It s just hard to accept other people s ideas. Being very demanding of yourself and having difficult

Man is a contradiction. When we do every action, the brain has a logical choice, to do it or not to do it, to do it this or to do that. The factors that influence your choice are mainly your perception of the outside world and your personal preferences, which can also be said to be rational and emotional.

Rationality emphasizes the impact of the outcome of an event on the individual and society, while emotion emphasizes the feelings of the event on the individual. For example, when you do something, you like to do it, or according to your personality, you especially want to do it, but your experience tells you that it is dangerous, or illegal, or has some other undesirable consequences. At this time, emotion will have a strong struggle with reason, and if emotion overcomes reason, the result of the event is often an "irrational" behavior.

Judging from what you said, you tend to deal with problems emotionally, especially bad emotions tend to make people more irrational. It's a good thing to be demanding of yourself, but in the past, it became a pathology, and you have to admit that everyone has shortcomings, "no one is perfect", put yourself low, and go back to consider whether other people's suggestions are correct and desirable. In this way, you will not have to argue with others on almost everything, and it will also reduce the generation of bad emotions in yourself, and there will be a good cycle.

If you can recognize your own problems, you must work hard to overcome them, and you don't need to change for a day, but I believe that as long as you have the heart, you will change slowly, even if you can't change completely, you will slowly improve. Come on, I'm sure you'll do it!

Competitive, perfectionist, slightly lower emotional intelligence, the landlord is like me.

The rational self and the emotional self, the decisions made by the brain depend on which is more powerful, the emotional self or the rational self, and it is often the emotional self that ultimately triumphs over the rational self. It also shows that the reason why some people understand a lot of truths but still have a bad life is because these people's decisions are made by relying on their emotional self.

The human brain has evolved over a long period of time, starting with only primitive reflex modules, to having an emotional center (the perceptual brain), and all the way to the neocortex (rational brain) with a relatively recent evolutionary history. From this point of view, the perceptual self has existed in our brains for a longer time and has contributed greatly to the survival and reproduction of our ancestors, compared to the perceptual self has great power and power. It has been 200,000 years since the evolution of human beings, and the environment in which we live today has changed dramatically, but the perceptual self has not changed accordingly.

For example, whether to study or to play, the perceptual self thinks that learning is painful and play is joyful. It doesn't realize that most of today's games are not conducive to learning, because hundreds of thousands of years ago there were no networks, computers, or virtual worlds. Therefore, the brain should think more about the decisions made by the rational self, that is, to learn to think rationally, and the following aspects can learn to think rationally.

Ask yourself: everything has two sides, just as it has a light side and a dark side. You can't feel that you are right and others are wrong.

Try to see things from the other side, that is, to ask yourself rationally. You may find that you are wrong, or that your correctness is very accidental, and you have not gone through rigorous thinking logic.

Change habits: There is a principle of use and waste in the brain, and the more often you use the area, the stronger it is. If you always rely on your sensual self, then the habits created by this sensibility will become stronger and stronger; If you always rely on your rational self, then your habits are more rational.

That is, to become a sensual habit.

Be sure to let yourself be the master of your emotions and learn to regulate and control your emotions. Only when the mood is stable will you think rationally and not make regretful decisions.

Controlling emotions requires certain skills and methods, and here are some suggestions:

Be aware of your emotions: Try to be aware of changes in your emotions, such as rapid heartbeat, shortness of breath, sweaty hands, etc., before they start to rise. In this way, you can take timely steps to control your emotions.

Deep breathing: Deep breathing is a common way to control your emotions. Whenever emotions start to spiral out of control, slow down your breathing and try to inhale for a few seconds, then exhale slowly for a few seconds. Doing so relieves tension and relaxes the body.

Divert attention: Focus your attention on other things, such as listening, watching movies, doing crafts, etc., which can effectively distract your energy and eliminate negative emotions.

Communicate with others: Communicating your emotions with someone you trust can provide comfort and support that can ease your emotions.

Finding a solution to a problem: Actively think about how to solve a problem and find the right solution. Thinking about ways to solve problems can help ease emotions.

Exercise: Exercise releases tension and relaxes the body and brain. You can choose from running, swimming, yoga and other forms of exercise.

Know your emotions: Understanding your emotions and emotions can give you more control over your emotions. You can learn about yourself by keeping a journal, thinking, etc.

Finally, it's important to remember that controlling your emotions requires constant training and effort. In your daily life, try to maintain a calm mind and control your emotions through habit formation.

First, take a good ** mental illness. Consult a psychologist. You can also read some good books appropriately, including good books on psychology.

Second, take a step back and open the sky. Mental pressure, don't be too much.

Not all positions depend on academic qualifications. It's really not good, Hengheng asks teachers and leaders to take proper care, half a certificate of completion or what certificate?

Or please do what you want to do? See how to deal with it?

Third, usually, pay attention to broaden the horizon and be open-minded. Good at looking at problems from a positive and long-term perspective.

Seeing people and things is beneficial and beneficial. Slow orange.

Think a little more and be more flexible. Don't be rigid and pessimistic.

Fourth, there is no failure when you are young. Seeing a rainbow after a storm is always more ways than problems. Believe that everything will be fine!

Let go of the baggage, there are trade-offs.

Good luck!

Don't be sad, I can feel your pressure, because you have been in college for almost 7 years, it is recommended that you simply study hard and get your graduation certificate this year, so that you can reduce the pressure in your heart, don't worry about it, I think it is very easy for you to graduate this year and get your graduation certificate. Or you calmly communicate with your mother, and simply work and research at the same time, because all roads lead to Rome.

As for your father's attitude, don't be sad, because I also came here when I was a student, and my family has many children, and when I was in college, I felt that my father was also quite financially stressed, so be considerate of your father, don't be sad and lack of oak.

You are studying hard now, look at books with positive energy, it is very important to adjust your mentality, it is recommended that you look at books with positive energy, strengthen your heart, if you are in full bloom, the breeze will come.

There is no real despair in life. The tree, which lays down its fallen leaves in autumn, hurts the heart, but throughout the winter, it makes the heart accumulate strength in calm. When spring arrives, the fragrance is still there.

As long as life is still in the palm of your hand, there will be no despair in your life. Temporary success or failure is nothing more than a small cold for a lifetime. Be positive, see everything openly, and everything is going well.

You think about it from another angle, you actually have stamina than ordinary people, you can stay in the Great Vertical School for 7 years, your stamina is already great, I am born to be useful, I am not blessed, so you have to have confidence in yourself, look at your own advantages, come on.

2. Control your emotions and read moreKeep your emotions under control and read more. People who read books a lot, in fact, you will find that their mentality is very good. When a person's mood is very unstable, if you can find a more inspirational book to read, then you can naturally adjust your mood.

After all, when you read a book, you can often infect yourself through the content of the book and adjust your mentality.

People's cultivation can improve themselves through the small details of daily life. After all, a person's cultivation brings many benefits to himself. A cultivated person must be wonderful in life, and an excellent life must be a wonderful life.

When you have a bad emotion, you should learn to hide it and then find a way to expel it.

When you are emotional, you can take a deep breath and speak silently in your heart, so that you can control your bad emotions.

Before you want to speak, go through your mind for a while, and calm down for 30 seconds before speaking, which can reduce the occurrence of emotional out-of-control. When you feel that you can't control your emotions, you can go to a place where no one is there to calm down.

When you are emotionally unstable, you must chat and talk with relatives and friends more, and go out for a walk more, so that you can make your mood better.

To control your bad emotions is that when you want to lose your temper, you should tell yourself to be clear-headed and not too numb.

When you're in a bad mood, count 10 numbers in your mind and calm yourself down before making a decision.

Go out and walk more, see the world and open your mind, read more books, and make yourself wiser.

Then when you have a bad mood, you must learn to divert your attention and make yourself in a very good mood again.

Learn some theories that make you happy, such as life value, emotional management, love and responsibility, self-limitation, positive and negative, personality test, responsibility-self-expectation-belief-action-habit-character-fate, the 18 methods of happiness, etc.

There is no 100% in life, there is no absolute, that is a pursuit, we just strive to get close to the limit.

There should be big goals (or dreams) in life, and my dream is to let people have a healthy, positive and happy life! The dream is big, it is not easy to achieve, it is not possible to achieve it in the near future, but we can first let ourselves own it, then let our family have it, and then let our relatives, friends or people around us have it, and then expand it.

What is the purpose of a person's life? It can be said that people in the world should "work and be happy"! Have a sense of responsibility, not just yourself.

If a person does not have a sense of reputation, then he can do any bad thing. According to Maslow, a person's needs in the world are divided into five needs: 1. Physiology, 2. Safety, 3. Belonging and Love, 4. Respect, 5. Self-actualization (realizing one's personal worth).

Theoretically and practically, we should set our goals on the fifth need, the highest need, so that life can be more exciting.

Everyone can only see their own piece of the sky, or just like the frog at the bottom of the well, so how can we see the bigger sky? Or do you want to push your own limits? That is to empathize, to look at the problem from the perspective of others, to look at the problem from more angles, the more comprehensive the problem will be, only look at the problem from one aspect, only look at the problem from one's own point of view, that is the blind man touching the elephant.

It's right to treat life with a normal heart.

What's the matter, no matter what happens, you have to open up, and the road still has to go.