There are so many troubles in life

When I used to go to school, I would always unconsciously recite a sentence "Alas, it's so annoying."

Actually, what's really there's something to worry about, and if you think about it, a lot of it is a big little thing.

There's nothing annoying about making yourself so tired and boring.

The treatment of the disease should be eradicated, and the symptoms should not be cured. If you want to solve this problem, you must first find the source. You simply don't understand him--- the truest thoughts of his heart, his ideas, his thoughts.

Many parents will make the same mistake of accompaniment, that is, they always educate him as an elder and treat him as a child. You should realize that he has grown up and there are things to let him do. But for the immature him, now he needs a harbor that he can trust and rely on, a gesture rather than an elder who can only give orders.

Try to approach him as a friend, this status is not stressful, it is easy to open up, and you want him to believe that even if the whole world betrays him, you will still stand by his side and support him. Cherish and value his trust, so that he will not scruple to expose his shortcomings and needs to you, and these shortcomings and needs are what you really need to help him.

Have you talked to him about what is the reason for his reluctance to go out to find a job, ask him how long he wants to maintain this state, tell him your worries and pressures, see what he says, and face the problem head-on.

Let's talk to him, maybe he has something on his mind, or what setbacks he has suffered, and he can't slow down for a while, is his previous work frustrated or has a problem with his relationship or reputation?

Only by prescribing the right medicine can there be good results.

I think it's better to look at his interests and hobbies, and ask him what he needs. Take a look at what he likes to do the most, such as what he does at home. He may have had some ideas that didn't come true, either because of low self-esteem or because he had been hit outside.

When you have time, you can invite your brother to go out for a meal (drink some wine), drink the old wine, people's mood will be more relaxed, and they will have no worries when talking. The most important thing is to start with care. When he's annoyed, don't talk to him about things he doesn't want to hear, but talk to him more about things he likes to hear.

When you see that he has merits, you can praise him more.

In fact, everyone has some unknown secrets hidden in their hearts, and Qi Xiao is not that he doesn't want to say it, because he didn't find a suitable person to talk to, or because he didn't find a reason to let go of his heart. It's low self-esteem, it's a lack of trust in people, or maybe it's something else. He knew that everyone cared about him, but in his heart, he never wanted everyone to know what he was thinking.

Encourage and praise him more, and make him feel that he is actually very good. Only if he feels in every way that you are the one who can help him and bring him joy will he open his heart and tell you his secrets.

Hehe, it may be caused by psychological problems, not daring to face the society correctly, too much pressure to accompany Qi, jujube rising or family expectations too high. You can take him to talk to a psychiatrist. Lu Yan such as.

There may be some reasons why your brother is reluctant to go to work, maybe he has experienced some setbacks, you don't take some hard measures against him, enlighten him from the psychological aspect, don't talk about work with him first, talk about some heartfelt things, in case you can't do it, you can find a psychologist Keino Yuliang Yansheng, let him slowly come out of his heart, and you may know the reason why he doesn't want to go to work.

I once saw a small story, I have forgotten a little, I can share the general meaning with you, I hope to make your brother feel, and I also hope that everyone will understand a truth, not everyone is born conscious, this needs to be managed, and management has to talk about the method: blind circle.

The son of a wealthy family, who graduated from college and didn't work at home, mixed with a group of social idlers all day long, and claimed to be good brothers, but in fact they just eat, drink, and fight together all day long. The family thought of a lot of ways to solve it, but it was useless, and finally the son's father made an agreement with his son that as long as the son won, he would not care about him, otherwise he would obey the family. The father first asked his son to kill a chicken, poured the chicken blood on himself, and then took the knife to kill the chicken to find a friend to help "run away", but he faced one after another prevarication, refusal, and finally he found his father's friend's house, this friend called his son, the two sons changed clothes with each other, gave the knife to this friend's son, and gave him all the family's savings, and told the mill that his father had saved him before, although he didn't usually contact much, But some things are not put on the lips, but in the heart, and some people who put these things on their lips all day long do not necessarily think so in their hearts, and finally the son of this rich family finally figured it out.

Maybe he thinks that reality is not as good as he thinks, but in fact, I think a lot of things are caused by a lack of love. Parents and relatives should give more encouragement and love, don't always get in the way of face, maybe we will talk to friends a lot of time, thinking that friends are the people who understand us best, but in fact, it is indeed their own family members who know how to close themselves up the most. Record some recordings on tape, say something about your love for him, and if you can't say it, put it on tape, and let him listen to it when he stays home alone, and maybe he'll be fine.

I feel that in this situation in your family, you should seek help from a professional psychological counselor.

In psychological counseling, there is a type called surrogate counseling. In many cases, if the person concerned does not want to ask for help, the family can ask for help on their behalf.

Cases like yours that seem to be impossible to start with have been seen in the past when I was learning psychological counseling techniques.

The information you are providing is inadequate, and it alone cannot give you responsible and effective advice.

When you go to counseling, the counselor may ask about your overall family situation, how your brother grew up, how he got along with his classmates while studying, and so on.

Many of the actions taken without professional guidance may not be very effective.

Personally, I highly recommend that you go to a counselor. But be sure to pay attention to the choice of counselor. Because I have received training myself, have been in contact with this circle, and have listened to many excellent old masters and teachers, I still know more about the situation.

There are a lot of consultants in China, but the threshold is very low. The general counselor is not effective, so you must find the kind of counselor.

We can't afford to be like thunder. You can find the kind of counselor who teaches the counselor, which is also expensive, but effective.

What to do if he can't take him, he will drive him out, and if he can't catch up, he won't give him food, and he will do absolutely nothing, saying that he threatens your mother with his life is that he knows that your mother is soft-hearted and can support him, and you give him such a comfortable life

Reject him, so that he can't find the man's self-esteem, it depends on whether he wants to change his path and go right, it's useless to beat and scold, this will only make Qing Piling hate you even more, ignore him, don't cook, don't leave living expenses, take away all the cigarettes and alcohol, anyway, try not to force him to go out to answer the law is to grip the divination.

Don't let him go to work first, let him feel the joy of living, the meaning of life, let him feel that life is a beautiful thing Mu Tongxin, Xunlun sometimes don't bother him, let him be alone quietly, or you can take him to KTV Ah, some crazy places to drink with him, some things he wants to say just say, know the reason to solve it.

When your brother is in this situation, you should slowly persuade him, let him get out of the psychological shadow, and guide him slowly. He may have been hit by Shen Yan's command in his heart, Kuan Chun has to slowly communicate with Zao Ran to understand what happened to him, and then... It's easy to do.

His heart is cold, his heart is frustrated, he is autistic and depressed, making a friend who loves life and love work may be saved, and it is okay to consult with me, I will treat frustration in work, unwilling to work, self-entertainment, selfishness, regardless of his filial piety, my brother's can talk to me about me to give him employment guidance and improve his mental state, so that he can live like a human.

In fact, your brother will eat you and threaten your life, which is all to scare you.

is 26 years old, don't care about him so much, all ignore him, just show that they look down on him, and don't communicate with him.

Comfort mom and don't say anything to your brother. Zhiqiao Ridge.

Your silence will definitely touch your brother, he is a man, maybe he really has his own secrets.

You can talk to him ... Don't always say him. That she ...

He will be disgusted with you, you have to talk to him well, ask her why she doesn't want to go out to work, you don't talk about it to put too much pressure on him, you have to listen to her thoughts, good communication...

It is recommended to talk to him first, I didn't want to go to the orange class for a while, because I felt that I didn't know what to do, especially when my family always said that I said this and that, I was also very irritable, but after a few days, I set a new goal for myself, and now I am starting to slow down and continue to work hard to live.

First of all, you have to know how he has such a short temper, and diverge to find out the reason so that you can prescribe the right medicine.

Fell out of love ?..

It's normal for a boy to have a violent temper, don't talk about him, let him go, or you find someone who is good for him, try it, and see how he will react.

Your brother may have encountered something upset, and you don't have to talk about him often, because anyone will be upset, and you try to listen to others talk about you every day, so what you have to do is enlighten him!

It's obvious that there is a problem with early education. Your dad Nirvana, you don't have any problems? Kick him into society, this kind of cheap life will definitely make a crime, and then call the police to arrest him.

Shou Jingfan believes in the party's educator hail and looks at his creation. Remark; He is your brother, and in the future, he will drag down the family, so he can't ignore it. It's best to discuss it with your father, and your mother will definitely oppose it.

Did your brother encounter something unhappy, and he really couldn't take him to see a psychiatrist, and he couldn't be solved. This thing cares about him as much as possible, and the more you talk about him, the more disgusted he will become.

In my opinion, as long as you dare to choose the graduate school entrance examination and persist in the end and do not give up, no matter what the result is, it is worth affirming. After all, the postgraduate entrance examination is not as good as the college entrance examination, and teachers and parents are urging you during the college entrance examination, but the postgraduate entrance examination depends on your consciousness alone, and you need to rely on strong determination and perseverance to get to the end, especially when you are preparing for the postgraduate entrance examination alone, many times you need to endure loneliness.

When recruiting in the second half of the year, many employers like to give priority to people with postgraduate examination experience, because they also feel that people who can complete the whole process of postgraduate examination can be exercised at least in terms of perseverance.

I remember a senior once told me that the results of the graduate school entrance examination are only different, but there is no success or failure. There are two sides to everything, when the result is not satisfactory, we can not only see the result, but more, to see what we get in the process of pursuing the result, empathy, the mood can be broadened, the mood can be better, and we will have more strength to continue to struggle.

Now there is still half a year before the graduate school entrance examination, so you can't be so unconfident! Don't think about what the result will be, just review it wholeheartedly with your feet on the ground, and be able to calm down and study, go crazy, when you are crazy alone, he is not far from success!

As for how to solve the problem of gains and losses, I think psychological cues are very important, smile in the mirror every morning when you wake up, tell yourself that you can, and constantly cheer yourself up; Usually exercise more, running, playing ball or something, exercise is a very good way to reduce stress and soothe your mood, you can run around the study room every night when the town stall reviews until nine o'clock, or after self-study running stupid brigade play ball is also good; Yelling, shouting, or KTV ...... like crazyIn short, you have to think of ways to open up your mind and be optimistic, and you have to rely on your own continuous efforts!

Get closer to nature, this kind of thing is not Qinghui is something that others can overcome if you give you advice, it is a personality problem, and it is not so fast and easy to change it after so long, rely on yourself to convince yourself, or the person who answers the argument can find a psychiatrist to help you, because this is also a manifestation of psychological problems, I used to do this...

Relax your mind, stress a little bit, go out and have fun.