What should I do if I suddenly find a big gap between my ideal and my reality?

Ideals and reality are not opposites. Ideals originate from reality and are higher than reality. is a product of reality.

It is precisely because of dissatisfaction with reality that people will have ideals. When setting an ideal for yourself, you should be like hanging something on a tree, you can't touch it when you stand and almost jump up, so that you will feel meaningful and you will not feel that you will never be able to achieve it. Of course, what I'm talking about is only a short-term one, and people must also have a long-term ideal, and this long-term ideal is slowly approaching from these short-term realizations....The gap will also slowly close over time.

The ideal is very plump, the reality is very skinny, this sentence is a sentence that many young people often hang on their lips now, saying that the ideal is very beautiful, but the reality is very cruel, and there is always a mountain between the ideal and the reality. Although this sentence has a certain amount of ridicule, it also reveals the helplessness and confusion of young people to a certain extent.

There are two reasons for this:

1. Young people set too high goals, or there is a mistake in direction, so no matter how hard they try, they will not be able to achieve their ideals.

2. Young people do have ideals and pursuits, but they need to make practical efforts to realize their ideals, and many people retreat when they encounter difficulties and problems in the process of pursuing their ideals, and they can never cross the gap between ideals and reality.

Extended Information: Young people want to truly realize their dreams:

1. On the one hand, it is necessary to formulate appropriate goals and choose the right direction, for example, when young people are looking for jobs, young people must combine their own personality characteristics and career planning when choosing their own jobs, and at the same time fully understand the characteristics and needs of the position, so as to choose the most suitable position for themselves, find the right direction and goals, which is the first step to achieve career ideals.

2. On the other hand, we must make efforts, and when we encounter problems and difficulties, we should not retreat and give up, but actively look for solutions to make breakthroughs, only in this way can we truly realize our ideals and goals. In short, it is useless to complain, only actions can achieve the ideal.

"The ideal is very plump and the reality is very skinny" is an emotional expression of the individual's contradictory life state, whether it is "ideal" or "reality", it is a derivative of the real event of the individual "living".

The so-called "ideal of plumpness" is the individual's infinite beautiful reverie of the unhappened event, and the "bony reality" is the huge sense of disparity borne by the individual when the event does not reach the ideal state, it does not matter whether the ideal or reality, it does not matter the plump and skinny, all of which are the expression of the individual's life state, "there is nothing outside the heart", and the real life is the essence of life.

The gap between the ideal and the reality is determined by one's own ability, and the greater the ability, the smaller the distance.

Ideal and reality, in fact, to put it bluntly, is the boundary between spirit and reality!

I'm afraid there are very few ideals and realities that can be taken care of at the same time? There is only reality and no ideals, as if a person only has a shell and loses that "heart"? Only "ideals" and "reality"?

Is that also a kind of eternal "childishness"? Even "survival" has become a problem? That kind of result, or become a big thing?

Or destruction? Just like Van Gogh, he eventually starved to death on the streets for painting, but he created an immortal legend, and his paintings have become priceless treasures today! It should be said that in the end, he was still successful!

And the hazy poet Gu Cheng was finally destroyed in his "hazy poetry", because the "hazy poetry" limited his life, and finally created the tragedy of his life!

I'm not Van Gogh, I'm not Gu Cheng, I'm just an ordinary layman! So, the first thing I have to face is my reality, which is life. Although I also have my ideals in life, I can only secretly "idealize" ...... in the "cracks" of life

We always like to discuss ideals, and young and frivolous people are like this, and those who are over half a hundred years old have had the best dreams. But in fact, each of us knows that there is a gap between the ideal and the reality.

Just like if you want to be a writer, the ideal writer should be like Haruki Murakami, making a cup of coffee and starting the day with words. But the reality is: at three o'clock in the morning, I was fighting with the grinding and chirping in a sleepy mood.

So why is there such a big gap between ideals and reality? Why is it that there are always people who can live like you want to be, and you can only envy them?

Because we have to admit that there is a gap between reality and ideals, and there are too many obstacles and difficulties in between.

Everyone's talent is different, some people are indeed born with more talent than us, they are born with the right to pursue this ideal, and we are not talented enough, so we are left behind in the beginning.

It's very difficult to catch up with or even overtake them completely, and of course, there are some people you don't have to chase themselves. When you blindly chase others, you will lose yourself. All you need to do is pursue your ideals desperately.

Each of us has the possibility, choice and right to transform our ideals into reality. If you accidentally lose the right to choose, that's okay, you can still chase after it because you're still young.

Learn to be self-disciplined from now on, as all the authors in the community tell you, self-discipline can really bring us valuable things. Maybe you won't be able to notice it at first, but one day in the future it will be like a treasure that will bring you unexpected wealth.

Whether it's useful or not, it's always right to stick to what's right, don't you say?