What to do if your child is reluctant to communicate with his parents and teachers

If the relationship between the parent and the daughter is good and trusting, there will be no problem for the daughter to worry about her parents "complaining" to the homeroom teacher. What parents need to communicate with their daughters is not whether they should contact the class teacher, but how to improve the personal relationship.

Usually, before the age of 10, children are more inclined to obey the authority of their parents, they are willing to accept their parents' opinions and ideas, and they are willing to speak up and ask their parents for help when they have problems. But as the child enters middle school and puberty, she becomes more self-conscious, cares more about what others think and says about her, expects respect, and tends to determine her self-worth by challenging authority. At this time, if parents still expect their children to be obedient and secret-free as they were in elementary school, and demand their children in the same way as they were in elementary school, there will inevitably be a rift in the parent-child relationship.

Therefore, it is recommended that this parent should first respect the child's views, pay attention to the positive and reasonable points in her remarks, and give encouragement and appreciation. Secondly, give the child a certain amount of autonomy and do not expect to master all her secrets, because growth without secrets is incomplete growth. Third, to give the child a feeling of "respect", you can ask for the child's opinions and suggestions on some family matters, and affirm the child's shining ideas.

Finally, it is important to point out your child's mistakes in a timely manner and express confidence that your child will be able to "do better". Believe in the child's self-discipline ability, and replace excessive attention and nagging on the child's behavior with a code of conduct developed by the whole family. In this way, when the parent-child relationship gradually eases, the child re-establishes a new relationship of trust with the parents, and does not pay much attention to whether the parents communicate with the teacher.

Xue Lian: I always believe in "long live understanding". The 14-year-old child is no longer a baby who needs to be taken care of at any time, an independent personality is being formed, and she has more and more of her own "little secrets" and "little troubles", she does not want to be restrained and disciplined by others, even if she is the most concerned about her parents, she also thinks that she can completely handle her own affairs without others interfering, which is a significant sign of growth.

Don't bother with me, it's annoying! "What do you tell the teacher?" Don't get me in trouble!

I guess this is the true voice of a child at this age to his parents who are "worried" about love.

In the face of all kinds of rebellious behaviors of children, the rational approach is not to "stumble", but to be hard, hoping to control the child more strictly, which will only backfire. Parents should give them more respect and room to grow, and also keep their children's privacy appropriately.

Many parents often think that "the teacher doesn't like my child" and "the teacher favors other children", but in fact, this is a kind of parents' own prejudice. Pedagogically speaking, teachers should love their students, but it is not necessary for teachers to express liking for every performance of each student. For example, not doing homework, fighting, swearing, and acting rudely, teachers have every reason to express their dislike or even annoyance.

Parents can help their children learn actively, dress neatly, treat others in a civilized and polite manner, and take the initiative to seek the teacher's opinion. Parents can also take the initiative to ask teachers for criticism and help alone, or they can take the initiative with their children, and the initiative of students and parents can accelerate the mutual understanding between teachers and students.

Education is a complex phenomenon. Parents should not deny teachers and children because of a certain view of individual teachers at a time and place, and teachers should not form a denial of children because of a certain performance of a student or a parent, therefore, it is recommended that teachers and students should communicate more with each other, and parents and teachers should also communicate more.

First of all, parents should communicate with their children at the first time, find the root of the problem, and try to comfort the child, do not let the child become inferior, after learning the reason, parents can let the child correct the mistake appropriately, and can apologize to the teacher in person, in order to alleviate the conflict between the teacher and the student, so as to attract the attention of the teacher.

Secondly, after the child's problem is solved, if the parents find that the teacher does not like their child for personal reasons, and does not pay attention to education. Then parents can directly communicate with the teacher, and the attitude can also be relatively tough, and strive to make the teacher make changes, if there is still no effect, you can report the situation to the school leaders and the education department first, after all, the teacher's attention to the child will affect the child's future development to a large extent.

It's this society now, and there's no other way, your child may be because of academic performance or because of naughtiness. So the teacher doesn't like him, then you are. Give him some money, so that it can ease up a little? It can also help your child's learning.

Why the teacher doesn't like your child, there must be an internal reason, understand whether the child treats the teacher politely at school, educate the child patiently, and communicate with the teacher sincerely.

Teachers don't like children, how do parents communicate with teachers? In this case, parents should communicate with the teacher, the child is the first to make a mistake, resulting in the teacher does not like the child, whether the teacher likes the child or not, the child has deficiencies and mistakes should be corrected in time, so that the child can have room for improvement.

Analyze your child's strengths and weaknesses.

According to the style of the teacher's conversation, communicate in a targeted manner.

Children's personalities and characteristics are different, some children actually like to communicate with others, but some children are reluctant to talk to others. Children don't like to communicate with others, how can teachers guide them?

Teachers not only need to take on the work of teaching, but also help children solve problems in the process of teaching, if the teacher finds that some children do not like to communicate with others in the process of teaching. At this time, the teacher can encourage the child to communicate with others, and feel that the teacher's job is to teach and educate people. In this way, the teacher will be able to complete his or her tasks better, and of course the teacher should communicate with the child in advance to understand the reasons why the child is reluctant to communicate with others.

In this way, this problem can be solved, and of course, I think it is necessary to encourage the child to communicate with others, so that the child can take the first step.

I think the reason why these children are reluctant to communicate with others is because these children are very timid. Of course, there are many reasons why children do not like to communicate with others, if the child's original family is not particularly good, it may also lead to the child will be very inferior, so the child is not willing to talk to others. At this time, the teacher should encourage the child to ask more questions, for example, the teacher can ask more questions about the student in class, so that the student will gradually become bolder, and over time, the classmates will understand the student, and then more people will be willing to make friends with the student.

I feel that teachers will also meet all kinds of students in school, and some students may indeed have certain personality flaws. But I think teachers should not be biased, if you really find a related problem, then you should report it to parents in time, so that you can better solve this problem.

Teachers should encourage children more and cultivate children's self-confidence, because only in this way will children enjoy communicating with others.

Teachers should pay more attention to the children and interact with the children more often, and they can also ask the children questions during the class, and they can also encourage other children to communicate with the child at the end of the class, and gradually the children will be willing to communicate with other children.

As a teacher, you should let your child communicate with her classmates often, and you should also tell your child some communication methods and skills, so that your child will become very happy and cheerful.

Parents may be worried about what is going on and what to do in the end, but here are some suggestions. Cultivating children's language skillsImproving children's ability to use language is to help them connect with others. Raising a child from an early age can be said to be love, which can lay the necessary foundation for social activities.

Usually praise a lot, encourage a lot, don't blame the child for being too honest and not getting ahead, don't say in front of outsiders that the child is not generous and unpopular.

<> this kind of blame will increase the psychological burden of the child and hit the child's self-esteem, but it will make them withdraw further and find ways to increase their self-confidence. Protect your child's self-esteem, give your child down the stairs at the right time, or keep it a secret for your child. When criticizing a child, first identify some of the good motives.

When the child is timid, most parents will hope to encourage older and courageous partners to socialize with older and courageous partners according to the reason of "close to Zhu Zhehong", but for some children, the result is not good.

In contact with peers who are stronger than themselves, they become more inferior and more difficult. Therefore, parents never want to push their children into a good group. Therefore, it is better to have children who are cheerful, sturdy, younger than yours, warm and generous parents, and children who can always play with their friends.

In a simulated small classroom, children basically have the ability to express themselves, and after knowing "how to say", they can gather their families to simulate a small classroom for "training". Let the children tell their own stories and family problems in front of everyone.

At first, the child may be shy and hard, but encourage the whole family to continue to tell him that even if he is wrong. Gradually, children will become more and more laid-back and confident. To sum up, if the child does not like to communicate with others, parents should cultivate the child's language ability more, let the child love to talk, talk more, encourage and praise the child when he speaks, give the child enough security, in addition, if the parent plans to go out, they should also take the child to have more contact.

You can let some of the more cheerful children around you go to play with him. The teacher should also pay more attention to him when he usually speaks. Slowly unravel his heart.

Don't let the children around you stay away from him, don't let him feel lonely. Ask your child's opinion, don't deny him casually, and don't hurt his self-esteem.

The teacher must encourage the child to be full of confidence, and the teacher must play with the child, make the child feel loved, and encourage the child to make more friends.

The teacher should know what the child's reasons are and then guide the child to correct his own fault.

The teacher must learn to encourage the child's limbs, and then guide the child more, improve the child's emotional intelligence, improve the child's language expression ability, and communicate more with the child.

Teachers can communicate more with children, take children to some places outside, and take children to communicate with their friends who are frank and wild, so that they can guide children to communicate.

At school, the teacher can train his self-care skills and encourage the child when he improves. Stimulate his curiosity and get him to take the initiative to participate in the activity.

If the child does not like to communicate with others, then as a teacher, you can let other classmates and children take the initiative to be friends with the child, take the initiative to communicate with him, and You Huai is willing to accompany the child to do what he likes to do, then the child will gradually fall in love with communication.

If the child does not love to communicate with others, we, as children, should actively encourage children to communicate with others, teachers not only need to undertake the work of teaching, but also we have to make bridges in the process of teaching to solve problems for children, encourage children to participate in the classroom, and answer questions.

Some parents are also in control of their children, and they have nothing to do about it. Teachers expect parents to take more care of their children so that their children and grandchildren can achieve better results. But in fact, for the parents of poor students, if they have a way, their children will not be so bad, in short, parents are helpless with their children.

Even if some parents work hard, everyone's talent is relatively limited, and they may not be able to study well. In the words of some parents: If the child is disobedient, everyone can't do anything, and all tricks are used, and it doesn't work.

Therefore, our parents also know their children very well, and they do not need to listen to the teachers and grasp them.

Parents feel that their children are not learning well and do not want to see teachers. It is an honor for parents whose children are good at learning to see their teachers, on the contrary, if their children are disobedient, parents really don't want to see their teachers, because they feel that they are also embarrassed. These emotions of parents can contribute to parents' reluctance to see teachers, or even resistance to teachers.

In the eyes of many poor parents, many teachers are not up to the mark, otherwise why would they teach their children so badly? Therefore, the parents of poor students do not want to see the tutor very much, and they also dislike the teacher very much. Nowadays, parents don't pin all their expectations on teachers, so they don't want to communicate and communicate very much, and they feel that communication and communication are very effective.

After the parent-teacher conference, the quality of the child's homework will not improve everything, and their parents will not be able to think about everything according to the parent-teacher meeting. Parent-teacher associations are one of the most important tasks of institutions, and it is expected that parent-teacher associations can arouse the attention of parents and improve students' grades. However, at this stage, it seems that the effectiveness of the parent-teacher association has faded.

After the parent-teacher conference, the teachers found that the quality of the students' homework had not changed at all, and it was impossible for most parents to reflect on the basis of the parent-teacher conference, regardless of what the child had learned.

Faced with the mentality of parents, more and more teachers choose not to look for parents anymore, because everyone also understands, and it is useless to find them. Over the years, teachers have gradually figured out that finding parents is the most stupid way to educate children. Whatever the child's problems, it is almost impossible to ask the parents to deal with them.

For example, if the child's homework is scribbled, it is basically useless to find parents; For example, if the child does not write homework, it is useless to find parents, and parents will continue to find all kinds of excuses for their children; For example, if the child does not memorize, it is useless to find the parents, because the parents ask the child to recite and the child does not memorize.