How to refuse an unreasonable request from someone you don t know well?

Since it is not very familiar and it is an unreasonable request, it must be best to refuse directly, otherwise it will only add trouble to yourself.

One of my high school classmates didn't have contact until one day after graduating from college, and he suddenly contacted me and said that he had been looking for a job recently, and he didn't even have money for food, so he could borrow a little from him, and said that he would pay it back soon. Because of the friendship in high school, I promised to lend him 2,000, but I was afraid that I wouldn't see him for four years, and he had completely changed, so I asked him to give me an IOU on Alipay. And I told him explicitly to choose a date when he could pay back, and then he chose a date six months later.

At that time, I didn't think much about it, and just transferred the money to him. Later, I still didn't have any communication with him. Until the day he wanted to repay the money, he called me again, and he told me that Alipay had transferred money directly from his bank card to me, and asked me if I had received it.

He also said, when I received it, can I lend him another 1,000, hearing this, I really don't know what to do, if I don't borrow, I'm afraid that I will hurt my feelings, and if I borrow, I'm afraid that the money will not come back.

I didn't know what to do at the time, so I responded first, I said I'll see if the money has been received first, and I saw that the money has really arrived. Later, I thought about it carefully, we didn't know each other very well in high school, just occasionally played basketball together, I had borrowed 2,000 yuan for him to turn over for half a year, and he just repaid the money now (not that he took the initiative to repay, but Alipay automatically repaid when due), but asked me to borrow, and I didn't say the deadline, this is not an unreasonable request.

So, I immediately replied to him on WeChat: "The money has been received, however, I can't lend you any more, I am preparing to buy a house recently (an excuse), there may be no extra money to lend you". He snorted.

After today, I was a little reluctant to go, so I wanted to lend him the money again, but who knows, he actually blocked me.

I believe that everyone can also realize something through this matter, you are embarrassed to someone you are not familiar with, and others can't understand it at all, so why be merciful to him, and directly refusing is the best way to deal with it.

After all, none of us can guarantee that it will always be smooth sailing in some things in the future, and friends themselves can become stronger by supporting and helping each other, so I will generally try my best to do a good job of the requirements made to me by true friends.

But there are many times when there are a lot of people who I don't know very well with them who always come to us and make some even unreasonable demands on us, so what should we do in this situation?

Pretend not to know.

This is also my attitude when dealing with some other people's requests that I don't want to respond to, for example, when both parties are very tired, the other party keeps asking you to bring him tea and water and get some things, which should be a relatively unreasonable request for us ourselves who are extremely tired physically and mentally, right? So sometimes I put on my headphones and pretend to do something of my own, and I don't care about it no matter how much the other person shouts at me. After a long time, he won't keep bothering you anymore.

Use some irresistible excuses to reject him.

I believe that in many cases we will more or less lie to our own predicament, in the face of unreasonable requests from people we don't know well, we can do this, for example, the other party asks you to lend him a little money, you can say that I am really embarrassed that I have bought gifts for my mother with my recent money, and I have no money recently. Or when they ask you to help with something, you can say, I'm sorry, I've been busy with homework lately, and I don't have much time.

Gradually, every time you use this unchangeable factual excuse to shirk their demands, they will find you more "difficult to speak" and will no longer let you help them do these unreasonable things.

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Then on this issue, we should also reflect more on whether we have mentioned any unreasonable requirements to people we don't know well, and if there are any, we must correct them in time, after all, we must know how to advance and retreat when interacting with people.

It can be difficult when someone asks you to do something that you can't refuse someone's unreasonable request, but here are some of the crèry convocations that might be useful:

1.Thank the other person for their suggestion or request and explain that you cannot meet their request. For example: Thank you for your advice, but I have very limited time and resources, so I can't meet your request.

2.State your position directly. For example: I'm sorry, but I can't do that because it's not appropriate for me.

3.Provide a possible alternative. For example: I can't eat with you at this time, but we can agree with Kai at another time.

4.If necessary, make your refusal clear. For example: I understand your request, but I can't help you, please ask someone else to help.

5.If the other person still insists on asking for your help or support, firmly reaffirm your decision. For example: I understand what you think, but I can't do it. I hope you understand my position.

In conclusion, it can be difficult to say no to someone's request, but as long as you express your own decision frankly and politely, it should effectively convey your position. Saying "no" doesn't mean rejecting others, it's protecting your own rights. Sometimes we have to say no to someone else's request at the right time to be able to focus on our own work or interests.

Remember, saying no to someone else's request is just one way, and it shouldn't be seen as an attack or disrespect for the other.

Refuse directly and decisively, otherwise he will be unwilling, since a person can make unreasonable demands, then you can refuse justifiably and solemnly.

We must have courage to be rude and demanding, because rudeness is likely to be accompanied by some threats, so we must first be ourselves, and don't do something that people say for a little delayed benefit, so once we encounter it, we will decisively refuse to regret it early instead of thinking about it!

Here's how to refuse someone else's request:1. Listen patiently to the other party's request.

2. Make it clear that you need time to think.

3. Refuse to refuse the shed with a pleasant face.

4. Be resolute in your attitude.

5. The reason for refusal must be given.

6. The right thing is not the right person. Be sure to let the other person know that you are rejecting his request, not him.

7. After the other party refuses, it is best to point out other ways to deal with it to the other party. Dust Judgment.

For other people's unreasonable demands, you must firmly refuse the other party and don't give the other party any chance.

When you promise him the first time, it means that there will be a second time and the third time in the rental office, so you have to refuse from the beginning.

The biggest difficulty of people is that they don't know how to recognize themselves, so they will fall into a series of communication problems. Recognizing one's own abilities and recognizing one's own situation is the most important thing for a person who will refuse. We found that there are too many people in life who agree to other people's requests for the sake of face, but in the end they can't bear this time, but they break up unhappily.

This is what we call not knowing what we are capable of, which leads to such a wrong ending.

Keep the response simple. If you're going to say no, be firm and direct. Use the phrase, thank you for looking up to me, but now it's inconvenient or sorry, I can't help.

Try to use your body language to emphasize no without apologizing. Remember, you don't need to allow it to refuse. Give yourself some time.

Breaking is the loop, use the phrase I will come back to you and then consider your options. Consider considering at your leisure, and you'll be more confident in refusing.

Every time I am distressed because I don't reject others, I will think hard about the losses I have suffered, and when I think about it, I will feel extremely wronged, and I will hate myself. Don't feel that hating yourself is a very bad thing, sometimes, hating yourself can make you understand a lot and learn a lot, and learning to refuse in the midst of losses is better than being dumb and eating coptis.

Sometimes, many people ask you for help because they feel that they have a good relationship with you, not out of malice, at this time, you see if it is something you can do, if so, don't refuse, otherwise you may lose a friend. If you really can't help it, just explain why.

Language is a boundary of communication between people, and any way of requesting is expressed through language. Therefore, it should be mentioned here that the words should not be too full, but pay attention to roundabout tactics. When you feel that he has something to ask you about, you don't have to wait for him to say it, and you can use some excuses to avoid the problem.

For example, he said that he had recently lost his job, which was really unlucky. If you feel that you can help him, you can continue to listen to him, and if you feel that you are really powerless, you can follow this sentence with the sentence I am working and you are unemployed, and the salary is too low. This is the language we speak, which is more euphemistic than if someone asks a question directly.

If the other party asks you to do something very important, a direct refusal will make the other party feel that you are particularly ignorant, and we need to set a small barrier so that the other party can not only feel our attention, but also set the stage for the next time, and do not let others easily call you. The way to do this is to tell the other person that you are doing something that the other person will agree with and is very important, but we are willing to make time for the other person to do it!

Learn to cheer yourself up, tell yourself that when you encounter any thing or person you don't want in the future, you must say no, no matter who it is, whether it is a man or a woman, old or young, as long as you go against your heart, you must say no as soon as possible, otherwise, you will only be wronged forever and bullied forever.

If the other party's request has hurt you, the above two methods are not within the scope of our consideration, and we need to abandon the idea that we must not offend others, and directly express our own thoughts. We can ask for our 1-3 levels directly and show that this is our bottom line!