My boyfriend s parents and relatives are divorced, will it affect him?

We have to admit that from ancient times to today, people's ideas have changed too much. They didn't know what divorce was, because in those days divorce was not recognized, it was not allowed. In their opinion, divorce is a big, big thing, and no one dares to do such crazy things easily.

But in this day and age, since our parents' generation, divorce has become a very common thing. They don't see marriage as a lifelong thing, and they can even say that they all treat marriage as child's play. So there are so many divorced families, so many single mothers or fathers.

There are so many children who grow up in unsound families.

To say that there is no impact is false. Father's love and mother's love is what every child wants, who doesn't want to grow up in a happy family, and the children raised by such a family must have a good family education and lovely character. But so many irresponsible parents don't think about their children when they divorce.

Parents divorce, children are really the biggest victims. After the parents divorce, if they follow one of the parents, or even some of them follow their grandparents, their personalities will definitely change a lot. I have a friend whose parents divorced when he was very young.

This friend has a strong self-esteem, but also a strong inferiority complex, an angry and short-tempered person. In fact, you can understand why he has such a character. Since he was a child, his living environment has created a different personality.

Saw a story. The hero doesn't believe in love because his parents divorced when he was a child. In the end, he missed a girl he loved and loved him.

But there are so many things that we can't stop, and if we really happen to something unfortunate like that, we have to do our best to make that disaster happen again. If you want such a boyfriend, his personality can be very sensitive, you have to love him, and if you choose to love him, then love him all the time.

I think it will have some impact, after all, the environment always affects everyone's state of mind, if he really likes you, and you still know how to tolerate each other after marriage, then your marriage can still be very happy.

I feel like so, because this is the environment in which he has lived since he was a child, and people like him are particularly insecure and loveless.

I will not choose to break up due to the target's family.

My boyfriend grew up in a single-parent family, and when he was very young, his parents divorced, and since then, his father has been absent from his life, and his mother has raised him. Single mothers can imagine the pressure of life, so they have been neglecting to take care of their boyfriends. Boyfriends often joke:

Parent-teacher meetings are always held by themselves, and if you don't do well in the exam, you don't have to worry about being criticized and censored.

Jokes are jokes, but I have to admit that the divorce of his parents still has a great impact on him, because he is very afraid of conflict with others and has a very passive personality. If there is a problem in the relationship between the two of us, he will definitely choose to run away, he said because he is afraid of quarreling and breaking up.

After listening to the advice of the "people who came before", I really wavered about marriage, because I felt that my boyfriend's escape always made me feel very tired. What if you get married and can't hold on anymore.

Because I am very sure that my boyfriend loves me very much, and he is very filial, and he is also very hard-working and kind, I believe that as long as we work together to face it together, we will be happy for a long time in the future. My boyfriend also agreed with my idea, so before we got married, we made two agreements for each other.

Clause. 1. Get rid of the shackles of the original family, face the influence of the original family on you, and strive to get out.

The feelings and fate between people, it doesn't matter whether it's right or wrong, but marriage is emotionally more responsible, think clearly about our union, not because of impulse, on the long road in the future, life wants the two of us to live together.

And what I want to do is, don't always blindly consider your feelings, love and marriage are to pay, in order to obtain happiness, for him, I should be more patient, give him a little more time, the problem comes, pull him to face it together.

Clause. 2. Get rid of dependence on your parents and find a way to get along comfortably with your parents and yourself.

Although the boyfriend is very filial to his mother, this also reflects his dependence on his mother. But my boyfriend's mother is a very transparent person, and her life is also very independent, she likes to live alone, grow flowers and plants, and dance with her old sisters.

My boyfriend insisted that my mother should live with us after marriage, otherwise she would feel that she was not filial. In fact, the most filial practice is to respect the mother's choice and find a way to get along comfortably between your parents and yourself. The essence of marriage is that two people break away from their original family and form a regenerative family together to shine in the new family.

Hold on, there is still hope.

In fact, falling in love is really different from getting married. But no matter how different it is, there will be love. If you really love, use what you need to be together, but you must be firm in your confidence to face things and setbacks in the future.

It was a very difficult test and experience. If just love could solve it, your parents wouldn't want to separate you, after all, your parents are for your sake. But love may be able to solve your current problems for you.

You can say to your parents: people actually need to grow, and the more experience they have, the more mature they will be. Because we love each other and don't know what will happen in the future, you guys haven't even asked me to pick it up and let me put it down now, I can't understand it.

Because of love I will try to accept all future our setbacks and I want to be with him. Because I love.

I think maybe your parents see a lot of uneasy factors in your future, so they are worried. But you need to comfort them while also strengthening your determination to love. Talking about it will bring you good luck. Come on.

If you really love him, you don't have any other problems, you can stick to it.

If they don't interact with their parents' divorce, then what can they do, they can only find the object of their parents' divorce, and then this vicious circle? According to common sense, children whose parents are divorced are more or less introverted and not cheerful, but as long as everything is not so extreme. There are also talented people whose parents are divorced, and there are also good children.

Although my parents also said not to look for children from divorced families, if I met someone I really loved, it was not a problem at all. It mainly depends on whether he is worthy of your love, not his family background.

On the contrary, he himself is a person without family warmth, and when he gets married in the future, he will definitely be a family-oriented person, and he will not bring unhappiness to his family. A person who does not have the warmth of home will not let his next generation be without the warmth of home, because he has already tried the taste of not having the warmth of home.

Of course you should stick to it, if you are willing to continue with him. Then it is very necessary to work hard to win the trust of your parents and the recognition of you.

First of all, this is a very serious and important matter. Marriage is not just two people, the future will inevitably involve the integration of two families. The integrity of the family is very necessary.

Theory is linked to practice, practice is convincing, only to find the right gap to prescribe the right medicine, but to make sure that the boy's love for you can really surpass and will not give up, from the perspective of parents, understand parents, clear needs and reasons, maybe it will also help the two of you, parents are just worried and afraid, so to resolve parents' worries also need to be recognized by parents in action.

Hold on, my boyfriend is also divorced, but my boyfriend is a very nice person.

Persistence, as long as you truly love each other, stick to it, and don't let the grievances of the previous generation ruin the happiness of your life.

You should insist that the divorce of your parents does not mean anything, as long as you insist, your parents will not say anything.

Insist, the divorce of his parents has nothing to do with you, you can live on your own.

should be insisted, after all, two people really love each other, and it would be a pity to separate for this reason.

As long as your boyfriend is good to you, his parents' divorce has little to do with you.

should insist that the business of two people is not about the original family.

Yes, because marriage is a matter for the two of you, and it has little to do with his family.

Yes, the problems of the previous generation should not affect their own children.

Keep it up! It's not his fault that he is divorced, if it's love, don't let it go.