Analyze the causes of relationship breakdown from interpersonal communication theory

Whenever I am depressed, I have no energy, and I always feel that the world is too unfair, why do you treat me like this.

Blaming the person who made you feel bad, or even something that you thought was bad. You feel that everyone else is targeting you and bullying you, and you feel that you are worthless. I always want to be alone and quiet, my fists are curled into a ball, and I don't want to see anyone.

The reality is that no matter where you are, there will be all kinds of people, who will have different opinions, and even villains who always want to find out. The so-called forest is big, and there are all kinds of birds.

Interpersonal relationships are a problem that has to be faced, and they are also the most difficult to deal with.

People are selfish, and everyone wants to start from their own interests, which will inevitably harm the interests of others. Even if some people don't say it on the surface, they secretly hate you. Whenever there is an opportunity, he will do small tricks and find opportunities to make you ugly.

In society, interpersonal relationships are the root of all psychological problems. We often feel depressed, self-blaming, and angry, all of which are the fault of our relationships.

But we can't do without relationships, and good relationships also bring joy and enhance identity.

Imagine, if you are the only one in this world, will you be afraid and lonely? There is no such thing, is there a feeling of abandonment.

Therefore, good interpersonal relationships can make people feel warm and experience happiness and intimacy between people; Bad interpersonal relationships can lead to a variety of psychological problems. I think these are the reasons why psychology is so popular in today's society.

We can't change the environment, so let's change ourselves desperately!

People can realize themselves, not by what others think of them. Rather, it is the result of our continuous cultivation and sublimation of our hearts through failures, sleepiness, and hurts.

There is a saying: what can't kill you will make you strong in the end!

No matter how happy and happy people feel when they get married, they can't get rid of the fact that a considerable number of people who are married now will eventually get divorced.

Between relatives, even if they are related, sibling or flesh-and-blood, it is not enough for family affection to always be shrouded in the light of happiness.

Love, friendship and even family affection, in real life, can be threatened by the breakdown of the relationship.

If we understand these emotional journeys that are contrary to our desires, we can prevent them from beginning when the relationship is coming to an end.

The essence of interpersonal relationships is the interconnection, mutual involvement, and mutual possession of emotions, that is, both parties involved in the relationship must have common emotions, common emotions exist, mutual relationships exist, common emotions disappear, and mutual relationships break down.

There are usually five processes that go through to the end of a relationship.

1. Differences. Differences are the beginning of the disappearance of common feelings, which means that the differences between the two parties in the relationship widen, the psychological distance increases, and the acceptance of each other decreases.

Maybe in the previous holidays, you and your husband (wife) both liked to go out to travel, but this holiday, you advocate staying at home to rest, and your husband (wife) insists on going to Yunnan to play, and the two parties do not accommodate each other, it is difficult to reach a consensus, then your differences have begun.

As a result of the disagreement, both sides have shifted their perception and understanding toward the detriment of the relationship, and both have begun to find it difficult to accurately judge each other. This is because when there is a disagreement, the emotional rapport of both parties decreases, and the emotional and motivational state of the other party is not sure.

2. Convergence. After the disagreement begins, the relationship begins to crack, the amount of communication decreases, and the conversation is highly attentive, highly selective, and all try to reduce tension and inconsistency with each other.

At this stage, the development of the relationship has not yet made it clear that the parties are no longer interested in the relationship, the level of emotional rejection is still low, and the parties are still trying to maintain the impression that the relationship is in good shape, but in reality, the relationship has obvious difficulties.

The reduction of spontaneous communication will naturally reduce the degree of emotional harmony between the two parties. Generally speaking, if the differences that arose in the first phase are not resolved smoothly, the two sides will engage in a convergent manner for a longer period of time, and the relationship will deteriorate further.

3. Apathy. At this stage, both sides begin to abandon efforts to improve communication, and the atmosphere of the relationship will become cold, and people will be less willing to have direct conversations, but more non-verbal means to achieve the necessary communication and coordination. For example:

Stick strips of paper to the furniture to express your wishes.

But at this time, non-verbal communication is lacking enthusiasm, cold eyes, and no enthusiastic expectations. This phase is generally maintained for a longer period of time.

On the one hand, it is because they expect the relationship to develop in a good direction, and they are unwilling to terminate the relationship all at once. On the other hand, it is difficult for people to adapt to the sudden loss of support for a certain relationship in emotional and practical life, both emotionally and practically.

Fourth, evasion. As the relationship progresses.

In the process of interpersonal communication, please put away your timidity! You'll understand after reading it!

a.Understand that people's experiences, emotions, and interests are different, and conflicts are inevitable.

b.Anticipating conflicts is the most effective way to properly understand them and to deal with them constructively and to avoid paying unnecessarily greater costs in conflicts.

c.Put yourself in the shoes of others to experience what others say and do.

d.Take the wide canopy on all three options to the pair.

Correct Answer: All three of the above options are correct.