Is it commendable to marry a son?

<>I think it depends on what the two of them were like at the time.

One is to speed up the progress of the marriageThis is very nice, because many couples may have already discussed the matter of marriage, because they are busy so they may have postponed a year to consider the completion of the marriage, the relationship has actually developed to the point of maturity, at this time the girl suddenly found out that she was pregnant, so she had to put the marriage date on the agenda as soon as possible, so it is a double happiness, and the mother-in-law's family should be happier, now it is time to talk about marriage between men and women, unmarried pregnancy will basically not be pointed at by the mother-in-law, after all, it is for the man's family to pass on the lineage, branching out, and the current mother-in-law is not so feudal, so it may be too late to be happy.

The other is because she is pregnant and has children. This is usually tragic. I think that in addition to some rigid conditions for two people to get married, I think it must be two people who have been running in for a period of time, have a suitable personality and can get married to the extent that they can get married.

After having children, the world of husband and wife will decrease, I have always believed that the development of marriage is to have a child in the world of two people, if you skip this transition period directly and have children, the relationship between husband and wife is easily affected, the foundation is not stable, and the economic pressure is greater after having children, and the firewood, rice, oil, salt and small details of the family after marriage are also easy to lead to quarrels, so it is very hasty to marry for children, if the child is not born and is not married, then to break up or continue, everything is easy to say, but divorce with children and divorce, things get a lot more serious and tricky.

Speaking of this, I remembered the thoughts of my college classmates in the past, that is, many mothers-in-law were afraid that their daughters-in-law would not be able to give birth to children, so their local rules were that the husband's first child ensured that the daughter-in-law's body could be pregnant and born, and it was best to give birth to a boy, and then take the child to make up the wedding and get married. I think it's ridiculous, when will Fengzi get married or test whether the girl can enter the man's house? If the marriage of a son is the basic guarantee for the marriage of a man and a woman to continue, then in such a feudal and selfish family, a girl will not be happy when she marries, and her status may be the lowest.

One of the disadvantages of getting married is that girls are generally very looking forward to and longing for their weddings, but once they have children, they must focus on their bodies, and they may be constrained when designing the wedding, and girls may not be able to have a free and perfect wedding according to their own fantasies.

This posture shed problem depends on the situation of the matter.

From a personal point of view, different people choose marriage for different purposes, and even many people enter marriage in order to behave like a normal social person, especially many marriages with children. In the case of Fengzi's marriage, part of it is a misfire, and you can only push the boat down the river, and you will be wrong; There are also many who have ulterior motives and use the womb to kidnap an unequal relationship in order to achieve their ulterior motives.

In essence, the marriage relationship is the most profound social relationship that can have a powerful impact on the lives of both parties. It directly affects the stability and extension of other social relations.

The main reasons for divorce are:

1.One of the parties is bigamy.

2.a person who has a spouse cohabiting with another person;

3.committing domestic violence or abusing or abandoning family members;

4.One party has gambling, drug addiction and other vices that have been repeatedly taught;

5.The parties have been separated for two years due to emotional discord.

Legal basis: Article 1079 of the Civil Code.

Where one of the spouses requests a divorce, the relevant organizations may conduct mediation or directly file a divorce lawsuit with the people's court.

People's courts hearing divorce cases shall conduct mediation; If the relationship has indeed broken down and mediation fails, the divorce shall be granted.

In any of the following circumstances, if mediation fails, a divorce shall be granted:

1) bigamy or cohabitation with another person;

2) Committing domestic violence or abusing or abandoning family members;

3) Gambling habits, drug abuse, and other vices that are not changed;

4) Separated for two years due to emotional discord;

5) Other circumstances that lead to the breakdown of the relationship between husband and wife.

Where one party is declared missing and the other party initiates divorce proceedings, the divorce shall be granted.

Where, after a people's court has ruled that divorce is not permitted, the parties have been separated for one year, and one party initiates divorce proceedings again, the divorce shall be granted.

First of all, I would like to state my own point of view, whether or not a son can be happy or not should be judged according to the conditions of both men and women, and cannot be generalized. If I had to choose for myself, I wouldn't have married with a son, because there are a lot of issues to consider.

Why? Let's analyze the analysis together:

1. The emotional foundation of both men and women before marriage. Now many lovers, not known for a long time, but accidentally pregnant, can only be married to the son, in this case, the probability of unhappiness will be very high, because the days after marriage are not stormy, raising children requires the joint efforts and dedication of both husband and wife, if one party continues to hang the child before marriage, one party is forced to become the payer, over time, it will inevitably aggravate the contradictions of marriage, the two quarrel constantly, the days of chickens and dogs, there is no happiness at all.

2. The financial capacity of both men and women before marriage. The days after marriage are inevitably courteous, and money is needed everywhere, especially in terms of childcare education, food, clothing, housing and transportation expenses after birth, the cost of kindergarten, the cost of off-campus training institutions, and the cost of university. Big data shows that from birth to adulthood, the cost of raising a baby will reach more than one million yuan, not counting the future wedding expenses, so if your financial ability is not good, but you rashly marry your son, the days after marriage can be imagined, after all, poor couples mourn.

3. Whether the thinking of both men and women is mature before marriage. Some men and women do not have the qualifications to be parents at all, but because of the sudden arrival of children, they are forced to marry and become parents. The tragic original family is often derived from this situation, the parents of the giant baby are responsible for taking care of their children, do not understand education, do not know how to express love for their children, quarrels and anger and other negative energy fill the entire marriage family.

At that time, everyone in the family will be scarred and in pain.

To sum up, in fact, having said so much, I hope that those who marry with their sons will seriously consider it before marriage. Marriage requires a deep emotional foundation, good economic ability, and mature thinking, don't choose to get married because of your children, you will suffer yourself and your children.

If you marry your son, you won't get the happiness you want. I wouldn't choose to marry my son.

Many girls get pregnant before they get married. They may not have planned to get married in the first place. But they couldn't bear to give up their children.

They will choose to marry this boy. There will be no happiness in this kind of marriage. Some boys just want to play with girls.

The boy doesn't love this girl at all. Girls don't love boys either. Even if they get married, they will not be happy.

They will all hate each other in their hearts. They also don't want to live with each other. They will also have frequent quarrels.

They may even choose to divorce. Marriage is based on love. We must not use children to kidnap each other.

This kind of marriage will not last.

Many girls don't actually love this guy at all. But when a girl suddenly becomes pregnant, the girl will become at a loss. Girls can become scared.

The girl wants to marry herself off quickly. The girl will want to give birth to the child. Girls are afraid of being talked about by others.

In fact, these behaviors are a manifestation of irresponsibility to oneself. If we love each other, we will do anything for each other. If we don't love each other, we hate being with him.

Even if a girl is married to this boy, she will not love this boy. They will also have frequent arguments. Boys won't even be kind to your kids.

Children are the crystallization of the love of both husband and wife. If we want to raise a child, we have to give the child a healthy family. We want to make sure that both husband and wife love each other.

Both husband and wife should take good care of the child. If we give birth to this child just because of an accident, our psychology will be left with a problem because of it. If the couple is unhappy in the future, they will regret the current behavior.

They would even hate the kid. They will all feel that this child is a burden.

You can also be happy when you get married, and some people get married after they get pregnant, and their lives are very good, so if I have the opportunity, I will choose this way.

I don't think I can be happy if I get married, so I won't choose to get married.

If I really have a child, I will choose to marry my son, because I am responsible for this little life in my belly.

"Fengzi gets married", is it really happy, a few stories tell you the reality.

As long as you feel like you can go down together.

Yes. My husband and I were married to a child, we knew each other for five months and then got pregnant, I didn't know his family and financial situation, and I didn't even have time to understand his work situation because we were in a different place. Then I hurriedly met my parents to get the certificate, I didn't have alcohol, and we were able to get married so smoothly based on our trust in each other, and our family also respected our choice.

After getting married, he moved to my city, his work is similar to **, more free, I am in the establishment, and the job is very stable. I don't have much savings, the salary is very low, I gave it to my mother's family before I got married, I don't know his economic situation, he told me before marriage that I could buy a house, so I have no worries, thinking that my belly is getting bigger day by day, I want to go to see the house quickly, I don't want to save some money, I urged him to see the house a few times before he told me about his situation, it is not enough to describe it badly, there is no money, I still owe a bunch of debts, my work has been losing money, I washed my face with tears every day during that time, I couldn't sleep, and he could only look guilty, But I didn't think about divorce because I loved the child in my belly and loved him.

And after a period of getting along, I found that he actually loves me, people are also good, the reason why he lied, may be afraid that I look down on him, and his family is very harmonious, my mother is an authentic, kind, simple and reasonable person, after sorting out his emotions, he began to plan his future life and his work, after the efforts of two people, it took two years to pay off the debt, I even have two sets of summer clothes for pregnant women, it is really super thrifty, all kinds of ways to save money, I cried the day I paid off the debt, I feel that I never want to live that kind of dark life in this life, there is really a shadow.

As a result, no matter how short of money I was, I resolutely refused to borrow money or use a credit card. During this period, every time we quarreled about money, every time I was going through old accounts, he was silent, and I asked myself over and over again if I would get married if I didn't get pregnant. I am grateful for my good attitude, grateful for our love that can stand the test, grateful to my mother-in-law for helping us take care of our children without regrets, and now we are still striving for a better life, but our days are getting better and better, and the future is full of hope.

No, I think marriage is a very sacred thing and you can't make a hasty decision.

No, resolutely don't get pregnant before marriage, this is my bottom line.

Yes, because this is the crystallization of love with the person I love. Together, we will form a family of three.

No, there is no marriage without love, and the marriage of a son makes both of them miserable.

Yes. You don't live in the world for you to live alone, don't take your parents' words as a deaf ear.

No, I want a marriage and family with feelings, not a marriage that was hastily established because of a mistake.

No, if you love each other and get married early, why wait until you have children.

No, because the older generation can't accept it, it's a bit unethical, and it's a bit unethical, and it's not necessarily expensive for a mother to marry a child.

No, the child is just a piece of flesh in my body, and he will not delay his life.

No, I would rather ** in the case of economic conditions and bad feelings, I don't want to bury my child's life ......

Yes, but only if you have plans to marry the other party. I was preparing for a wedding with my husband, but I found out that I was pregnant, and I arrived in April ahead of schedule, and I saw that my parents bought three gold to discuss the bride price, and I had already prepared for it, but I changed the wedding date, and it was difficult for my classmates and friends to ask for leave to come and participate.

I'm on this path, so the answer, of course, is yes. In fact, whether you marry your son or not, as long as you love each other, there is no problem.

No, premarital cohabitation is not accepted, because Fengzi will not necessarily get married and will not joke about herself.