In college life, I had a very successful life, and I didn t know how to get out.

Hehe, after reading what you said, I think we are very similar

I just went to college.

Second, I am the kind of person who only talks a lot after getting acquainted, at the beginning of my freshman year, I am very slow to melt, I am also a little pampered, and my living habits are also lost, and things are placed indiscriminately. My parents used to clean up for me at home. Because I'm not good at talking to others, people don't get close to me.

I don't pay much attention to me、I'm also very uncomfortable.、After all, people still have to communicate to be happy.

I don't know if you're a man or a woman, but I'm a girl.

At that time, I talked about a boyfriend, so I was not so boring, I told him everything, and he guided me a lot

It's not always time for someone to come forward and understand you, but I'm just a little lucky at the time

However, after a few months, after getting acquainted, slowly I talked a lot, what fun to share with you, what to talk about and participate, slowly everyone thinks, in fact, you are still quite cute, now a year, I often ask them why they didn't play with me at that time, everyone said that I think I'm very good, but I don't gnaw, so I don't dare to talk to me more.

There is no such thing as a fixed opinion, you have to remind yourself all the time, blend in with everyone, and be bold. It's good, and then it's about making more friends, finding your own reasons, and making some friends outside, so it's not so boring.

I'm also quite worried about my habits. But who doesn't have a flaw, it can't be just you and me. Now I am very iron with them, and everyone doesn't think that my living habits have anything, and they will help me dry the quilt or something, I always forget

You have a good relationship with everyone, everyone thinks that these are nothing, the most important thing is to be happy together, you don't want to get close to everyone, and you must magnify your shortcomings many times

I hope you can be happy, oh, everyone is slow like this, but let's be a little slower

If you don't do anything that harms others (illegal and immoral), don't care too much about what other people think; A person should have something that he is interested in and good at, and be able to make a living from it; If you are good at a certain field or you have a certain craft and can enjoy it, then you will not have a sense of failure, and others will only pay attention to your grades; Don't let yourself be idle, if you can't find your direction, it is advisable to start with your studies first and work hard to improve your grades so that you can find your self-confidence...

I wish you a happy growth!

I think you've recognized that and you're trying to make improvements, which is very good.

As long as you have self-control, you can get rid of it, after all, good habits are beneficial to your life, study, and even future work.

Your indifference to people means that you are selfish, egoistic, and very sensitive. Participate in group activities, clubs, and organizations at school, open your heart, and learn to think about others for the collective. After all, people live in society, and if you always think about others, others will experience and think about you.

At the same time, everyone's level is different, what you can do, don't ask others to do the same, be tolerant of roommates.

Usually watch more news, increase your knowledge, broaden the depth and breadth of knowledge, so that you can talk to others and have a topic.

Hopefully, all of the above will help you.

Are you wary of others from the heart, although you really want to fit in with them, but showing it always gives people a sense of insincerity, and it is possible that you can feel it yourself. Always think about others in the bad places or hold on to other people's shortcomings, and can't see even a little mistake in others.

I don't know if you have this situation, hehe, I used to be similar to you, that's what I thought. I'm very indifferent to people, and sometimes when I'm with others, I just laugh at them, and I feel very fake. If you think about it carefully, you find that you have a deep inferiority complex, and you don't want others to get too close to yourself, so you often have a very indifferent appearance, and others are naturally not close to yourself.

There is also a bit of perfectionist mentality, not only can not tolerate others to make a little mistake, but also blame yourself for making a small mistake, which is easy to affect the mood, so others see that you are in a bad mood, and they are also interested not to bother. Also, I'm a bit selfish, I always think about myself and rarely think about others. It's easy to find the root of the problem.

1, low self-esteem 2, perfectionism 3, selfishness.

It is easier to start from these three places to improve the situation, see a little, let go of a little, and think more about others.

I don't know if it's right, I hope it can help you.

I'm a sophomore now, and I'm much better than before, and I hope you get out of the haze soon.

The word benevolence, on the left is a person, on the right is a two, benevolence, two people also. The thing between the two is 'benevolence'. To think for another person in everything is to think from the heart.

Everything you do is for the good of others, and that is to stop at doing. It's both, and it's almost the same. ”

It's the same with being a person, think more about others before doing things, and others won't ignore your feelings, if you do it right, they still do this to you, then I can only say that your roommate is not worth your relationship, change the dormitory, in life, you are looking for a like-minded friend, one is enough, what is the benefit of more than essential?

What a good time, they all rejected you, which means that you are also responsible, you should be cheerful and integrate into the group. Friendship is important. Believe in yourself and believe in your other roommates.

This question needs to start from your own habits and attitudes, consider the reasons why everyone is reluctant to approach you, if one or two people may be incompatible, if most people are like this, then you have to think about your own problems, whether you have some bad habits, attitudes, or personalities, etc., you need to look at your own way from the perspective of others to think about it, think about what you are doing is not suitable.

The past is gone, and my own shortcomings are corrected, and I continue to carry forward a little.

Society is like this, and nothing is in vain if you don't work hard.

Are you a boy or a girl?

<>1.It's hard to get out of your comfort zone.

Survey data on the status of college students shows that only 40% of them have time to study independently, which means that most college students are in a relatively comfortable state of university life. Indeed, college is where dreams begin, and for the 40% of college students who are willing to step out of their comfort, the realization of dreams depends on hard work; 30% of relative comfort, standing on the edge of walking out of comfort and immersion comfort; And for the remaining 30%, it can only rely on daydreaming. This comfort restricts most people's college careers and becomes the biggest challenge for contemporary college students.

For class, choose a "Buddhist" attitude to life, but the Buddhism here is not to go with the flow, but to deliberately put it badly. For example, Ali stepped on every class, and sometimes even rushed into the classroom after the roll call, found a seat that the teacher could not see, and then skillfully turned on his mobile phone, or put on headphones, immersed in his own world, isolated from the world, and put an end to listening to lectures and communication.

For life, clothes must be piled up to a certain extent and then washed, and must use a washing machine, if you can't row, you can even put the clothes in the laundry room, and so on, until you recall, find that you have no clothes to wear, and then hurriedly go to the queue to do laundry, wash it and let it go, often after a few days, only to remember that you still have clothes in the laundry room, and then go back to dry.

2.Physical activity is not valued.

For physical exercise, ask the seniors for advice before choosing physical education classes in college, which teacher's class is rarely named, and the free exercise time accounts for a large proportion, and then every time the class is done to prepare for the activity, he sneaks back to the dormitory, whether it is playing games or making up homework, in short, he doesn't do anything related to sports in physical education class. When I waited for the physical test, in the face of the precarious physical test results, I was heartbroken, complaining about why I didn't participate in the exercise well, making passing a luxury and a good physical fitness a luxury. <>

3.The herd mentality of going with the flow.

To participate in activities, to participate in the organization, you must ask your roommates, classmates, if there is no one with you, you don't plan to go, or even give up an organization that you like very much, but others are different, when your roommates and classmates have entered your favorite organization, you find that you have not participated in anything, nothing has entered, when your roommates go out to participate in activities, you will become a lonely "housekeeper". Then there is the familiar self-pity link, blaming yourself for why you should blindly follow the herd, but the matter has come to this point, the major community organizations have been recruited, and you can only go to some low-quality clubs with a shortage of personnel to do what you don't like. <>

1. Learn self-discipline.

From primary school to university graduation, we have to go to school for more than ten years, what is the meaning?

I used to think that it was about learning knowledge, but in the last two years, I realized that it is more important to learn self-discipline.

If you learn self-discipline, you will be able to self-lead and educate yourself, and you will definitely be able to learn whatever you want to learn, buy a book, find some information, and you will definitely be able to learn.

This kind of life has infinite possibilities.

Many people are confused, anxious, and have a messy life, not because they are not smart, not because they are incapable, not because they lack opportunities, but because they are not self-disciplined.

Those who are self-disciplined are outstanding, and those who are lazy are out.

2. Develop a core competency.

Should I join a club when I go to college? Do you want to run for class committee? Do you want to participate in various competitions? The answer is: yes.

In the freshman year, I did addition, and I participated as much as I could, but after the sophomore year, I had to do subtraction, and if I could, I would retreat.

To do addition is to try more, gain knowledge, and at the same time find what you are good at and like.

Doing subtraction is to focus on improving one of your abilities and doing the most cost-effective thing, because your time is the most scarce.

So what competencies should be cultivated?

The second principle is to do something that is sustainable, transferable, and compoundable.

3. Reading and writing.

The thing I regret most when I go to college is that I didn't read a lot of books. Therefore, my personality is not sound and my outlook is unstable, which leads to a bad life for a long time.

Reading is the most convenient and cost-effective way to shape the three views.

To see the world, you have to spend money to travel; When you see a cow man, a cow man may not want to see you.

And reading can break through the limitations of time and space, allowing you to see a larger world; Reading is also a dialogue with cattle people and making friends with great people; That's a lot of value.

If you insist on reading three or four hundred books in four years of college, your cognitive breadth and depth will jump significantly, surpassing most people.

Moreover, university is also the best time to study, on the one hand, there is enough time, and on the other hand, there is not much external pressure.

Because reading requires enough time, a certain amount of experience, and sufficient practice to truly understand.

And most of us are busy with work and household chores every day in order to survive, and there is not much time at the end of the day to study and ...... quietly

That's how I feel now, I have too little time, so I can only get up early and squeeze in time to read.

Also, reading books is best paired with writing.

The essence of reading is to learn knowledge, and then through the internalization of knowledge, promote our behavior change.

But if you want to internalize knowledge, it is not enough to just read it, the best way is to practice and output.

The process of writing output will force us to think, and it will further help us break through the knowledge blockage and reach the level of integration.

Write at the end. University is not the end, but the beginning of connecting society.

If you look backwards and think from the perspective of life, you will understand that university is the best time to shape and subvert yourself from the inside out.

Caesar said, "I have come, I have seen, I have conquered."

The most important thing in college is to find yourself and define yourself.

When you are determined, when you know where you are going, you will not be confused, your eyes will shine.

It's normal for freshmen to feel lost, and here are some tips to help get out of it:

1.Set goals: Try to set some short-term and long-term goals for yourself, which will help you organize your time and energy more purposefully.

2.Find hobbies: Try new activities or sports and find things that interest you really that will help you feel closed to a sense of accomplishment.

3.Join a club: Joining a campus club will help you make new friends and find people who share your interests.

4.Communicate with people: Communicate with classmates, mentors, or family members to share your thoughts and feelings, which will help you gain different perspectives and advice.

5.Ask for help: Don't be afraid to ask for help if you're confused or in need of it, and ask for help from your classmates, mentors, or counselors.

6.Study hard: While studying in college can be more difficult and complicated than in high school, studying hard will help you gain the knowledge to prepare you for your future career and life.

7.Self-awareness: Taking time to reflect on your thoughts, values, and goals will help you understand yourself better and find your direction.