I m so angry, what the hell is going on

This matter should be divided into two parts.

First of all, he is not right, because as a friend, just because he understands the difficulties of the other party, the other party is studying hard, and you go to visit at this time, not to visit, but to trouble, to disturb. Since I'm here to see friends, I don't bring gifts to at least be content, not to eat, not to stay in a hotel! He thought this was his home?

Since it's a guest! There should be hospitality. Don't bring gifts, don't talk about him, it doesn't matter if there is less earthly etiquette between friends, but you can't be anti-guest-oriented, friends entertain, more or less say some words of thanks, but instead pick and choose, this is really a kind of ignorance, do not understand the etiquette of the performance.

It's okay to conclude that this isn't your friend! Not worthy of being your friend!

Secondly, are you okay with it at all? You're wrong about a few things! First of all, choose a friend!

Why make friends? Don't you weigh whether the friend is a loss or a gain before you choose a friend? If you don't meet this basic condition for making friends, you deserve to suffer.

And then since you have a friend coming, no matter how busy you are, you have to pick up someone's house, this is etiquette, and it is a manifestation of a person's understanding of etiquette. You say how he is, what he does is very impolite, very impolite, makes you feel very unhappy, then you don't even understand this etiquette, how do you talk about others??? And a friend came to see you, did you do it for his gift?

Although you may say that it is because he has gone too far in other things, you can say by the way, well, let me ask you, since you are your friend, do you still ask for something in return if you entertain him? So can you two be friends? The friendship of villains is as sweet as honey, and the friendship of gentlemen is as light as water!

A gift is not a gift! It's etiquette!

So the real source of the problem is yourself, there are things that start from yourself, but you always think about the shortcomings of others, of course, you can't figure it out, and you can't grow.

- Good things for the sky.

Hehehe, small problem!!

The way two people get along has subconsciously appeared: you are angry that he doesn't think about you, but he wants to come over when you are busy, he doesn't bring gifts to show it, he wants you to eat, drink and live, and more importantly, he is not satisfied with your hospitality, etc.; He's angry that you have to reschedule and don't come to pick him up as soon as you hear that he's going over, and it's obvious that he's not welcome.

Now the two are a bit of a vicious circle: when you are angry with him, you will be a little emotional when you get along, no matter how well you cover it up, you will be perceived; As soon as he thinks you're not happy, everything is not pleasing to the eye.

Can't change his attitude, then change your attitude, try the fine Chinese tradition: pass the door is a guest, etiquette to come, if you are really too busy, you can calm down with him and talk slowly, to let go of prejudice against him, smile, maybe he brought a gift to ah, but if he is not happy, he will not take it out, if he really does not bring it, your friendly attitude will make him embarrassed, will go to a nearby store to buy!!

It's okay, even if he's wrong, you have to bear with it, because you're the master, go to his place and disturb him next time you're free. Hehehehe, it's nothing, it's just that they care too much about each other's small details!!

I wish you laughter every day and more and more youthful!!

Also abroad. I understand what happened to you. However, what I am saying is that since you were classmates when you were in China, you should cherish it and you should talk to him.

Moreover, don't worry about small things. You have to be generous, if both of you are relishing, then friends don't have to do it. He goes to you, of course, you are responsible for hospitality, but you don't need to entertain all of them, it's school, it's not work.

In foreign countries, it is rare to have one or two friends who are familiar with you before, you should cherish them, and I hope you can also tactfully want him to express your attitude towards him. Of course, if he's too ignorant, then you don't have to. Because you don't seem to think you're friends yet, do you?

When people are outside, many things are involuntary. But I think that since I have gone out, I have to learn to be independent. Be strong, stronger than you think. Actually, we went abroad, nothing remarkable. However, when you go abroad, it is remarkable.

Don't think too much about the little things. Ay. Actually, I also encountered some unhappy things today, so let's deal with them calmly. After all, we go to school, and academics are important.

Hello! First of all, you should also know that your classmates are here to see you. Right?

What does this mean? It shows that he still cares about you, and what you're doing is really inappropriate.

Although there is an exam (it's not bad to pick him up, is it?) You take care of food and shelter This shows that you have also fulfilled your responsibility to him, so why should you ask him to be grateful to you? Aren't you friends?

Finally, modern society is indeed complex and utilitarian, but don't make everything utilitarian. I hope your relationship can be more and more real and better! Only when people's hearts are broad-minded can they look farther.

People are kind enough to come and see you.

In fact, there are other reasons for saying this, for example, you want to go to the city where you are to have fun, etc., but you should also treat people well, maybe you want to go to ** in the future, it just so happens that she is there, can't you go to him?

Although I said to come and see you, I advise you not to take it seriously, the two sides have the right mentality, get together to play, spend money, it's nothing, classmates, take good care of it, and peace is precious.

You all have something wrong, when you go out, it's not easy for anyone, understand each other, tolerate, not exclude each other, you have to change your mentality to understand this matter, if you can't change your ideology, it will be difficult for you to get along in the future. In the vast sea of people, since you have met, it is fate, cherish the present! I feel that your mind is very immature, and social relations still need to be exercised, come on, friend.

Let's talk about it and see if there is any misunderstanding.

Why is this person like this, I will definitely ignore him.

The other party said that if he was angry, he could reply to this old Qing:

1. Anger is anger. Anyway, I don't want to pay attention to him, or I want to continue to be angry with him, so I can reply with such a humor.

2. Why is your temper so small? deliberately teased the other party, saying that the other party's temper is particularly small.

3. Don't be angry, I'll coax you. Tell the other party directly that he will come to coax him, hoping that the other party will not be angry.

4. Stupid dear, I was wrong. Admit your mistakes directly to the other party, so that the other party's anger can also be calmed down.

5. Are you angry? Pretend to test the other party, and the other party will feel very strange, because he is very angry and will be asked.

6. That ......Do you want me to comfort you? Pretend to ask each other tentatively to see if the other party wants to comfort themselves, which is very suitable for that kind of cute little girl.

7. Why do you still have a child's temper? It's obviously an adult, why do you still have a child's temper? Deliberately tease each other.

8. The angry look is so cute. Praise the other person directly, so that the other person may also think that they are really cute.

9. I didn't expect to be so good-looking when I was angry. As long as the other party is crazy to catch it faster, and when it comes to the point, the other party's heart is still very happy.

10. Come and hug me in my arms. Let the other party come to your arms to accompany you and hug each other, so that you can also comfort the other party.

Remind others first, if you say that again, I'm really going to be angry. If the other person insists on continuing to joke, then you don't reply to his message or send a voice.

Quick and large amounts of negative emotions generally cause us to feel angry. In life, anger is a prevalent negative emotion that can arise at any time for any reason. We often feel angry when we feel unjustly treated, lost, frustrated, insulted, or belittled.

At the same time, people may also feel angry because of some external factors that they cannot control.

Anger is instinctive and one of the basic responses to our continued existence because it is part of the human self-defense mechanism. Anger causes our heart to beat faster and causes increased muscle tone, which helps us to protect ourselves. In addition, getting angry can also be a way to escape from reality.

When we feel frustrated or powerless, anger can be a way for us to try to take control of the situation and find a solution.

However, persistent anger and irritation can have a negative impact on our physical health and quality of life. When in a state of anger for long periods of time, the body releases high amounts of stress hormones, which increases the risk of heart disease and high blood pressure. In addition, long-term anger and irritation can damage relationships, affecting our work performance and quality of life.

Therefore, when we feel angry, we need to be aware of this emotion and try to control it through some effective methods. Some effective methods include taking deep breaths, recording emotions in a diary, staying away from irritating situations, exercising, getting support from a partner or professional, and many more. If not handled properly, getting angry can lead to negative consequences, otherwise, when we take appropriate measures to control our emotions, we can avoid negative consequences and better cope with life's challenges.

Deal with emotions before we can solve them. With emotions, we will only make the problem bigger and even cause harm to those around us.

Most of the problems are mainly emotional problems, such as feeling that something must be done and being in a hurry, so anxious that the people around you have become obstacles and opposites;

For example, in the discussion, there are contradictions due to some inconsistencies, and to a large extent, they are responsible for each other's proof mentality.

When you encounter problems and feel bad, it is the best time for self-growth.

Ask yourself why you feel the way you do; Ask what would have happened if you didn't do it; Ask yourself if you have to be recognized by the outside world; Ask yourself why you're so afraid of action.

When emotions are cleared, some problems will no longer be problems, but will become life clearance items that make us feel interesting and grow. Because emotions are the underlying operating system of people, when you are anxious, your mind is full of pain and anxiety, and many bad things come and you immediately want to do what to do.

The underlying system crashed, and then using all the application software, in fact, it can't do well.

So you have to calm down, deal with your emotions first, and then deal with things, and fight a winning battle.

2. Knowledge will be forgotten, and the underlying thinking is important.

All the books you have read, the things you have experienced, the pits you have stepped on, and the things you have learned, these will be forgotten, but the underlying thinking it helps you form will affect you to exercise your heart, and this is the key.

3. People who make good use of emotions are people with high emotional intelligence.

A person who can perceive his emotions or use them well is also a person with high emotional intelligence.

A lot of people are talking about emotional intelligence, emotional intelligence is not duplicity, it's not that this person is not good-looking, you go to talk about something that is contrary to the facts, you are really good-looking; It's not that everyone is going to curry favor with everyone; Rather, it is able to perceive one's own emotions, be able to understand the emotions of others, be good at managing emotions, and finally manage various interpersonal relationships;

It is not about holding others to coax others, deceiving others, and pleasing others, but on the basis of sincerity, we can perceive our own emotions, understand others' emotions, respect each other, cooperate with each other, and deal with conflicts.

Control your emotions first, and then solve the problem. Otherwise, the problem won't be solved, and most of the time, it will only make things worse.

Even if the problem is solved on the surface, due to the incorrect attitude and method, it will inevitably leave hidden dangers, and once it reappears, it will inevitably be a bigger pit!

In the past, I was actually a very angry person, because I was an acute person, and there would be a lot of troubles in my life, so naturally there would be people who made me angry. And my urgency is destined that I can't swallow the breath in my heart, but many times I am annoyed by others, and I have to digest that breath by myself.

It's really infuriating, because of the acute reason I have sinned a lot of people, and I am angry with many people. But now I finally know how ridiculous it is to be angry. When you get angry, will others feel it?

If you don't do something substantial, who cares what you think? To use a very real analogy, being angry is like you have fed yourself poison and you want others to feel pain. How can others feel it?

yes, angry, it's a naïve thing to think about now. Who are you angry with? Is it useful if you're angry?

If you are angry, then the person who makes you angry can be punished? Don't be kidding, if you have this time to get angry and have this time to hurt your body, you might as well do something down-to-earth, such as studying hard or something, is it worth it to be angry? In the end, others didn't hurt or change at all, because it wasn't him who was angry, and it wasn't his body that hurt, and others might just want to force you and make you angry?

But what about you? Just stupidly jumped into the dense web woven by others, the key is that you don't know it. is angry like that, in the end, it is his own body that is angry, but others have no loss at all, isn't this just a loss to his wife and a soldier?

It's stupid. Therefore, anger is also an act that only some children will do, because children are young, they don't understand anything, and they have a reason to be angry. But if you are not a child, then you should also be mature, how can you be angry with unrelated people?

If you get angry and annihilate the mu, others will not have any effect, and it feels like a very stupid thing to think about.

Yes, please don't get angry anymore, try to mature, try to vent those emotions yourself, not to others!