What does it feel like to be angry with a child?

There will really be a special feeling of helplessness, for example, when children are writing homework, some very simple questions, they will not, and then no matter how to tell them, they still won't, sometimes they feel particularly anxious, but they can't fight, they can't scold, it's quite helpless.

There is a bear child in our neighborhood who is particularly naughty. He will take out all the things in your house casually, and then he will seem to be very untutored, which is very annoying. Then he said to you, "You hit me, you beat me."

It was a really bad feeling. I really wish I was five and a half years old and I could give him a smack.

For himself to play with his brother, and then really mad himself, don't let him touch that thing, he always goes to move and then just wants to hit him, but he can't hit him, so I'm very angry, I don't know how to talk about him and he doesn't listen.

When you are angry with a child, you will feel overwhelmed, you don't know what to do, and you want to lose your temper, but you are afraid of any psychological impact on him, so you have been controlling your temper, and you will feel a little aggrieved, and sometimes you look back and think about whether you are a little angry.

I used to hear others say that being angry with children can make people cry, and I thought it was funny, thinking about a child, what do you and him (her) generally see! Since giving birth to my two chicks, along the way, I have experienced the feeling of being a mother for three years and revolving around the child, and I have also experienced being angry with the child and crying. And he was so angry that he cried.

I was very angry, thinking about why I gave birth to her at that time, and then sometimes I was really angry and would beat her with a stick. Because of this, he will learn some lessons, but sometimes he will regret losing his temper with him, and he will apologize to his own children.

I felt that I couldn't breathe, and I felt like I was very panicked. I wonder how there can be such a nasty child. I felt like all my patience had been drained.

Would love to hide somewhere and quiet myself for a few days. Relax, change your mindset, and face your child again.

That kind of pain is really sad that ordinary people can't understand, and I am so angry that I want to scold others.

How to get along with children who are rebellious:

1. Leave space and freedom for your child, and don't pay attention to everything.

As the child grows older, he also has his own thoughts, he is an independent individual, and he can no longer plan and arrange things for the child like an hour, so he should give the child time to be alone. Don't disturb the child, this is also a way to get along with the child.

Don't impose your own ideas on your children, set your unfulfilled dreams as your children's goals, children are an independent individual, he has his own goals and directions in life, if you blindly put your own ideas on your children, there will definitely be conflicts between the child and you, affecting your relationship.

2. Be more understanding and tolerant of children

Learn to respect children, more understanding and tolerance of children, some children do not put teachers and parents in their eyes, do not want to be controlled by them, which makes some parents very headaches, seeing children is like seeing enemies, parents also hate iron is not steel, can not understand children well, tolerate children.

If parents educate their children in a different way, the outcome may not be hatred for each other. Therefore, parents should learn to improve themselves to tolerate their children and understand their children, after all, no one is perfect, perhaps from the child's point of view, you can see that the child is not as bad as he thinks, and the improper behavior made by the child is just to get the attention of the parents.

I also reflected on it from my tears, adolescent children are the most annoying to the nagging of adults, and the tone of adults speaking commandingly! Parents should treat their children coldly when they lose their temper, suppress their temper, and walk away and ignore him! Don't lose your temper like him, or things will get worse!

Because adolescent children are impulsive and will ignore it! Seeing your parents in tears of anger? In fact, children will feel very guilty in their hearts!

Which mother doesn't feel sorry for her child, because I have been very tired of being nagged by my mother since I was a child, so I always tell myself not to nag my child, and my words should be concise and clear, I know that I try not to scold or beat my child, but this time I really can't do it. Because it didn't take long for me to catch a cold, my voice was hoarse again, my eyes were a little red and swollen, the chick knew that she had made a mistake and cried her mother, and she was looking for words to coax me, what "Mom, look, grandma bathed me, my body is cool, but slippery", "Mom, the puppy downstairs saw me barking, and its mother beat it and said that you bite the child", I never paid too much attention to her. After this time, this child has improved a little in the past two days, hey, I really don't want to use this method to make the child change anything, but the bear is angry and makes me feel distressed.

I'm a daughter of nineteen, and I said a few words to her when she failed in the college entrance examination last year. He actually scolded and fought against me, and at that moment I wanted to die. At that time, I wanted to jump out of the high-rise window of my house with her, how much I have suffered for her in the past four years.

But he didn't know that the effort was to blame me for not caring enough about her. But after coming to my senses, I went back to the bedroom alone and cried all night, and I also reflected on my mistakes, and indeed I didn't take good care of her for work. Later, my daughter was scared and had nothing to say to me, so I relented and told her not to be angry.

This year, my child went to school in Tianjin. So don't just be angry and think about your own mistakes, after all, the children are still young, and we parents must be good guides.

I've had the experience of being a child crying, but now I can't recall the specific events, probably because of the interweaving of various emotions at that time. My child is still relatively young, and he will not do anything rebellious, it is nothing more than procrastination and disrupting the original arrangement, or a little thing is getting more and more troublesome, and because the child's behavior has caused disagreements among adults, and the quarrel involves differences in educational concepts. If you think about it, you don't cry angrily, one is that you cry urgently, thinking that the education methods and means are limited and cannot achieve the best results.

One is sad and crying, remembering the usual care for the child, and the child is not only not grateful, but also feels that the parents have not done a good job. Crying is an emotional release. Just like what was written in a previous paragraph, when you quarrel with your husband, you say that you chose it three times, and when your child makes you angry, you say that you gave birth to it three times, and after that, you will be fine.

As a mother of an eighteen-year-old boy, I have laughter, troubles, and tears in the process of growing up as a child! The child has always been very sensible and well-behaved until the age of twelve! But after the age of twelve, he is completely like a child, disobedient, tantrums, and uninterested in studying!

I remember one noon in junior high school, I should take a nap after eating, but I had to play with my mobile phone, I didn't give it, and said a few cruel words to him, he picked up the mobile phone and threw it on the ground, seeing his vicious appearance, thinking of the dedication to him, my tears flowed down at that time! Every time I have a conflict with my child, when I am so angry with my child that I shed tears, I complain in my heart about how I can educate such a child! Now the child has grown up and is sensible!

I used to work as a homeroom teacher in a regular cram school, and the teacher followed the lecture behind the classroom. I remember that it was supposed to be summer vacation, and the afternoon classes were generally physical chemistry. The teachers are all invited from the provincial capital, so the number of students in these two subjects is full, and several classes are not enough.

As a homeroom teacher for liberal arts students, I don't understand that, but mainly observe the teacher's reactions and interactions with students. One class I noticed that something was wrong with a student who was staring at the blackboard with his head up, but his body didn't react. I walked over and looked, and as expected, fell asleep.

At that moment, the feeling of hating iron in my heart made me angry, and I slapped a book directly, and slapped it really. Maybe I usually have high expectations for him, but at that moment I felt like a mother, although it was very strict, and I really cried when I went back.

Being childish about to collapse can be done by: conforming to the child's development to carry out real-time education, facing the child with a respectful attitude, finding the reason why the child is naughty, and guiding the child in a timely manner, the details are as follows:

1. Real-time education should be carried out in accordance with the development of children:

Complying with the laws of children's development, guiding and educating children in real time is indeed a long-term and arduous task. Watching children grow up is another very happy thing.

2. Face children with a respectful attitude

Whether at home or at **, parents must learn and be able to respect their children. No matter how old a child is, they are an independent individual, and respecting them will make them more able to accept the education of their parents.

3. Find the reason why the child is naughty and angry:

Let the child express the words in his heart, and as soon as the words are spoken, the blockage in his heart or the places he can't understand will be dredged. The child will become honest.

4. Guide children in a timely manner

When in daily life, children have any bad behaviors or habits, parents must guide their children in a timely manner, so that children know what is a better behavior and habits, which requires a subtle process, parents to give children a process and time.

Notes:

1. Parents should fully affirm their children's strengths and cultivate their self-confidence, rather than criticizing, blaming or punishing them when they find problems.

2. Whenever the child's performance is different from the parents' imagination, the problem is solved by beating and scolding, which often causes irreparable damage to the child's physical and mental development. This kind of love brings not joy to the child, but pain.

Adjust your breathing and imagine your child as someone else's child, and you will have love, because you are often educating other people's children to care about their children's feelings and hearts!! This is also a warning to myself, to myself!

Children don't like to be controlled, and the more they manage, the more rebellious they become. Don't care, I'm not angry, and he is not angry. But there is the right time to care for you as a friend.

I'm in that situation too! Children are disobedient, but sometimes I am not right, think about it, then ignore him