Should I get a divorce or live like this?

For the sake of the child, don't leave, think more about his advantages, and communicate more with each other. There's nothing bad to work out. Even if you find another one, it may not be good? Responsibility still reigns supreme in marriage.

How old are you? 35 I advise you to forget it, if you are still young and willing to spend money (time, experience) to fight for a more satisfactory marriage, then do it according to your own ideas. Children are a headache, single-parent families, it will adversely affect the growth of children, but as long as you put more effort into children, it is estimated that Ye is not a big problem.

The best way is to communicate more with your husband and talk calmly, successful women are able to reshape men according to their own ideas - it can be seen that you are the kind of woman who is more capable, so many challenges have been shouldered, this is not a big deal - have confidence??

It's all trifles, nothing is a problem!

Your love won't stand the test like this!

Do a simple experiment and you will understand that the first time, hold a handful of sand in your palm, although the handful of sand in your palm is very full, but no point slips down The second time, hold the same amount of sand in the palm of your hand, and then hold it tightly with your hand, clenching it tightly, and as a result, inadvertently, a small amount of sand is squeezed out from between your fingers, etc. And holding the same amount of sand in your hands, due to squeezing, some sand is ruthlessly squeezed out of the palm of your hand "Holding sand and holding sand" is this truth, how can it not be so when it comes to marriage and spouse? Only when you lose do you know how to cherish, people are often like this, learn to be tolerant, and move each other.

First of all, please don't be in a hurry, don't be impulsive.

Since he is an introvert, those caring words may be because he is embarrassed to say them.

You can think back to the details he once gave you warmth. For example, the action aspect.

Be considerate of each other, and some things are not easy to say in person.

You can use mobile phone text messages to communicate, look away, focus more on work, or write your thoughts into a letter to him.

Either way, you have to remember one thing: a cake with more sugar will melt quickly, and a cake with less sugar will be sweet for a lifetime!

Talking men are not necessarily reliable.

Home and everything is prosperous, how can there be no quarrel between husband and wife, it is right to be considerate of each other, it is not easy to be together, although your husband does not say anything concerned on the surface, after all, people have you in their hearts, for this family or live well.

For the sake of the child or don't leave the good, if you husband and wife leave, anyway, in the future to find a person who makes themselves happy, but the child is different, you leave to find happiness, the child will not be happy no matter which family he goes to, such a child will have a psychological burden from an early age, the consequences of growing up can be imagined, it is extremely unfavorable to the child, and from now on, your husband and wife can't talk about divorce, the husband just doesn't like to express his feelings, my method is 1 and he is more spoiled, such as cooking, He was also at home, so he said: Husband, let's cook together, okay, if he doesn't go, just go up and kiss him, and then pull him to the kitchen, 2 Communicate with her husband more, chat more when you have nothing to do, and you can do anything 3 Have time to live a two-person world and relive the time of love

Hehe, I wish you all happiness

1. The probability of being happy after divorce lies in the reason for divorce.

In layman's terms, if you divorce just because of some occasional small conflicts between two people, then the possibility of living happily after the divorce is very small.

As the old saying goes: "husband and wife quarrel, bedside quarrel, bedside and", this sentence is telling us that there are never two people who are completely suitable for being together in this world, and no matter how suitable two people are, there will always be inappropriate places together, therefore, in the face of various trivial things in life, it is normal for some conflicts between husband and wife to occasionally occur, and there is no need to divorce because of this.

2. The probability of being happy after divorce lies in the reason for unhappy married life.

To put it thoroughly, if it is because of our own reasons that we ourselves are unhappy in the marital relationship, then there is a high probability that we will not be happy after the divorce, and if it is because of the other party's reasons that we are unhappy in the marital relationship, then there is a possibility of living happily after the divorce.

For example, if the other half accidentally broke something a few years ago, and since then, every time we have a conflict with the other half, we will talk about it, that is, quarrel and turn over old accounts, and always remember the bad side of others, in this case, the cause of our unhappy life is ourselves.

First things first: turn around decisively and don't divorce without leaving home.

After the divorce, both parties should keep their distance and never leave the house after the divorce.

Divorce without leaving home can only explain three problems, one is not financially independent, can not afford to buy (rent) a house, the second is a well-known reason, for the sake of children, the third is for the so-called face, do not let parents worry, etc., both parties are willing to divorce and not leave home.

Some women, if they choose to divorce, it must be that the disappointment they have saved up over the years has turned into despair, and it is impossible to continue to get along with their ex-husbands and turn around decisively, but some women can't do it well when they divorce, and they don't leave home after divorce, saying that it is for the sake of their children.

If you think about it, you're all divorced, why don't you leave completely? Divorce does not leave home, a man finds a stepmother for his children, you can't control women, women have ambiguities with other men, you can't care about men, anyway, both of them are divorced.

In short, divorce without leaving home is not a long-term solution, and some couples should not always use their children as an excuse, if it is really for the sake of their children, do not divorce in the first place.

The second thing: give your child more care and love, and don't ignore it.

Husband and wife going to divorce, for two people, it is a relief, but for the children, it is a kind of harm. The child originally lived in a family with two parents, but suddenly the parents divorced, and the child became a member of the "single-parent family".

Children who grow up in single-parent families are also prone to low self-esteem and loss of self-confidence. After the divorce of the two people, if the child is living with the father, the father is often busy with work and can't take care of the family, he may find a stepmother for the child.

So, will the stepmother care for your child and treat it as her own? I think everyone knows the answer very well, so after the divorce, no matter who the child is with, parents should give more care and love to the child, don't divorce, and ignore the child.

The third thing: after a divorce, both husband and wife must learn to be financially independent.

After the divorce, the husband and wife must make themselves financially independent, you must know that if you are not financially independent, it is really difficult to move an inch in real life, and you can neither support yourself nor your children.

In this age when everyone pursues materialism, the simplest happiness is actually economic independence.

After divorce, some couples often like to rely on their parents, reach out to ask their parents for money, and even hand over their children to their parents to raise.

Of course, this is just a few examples, some couples still understand the importance of "economic independence" after divorce, after all, it is better to rely on no one than on yourself. All in all, after a divorce, couples must work hard to improve themselves, change themselves, and learn to be financially independent.

No one's life is smooth sailing, you can't self-deny because of a momentary setback, it is completely possible to live happily after divorce, focusing on your mentality and self-regulation ability after divorce.

If you just blindly complain about others, have an extremely negative attitude towards life, and are always immersed in the sorrow of divorce and are unwilling to come out, then the possibility of you achieving happiness is too small, because your three views, that is, the world outlook and outlook on life, and the values have collapsed because of a divorce, so you will live extremely unhappy, because you have lost the pursuit of happiness, and the blow of divorce has overwhelmed you.

On the contrary, if you see this divorce as just a small episode in your life, no big deal, and a new life after the divorce, and pursue happiness with a positive and optimistic attitude, you will continue to reap happiness.

Therefore, there is no need to regard divorce as so important, do what you should do, cherish the people in front of you, cherish the things around you, and embrace life with a positive and sunny attitude, so that you will have more happiness and joy; There is no need to immerse yourself in the grief of divorce all the time, it is not worth it, whether it is because of the person you can't forget, or those things you can't forget, you shouldn't continue to dwell on it.

We should continue to stride forward with our heads held high, why are we stagnating in one place when the road of life is so long. If you have been stagnant, you will miss out on other scenery on the road of life, and there are better people and better things waiting for you ahead.

First, try not to close yourself off.

If divorce is a fact, first of all, you have to learn to accept it and try not to close yourself off.

For example, there are many people who like to lock themselves in their rooms after a divorce or like to drink to drown their sorrows. Often, the more this is the case, the more counterproductive and painful it becomes.

You think, your mood is already very low, sensitive, hypocritical, sad, and staying alone in an empty room will only aggravate your negative emotions, and it is no exaggeration to say that it will drive you crazy.

If you have a dark heart, you should go out to bask in the sun more often and carefully discover the beauty around you.

The more you close yourself, the more you will not be able to think about it, and the more negative, extreme, stubborn, and collapsed you will become. The fact has already happened, you can only force yourself to accept it, and running away is not the way, because your escape will indefinitely prolong the specific period of suffering. Although it hurts more when you push yourself, your state will get better day by day.

Second, learn to be emotionally with friends.

Perhaps, when you are chatting with friends, you understand all the big truths they say, and even you will seem absent-minded and can't listen to their conversation at all.

But it doesn't matter what they say, what matters is that you have a different voice in your ear.

If your spirit has been tense and unwilling to find an outlet for your emotions, it will only make your heart heavier and more depressed. Talking to good friends around you is also a way to vent your emotions, which of course can't be a panacea, and it will have an immediate effect.

But there must still be some potential and invisible influences.

Also, don't hold on to everything alone, and don't hold back when you feel like crying. Tears can sometimes really ** all the sadness in your heart, and crying will make you feel a lot better.

Everyone on the earth turns, and they can live it how they want.

Divorce is not scary.

The scary thing is that you can't put it down.

Life after divorce may be better, and the chances of happiness are greater.

Here's why:

First, after the divorce, the economy is independent, and there will be no more conflicts over economic issues. There are many reasons for divorce, and some of them may be due to financial problems. When the economy is independent, the financial power will be theirs.

You can use your money however you want, and you can buy whatever you want.

The second is that after Xiaodan's divorce, his personality can be brought into full play, and his habits of life are free. I will no longer be angry because of the difference in my three views. You can do whatever you want with your lifestyle and habits, and you don't have to look at other people's eyes.

Eat as much as you want, drink as much as you want, and take a journey that you can take as soon as you go, and you can achieve it immediately.

The third is that after the divorce, if you want to love, you will love, and your feelings may have a good home. Because I once loved, because I once hated, after all, it has passed, and there is no good ending. Now is your chance, take advantage of it!

When you meet someone who is destined, love boldly! Enjoy life!

After the divorce, there are many opportunities, and happiness may come to you!

As a gay man who has come out, I feel very sympathetic to your situation, because you must have not known your husband's sexuality before you married him. It's not nice to say, he's just cheating on marriage. In my personal opinion, I feel that you should get a divorce.

Due to the restrictions of China's national conditions and the influence of traditional thinking, at least more than 80% of comrades eventually entered into heterosexual marriages, which led to the emergence of another huge group, that is, homowives. Unfortunately, you are now part of this group.

It cannot be said that all same-sex wives are unhappy, but the vast majority of same-sex wives live very depressed lives, live very discordantly with their husbands, and often suffer from all kinds of cold violence.

What I want to remind you is that you don't compromise just because you are a woman, and feel that there is no way to continue life after divorce, everyone is an independent individual, and there is no question of who can't live without whom.

And do not choose to live with patience just because you have children. The happiness of your children is just as important as your personal happiness, and you don't have to sacrifice yourself to maintain this meaningless marriage. And if you live in a false marriage, your children will not necessarily be happy.

If you are reluctant not for the above two reasons, but purely because of love for him, then I'm sorry, I'm going to brutally shatter your illusion that sexual orientation doesn't change.

Especially from homosexual to heterosexual, that's a fantasy, so you must not try to influence your husband through your love. It's cruel, but it's the truth.

I don't know what your actual situation is, but even if you know that your husband is gay, you still want to be with him, and that's your personal freedom.

However, you may never get love in him, and the encouragement is just an illusion. This is a lifelong thing, but it's not as simple as "Zhou Yu beats the yellow cover".

The Buddha said that it is better to demolish a temple than to destroy a marriage. But I really want to be a wicked person for once, and I advise you to give up this marriage.

There is a lyric that says, if you can't hold the sand, it's better to raise it. It's not yours, no matter how tightly you hold it, it's useless, but the more you go back, the more painful you will be. It's better to let yourself go and start a new life.