.

    Some things can't just look at the surface, you have to look at the reasons behind it, why is this happening, is your parents' conditions better, your mother-in-law's mother-in-law's conditions are worse or other circumstances, if your mother-in-law's family is a little more difficult, and your economic conditions allow, it doesn't hurt to give more, why bother so much.

    Therefore, this matter does not need to be too serious, some things do not need to be too clear, the water is too clear, there are no fish, and people are too cautious, they are not wise. It's better to be generous. It's good if the daughter-in-law can give 5,000 yuan, and for those daughters-in-law who speak ill of their in-laws, you should burn high incense.

    After all, daughter-in-law still knows how to honor her in-laws. It's just that there is a lack of fairness, how can there be so much truth in this world!

    If you don't earn as much money as your daughter-in-law, then you should shut up, and if you have the ability, you can also earn money to honor your parents, and no one stopped you? If you feel that it is unfair, you can have a good talk with your daughter-in-law calmly, and pay attention to it next time, don't show anger, and don't quarrel with your daughter-in-law, so as not to hurt the harmony and affect the relationship and life of the husband and wife.

    When we only go back once a year to give 20,000 yuan to one parent and often go home to 5,000 yuan to the other parent, who has a stronger sense of happiness in life? I thought it should be a parent who gets 5,000 yuan, who doesn't want their children to be with their knees, but who has thought about the other parent's longing? As a husband and wife, in the face of both parents, we have to think more about each other, then your lover will definitely experience your love, and the feelings of husband and wife will be deeper.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    This is unreasonable, because the mother-in-law is also a mother, both parties must be treated fairly, if it is not handled properly, it will cause family conflicts, like this kind of thing, the man should stand up and say something.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    My daughter-in-law and I went home and gave my parents 5,000 yuan, but when I went to my mother-in-law's house, my daughter-in-law gave 20,000 yuan, which is of course reasonable. Because daughters-in-law cannot be filial in their parents' house, but can only be filial in their mother-in-law's house, it is reasonable to give more to their mother's family.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    It's really unreasonable, you can discuss it with your daughter-in-law and ask her if her parents-in-law have encountered any difficulties recently, and you can solve it together.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    If it's your daughter-in-law's own money, then it's reasonable, and if it's the two of you're money, it's not reasonable.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    My father-in-law said, my family doesn't want a bride price, my family doesn't sell daughters, and my mother-in-law said, my family wants a bride price of 300,000 yuan, there is no dowry, do you have a brother-in-law?

    Hello, I am happy to serve you and give you the following answers: Reasons: 1. The bride price is a traditional Chinese marriage custom, and parents hope to express their love for their daughters through the bride price, which is also a kind of respect for their daughters.

    2. Parents also hope to express their importance to their daughters and their expectations for their daughter's future through the bride price. Solution: 1. Parents of both sides should sit down to talk, respect each other's opinions, and try to reach an agreement, so as not to affect the harmony of both families.

    2. The parents of both parties can reasonably adjust the amount of the bride price according to the actual situation, so as not to affect the harmony of the two families. 3. The parents of both parties can reasonably arrange other matters of the wedding according to the actual situation, so as not to affect the harmony of the families of both parties. Personal Experience:

    The bride price is a traditional Chinese marriage custom, and parents hope to express their love for their daughters through the bride price, which is also a kind of respect for their daughters. However, the amount of the bride price should not be too high, so as not to affect the harmony of the families of both parties. Therefore, the parents of both parties should sit down and talk, respect each other's opinions, and try to reach an agreement so as not to affect the harmony of both families.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    I am the only child in the family, and my parents are farming, and their greatest wish is that I be admitted to a good Kuanyou university. My father had good grades in school at that time and went to high school, but because there were many children in the family, he was really poor, so he went out of school to work, which became the regret of his life, and he could only pin his hopes on me.

    My family is not wealthy, but my parents don't buy a single piece of clothing for a few years, eat steamed buns and pickles by themselves, and they also have to ensure that I eat and wear, and I don't feel distressed when I buy study materials. At home, I was not allowed to do a little housework, saying that I just had to study hard.

    Fortunately, I lived up to my parents' wishes, was admitted to a university, and after graduation, I successfully found a job in a foreign company.

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    When I was in school, I had a relationship, I didn't have that much money to buy gifts for my girlfriend, she proposed to break up, and I've been single ever since.

    When I was working, I didn't want to fall in love, so I wanted to earn more money every month and send it to my parents. When my friends got married, I started to get anxious. I met my current wife by chance, her name is Zhang Jingjing, and she is a girl from the city.

    We started out as ordinary friends, but then my wife took the initiative to confess to me, and I accepted her when I thought it was appropriate. My girlfriend has a good family background, she has not suffered much since she was a child, she spends money lavishly, and she is even a little squeamish, but I love her and tolerate it.

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    When I brought my wife home, she was a little disdainful and disgusted that our house was dirty, but my mother cleaned up very neatly. My mother was so happy that she asked me to get married early, and gave my wife a meeting gift of 5,000 yuan for the first time.

    My parents-in-law think that my work is okay, but my family is a little worse. My mother-in-law asked for a bride price of 100,000 yuan, which was a little difficult for my family, so I put together the money I saved with my parents' and gave my mother-in-law a bride price of 100,000 yuan.

    My wife said that the wedding should be more luxurious, and I could only do my best. Be cautious of suspicions.

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    At the wedding, when it came to the tea ceremony, my mother gave a bride price of 2,000 yuan to change the mouth, which is considered to be above average on our side. Who knew that the wife actually opened it in front of her face, counted them one by one, and the audience was stunned, and she had never seen this kind of daughter-in-law.

    I was a little annoyed and said, "What do you mean by that?" My wife said: Your family only gave 100,000 yuan as a dowry, and the change fee is not much.

    My parents' faces changed, they never thought that their wife would embarrass them like this. I was furious and directly said that I would cancel the wedding and not marry.

    Maybe it was wrong from the beginning, my wife looks down on our family, and she won't be good to my parents after getting married, everyone says I'm right to do this?

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