How do you know your girlfriend s past, and do you want to know your girlfriend s past?

Updated on psychology 2024-04-15
15 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    Respect and trust are the foundation of love. When questioning the other person, you should first reflect on yourself.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Dude, height is not a problem.

    Don't ask, is the past important to you? Really.

    lest your girlfriend be disgusted.

    However, you can still tentatively ask your girlfriend herself, and if she doesn't want to say anything, you really don't ask.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Why do you have to know about her past! Do you like her and care about that! It can be seen that you are not sincere to her at all!

    What would she think of you if she knew you were investigating her past?!I advise you, if she doesn't say it, don't ask; She doesn't say, you go to investigate, then you should be ready to break up!

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Age is not a problem, height is not distance, don't care so much if you love her, you have to move him with sincerity in exchange for true love, the past is just let it pass.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    What else are you in love! As long as you think she's fine right now. She wants to tell you about her past, and she'll tell you.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    If you love her, believe in her, trust her ... You love her as you love her now ... Do not focus on her past ...

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    The past doesn't say anything, the best is always tomorrow, if you love her, you should love everything about her, everything includes the past, the present, and the future.

    The most important thing for two people to be together is to be inclusive.

  8. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    I think it's very important to know about my lover's past, but don't worry about the details. Her willingness to open up and tell you about the road she has traveled shows that she trusts you, and secondly, she is relieved. What I am most afraid of is that you cling to the past and make yourself in pain, and she is so scared that she will never dare to mention similar things to you again.

    Why do we care so much about each other's past?

    The first point is that people are selfish and possessive。Whether it is a series of strong and weak relationships with another person, such as family, friendship, or love, they all hope that the other party belongs to them completely, so it is difficult for people to accept the other person's past, that is, they care about the other person's past.

    The second is because people are afraid of losing. Because he is afraid, he is afraid that his past will make him lose another person.

    Whether you care or not, the past is real! There are good and bad memories of the past! Every today is a thing of the past, no matter what it is, the past is actually made by yourself today, so do you mind?

    Actually, I don't think you need to care too much, just a little bit, I hope you can remember the past for self-reflection, in order to be a better self! What do you think?

    If it's your partner's past, it's good to care about it, it means that you love her, but don't raise this to the level of lingering, often this is the easiest way to turn you into her have a past! So what do you think?

    I think since you like it, there is no need to ask about other people's past, everyone has experienced different things, and the relationship is difficult to control, I don't know who will accompany me to the end, I can only cherish the present, cherish the current feelings, and manage well to go further, since you love her so much, don't ask her about the past, otherwise she will not feel good, protect her well, love her and cherish her is true

    With a person, it depends on whether she is willing to overcome obstacles for your future, not by how many ups and downs she has experienced. If you feel that you need it emotionally, getting to know the other person in the past will make you know better how to like the other person and whether she will like you, but don't go to extremes and respect the other person. Some people who don't want to express their hearts are absolutely resistant to spying on their hearts, that is, the kind of people who try to understand their past, which will cause extreme discomfort or other strong reactions to the other party's emotions, these suggestions do not or do not go too directly to probe into the other person's heart, and some people are not so sensitive to being tapped inside, what they need is a gentle, empathetic knocker.

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Minding his girlfriend's past is as stupid and boring as asking "why do people need to breathe". The "past" is the trace of our interaction with the world, and the proof of our existence. When people live, they have a past, for better or for worse.

    If you mind a person's past "badness", you are not entitled to have her present goodness; The reason why you have her current good is because she has experienced it and knows what is "bad" and what it means to cherish.

    Don't ask about a woman's past, if she is a good woman, then she, like you, in the previous relationship, is also truly in love and devoted to each other, knowing this, for you, there is no half of the need and benefit.

    If the general family compares her past relationships, then you must not think that she accounts for your past, but she does not have enough confidence in herself, you have to tell her how much you love her, and let her rest assured at the first ear banquet.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    I feel like if I really love them, then I don't care about their past. What I value more is the current relationship between two people, in the process of getting along, whether each other can really bring each other happiness and joy, the reason why there is no need to care about each other's past, there are two main reasons:

    First, there are many things that we should look at from a development perspective. Although the other party has some unbearable experiences in the past, but this is with their own acquaintance before the talk of the oak, since the wheel should not be too obsessed, if they really like each other, then we do not need to take these things to heart, we should take into account that in the future process and each other get along, whether each other can really feel harmonious, this is the most important factor to ensure the lasting relationship between two people.

    Second, if we care about the other person's past, then we and the other person will be more embarrassed in the process of getting along, and even two people will have certain conflicts because of this, which will affect each other's feelings. It will even lead to the breakdown of the relationship between two people, then, there is no need for two people to get along in the first place. Caring about the other party's past shows that he is not particularly resolute about this relationship, and there is a certain prejudice against the other party, so in this case, he should not really pursue the other party in the first place, or accept the other party's confession, which will only waste the time and energy of two people, and cause some damage to each other's hearts.

    So, if I really love him, I don't care about his past.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    One. It can be observed from the mobile phone, which is now the most important tool for chatting.

    Never peek at your girlfriend's phone. It is unethical to do so. When the timing is right, she is also looking at her phone.

    Suddenly, a message came, and you were curious to look at it and say, who? See how she reacts. In a panic, he hurriedly said that no one was just a colleague.

    Two. You can observe the lively and cheerful girl from her personality, and there are more boys around.

    People who like to play and make friends are there. Conservative, homely, unwilling to go out to play with the clear code, the contact surface is less. This one is for reference only. As long as you love each other, it's a matter of getting to know each other better.

    Three. From her circle of friends, young people now like to share their joys and sorrows.

    To love someone is to love her all, to accept all of her. That's the best part. On the contrary, you must also know that you are not unrequited love, not in your own wishful dreams.

    Trust each other and be honest. Since you love, you have to love without regrets.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    It is right that you must look down on your girlfriend's past, and it is better to cherish the sweet life in front of the two of you.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    Now that you have a liking for him, don't care about his past, everyone has a past, and if you investigate and ask, you will be hurt.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    It's best not to confess your love history.

    First, even if we are loving lovers, in addition to the love relationship, we are first and foremost an independent individual. As individuals, we have our own thoughts, concerns, or secrets. Just as we didn't like to have our parents peek at our diaries as children, I don't want my older lovers to know about my love history.

    The past has become the past, and everything good and bad with former lovers is experienced by former lovers and has nothing to do with the current relationship. Love is a very selfish thing, such as drinking water, knowing whether it is warm or cold. As long as each other in the relationship is responsible for each other's relationship, no one else needs to know too much about it or talk about it.

    Second, not confessing the love history to the lover is the greatest respect for the past lover, and it is also the greatest protection for the current lover. has become a past relationship, there are many beautiful experiences, and there are also many irreconcilable contradictions. Revealing a good experience to a current lover may make him mistakenly think that he still has some nostalgia for the past, so that it will affect the current relationship.

    And the unbearable and regretful past revealed to the current lover is not only a denial of the former lover, but also a worry for the current lover if the current relationship cannot end well. All the good and bad in love are best known to the other party in love, but many reasons for good or bad are likely to be just because of each other. Therefore, whether the past is good or not, let him stay in the past and not evaluate the former lover, which is an affirmation of the past relationship and a respect for the past lover, and if the current relationship cannot go to the end, it is the greatest protection for the current lover.

    Together we love you with all my heart; We are not together, and our love and separation will be well kept in my heart. It's not that you or I destroy the bridge, it's that it's no longer appropriate for us to be together, but, at this point, good luck.

    Third, no matter what kind of person the past lover was, as long as he confessed to the current lover, it was inevitable that there would be a psychology of comparison. There are some immature people, maybe they are indeed looking for their current lovers with the shadow of their past lovers, and after confessing, they will undoubtedly let their current lovers know that they have become substitutes, which is not conducive to the development of feelings. And even if there is no direct replacement relationship between the current and the ex, once our concept of mate selection is formed, the lovers we are looking for will always have some commonalities.

    Once you fall into the whirlpool of comparison, it will also have a negative impact on the development of feelings.

    Therefore, I would like to suggest today that you should not confess your love history to your lover. Let the past pass, cherish the present to go to the future together.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    As a man, in the face of the current society, the past of a girlfriend may really be beyond your imagination, but if you really love someone, you may not really mind these things, and you may hide it in your heart, but at least you won't show it.

    Just like I personally, although I don't mind my girlfriend's past, I won't say it because you don't want to go out to buy a pack of cigarettes and meet a few seniors.

    But if you really mind? That's not empty, because when you have an idea to say how your girlfriend is, when you want to say how your girlfriend was in the past, why don't you think about yourself, are you really good? If you are the same person, what qualifications do you have to speak to others?

    If you are really a clean person, you will not have those nonsense thoughts.

    Therefore, before you want to evaluate your girlfriend, it is better to see if you are qualified to mind your girlfriend's past, if not, then just stop being good to her.

    A girl's past is both important and unimportant, the important thing is whether she has experienced something that you can't accept, and the important thing is whether she is sincere to you now no matter what she used to be, as long as she meets you again, she is wholeheartedly devoted to you and true to you, then, her past, you really don't need to mind.

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