Do you know how your parents met back then?

My parents met on a blind date, my dad fell in love with my mom at a glance, and when the two of them met for the third time, my dad proposed to get married, and the two of them are still very happy.

My father told me that he saw a girl in the market who was very gentle, so he asked a matchmaker to say goodbye, and it was only then that he said his first words to her. This person is my mother.

My mother went on a blind date for her sisters, and even borrowed clothes, and after chatting for four hours, my mother asked bluntly: I think you are good, how do you feel about me. My dad said:

I like you, listen to you, and want to talk to you. So the two of them made a decision, and it would be thirty years later.

Like many people in that era, I met through the introduction of a matchmaker, met a few times, made a few appointments, and got married when I thought it was suitable.

Mom and Dad were elementary school classmates, but it didn't take long for Mom to transfer to a primary school in the city, and then they didn't cross paths until they both graduated from college, and by a very fortuitous chance, the two got back in touch again.

But at that time, my father would be dragged into poverty because of my grandfather's serious illness, and I didn't dare to think about what could happen to my mother, but although my father was in a difficult situation, he was still humble and polite, and his pure heart made my mother very moved, and then there was a me in this world

This can only be heard by parents, father and mother married very late, at that time the mother was highly Chinese, very cultured, her request was to find someone to eat commercial grain, so they met and married in their 30s, very late marriage.

My parents met through my uncle, my father was a good friend of my uncle, and my father often came to play at home, and I slowly got to know my mother.

My parents are from the same village, so my grandparents and grandparents are all in the same village, and I can have a lot of friends when I was a child.

The parents were introduced by someone, they were both in the same town, and they could basically get married when they met, and free love was still relatively rare at that time.

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My parents are now in their sixties, and they were generally blind dates and matchmakers in those days, unlike today's young people, who are basically free to fall in love. My father was a teacher, and when I was old enough to talk about marriage, my mother's elders introduced my mother to my grandmother to my father's elders.

Say how this child is, just the same age as your son, and he can live a good life.

So my grandmother told my dad to meet my mom.

My father, Na Huiyu, originally had a favorite girl to dig up a child, but that girl, my grandmother, said that she was not a Gu family type, and she didn't agree, so my father had no choice, so she went to see my mother's former Bi Yan's mother.

What I remember very well is that they met at the roundabout at the intersection in town. My father, Lu Sunji, squatted on the steps of the turntable, smoking a cigarette and waiting for my mother to take care of my mother. My mom was late at home doing farm work, so this was where they met, at the turntable at the intersection.

Some parents don't really know their children, and many children are really good at switching between different environments and rules.

In the eyes of many parents, compared with his actual performance in school, the child is simply two people. ”

Do you really know your child? Now when it comes to this question, are you still 100% sure that you can say "yes"?

If you seldom listen to your child's heart, and only use the so-called strict parenting to strictly discipline your child as you envision, then you are likely to stimulate your child's natural "acting skills".

He will play the role of your "good boy" to win your attention and love. Of course, he may also rebel to the end.

But that's not what a child really looks like. Without good communication, regular dialogue and solid trust, what you see is likely to be just a façade.

Is your child willing to talk to you? How different is he when he talks to you and when he is with his friends? Do you have anything else to talk about besides eating, drinking, and studying?

If the answer is no, you need to reflect on whether you have never thought about accepting your child as he is. Have you been sculpting children by your own standards?

It's not that you shouldn't make demands on your children, and it's not that you can't set rules for your children, but the boundaries of rules are in line with social norms and moral codes, not your standards.

Sometimes parents don't understand their children because they don't want to know about it, or they don't realize the importance of the issue.

However, the trust between parents and children, just like saving in a bank account, needs to be kept depositing, and if you blindly withdraw it, sooner or later you will overdraw.

You may not be able to understand all your child's thoughts and actions, but don't interrupt or be sarcastic, even the youngest child needs to be respected.

Otherwise, you're just making the child want to stop sharing anything with you.

Paying attention to your child's inner thoughts is far more important than just caring about whether he eats well, dresses warmly, and does well in school. Regular conversations, as well as in-depth knowledge of certain topics**, are also great opportunities for you to get to know your child.

As we grow older, our relationship with our parents will become more and more rusty, and many words that we can say casually when we are young will become very awkward when we grow up. Sometimes we feel that maybe our parents have grown up and a lot of love is gradually disappearing. But in fact, maybe the parents have never changed.

What we don't know is that the love of parents is hidden in a lot of small details, which will always be revealed when you don't know it.

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As a married woman, I know that it is not easy to be a parent, so many times I, like most people, always like to report good news and not bad news. Even parents have followed our trend and learned to use mobile WeChat. But they have also become my group friends, in WeChat, I always report some of my good recent situation with them, and even the circle of friends does not let them find out that I have the slightest bad situation, I always look like "I am fine" in front of them.

And just over a year ago, I never thought that the good image I worked so hard to manage in front of my parents was actually known to them for a long time. I worked hard in the city with my children and husband, but I didn't have a good life. Every day, I will be dizzy by the trivialities of my family and the pressure of work, and I will even doubt myself many times.

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And when I thought my parents didn't know anything about it, in fact, my parents had already learned about my situation through other channels. Who would have thought that some people who don't seem to talk much are actually undercover agents planted in my list. Just when I was anxious about my job and future, facing my husband's incomprehension, my parents who were far away from home called me.

Child, if you are tired, you can take your child home for a while, it just so happens that we haven't seen our grandson for a long time. "I burst into tears and I asked them if they knew something. But they didn't say anything, they just said to me, "Son, go home when you're tired, there's nothing to worry about."

At that moment, I felt the endless love of my parents, which made me feel very relieved, knowing that even if I worked hard in society, I still had the solid support of my parents as I did when I was a child.

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When we grow up, we always feel that there is more and more estrangement from our parents, and even use the "generation gap" to try to avoid all the care of our parents. As a result, we communicate less and less with our parents, and we let them know less and less. As everyone knows, these are the reasons why we are becoming more and more estranged from our parents, who have been silently keeping up with us, while we are pushing our parents away step by step.

Sometimes when you open your heart, you will find that our parents love us far more than we think.

I don't know, I rarely know.

I always say that time is like an arrow, but I never notice it passing, and I always think that I still have a lot of time.

However, in the blink of an eye, I have become an adult from a child, an adult who can take responsibility and reduce the burden on my parents, and the continuous gray hairs in my parents' hair made me realize the horror of time.

When did you find out that your parents were really old?

1. from:@小郑郑郑.

I guess that's when my father wants to reconcile with me.

Young and rebellious, I was very stubborn, and my father was always tough.

One day, my father beat me up and was a little flattering and told me to go home.

My father relented, and at that time, I found out that my father was really old.

2. from:@阿杰.

My mother, who loves sugar cane, can no longer eat sugar cane.

Time walked silently, waking up and turning back.

I found out that my mother was old.

3. from:@林深时见鹿.

I found that the flowers and trees that my father had carefully tended were slowly withering.

My father didn't have that much energy to manage that.

Like his flowers, his father is really old.

4. from:@你再编哈哈.

Probably, the always shrewd mother.

I was deceived by the seller of health care products.

5. from:@维他的c

When you start to be cautious when you talk to me.

Thinking of that scene, the nose turned out to be a little sour?

6. from:@绝是好贱.

In mom's bottles and cans of makeup.

A bottle of dye paste was found.

Hey, it's always time that can't be beaten.

7. from: @我不是我.

Walking with them and finding that they were much slower than me.

and a mother who has always been a great cook.

Recently, cooking has started to be salty and bland.

8. from: @特有意思.

Before me: Mom, I don't know how to thread needles, you can help me.

Now Mom: Come and help me thread the needle, I can't wear it.

9. from:@有情无情一碗酒.

Dad told me that someone gave up his seat on the bus today.

10. from:@趣味麦当.

When my father started talking to me about some big things in the family.

I found that my once decisive dad was starting to get old.

When we were children, we were all in a hurry to grow up and leave the company of our parents.

And now, the parents who held our hands and walked through the ups and downs no longer have the look they had at that time, their eyesight is getting worse and worse, they have a little auditory hallucinations, sometimes they forget to turn off the gas, their hands and feet are no longer flexible, and their temper is much smaller, and they are really old.

If you can, think about it a little slower. As children, we should be more considerate and caring. Slow down your pace and take a good walk with them; Either way, spend more time with them; Try to be patient and coax them down the way they coaxed you?

It's not scary to be old, it's scary to not feel warm.

Hopefully, you can do them big sun.

My dad doesn't drink alone when he drinks at home, and he always opens two bottles of beer, hands me one bottle and says with a smile, come: Drink some with me.