I look at people who don t like it, am I changing, or are they changing?

Of course, you have changed, you have learned to be tolerant, you have learned to tolerate the shortcomings of others, and you may have calmed down and thought about it, no matter what he looks like, he has no interest in himself. Actually, come to think of it, it's nothing.

It is you who are changing, your mind and pattern have been improved, your horizons will be broadened, and your feelings or emotions will not be affected by other people's feelings! Everything in the world has become better! Because you're standing taller!

Maybe both sides are changing, for example, you didn't like it before, maybe it was just because of one of his shortcomings, you couldn't stand it, so you didn't like it, and now you may feel that a person's shortcomings are not shortcomings, so you think that people are not bad. And then maybe the people he came into contact with in his life did to slowly change his own shortcomings.

People respect and understand each other at all times; It's that your mentality has changed, you have become more tolerant of everything, you can get along with people better, and your understanding of the world is different! Maybe it's because he's changed and he's become a more pleasing person! Mood is everything!

If you look at people who don't like it, it means that you have high emotional intelligence, at least you are a kind person. Use your perfect eyes to appreciate the imperfect. With age.

You're starting to mature. People are always like that. No more looking at others with a critical eye.

It becomes easy-going.

It is that you have become mature and know the truth of dealing with people, and everything is open to the eye. Good luck!

Others have not changed, it is you who have changed, and it is your heart that has begun to accept others. A good symbol lets go of the shortcomings of others and fulfills one's own heart.

Everyone has shortcomings and strengths, and after getting along for a long time, you will be able to discover the strengths of each other, so you will see the pleasing eye.

It's that your mentality has changed, you have become more tolerant of everything, you can get along with people better, and your understanding of the world is different!

It is you who have matured and learned how to behave in the world.

You look at people who don't like it, and that's because you've changed.

Hits sometimes have to happen, and hits don't force them all the time. In fact, everything is predestined in the dark, so let everything take its course, There is no need to be angry, there is no need to do some very childish actions, so look at everything a little lighter, and then a little lighter, In fact, everything is fine, thank you!

It can't be said that if you understand a person deeply, you will naturally look at it from a different angle.

If you have more contact, you can always discover the strengths of others. At first, it didn't look good, but the frequency was wrong.

It feels like it doesn't look good on anyone, and we can try to change it in the following way:

First things first:Change the "ruler by which others are measured". I see "people who don't like the eye", but I actually have a lot of good friends.

The reason why I don't like him is because I look at and evaluate others from my own perspective and according to my own standards. The ruler by which we measure others is set by ourselves, so we might as well get rid of our self-centered position and try to look at each other by public standards, which can often be quickly relieved.

Secondly:Don't look at people with a critical eye. "No one is perfect", replacing the critical gaze with an appreciative gaze, perhaps more able to see the commendable side of others.

And finally:Learn to forgive and tolerate others, even if the other party is disrespectful and hurts you in words, you must try to refrain and tolerate. Everyone makes mistakes, and only by not caring about the rights and wrongs of others can we gain the respect and understanding of others.

In life, many non-principled things might as well be confused, sloppy, and forgetful.

It is your own psychological problems that are not pleasing to the eyes of others, and there are usually the following two situations:

One, other people's unpleasant places, most of them also have their own bodies. The psychological motivation behind seeing others unpleasantly is self-loathing and disliking certain tendencies within oneself. For example, if you don't like your own selfishness, you will pay attention to the selfish behavior of others. I am very snobbish and like to take advantage of others, so I am often very sensitive and hate being taken advantage of.

People reinvent their self-image by denying these "own shortcomings" in others.

SecondThe unpleasant things of others may be lacking in themselves. Seeing the smiling face of the new colleague and saying "Look at this sycophant", deep down he was criticizing himself for not coming. If you are inferior to others in some aspects, you will become jealous, subconsciously avoid the advantages of others, and focus on the "shortcomings", and the more you look at them, the more unpleasant they become.

All in all, only by finding the problem and working hard to adjust it will make yourself more comfortable, less troubled, and more happy.

There is an old Chinese saying: "Different ways do not conspire with each other", which means that everyone has a different opinion, so if you agree, you will come, and if you don't agree, you will go. This is also because of personality.

The same is true for the eye relationship, some people have similar personalities and talk happily with each other, so they will also look pleasing to the eye. And between some people, it is eight lifetimes of hatred, and it will naturally form if it is not pleasing to the eye. There are many forms of unpleasant psychology, most of which are due to different personalities, disinterested interests, and disagreements; Others are due to the escalation of contradictions; There are also some reasons for the wrong position, etc., which are the reasons for the unpleasant view.

Sometimes the unpleasant look is one-sided, and most of the unpleasant looks are two-sided. Adjust your mindset and develop a positive and optimistic attitude. You can find out the cause from yourself and adjust it.

Because our mindset determines the angle from which we look at problems. If we look at the problem with a positive and optimistic attitude, it will naturally be pleasing to the eye. On the contrary, if it is a negative view, then the things you see are not pleasing to the eye.

Explore your interests and find people who share your interests. If you are together, you will gather, and if you are not together, you will be scattered. Therefore, people with the same interests and hobbies can come together.

Naturally, you can also look at each other well. Therefore, being with such a group of people can improve your relationship with others. Improve your emotional intelligence, make others have no opinion of you, and make yourself warm and soft.

Sometimes, emotional intelligence is extremely important in communication and getting along. Many people have low emotional intelligence, which makes others look unpleasant. And people with high emotional intelligence are the opposite.

Be good at discovering the shining points in yourself and others, and correct your shortcomings from time to time. It is very important to have a pair of eyes that are good at discovering the beauty of others. If you can see the good points of others everywhere, then others will naturally become more pleasing to the eye.

In the same way, you have more merit in the eyes of others, and the same.

You need to find the root of the problem, whether you are unhappy because of something, solve the thing that caused you unhappy, and look at everyone when you are happy.

If you want to change it, first take a few deep breaths to calm down your mood, then raise your head to look at the blue sky, see the clouds slowly fluttering with the wind, feel like troubles drifting away with the wind, think about how happy God should be since you came to this world! With family and friends with you to spend every day in this beautiful world, what else is there to be unhappy about? Remember one sentence, even if there is nothing left, there are friends who hold up a beautiful rainbow for you.

Introspect on the deep reason why you look at others unpleasantly, is it jealousy of others' good? Or hate your own shortcomings, empathize with others, you will find that whether it is other people's good or your own shortcomings, others or other people's family members work hard, maybe your own laziness or bad luck is caused, there will not be so much dissatisfaction and look at others unpleasantly.

Dissect the self.

Generally speaking, there will always be a reason why you don't like people, maybe it's because you're more similar - people will always reject people who are particularly similar to you, maybe it's because you're jealous of her - don't admit it, this is very common, maybe it's because she has offended your ...... beforeAll kinds of situations are possible, you have to analyze yourself deeply, find out the most necessary reason why you can't get along with her, and solve the problem according to the reason is the best solution. 2/6

Calm down on people.

As we said before, it may be because you are similar or you are a little jealous of her, so what we need to do is to look at her calmly. The two of you have similar personalities means that you are destined, and people are better than you because they work harder than you! The mentality should be flat, only when your mentality is flat, can you calmly reflect and admit that it may be your own ** wrong, and it is still a good child to correct it in time 3 6

Look at her without colored glasses.

When you hate someone, you always bring your own opinion to evaluate what she does, and the more you look at her, the more unpleasant it becomes. This will only make the relationship between the two of you worse and worse, more and more embarrassing, if you want to solve the problem of looking at people unpleasantly, you must first take off your colored glasses, and evaluate her actions from an objective point of view, you will find that she is actually very cute. 4/6

Frequent contact with her.

The feelings between people are all placed, and you can only find the flash on her body when you are in close contact with her, and maybe you will find that she is actually very good for you. I have a girlfriend like this, I have always been unpleasant to the eye before, but after getting along for a long time, I suddenly found that the compatibility between the two of us is very high, and it is simply a good Chinese girlfriend! 5/6

Resistance does not show on the face.

It's good to look at people who are not pleasing to the eye in the heart, and don't show it on the face, people's perception of emotions is very high. If you treat a person badly, the person concerned can easily feel it, so it will change from a single person to a two-person war, and it will be difficult to deal with or restore the relationship. So don't show your resistance to her, it will make the atmosphere between you even more stiff.

6 6 Try to stay away from her.

This is the last resort, if you look at her unpleasantly, it is not because of these, but because of her. If you don't want to repair the relationship between the two of you, go for this method! Try to stay away from her, the two of you are not in the same frame, do not touch, she will not know that you look at her unpleasantly, and the two will not be embarrassed to get along when necessary in the future.

Of course, it's still necessary to meet once in a while to say hello or something.

Look at people you don't like, and the next sentence is that if you look at it for a long time, it will be pleasing to the eye.

It means that your cultivation has reached a certain height, and if you turn this unpleasant person into your friend or business partner, and get a win-win result, this is the real ability!

The last sentence is smooth after watching it for a long time.

If you look at someone you don't like, you won't find him an eyesore.

It doesn't make sense to like someone, and it's not reasonable to dislike someone.

Because she doesn't like you, no matter what you do, it doesn't like it in his eyes.

That's the prejudice of people, and a lot of people label people like that, and then they look at them with habitual thinking.

As the name suggests, if you don't like it, it means that no matter when and where, just to see you, I can't help but go over and step on you.

In life, you often meet such a person, who lives around you, but has no intersection, often looks at each other, and cannot speak.

Although they did not speak, they could feel obvious hostility every time they met, and the hostility became more and more obvious, and both sides tried to endure it as much as possible, as if it was about to erupt, and their eyes occasionally intersected, and they were also indifferent and hateful.

This is called unpleasant, even if the two have never known each other, have no grievances, and have no conflict of interest, but it still makes you extremely disgusted, and you feel that it is difficult to even want to say something, and you would rather ignore and block this kind of person to maintain relative balance and peace in your heart. As the saying goes, out of sight and out of mind, you must see and avoid it as much as possible.

This is actually a very normal phenomenon, the two have different temperaments and are born with objects of mutual dislike and disgust. Many young people fought because of this, and there were many people who did not have a conflict, but they were depressed and felt much more relaxed after leaving that environment.

If you meet this kind of person in your life, and you inevitably meet every day, the best way is to minimize the time you meet, minimize eye contact, and try not to make a sound....End the inevitable encounter every day in the shortest possible time, because your little performance may be seen as a provocation by the other party and cause conflicts, it is the best policy to leave the place of right and wrong as soon as possible, even if you can get the other party, there is no need to add unnecessary trouble to yourself.

There is a saying that if you don't like people, it is because you don't have enough self-cultivation, and there is a "special" situation, because the person's self-cultivation is not enough? Or is it human nature? It is said that Lao Zhang works hard and is diligent in the unit, and he is the kind of model who usually does things first and enjoys the last.

But even so, every promotion and salary increase will not be his turn. Even the salaries of the employees who came later caught up with him, and He Dui's work was not as much and tiring as he did. But why did every promotion and salary increase miss him?

Some people may think that he is not good enough, some people may say that he has low emotional intelligence and speaks straightforwardly, or maybe he usually only knows how to work, otherwise something else.

In short, he has nothing to say about business and ability, and he has been staying where he is when he sees others getting promoted and raising, and he can only sigh with joy.

But this time a newcomer came, and after a period of assessment, he was inferior to himself in all aspects, so he thought it should be his turn.

Once the two had no intention of talking about salary, the newcomer accidentally leaked his mouth, and his salary was a few ks more than that of him, an old employee who had worked for more than five years, and his heart was not unbalanced enough.

On work, I have a higher content intensity than a newcomer, and I have worked hard for many years to be consistent, but a newcomer is higher than his old employee, how can I be embarrassed?

There is a saying that after the resignation of the unit personnel, the salary of the later person will be higher than that of the predecessor, but the ability is inversely proportional.

The reality seems to coincide with this situation, at least the salary of yourself and the newcomer.

But no matter how sour you are, the old fritters in the unit can not be broken, but this balanced pattern has been invisibly broken.

In the past, I heard that some old employees had low salaries, and after leaving the unit, they had to find two or three people to replace their original workload, which was a common situation.

However, the cost of leaving has increased virtually. As for him, there should be a decision as to where he should go from here.