What is it like to have a child who is not on the same channel as his peers?

I don't like KTV bars, I like to drink tea, I like to be quiet, I never sleep lazy, I go to bed early and get up early to raise a lot of flowers. I'm 26, and my friends often say that my country is like an old man, but in fact, it's good to be happy, and I don't have to care too much about what others say.

My brother is such a child, when he was a child, I showed him the rest of the books I used to read every day, so he can read faster than his peers may be more mature, the biggest feeling is that he is indeed more sensible than his peers, and he knows the reason earlier, and when other little boys are playing firecrackers, he reads books and reads history in the house by himself, and he is very obedient.

In fact, she is not bad at heart, but this kind of behavior seems to have become a habit of hers. Her parents also seem to be a bit impolite. The influence of the family environment is still obvious.

It's kind of like that kind of petty philistine. It's often unpleasant, but suddenly there's a moment when you think she's not bad. Oh, it's so tangled.

I am well aware of his merits. For example, he has the ability to focus on what he likes, is obsessed with love, is willing to think, and even looks up information to enrich his favorite knowledge base. From the bottom of my heart, I'm not worried about his ability to learn.

But I'm worried about his well-being. He is afraid that in this real society, his ability to survive is not enough, so it hinders the platform he can reach to better play to his advantages. I sometimes imagine that he had a problem with food and clothing.

I'm not asking him to get ahead, but hopefully he'll have the ability to find his place.

Now he is in the fourth grade of elementary school, and the situation is similar. Certainly not expecting him to be a good student. But he's not messing around, he's just wandering.

The bad news is that he doesn't have any friends, and he doesn't have any friends who make him even less able to get along with children, and then it's harder to make friends, so it's a vicious circle.

I didn't even dare to communicate more details with these two anxious old men. On Children's Day, the kindergarten open day, parents watched their children sing and dance with joy, and my son squatted on the side, playing with a ribbon (a prop for a dance program) that fell on the floor, and played all morning. All the shows don't have him, not to mention, you can't even be an audience?

When I was in kindergarten, once my parents went to the school to visit the class, and found that he was in a daze in class, and he was in a daze after class. The old man was very anxious, could it be a lack of calcium, would he not sleep well, would his body not be good enough to cause his energy to be poor, and finally even doubted whether it would be autism, because he later found that he was squatting on the floor and watching the ants for a long time.

Very, very unforgiving, a thing that she has taken a little bit of reason can always be used as the first thing to "chat" with you later. Forget it once or twice.,It's really speechless to mention it every time.。。 The point is that it's all trivial, and I'm justified, how can it seem like it's completely my fault!

The chatter felt annoying. And her spittle was about to spray the stars on my face, which made me wonder if he was arguing with me.

My son is a kid who isn't on the same channel as people his age. I can't even tell if he's mature or naïve. Sometimes he was as profound as a philosopher, and I thought anxiously to myself, I couldn't have been born a genius.

But in the blink of an eye, he was so naïve that even a dog hated it.

Children who are different, both good and bad. If the child does not deal with people for a long time or cannot communicate with others normally, and cannot obtain a sense of identity, then the child may have autism, or depression, and parents may get depression if they get along with a child who seems to behave differently for a long time. It is best to correct the child's bad behavior in time, after all, people cannot survive without society, natural selection, survival of the fittest.

There is also the possibility that the child is just going through that period of adolescence and wishing that he was different, and that he will not be like that in the future. Of course, it is not excluded that there is a kind of child who is born different from ordinary children, with a high IQ and maturity, this kind of child is basically a kind of child whose parents can't keep up with the rhythm of their children.

Don't doubt yourself, it may be that your points of interest and everyone are not the same channel. There are a lot of this situation.,It's like me.,I'm chasing stars.,But there are really few people around me who chase stars.,And it's not the same as me.,I'll buy **,Brush the sound source.,And I'm in the Korean circle and the European and American circles.,So very few people around me can have a common language.,I've mixed the Chinese circle before.,But it really disappointed me.,So I really don't know what to say to communicate with you now.,Especially for a winter vacation at home.,When I come to school, I don't know what to say to them? It's really depressing.

I don't know what stalks they say.,But fortunately, I'm not completely ignorant.,It's just that I don't understand it right away.,They say this stalk.,My thoughts are still floating in other places.,It's really super not**.。 It's a matter of interest in keeping one's mind on the same channel as others.

There may be that your thinking is too jumpy, and there is no way, because people's thinking is different, it is a very normal thing, and it is an idea in the eyes of the public, but because your thinking is different from ordinary people, so express your views and solve problems are different from others, this is a person's thinking, but also their own characteristics, from time to time a sentence may really surprise people. For example, watching "Talk Show", there is a link in it that there is a **, and then let you see what you can think of when you see this long**? Everyone's brains are open, ah, from this can also reflect what kind of thinking you have, and the heat around you is not a problem, you have your own ideas, this is your thinking.

If your mind is always not on the same channel as others, you should be happy. This shows that you are a different person and are destined to be extraordinary. I have the impression that such people are generally very intelligent people. <>

Like one of my high school classmates, his thinking is always not on the same channel as others. At the beginning of the military training in the first year of high school, when everyone was resting, everyone was sitting there drinking water or something, so he ran to catch grasshoppers, and there were rumors that he still had to eat grasshoppers, of course, it was just a rumor, and I hadn't seen it. He was very fun during military training, and he couldn't tell the difference between left and right for a while, and then he turned around.

It's cute all day long, and it's especially fun.

A mortal like me can't talk to him, he speaks nonsensically, one sentence from east to west, and the one that jumps from this thing right away. When he memorized classical Chinese, he couldn't memorize it himself, and asked the teacher to translate it into vernacular for her, saying that he would memorize it. He was very fond of science.

When we were in reading class, everyone was in a hurry to write reading notes, and he was there quietly doing math problems, ignoring our Chinese teacher. So our Chinese teacher didn't like him very much. But the teacher is also the class teacher, and his Chinese grades are not very good, but his science grades are very good.

So the teacher also has no way to take him.

In addition, his desk is very, very messy, and everyone wants to clean up the table and be in a good mood to study. But he didn't, and he couldn't find anything when he was messing around all day long. From the elementary school class, there will always be someone who doesn't like to clean up the desk, and they are often the ones who have very good grades.

So thinking and others are not different from each other on the same channel, nothing, which shows that you have a lot of potential. You should put yourself in the category of smart people.

In the case of you, I think it can be divided into three categories, and you can see which category you fall into.

The first type is the sluggish type.

Some people are born with reflex arcs.

It's longer than others, but it's more than a little bit longer.

Often half an hour after the end of the previous topic, some people are still immersed in the previous topic, infinitely generating infinite associations, and others are not on the right lips when chatting with him.

mouth, I can't understand what he's talking about at all, and it doesn't match the current topic at all.

In other words, the reflection arc is long, and the star really can't afford to be hurt.

I am always ridiculed and disliked by all kinds (.).

The second type is off-line.

On average, in a class, there are often 2 to 3 people who are very active and very out-of-the-box, often the topic is still ongoing, and he is there to listen to others, but in fact, his thinking has already run to Java.

The questions raised can also feel inexplicable, because they go beyond the normal direction of human thinking.

This kind of person's personality is often more funny and funny, and he is a pistachio that can bring joy to many people. He will be more serious in his work and is a very positive person.

The third type is the Nakayong type.

Also known as the "genius type".

Genius is always not understood, and genius is always the loneliest. Their minds are beyond the average person, they cannot find a common language from their peers, they are a special group.

Don't think it's glamorous to be a genius, geniuses often accept more things than they can bear at their age, and many geniuses don't have childhood. What's more, many geniuses are problematic, they are immersed in their own world, they don't communicate with outsiders, and outsiders can't understand their minds at all.

If parents don't understand education, that genius is likely to become crazy.

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When children are with their peers, it is easier to form groups and communicate more easily, which is helpful for children's physical and mental development.

Every parent hopes that their children will have a good life in the future, but when their children grow up, some people are not what their parents imagined, or even say that they are the opposite. A child's various behaviors and actions when he is a child may affect his later life, either in good or bad ways. If it is a bad parent, it is most likely that the parents do not pay attention to details when educating their children.

Don't think that if the child is small, those behaviors can be tolerated. Parents also spoil their children too much and let their children develop bad habits. What are some behaviors that can have a big impact on children?

Children have no perseverance, retreat when they encounter some difficulties, and are especially afraid of hardship

Most of the parents have endured a lot of hardships, and when they have the conditions, they are unwilling to let their children endure hardships and spoil him in various ways. The child only needs to have fun, eat and drink, and the adults will do the rest. It seems to be a manifestation of love for children, but in fact, it is not good for the growth of children, it is harmful to children, he has not experienced those things personally, he does not know the feeling, especially when he is independent in the future, everything needs to be done by himself, and he must complete it himself, and he has not developed a habit, and it is easy to develop lazy habits when he grows up in the future.

Don't do it when you're tired, don't do it when it's rare, don't do it when you don't like it, don't do it when you don't like it, there's no perseverance, and it's a kind of unproductive performance.

I am greedy for small and cheap, and I think it's a good thing to get something for nothing

Greedy for a small price is a kind of unearned behavior, children are greedy for small and cheap, generally follow the adults to learn, so that he has been affected, but also affected his values. If the child has such behavior, he must first check himself, correct himself, and then educate the child that other people's things cannot be wanted, and no matter how much they like, they cannot take it. What needs to be told to mom and dad, not too much, most of the cases will satisfy the child.

If you want to instill in your child what you want, you must get it through your own efforts and through formal channels. Don't think that the child's behavior saves you money, in fact, it will have a great impact on his development and his social interaction, and it is the child who is hurt, which is very different from the child who wants to have a promising child.

Children who cannot control their emotions lose their temper

Children often have emotions, most of them are used to parents, too doting, once the child's requirements are not met, he will lose his temper, once to "coerce" the adult to satisfy him. Especially in public places, he will cry more unbridled to force parents to comply with his demands. So in the long run, do adults feel particularly tired?

Therefore, when parents educate their children, they should not be too spoiled and do not satisfy their children in everything. For example, when buying something, you can't buy what your child wants, but give your child a time cycle when you can only choose one or two things, and tell your child the value of the item and the value of the item. Otherwise, the child will always be dissatisfied and lose his temper, it will be difficult for him to have friends, and it will also affect his future work, and others will not let him.

Therefore, if you want a promising child, you must educate the child well from an early age, and give it back love, but not doting.