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You have to think about why your roommate always does this to you. Is it because of some of your ways of doing things and some words that make him have such an impulse? In fact, some of these behaviors are personal reactions, and some are deliberately doing this.
If you've done something to hurt him, or said something that hurt him, then his personal reaction to you is. I want to talk about you, I want to take revenge on you, so I will scare you. Because he has some resentment against you in his heart.
So no matter what you say or do, he will scold you, even if it is to relieve the hatred in his heart.
If you feel that this is the kind of thing that caused him to behave like this, then first of all, you must apologize to him, show a very sincere attitude to apologize to him, and your sincere attitude to resolve the contradictions and misunderstandings between you. Don't let him scold you because of some resentment, and when these misunderstandings are resolved, he may not be so directed at you and always scold you. Because he feels that you are not sorry for him, and he does not have such an impulse to scold you, maybe he will change his mentality and become better with you.
If it's not for your own reasons, his personality is like that, then you have to talk to him. If you don't tell him, he will continue to behave like this against you, so tell him about it, and if he scolds you like this again, you will be very angry. He may control himself not to do such things in the future because of your strong attitude.
So you have to analyze what exactly is the reason why he is doing this, and then make the right solution.
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1.The first aspect: always speak the other person's accent.
I don't think it's okay for people to have accents, but if you keep grabbing other people's accents, it's not particularly good to joke about this! Everyone will have their own self-esteem, and after talking too much, others will become less and less confident. When I was in high school, I was joking about my accent problem every day by the people in the class, and I actually knew it myself, and I tried to change it, but Li Sanqiao said it when it came to his mouth!
I can't help it myself, I need a process.
2.The second aspect: I have been talking about my body shape.
My high school roommate would say how big my calf muscles were every time, and at first I thought it was nothing, just say it, and then I heard her joke in the class that my calf muscles were a bit like something, and my heart was hurt, and I felt irreparable!
3.The third aspect: hairstyle problems!
I thinkJokes need a degree, and there is no need to joke all the time, and do not pay attention to the occasion and frequency. When I was in high school, my roommate cut my bangs, and then I just started it, and then when I went to class, someone said that this hairstyle didn't suit me or something, and then kept saying something like something, and every time I saw me, I would say a word, and I didn't think it was necessary.
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When I was in college, I spent most of my life with my roommates, so in the process, I also had a lot of feelings and a lot of behaviors that surprised me, why did she say that? I can't understand it, but I'll take it slowly, and I'll talk about some of my roommates' behaviors that stunned me.
Rub things for use. Some roommates like to take advantage of small things, and usually like to use other people's things. I like to eat snacks, but I never buy them.
I didn't even say hello. I also like to use my roommate's daily necessities, never buy laundry soap, shampoo and shower gel secretly use my roommate's, and even wear my roommate's slippers to class. Stealing someone else's things and being bumped into can still say without changing your face, what's wrong with me using it?
Go to bed late and don't let others get up early.
Playing games every night, crackling and even yelling and playing until one or two o'clock before going to sleep. Then when we got up the next morning, she told us to be quieter and complained that we were disturbing her sleep, and we were all surprised and couldn't understand her request.
Don't turn off the alarm. The night before, she set several alarms at once, and the next morning, the magical alarm woke up the entire dorm, but it didn't wake her up. And he never turns off the alarm clock, which makes us wonder, what is his purpose in doing this?
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Tell him directly. After going to college, I really realized that there were so many people with different values from my own, and they were all in the same place before college, and they were all the same.
But college really has everything, the influence of family, the influence of the environment, the influence of everyone's values, you can't say that you are right.
Of course, there must be differences between roommates, you must know that four years is a long time, look down and don't look up, right, maintaining a good relationship is a must, this person is very bad is really bad, you also have to maintain a superficial relationship, don't let the dormitory be smoky, the university does not have to do a good job in the relationship between roommates, it is so that you can live in a harmonious environment, the way is different, and harmony is very simple, don't blindly let the dormitory conflict affect the mood.
Discover their cuteness.
There are often seniors who give us a lot of advice as people who have come over, but after all, they are people who have come over, they have achieved certain results or something, and it is difficult for them to understand how they felt when they were like us, <>
Roommate! They felt that this was how their path to success came from, so they shared their experiences with us. But their experience is only suitable for a small part of those who have similar pursuits to them.
In fact, if they hadn't gone that way, they would have failed, and they might have seen a different scenery.
Everyone is different, we don't need to be someone else, we need to grow by ourselves, slowly figure out how to go on our own path, and slowly understand what kind of life we want.
Returning to the subject's question, personal advice, first try to ensure a harmonious dormitory relationship. Moreover, despite the difference in the three views, and even the vices of others, if you usually treat people well, you can still become friends, after all, no one is perfect, in fact, if you communicate more, you will find more shining points of others, so try to become friends with them. Then, according to his own needs, he became friends with the people he could talk to.
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Hello! Living in the same type of Yu Wei dormitory, because the space is small, the personal privacy space is poor. Your roommate is always looking at you, and you don't want him to look at it, so you can use the bed fence to surround your bed.
That way, you have your own space. I hope mine can help you.
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Then look at him, too.
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Roommates like to scare you, in two situations. The first is that a roommate likes to scare you, and the second is that the rest of the people also like to scold you.
But if it's the second case, then you really have to look at yourself, one person can't get used to you and you have other reasons, but a group of people can't get used to you, it means that you have a big problem. It is recommended that in your daily life with them, try to find out what you did wrong and correct it. We spend a lot of time in the dormitory in the day, and a lot of small things can be the fuse, such as:
Items are not neatly arranged, littering, etc. If you can't find out, sit down and talk to them, let them explain why, and ask them to supervise you to correct it.
It does take a lot of courage to do this, but instead of being scolded by others for no reason, it is better to know the reason yourself, so that you don't always feel annoyed. In layman's terms, it is to die and die clearly, and doing so will make you understand your own faults and strengthen your relationship.
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I like to use the most direct way to say that I don't like you to scold me all the time, maybe you think it's rude or embarrassed to say it, but it's really the most effective way.
I'm most annoyed by roommates like this, if it's once or twice I think it's okay, but if it keeps going like this, I'll tell him I don't like it. It's better for you to say it so directly than to squirm and squirm and talk vaguely for a long time.
It's best to be a friend after saying that, but it doesn't matter if you think I'm stingy after saying it, since you see me like this, then why should I be sentimental. The world will turn the same way without anyone, and I won't ignore my uncle because of you, right? The most important thing is to live happily in life.
I have a roommate who is often scolded by the other dorm mates, and he is actually very upset, but she never shows it, because he has always been like this. So the other roommates scolded her even more unscrupulously. I don't really know sometimes if it's useless to call him cowardly.
This is how he was afraid of wolves and tigers, afraid of offending everyone.
Everyone is not a saint, and if he is not a saint, even if he says it, the other roommates will not be fine. You can't continue to bully him. But she just has to endure it, then I can't help it, but I feel that he is going to be depressed, and saying a word against others is difficult for him to go to the sky.
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There was also a man in our dormitory, and we used to do this to him. Why is this happening to you, first of all, you have to understand it yourself? Maybe you're bragging a lot in your dorm room.
And your behavior may also seem a bit cheap. That's why they will have an unaccustomed psychology to come to you like this. I think you should communicate with them and ask them why they are doing this to you.
You can also be a little more restrained in your own character, don't talk like this every day. You can also be friendly to your roommate, so that your roommates will also restrain your thoughts.
The most important thing is to communicate, and at the same time put away your own high-mindedness. Don't exaggerate because of some trivial things, it is easy to arouse her disgust, because the other party will treat you like this, you must understand what you did wrong, and then communicate with the other party.
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If it were me, I would definitely tell the other person directly that I don't like this way of getting along, is this interesting?
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Your roommates make fun of you, of course they are wrong, this time can be stopped, usually, normal people will not do it again.
But it can also be a problem with your own mental thoughts. Maybe they're not making fun of you, just kidding, maybe. If it's a joke, you don't want to care too much about it, in fact, all this mainly depends on your own thoughts, and your own thoughts are the most important, that is, the mentality.
And when you first enter university, your heart will be a little more fragile, and you must learn to be strong first. It was the same when I first entered college. It's normal to be a little sensitive when you arrive in a new environment. You have to learn to overcome it, and when you live for a long time, it's good to get used to it.
Not to say that it is customary to "make fun". It's that after getting used to those lives, you won't be so sensitive.
I think you should have some little inferiority. Be sure to build self-confidence, self-confidence is really important in college. Don't look down on yourself. And be optimistic, don't feel like you have endless grudges...
Anyway, life is your own, not someone else's. Take care of yourself and learn to be stronger.
Hope you can solve your own problems.
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This kind of thing is very common in college, I had the same situation with you at the beginning, especially when someone scolds my parents, I will not hesitate to do it, but then I found out that sometimes it is people's local speaking habits, it's okay, you should relax and talk to them, their Kenny jokes, you can also laugh and scold them, there is no need to block yourself, or it will be difficult for you to teach your friends in the future, college is just a small society, after going to society, everything in the university is a bit of a small thing! Open your mind and I'm sure you'll make a lot of friends!
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If your roommate respects you, you think like this is too stingy, in college career, classmates joke with each other, especially between roommates, teasing is right, but it seems that you have a more tacit understanding and harmony between you, you should learn to face it happily.
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Classmates, I don't know what your roommates are talking to you about. Sometimes it's just a joke, they don't think too much about it, and young people like to joke, don't take it personally. If they don't seem to be joking, you can politely ask them not to make such jokes, and they will get along more, good luck!
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It's normal to make jokes and enhance your relationship.
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Treat it with a normal heart, on the contrary, and treat others in the way of others.
You're paying too much attention to other people's feelings!! In a collective, you have to learn to express your thoughts and make them accept your thoughts, and blindly welcome others, and you lose yourself. In addition, you need to cultivate your own circle of contacts, and don't limit your vision to just a few people around you. >>>More
Communication is the best solution, and it is also the most amicable solution. You can talk to your roommate, he is wrong in this regard, he doesn't dare to say anything about you, but will apologize to you, if he is vexatious, I suggest you change the house to rent, the most important thing in renting a house is to be happy, just ignore the unreasonable person.
You collect some books on how to hurt your roommate, newspapers, how to kill your roommate, how to kill your roommate, and examples, and put them in the dorm room, and tell him he's annoying, and you don't have to worry about the rest, and there's no other way to do it than to get used to it, unless you pay for him to go to the hospital.
You're just as scared of a person as I am. I also had a lot of fights with my friends, but we would soon reconcile again. In such an environment, there must be someone who bows their head first. >>>More
How to face this kind of person, since it is greedy for small and cheap, at least the economic benefits of their own loss are not so big, of course, the borrowed money still has to find her to come back, this matter is not a problem of being greedy for small and cheap, this kind of greedy behavior makes the subject very unhappy, and the loss of interests in this mood is relatively large, on the whole, it is really unnecessary to lose so much for this small advantage that is taken. In another way of thinking, these small bargains are regarded as rewards for her, "sigh to eat", the mentality is generous, and there is no need to bother.